To all the Chinese kids

[Slimfast]

I'm not sure if Korean or Japanese kids go through the same stuff....but to all the Chinese kids out there, especially the teenaged ones, how do you deal with your parents? You know what I mean.

[Oni-kun]

Just semi ignore them. When they nag just say "yeah yeah yeah... okay okay" after a while they give up lol. That said i'm 22 this year and my mom doesn't bother me about anything anymore and never really did. Even as a grade9 kid i didn't even have a curfew.

[jollyeskimo]

I either meet them halfway on things, or just ignore them. If they really try to push it, then I'll voice my displeasure or throw some male PMS their way.

[Slimfast]

Well I'm 16, so another two years before I can move out. It's gonna cost a lot, but it's worth my sanity, right? Your guy's thoughts?

[CSR]

1) Marks
2) Money
3) Ignore

[devious9191]

[QUOTE=Slimfast]Well I'm 16, so another two years before I can move out. It's gonna cost a lot, but it's worth my sanity, right? Your guy's thoughts?[/QUOTE]

If you're going to school, move out. You're only young once. Who cares what it costs.

[jollyeskimo]

[QUOTE=Slimfast]Well I'm 16, so another two years before I can move out. It's gonna cost a lot, but it's worth my sanity, right? Your guy's thoughts?[/QUOTE]

Hard to say, since I don't know your situation. But I would say that you shouldn't take them for granted, no matter how rough it may be.

It gets easier to bear with them in time, and I've learnt that despite everything, they'll still be the closest family that you'll ever have. Come bad times... even your closest friends and relatives could bail on you, and it's nice to have somebody that you know you can count on even despite your differences.

[dekko]

[QUOTE=Oni-kun]Just semi ignore them. When they nag just say "yeah yeah yeah... okay okay" after a while they give up lol. That said i'm 22 this year and my mom doesn't bother me about anything anymore and never really did. Even as a grade9 kid i didn't even have a curfew.[/QUOTE]

lol, thats like me
but then they are pretty reasonable sometimes too, ie: wouldn't bother me about stuff if i just did a couple of all nighters

to stop the nag
use the 'a spoon of sugar and a spoon of poo' method
do something good once in a while to cover the poo-ie bad things

[Slimfast]

I take courses with students a year older and pull 90%+ in all courses. (Not saying that it's particularly hard, but I'm not a bad student.) I play the piano at a performance level. Even though, I don't have a curfew, I don't stay out at all hours of the night and I let my parents know I'm going out.

Yet nothing is satisfactory. We can't go a day without fighting, it seems. I try to ignore them but they come seek me out. They'll always find something wrong each time.

It's like we live in different worlds. Whenever I go out, they tell me I should be studying like everybody else, when in fact, I'm the bookworm. Their views/opinions are so archaic and distorted that it's hard for me to talk about them with anything.

I appreciate what my parents have done for me, I really do. Our family is and never was wealthy. Life when we first arrived in Canada, making ends meet was definitely a challenge. Now that we are living comparatively comfortably, I still don't waste money. I'm definitely the most frugal out of my friends. I only buy clothes off the clearance rack, never eat out, only buy things that are on-sale and treat my possessions with so much care that my friends tease me for it. I know it hasn't been easy for my family to get to where it is today.

There is just no pleasing my parents. I know they have a lot of expectations for me. (I'm the only child and I'm a guy.) But I'm just going crazy under these situations. I'll never ditch them, that's for sure. I owe them a lot, but I think a break is definitely in order.

Thanks for hearing me out guys. It's too late to phone the houses of my most of friends, so this really helps.

[PlayerOne]

wow, i didn't realise i'm that lucky, i can pretty much do whatever i want, because i know when to stop i guess, no, my mother is not one of those parents that spoil their kid and let them get away with anything.

i never had a curfew, even in grade 2, as long as i tell my mom where and who i'm with, she even bought drinks for me for my prom after party, she said cuz she knows i'll be the responsible kid at the party and not let anything stupid happen

i tihnk i turned out alrite, i made it to university for engineering

[Dark-Colonel]

in soviet russia ... we shoot our parents

[jollyeskimo]

If it's possible....try to sit down and talk with them to clear your mind and perhaps to loosen the tension. It might help to have a close relative to mediate, or even have them do it indirectly by relaying your thoughts. Sometimes even parents can get overwhelmed by life and forget that they're going too far.

[johnnyepy]

not sure what you talking about?

[Spare-Flair]

I wish I had siblings

[Yaowsers]

I deal with my parents by living with them.