10 Month Old - Still waking up at 2:30am!

[frankyflwrs]

Hi Everyone,
Any advice on how to get my baby girl to sleep thru the night. As I type this post....my eyes are puffy and I look like Herman Munster.

Her daily routine is
7:30am wake up
8:00am eat
10:00am Nap
11:30am wake up and eat
2:00pm nap if possible
3:00pm wake up/play and eat
5:00pm nap
6:00pm Wake up and eat and play
8:30pm bath and prep for bed
9:00pm Sleep

Overall she's extremely happy and healthy....just can't get her to sleep thru the night. She wakes up for a quick snack for about 15 to 20mins at 2:30am everyday....when we let her try to cry it out...she cries for 1hr!

Can't take it anymore....any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

[mohitk]

Between 6:00 PM and 2:30 AM its 7-8 hrs atleast where she's going without food.

Maybe a late supper will help?

[MacGyver]

when we let her try to cry it out...she cries for 1hr!It's going to take a lot of patience to get her out of this established habit. Stuff her silly and burp right before bed. When we let our kids cry it out at 3-4mos, it seemed like hours, but after two or three days they started sleeping through the night.

[KCO]

Does she nurse or take a bottle before going to sleep? That may help, but chances are she isn't waking up to eat because she is hungry, but because she is used to doing that and now expects it. You can try reducing the midnight feed, an ounce every few days, or less minutes nursing until there is zero milk. Hopefully she just stops waking up and sleeps past that time till morning. If she still wakes, just try to comfort her back to sleep, if you wean her from that feeding she shouldn't expect it anymore.

I did this with my son. But he still wakes up and needs to be held...he is 9 months. I am hoping to get past the wake up, but he no longer wants any milk then! I have heard that if they wake up at a specific time, go to them 15 min prior, and stroke their head so they stir, but not fully wake up. That is supposed to interrupt the sleep cycle and when they get back into it they will sleep past that wake up point. Good luck!

[taylyn]

Hi Everyone,
Any advice on how to get my baby girl to sleep thru the night. As I type this post....my eyes are puffy and I look like Herman Munster.

Her daily routine is
7:30am wake up
8:00am eat
10:00am Nap
11:30am wake up and eat
2:00pm nap if possible
3:00pm wake up/play and eat
5:00pm nap
6:00pm Wake up and eat and play
8:30pm bath and prep for bed
9:00pm Sleep

Thanks

Too many naps throughout the day - for 10 months she is sleeping way too much. 14 hours of sleep and only 8 hours awake? Change your schedule to 2 naps a day, and 6pm is too early for last meal. Last feeding should be 8pm, bedtime at 9pm is fine, and should be a large one. Same with the first feeding, should be a big meal but she should be on cereal by now. She should be sleeping 10 hours, getting up at 7am. If you want her to wake later then put her to bed at 9:30. She's up because she is hungry, so eliminate that.

My daughter slept through the night after a few weeks, I don't know how parents allow it for 10 months!!!!

[mart242]

Remove one of the afternoon nap. 1 morning nap, one afternoon nap, that's it. Feed her well at dinner time, at 10 months she should eat quite a lot of different food.

[goofball]

I agree with many, 3 naps seems excessive, the late one is probably not helping. My son was a lousy napper, would sleep only 1hr for naps twice per day. Eventually got better (around 10 months) and went to maybe 1.5-2 hrs/nap, twice a day. At around 13 months, he went to one nap, in the afternoon for 2-3hrs after lunch. He was a bad sleeper as well, did not get better until 13 months old. He would wake up 2-3 times/night for 20-60 minutes, I would sit with him in the rocking chair during this time and he would fall asleep but I really liked the time with him so I would sit there for longer than needed.
Bedtime is around 2030-2100h, and then up for the day at 0430-0500h, so he didn't sleep much and didn't sleep long.
One thing we found that helped alot was we would feed him at approx 1930h and he would finish at 2000h and spend the rest of the time settling down.
Maybe your bathtime is too close to his bedtime? I find him to be full of energy after his bath, so his bath is at around 1845h.

[bsobaid]

My 9 months old also wakes up in the night for milk and requires some padding and pamper change before he sleeps.
I expect this much from him.

[oddduck]

My daughter is 10.5mo. She wakes up about half of the time -- a bit more now as she's cutting teeth and she gets up a bit later in the night (4am-5am). She normally just breastfeeds 5-10min and goes right back to sleep. In all honestly -- I think my LO is just hungry when she wakes up.

My LO has 2 naps still, but can get by on one. She has one around 11:30am that is 1-1.5hrs and then possibly a second around 4pm that is 30 minutes. She goes to bed at 7:30-8:00pm and wakes around 7:30am.

It's really not uncommon for babies, toddlers and young children to not be sleeping 12 hours at night. Most consider sleeping through the night to be 5-6 hours of solid sleep.

[r1lee]

It's going to take a lot of patience to get her out of this established habit. Stuff her silly and burp right before bed. When we let our kids cry it out at 3-4mos, it seemed like hours, but after two or three days they started sleeping through the night.

Cry it out can help, but you have to be strong and not let the crying get to you. So don't attend to her at 2:30 and after a few days, it should get better.


Does she nurse or take a bottle before going to sleep?

Agreed on this to, could be another solution.


Change your schedule to 2 naps a day, and 6pm is too early for last meal. Last feeding should be 8pm, bedtime at 9pm is fine, and should be a large one.

I agree with the 2 naps, but the rest is going to be different for every child. My daughter use to sleep at 7pm straight to 7am. Now that she is 2, she goes to bed at 8 and is up at 6-6:30 w/1 nap days.

[ihavenomonkeys]

Have you tried The Sleepeasy Solution? I hear lots of good things about it.

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[Spidey]

why 3 naps? 2 should suffice, its the 5 pm nap thats doing that. Lengthen the second nap by an hour and get rid of the 5 pm.

As well, their stomaachs are small, some babies wake up when hungry, some dont.

The supper should be latter at night as well, or have the supper an houe earlier, then a small one before bed

[ghostryder]

Any advice on how to get my baby girl to sleep thru the night. As I type this post....my eyes are puffy and I look like Herman Munster.

....just can't get her to sleep thru the night. She wakes up for a quick snack for about 15 to 20mins at 2:30am everyday....when we let her try to cry it out...she cries for 1hr!

Can't take it anymore....any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks


You have been well trained by your daughter. Let her cry. If that is for 4 hours so be it. It won't be.


Get yourself some earplugs.

And I have to agree with the others, seems to be a bit too much napping. Maybe cut the late afternoon nap, have supper, move bath time a bit earlier and have a snack before bed. If she is regularly lasting from suppertime to 2:30am then she can obviously last >8 hours without eating.

[dayna]

Give her a bottle or a cup of milk before bedtime. If she still wakes up at 2:30am, it's a habit and it should be broken. Just let her cry it out. It'll take 3-4 nights of crying and she'll probably get the idea that no one is coming to the rescue at 2:30am.

[junkyardbottles]

This is our 10 month old's schedule (roughly)

8:30 am - wake up, boob juice
9 am - cereal (baby cereal + some corn flakes + blueberries. she has 8 teeth to chew with)
10am - bath
11 am - sleep
1 pm - lunch (what we eat, just in baby-friendly portions)
3 pm - snack
4pm - sleep
5:30pm - cereal again or some fruit (avocado, squash, etc.)
7 pm - boob juice
9pm - dinner
11pm - bed

Yes, 11 PM. But she doesn't wake up through the night at all. Not once. We never had her cry it out. She goes to bed right away, and consistently. She wakes up pretty hungry.

A meal at 6pm is far too early - you really need to add another meal. By the time she wakes up at 2:30am, it's been 8 hours for her without food. Our little one will sometimes go to bed at 10am, but then wakes up at 7:30am (and we are not morning people). But it's always 9-10 hours of sleep without food. You're expecting to go her well over 12 hours.

If you do change her feeding/sleeping schedule, and don't want to have her crying it out - try changing something about how she is sleeping. Try moving her crib to another corner of the room, leaving a small light on - etc. something to indicate that it's different. It'll help her break her routine.

[Genia11]

Our DD has just turned 11 months and below is a routine:

7:30am wake up
8:00am formula & breakfast
11:00am Nap
12:30pm wake up and lunch
3:00pm snacks
4:30pm nap
6:00pm Wake up, formula, play
7:30pm dinner
8:30pm bath and prep for bed
9:00pm formula
9:15pm sleep

For most time, she sleeps through the night. If she does wake up is because she is teething or has a night terror. However, we do not run to her the moment she cries, we actually wait for at least 5 minutes before going into her room to check on her.

Keep in mind that every baby is different. Our DD has been sleeping through the night since 3-month old.

I agree with the other posters that your DD might be sleeping too much during the day... our DD weaned off the 3rd nap since about 7 months...

Good luck. Hopefully, your situation will improve soon.

[oddduck]

Another suggestion might be a "dream feed" right before you go to bed. Eg, If you go to bed at 11pm -- bottle or breastfeed your little one right before you head off. I've found its a great way to ensure at fairly solid amount of uninterrupted sleep.

[blue_xii]

I'll give you a different perspective. Don't worry about it too much. Don't think everyone has it figured out and you're alone in this as far as having a kid at 10 months old who wakes up during the night it happens to a lot of us so take some solace in that. Every kid is different and as much as patterns form they constantly change back and forth. Don't sweat the tough stuff (you've got decades of parenthood ahead of you) and enjoy your little miracle. Having said that the recommendations you are getting for feeding and naps are good ones and I'd definitely be down to two naps and a feeding just before sleep at this age.

[Dragon120]

I know every baby is different but contrary to most have suggested, my little guy (since 6 months now almost 1yr) goes to bed between 6-7pm depending on his naps during the day.

9:30-10am: first nap (sleeps between 1-2 hours)
1:45-2:15pm: second nap (sleeps for same duration as first nap)

dinner @ 5:30pm
bedtime routine @ 6pm: in-bed by 6:30pm

Wakes up between 6:30-7am next day.

He took longer to sleep train (about 2 weeks) than my big guy- but thankfully, little guy's crying didn't interupt my big guy's sleeping routine as their room is right beside each other.

It's a mentally draining process- hang in there OP! There's light at the end of the tunnel...

[frankyflwrs]

Wow...thanks to all who advised about the "later feeding" and removing one of the afternoon naps.

So far...these last few days have been really good. We eliminated the late afternoon nap and gave her "boob juice" for a snack before our dinner, and fed her dinner around 8:30....shifted her sleep time to 10:00pm and VOILA!! I'm sleeping thru the night!!!

The only thing is....she get cranky without her later afternoon nap....but I can live with that.

Hope this last....I know everything can change at anytime.

But thanks for everyone's advice.....!

We parents have to stick together!

FF

[thelefteyeguy]

I know every baby is different but contrary to most have suggested, my little guy (since 6 months now almost 1yr) goes to bed between 6-7pm depending on his naps during the day.

9:30-10am: first nap (sleeps between 1-2 hours)
1:45-2:15pm: second nap (sleeps for same duration as first nap)

dinner @ 5:30pm
bedtime routine @ 6pm: in-bed by 6:30pm

Wakes up between 6:30-7am next day.

He took longer to sleep train (about 2 weeks) than my big guy- but thankfully, little guy's crying didn't interupt my big guy's sleeping routine as their room is right beside each other.

It's a mentally draining process- hang in there OP! There's light at the end of the tunnel...

+1...back in the day...similar cycle ;)

second nap was almost right after lunch :lol:

[wiresncode]

My daughter slept through the night after a few weeks, I don't know how parents allow it for 10 months!!!!

Errr... it's the kids choice, not the parents. Our 3yo sleep really well from about 12mo to 2.5yo, he now wakes almost every night. Don't ever think it's over or something the parents have a lot of control over.

[harken]

You have been well trained by your daughter. Let her cry. If that is for 4 hours so be it. It won't be.


Get yourself some earplugs.


Why not just lock her in the basement? You probably won't hear anything and eventually she will pass out from the exhaustion of crying. :rolleyes:

[noname]

I know every baby is different but contrary to most have suggested, my little guy (since 6 months now almost 1yr) goes to bed between 6-7pm depending on his naps during the day.

9:30-10am: first nap (sleeps between 1-2 hours)
1:45-2:15pm: second nap (sleeps for same duration as first nap)

dinner @ 5:30pm
bedtime routine @ 6pm: in-bed by 6:30pm

Wakes up between 6:30-7am next day.

He took longer to sleep train (about 2 weeks) than my big guy- but thankfully, little guy's crying didn't interupt my big guy's sleeping routine as their room is right beside each other.

It's a mentally draining process- hang in there OP! There's light at the end of the tunnel...



this is my son's routine as well. bed at 7pm, up at 7am. two naps during the day.
Sleep is important for babies since most of their development happen during sleep.