How do you know someone is the one?

[thecheeseman]

How would you know someone is the one?

What factors in the decision, as to choosing your future spouse?

I think nowadays people tend to settle..Life is short and so if they find the person they are dating satisfactory, they tend to marry them when they age. I've noticed that a lot of women tend to do this more than men..they tend to settle no matter how bad their boyfriends are. Interestingly, men do not seem to settle, as much as women do. This kind of stems from a biological / evolutionary perspective, but it would be interesting to hear everyone's thoughts about this.

Would the other person's family, and also upbringing be a factor in making your decision as well? After all, its not only the person you are marrying, but you are integrating your family into theirs.

[projectmoonlightcafe]

How would you know someone is the one?

It's Jet Li!!!!!

Okay, that was a lame joke. You really have to feel it in your gut. When I was single I would just write down the things I want in the girl I wanted, like a grocery list of personality traits. To tell you the truth, it doesn't work. Unless you're building your own spouse, each person is a living, breathing thing with different traits that intertwine. Some you'll like, some you won't. Just remember that the things you are okay with now about her you may not be okay with when you get married. It's hard to pinpoint...because at the moment you can stand it...and if she's not living with you, it will go away when she leaves. But if you're married, the little things that you didn't like before will eventually creep up on you. You just have to try and find out what they are and if you're good with it, then go for it!

[Frosc]

When they get the phone call.

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[sylpherware]

Usually I evaluate how well we can complement and/or withstand each others' flaws. Nobody is flawless, but people can still be "perfect" for each other. If there are traits that you simply cannot ignore, don't ever think "it'll get better once we're married".


Would the other person's family, and also upbringing be a factor in making your decision as well? After all, its not only the person you are marrying, but you are integrating your family into theirs.

Of course. I want to get along with her family just as well as she can to mine.

[MrKap]

You will feel it in your pants. Follow your pants.

[Insider]

when you tell them to smell your farts, and they do it.

[t3359]

when you tell them to smell your farts, and they do it.

oh boy - better have your colon cleansed and eat a bushel of jasmine blossoms before you propose!

bjl

[kingofwale]

When they get the phone call.

http://www.volacci.com/files/imce-uploads/Logical%20Neo.jpg

damnit... i came just to make a Matrix joke. :(

[anyasok]

when you tell them to smell your farts, and they do it.
Let's paraphrase that. When you can fart in bed with them and admit that you did and laugh it over while having sex shortly after

[mrperfect]

When they get the phone call.

http://www.volacci.com/files/imce-uploads/Logical%20Neo.jpg

You mean about the...

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[LaserEnvy]

There's no such thing as "the one." That person doesn't exist. It is a completely unrealistic expectation that girls (mostly) are raised to believe. Everyone has flaws and people will always clash with one another. You basically have to make a choice on who is going to be your life long partner. Then you will have to work tremendously hard and make many compromises in order to live a harmonious life together.

[Thai]

If they
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[mbg]

It's pretty easy to tell if they are the one right now, but harder after they've gone through three personality transplants, a few facelifts, yet are still fat and unpleasant to be around.

[sandikosh]

When the person tells you, "I Love You!". That is when you know he/she is the one.

[mbg]

When the person tells you, "I Love You!". That is when you know he/she is the one.

Barney the Dinosaur?

[najibs]

How would you know someone is the one?

What factors in the decision, as to choosing your future spouse?

I think nowadays people tend to settle..Life is short and so if they find the person they are dating satisfactory, they tend to marry them when they age. I've noticed that a lot of women tend to do this more than men..they tend to settle no matter how bad their boyfriends are. Interestingly, men do not seem to settle, as much as women do. This kind of stems from a biological / evolutionary perspective, but it would be interesting to hear everyone's thoughts about this.

Would the other person's family, and also upbringing be a factor in making your decision as well? After all, its not only the person you are marrying, but you are integrating your family into theirs.

The answer is, you just know. It's a gut feeling.

[sandikosh]

Barney the Dinosaur?

You got it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vzo0iHrivVQ

[DiceMan]

There's no such thing as "the one." That person doesn't exist. It is a completely unrealistic expectation that girls (mostly) are raised to believe. Everyone has flaws and people will always clash with one another. You basically have to make a choice on who is going to be your life long partner. Then you will have to work tremendously hard and make many compromises in order to live a harmonious life together.

I agree. There is no such thing as "the one". That's a myth perpetrated by the movies and popular culture. This fallacy of "not settling" is the very reason why divorce is rampant and few are willing to compromise in order to make marriage work.

In a world of 6 billion people, there could be hundreds of thousands that are very compatible with me. So chosing "the one" comes down to choosing someone that is adequeately compatible with me that we can work towards filling the missing hills and valleys together, with a little effort. A perfect fit does not exist.

[Swswswish]

When they can bend the rules of the matrix to his own desires

[Usuyami]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esDHSNWZTqQ

[akito925]

You'll know if she is the one, if can bend spoons with her mind! that would mean she can bend you or manipulate you anyway she desires.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXKFTzlBziI

[EbonyRose]

When she sees you naked and doesn't laugh. :twisted:

[diggler649]

I don' believe in the concept that there is only "one". From the perspective of a guy: Picture drawing a big circle, and that circle represents all the females in the world. Within that large circle, there is a smaller circle. These are all the "available" women in the world. Within that smaller circle is another circle. This represents all the "potential date material" women. Within that smaller circle is another circle. This circle represents "long term relationship" women. And finally, a tiny circle within that circle represents women that can be "the one".

Mathematically, you figure 6 billion people in the world -> 3 billion females -> 300,000 females single and in your age range -> 100,000 females that you would actually date -> 50,000 long term date potential -> 25,000 potential "ones".

So worldwide, an average guy can have 25,000 potential ones that they can spend the rest of their life with.

I call it the Inception Dating Circle of Who Can Eventually Be the One Pi R Squared.

Genius. Now smell my finger.

[EbonyRose]

I don' believe in the concept that there is only "one". From the perspective of a guy: Picture drawing a big circle, and that circle represents all the females in the world. Within that large circle, there is a smaller circle. These are all the "available" women in the world. Within that smaller circle is another circle. This represents all the "potential date material" women. Within that smaller circle is another circle. This circle represents "long term relationship" women. And finally, a tiny circle within that circle represents women that can be "the one".

Mathematically, you figure 6 billion people in the world -> 3 billion females -> 300,000 females single and in your age range -> 100,000 females that you would actually date -> 50,000 long term date potential -> 25,000 potential "ones".

So worldwide, an average guy can have 25,000 potential ones that they can spend the rest of their life with.

I call it the Inception Dating Circle of Who Can Eventually Be the One Pi R Squared.

Genius. Now smell my finger.

Now narrow that number down to women who are geographically close to you. This reminds me of the How I Met Your Mother episode with Ted and the Love Agency. :P

[sylpherware]

Now narrow that number down to women who are geographically close to you.

And narrow it down further to women who'd actually DATE you ;)

[sam123]

When after 8 mos. I still wanted to be with her after sex and do other things, even things she wanted. Lovemaking was not the be all and end all of everything. She still makes me smile when I see her after a days work. Yeah, sappy I know, but it worked for us.
To sum it up as others have, it's a gut feeling, no not gas.;)

[ishfish]

A difficulty I have with the "One" Theory is that people change and they do not always change in the same way or at the same rate.

Just because they do not laugh at you naked now does not mean that they never will.

[EbonyRose]

A difficulty I have with the "One" Theory is that people change and they do not always change in the same way or at the same rate.

Just because they do not laugh at you naked now does not mean that they never will.

lol, I wasn't serious about the laugh at you naked thing. It's an inside joke with Cheeseman. :razz:

[ishfish]

lol, I wasn't serious about the laugh at you naked thing. It's an inside joke with Cheeseman. :razz:

You saw him naked - and you laughed? or did not laugh?

I can see why the chat room is so popular though.

[EbonyRose]

You saw him naked - and you laughed? or did not laugh?

I can see why the chat room is so popular though.

Oh dear god, NO! I've never and will NEVER see Cheeseman naked. I would explain, but the first rule of chat is what goes on in chat stays in chat, not to mention it's inappropriate for the forum. :razz:

[ishfish]

I would explain, but the first rule of chat is what goes on in chat stays in chat, not to mention it's inappropriate for the forum. :razz:

Then I will have to infer. Which is more fun anyhow.



But seriously: Please tell him that a lot of men have that, it is ok and there is support.

[angekfire]

when you tell them to smell your farts, and they do it.

Don't fight my methane cuddles. Enjoy them.

http://theoatmeal.com/horrible

[diggler649]

Oh dear god, NO! I've never and will NEVER see Cheeseman naked. I would explain, but the first rule of chat is what goes on in chat stays in chat, not to mention it's inappropriate for the forum. :razz:

Whoa! I should go to this chatroom more often.

[Insider]

Don't fight my methane cuddles. Enjoy them.

http://theoatmeal.com/horrible

holy crap - LOL!

[sandikosh]

When that someone becomes your only hope, then it is the one!

[jadephoenixx]

The answer is, you just know. It's a gut feeling.

Agree. Sometimes you just need to take a leap of faith.

You can analyze the relationship all you want and make your pros and cons, but the truth is, you will never know until you give it a shot. As long as the person you choose is someone you love (and loves you back), get along with and want to build a life with, you just gotta leap.

[Simaahoy]

Someone that you can see yourself with, cares about you and trust.