How to get over being stood up?

[diggler649]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

:lol: Seriously, I'm not trolling.

A friend was to supposed to meet up with a guy she met online (red flag) last night for a coffee and the guy never showed. Now she's all upset. I tried talking some sense into her saying, first of all, you met the guy on the interweb. You know nothing about him. Are you even surprised this happened? Then I tried to be nicer and tell her it has nothing to do with her, the guy is probably a flake, better he stood you up then having to endure coffee with him...blah...blah...blah... It's not working. I can't seem to cheer her up.

Any of you noobs been in this situation before? Any advice I can offer up for a friend?

[danfromwaterloo]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

:lol: Seriously, I'm not trolling.

A friend was to supposed to meet up with a guy she met online (red flag) last night for a coffee and the guy never showed. Now she's all upset. I tried talking some sense into her saying, first of all, you met the guy on the interweb. You know nothing about him. Are you even surprised this happened? Then I tried to be nicer and tell her it has nothing to do with her, the guy is probably a flake, better he stood you up then having to endure coffee with him...blah...blah...blah... It's not working. I can't seem to cheer her up.

Any of you noobs been in this situation before? Any advice I can offer up for a friend?

I've never been stood up, so I don't know. But then again, I'm a pretty big deal.

[iEyeCaptain]

Give her number to qaz393 or yao416 (he'll need pics first).

[r1lee]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

:lol: Seriously, I'm not trolling.

A friend was to supposed to meet up with a guy she met online (red flag) last night for a coffee and the guy never showed. Now she's all upset. I tried talking some sense into her saying, first of all, you met the guy on the interweb. You know nothing about him. Are you even surprised this happened? Then I tried to be nicer and tell her it has nothing to do with her, the guy is probably a flake, better he stood you up then having to endure coffee with him...blah...blah...blah... It's not working. I can't seem to cheer her up.

Any of you noobs been in this situation before? Any advice I can offer up for a friend?

he probably did show, but didn't like the scenery.

as for the wife, she probably was tired of the scenary too :)

[Corleone187]

get a backbone? :facepalm:

[nyik]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

:lol: Seriously, I'm not trolling.

A friend was to supposed to meet up with a guy she met online (red flag) last night for a coffee and the guy never showed. Now she's all upset. I tried talking some sense into her saying, first of all, you met the guy on the interweb. You know nothing about him. Are you even surprised this happened? Then I tried to be nicer and tell her it has nothing to do with her, the guy is probably a flake, better he stood you up then having to endure coffee with him...blah...blah...blah... It's not working. I can't seem to cheer her up.

Any of you noobs been in this situation before? Any advice I can offer up for a friend?

Re: your wife. Typically there's pretty good communication between husband and wife. If she couldn't make it, wouldn't she let you know? And if she couldn't, wouldn't you assume there's a good reason? Or worse yet, worry that something happened and that you'd be more concerned with her well being and not the fact that she stood you up? Ask her tonight when you get home?

Re: your friend. Sounds like there's some sort of investment made into the guy. Hence she's pissed that she got stood up - because for some reason, meeting that guy for coffee was important to her. Nothing you can do can cheer her up, only time.

[sylpherware]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

Have some angry sex, and then tell her you'll be considering your "options" next time by pulling out a pic of your genital-pierced friend.

[stuntman]

So, I was supposed to meet my wife for lunch today, and she stood me up. How should I respond?

:lol: Seriously, I'm not trolling.

A friend was to supposed to meet up with a guy she met online (red flag) last night for a coffee and the guy never showed. Now she's all upset. I tried talking some sense into her saying, first of all, you met the guy on the interweb. You know nothing about him. Are you even surprised this happened? Then I tried to be nicer and tell her it has nothing to do with her, the guy is probably a flake, better he stood you up then having to endure coffee with him...blah...blah...blah... It's not working. I can't seem to cheer her up.

Any of you noobs been in this situation before? Any advice I can offer up for a friend?

You can't be serious about the wife thing.

As for your friend: she is being irrational. Tell her to get some exercise to feel better about herself.

[ji2o0k]

Sorry, your wife was with me....totally innocent tho!

As for your friend, forget the guy and move on...she invested some time but it was only a coffee and she hadn't even dated the guy yet...

I had a girl that I went on 3-4 dates and then not return my calls..and she was pretty fond of me too...crazy but I just shrugged my shoulders "meh, her loss" and moved on...

[the_fm]

Sorry, your wife was with me....totally innocent tho!

As for your friend, forget the guy and move on...she invested some time but it was only a coffee and she hadn't even dated the guy yet...

I had a girl that I went on 3-4 dates and then not return my calls..and she was pretty fond of me too...crazy but I just shrugged my shoulders "meh, her loss" and moved on...

but looks like the friend really had the hot for the guy and put all her eggs in that basket. maybe the guy did the good thing by not showing up

[EbonyRose]

Give her number to qaz393 or yao416 (he'll need pics first).

+1 If she's interested in Redflag guys, we have a whole line up for her!

[Becks]

She got stood up last night, and he wasted her time.
Today, she's upset about being stood up last night; she's wasting her own time.

[Nook]

This is called "flaking." And how one responds to when someone flakes is by proceeding to completely ignore the other. The beta beings of this world would text/call the flaker and say something along the lines of "why did you stand me up?! That was disrespectful and unexpected - thanks for wasting my time" or they'd try to reschedule another date.

But stop! By doing so, you are only feeding the ego of the flaker and making yourself appear desperate (a trait that no one finds attractive). So do not contact them again and the ball will be in their court.

As for getting over something like this, it's the same as anything else. Quit putting all your happiness into one person or one event - by doing so, you are only setting yourself up for getting hurt and disappointment.

[Psubs]

+1 If she's interested in Redflag guys, we have a whole line up for her!

Who wants sloppy 2nd? I don't mind being cleanup. :o

[steve-0101]

Who wants sloppy 2nd? I don't mind being cleanup. :o

Have some dignity man

[sandikosh]

For a second there I thought the OP was referring being stood up by a girl. This happen to me a few years ago and never bothered with the girl again. A few months later we eyed each at Loblaw passing me by twice and I ignored her.

[kennyhohoho]

Ask her if she wants to sit on it. It'll make her feel better.

[Ziggy007]

Your wife was probably banging the guy your friend was supposed to meet, which is why both of you got stood up.

You should now sleep with your friend, record it, and send it to your wife as revenge.

[Tornado F2]

I've never been stood up, so I don't know. But then again, I'm a pretty big deal.

Yeah, me too. But if it ever did happen, I'd date her sister instead. :lol:

[Tornado F2]

Have some angry sex, and then tell her you'll be considering your "options" next time by pulling out a pic of your genital-pierced friend.

There's an idea... date that "Miss" Universe Canada contestant...

Or maybe not. :lol:

[BananaHunter]

-Be an interesting person. Then you can write it off by saying it's their loss they didn't show up.
-Have backup plan. I have an ipad so even when plans get shot, I can watch a video on the way back on the subway
-Keep trying. You're a guy. Most guys make the first move. You get used to it after a few rejections.

Now...OP is married. That's more rough. Just talk it out with your wife to see wtf she was doing.