Do you have a social life? (Not including family)

[Syne]

I spend a lot of time in the Students and Careers forums and it truly seems like a lot of people lack a social life (and maybe need to get laid but that's another thread).

I guess for me, the gold standard of having a social life as an adult is summer weekends. These are your picnics, road trips, days at the beach, sports tournaments, bbqs, patios, camp fires, summer beer, and just an all-around time to celebrate with friends.

I guess I just assumed that everyone did this, but some of the things I've read have given me pause. It seems for some people, the weeks just sort of bleed together in one endless mobius strip of work and family obligations. Some people don't seem to leave the house except to take public transit.

So I guess as a sort of informal poll, I'd like to know that I'm not alone here. Who else is looking forward to the summer and all the great outdoorsy things that go with it?

[gamecube117]

I'm the opposite. I have a social life but not with my family (parents, cousins, etc). Same with my sibling.

We all use to be close with our family when we were younger, all spending time Friday night, but when we got older (high school) we started hanging out with our friends outside of school, we travel together, etc. My sibling is always going out with her friends - and I'm not talking about downtown, but to New York, L.A, etc. My parents get mad and remind us that our uncles, aunts, cousins all want to see us but we always say "oh we see them all the time, don't worry" (when reality we haven't). I mean we've seen them for almost all our lives when we were younger. I skip my grandma's birthday (where all the family comes once a year) because it's my friend's birthday the same week. I always skip Christmas with my family to hang with my friends too.

[gamecube117]

And when you say "not including family", does that mean you have a social life with your family?

I cannot ever imagine being that close with my cousins. I talk with my cousins, hang out.... but only with family (meaning our aunts, uncles, parents are with us too). I could never go shopping, movies or even just travel just with them, it would be too awkward. I have a friend and he's very family oriented. He's always going back home to Portugal with them, they go to Cuba and clubs together which I find extremely awkward. Like they all have a party and drink all night. I could never do that.

[yao416]

No life at all :(

[Dilton]

If all you ever do is work and/or study then what's the point of even being alive at all?

[XtremeModder]

I don't have a lot of friends but the friends that I do have are very close and we all hang out and have beers or do whatever when we can.

At the same time, I love having only a few friends, I am an only child and cherish the very small family I have (my parents, I rarely if ever talk to my cousins because I don't like them).

Left by myself I always find a way to entertain myself and like being alone a lot but that's just me.

[uber_shnitz]

I have a social life both with and without family. I don't see why they should be mutually exclusive. If my cousin is around the same age as me, no reason we can't hang out and do stuff together once in a while. We go to concerts, go out for drinks and whatnot.

That being said, I do have non-family related friends, either from school, work or other stuff that I hang out with.

I think the concept of "a healthy social life" is relative. I know people who NEED to go out and see people very often (like more than once a week) whereas others are fine seeing people once a week or less. I'm a bit in between. Some weeks I'll see friends more often and other weeks I'll be too absorbed in either school or work to see anyone.

Well either that or Diablo 3 came out...wait does it count if we have a Diablo 3 party with friends? :lol:

[chinesedevil]

Nope.

[sandikosh]

My social life revolves around RFD. Every Friday night I spend time here.

[Becks]

I think that having a controlling family has made it impossible to have a social life.

[RolandCouch]

Yes...and a great one.

[bman77]

Yes I have one, despite my immense rfd post habits.

[dsg512]

I'm like the OP, I'm looking forward to summer, to barbecues and cycling outside and spending time with friends. Really want to ride the Leviathan too.

[MrKap]

No... even including family, the answer is still no.

After my 20s, I had enough with "social life". Before that actually. If I go anywhere, I go alone. It's not worth it dealing with other people.

I prefer the company of acquaintances, strangers, ect...

[the_fm]

no i don't. i enjoy solo activities. would love to have somewhere to share it with but it doesn't matter if i don't. i'm the type of person that does what i feel like doing in the now than start calling people to do something they might not want to do. i've had enough disappointments in life that i learned to enjoy my me time :)

[windforcexx28]

I don't have a very social one, but it's something I can live with.

[djemzine]

I used to have a great social life back in my undergrad days. Its not the same since I came back home after undergrad and when I started Law school. Work and Law school keeps me busy as it is. However, the friends I have here are getting themselves into the non friend zone. As in, we're slowly drifting apart, each doing their own thing.

Trying to make new friends but its going so so, so far heh.

[jaxx lite]

I think that having a controlling family has made it impossible to have a social life.

You can have a social life
by constantly lying to your family

example:
you can say that you are going to the library or school to study
but you are actually meeting friends or boyfriend / girlfriend

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[LostInTruth]

Depressing thread. :(

[pupazzo]

I do have one very close friend who has stuck with me through thick and thin.

[Oscillator]

Yes. I don't know what I'd without, tbh. However, I don't know anyone at my school (UofT) and that's fine. It seems everyone at this school is antisocial or they prefer to associate with people who are similar to them (mostly Asians), but that's fine. Still have a close social circle of friends I've known from high school who keep me in the loop, even though my studies has kept me pretty busy. I'm introverted and all, but I can't really understand how some people can go so long without doing anything social or "fun" and still keep sane.

[boyohboy]

Does playing hockey count?

[Syne]

I do have one very close friend who has stuck with me through thick and thin.

.. And if you had one word to describe this friend, what would it be?

[gretzky99]

I do have one very close friend who has stuck with me through thick and thin.

IN Before you mention (again) this 'one very close friend' as your cumpare. :facepalm:

[thrifthunter]

I think that having a controlling family has made it impossible to have a social life.

Your mom is Poedua?

[aquacrayon]

I used to go out frequently just to see if it's for me. It's not for me. I hate crowds. I hate public transit. I'd rather sleep all day or watch movies and eat junk food with the bf. He's my bff, too! But he's always away. I prefer far, secluded places but that doesn't happen often. I could go on my own but where's the fun in that...

[spike1128]

I used to have a great social life back in my undergrad days. Its not the same since I came back home after undergrad and when I started Law school. Work and Law school keeps me busy as it is. However, the friends I have here are getting themselves into the non friend zone. As in, we're slowly drifting apart, each doing their own thing.

Trying to make new friends but its going so so, so far heh.

Or they are totally just hanging out with other people and leaving you in the ditch. I got friends that's like that. They hang with all these chicks and think you going to steal them or something. So you never know their friends. No reason to hang with their group if you don't know them.

[spike1128]

I don't have a lot of friends but the friends that I do have are very close and we all hang out and have beers or do whatever when we can.

At the same time, I love having only a few friends, I am an only child and cherish the very small family I have (my parents, I rarely if ever talk to my cousins because I don't like them).

Left by myself I always find a way to entertain myself and like being alone a lot but that's just me.

Being the only child usually really suck, because no one is going to talk with you about life realistically. Usually parents do this, but they can't be here forever. Usually cousins are the next best thing, but if you don't get along then there is no point having them around.

Can't believe you are the only child man. You are too much a down to earth sorta guy on RFD. The only child are usually the spoil rotten / selfish type of person. Only met a few decent only child in my life time.

[iEyeCaptain]

I do have one very close friend who has stuck with me through thick and thin.

your cumpare?

[djemzine]

Or they are totally just hanging out with other people and leaving you in the ditch. I got friends that's like that. They hang with all these chicks and think you going to steal them or something. So you never know their friends. No reason to hang with their group if you don't know them.

Yup that's pretty much what's been going on here in my end. The thing is, that's one of way meeting new friends is through other friends. Like I said, this was the case in Ottawa, but here back home, its not. So much different.

Ugh. Looks like I'll try to make friends from people I've met at the RFD Meat (Auto section).

[kingrukus]

I do have one very close friend who has stuck with me through thick and thin.

Your cumpere/boyfriend?

[Mr. Robo]

Whatever happened to those RFD meet ups?

[Sazafraz]

Whatever happened to those RFD meet ups?

Almost all of the social people on RFD don't post any more so it's pretty much only left with dweebs that don't leave their house.

[diggler649]

I have no social life. The highlight of my weekend is my weekly Friday chiropractic adjustment. Then it just goes downhill from there where I'm eventually playing Call of Duty multiplayer in my boxers on a Sunday night. I also haven't had sex in years. I masturbate occasionally, time permitting.

[rUn-gUn]

I wold say I have a social life but it may not be the same idea as the next persons social life and that's ok.

Luckily my family is very close even though they live in Owen Sound and me in Toronto, but I actually do prefer to have lots of alone time. So a social life for me is really easy, it involves my family and >10 close life-long friends and then maybe >20 friends that I haven't recently made in the past 3 years. On top of that there is now the working friends that I see 9 to 5 and I have come to really enjoy going for drinks with them once a week.

I've also been playing dodgeball once a week for the past 3 years, this really helped make a new circle of friends in Toronto.

I think it depends on personality and each individual will have a different social life but everyone must have one in some capacity. It can be gaming online, sports leagues, pub nights, etc.. I think it also depends where you live, I have always enjoyed my alone time and still do but moving to Toronto has sort of opened my social circle up a little more than I anticipated.

Haha, I still choose to not know anyone in my Condo building.. it gives me that satisfaction of knowing when I go home I have some privacy.

[wszeto28]

No social life for me as of May 15th, the release date of Diablo III :lol:

I'm sure half of RFD is like that too ;)

[divx]

I spend a lot of time in the Students and Careers forums and it truly seems like a lot of people lack a social life (and maybe need to get laid but that's another thread).

I guess for me, the gold standard of having a social life as an adult is summer weekends. These are your picnics, road trips, days at the beach, sports tournaments, bbqs, patios, camp fires, summer beer, and just an all-around time to celebrate with friends.

I guess I just assumed that everyone did this, but some of the things I've read have given me pause. It seems for some people, the weeks just sort of bleed together in one endless mobius strip of work and family obligations. Some people don't seem to leave the house except to take public transit.

So I guess as a sort of informal poll, I'd like to know that I'm not alone here. Who else is looking forward to the summer and all the great outdoorsy things that go with it?

people have different "social" life so don't be surprised it doesn't follow your ideals. at certain times in one's life, situation can change depending on one's priorities.

[Reyshel01]

Nope. Maybe, twice a month. Movies and/or dinner thats it.
I'm in a process of saving every penny lol

[Psubs]

Haha, I still choose to not know anyone in my Condo building.. it gives me that satisfaction of knowing when I go home I have some privacy.

I would want to find and pickup a Penny.

[Reyshel01]

No social life for me as of May 15th, the release date of Diablo III :lol:

I'm sure half of RFD is like that too ;)

i lol'd

[mockingjay404]

I used to have a great social life back in my undergrad days. Its not the same since I came back home after undergrad and when I started Law school. Work and Law school keeps me busy as it is. However, the friends I have here are getting themselves into the non friend zone. As in, we're slowly drifting apart, each doing their own thing.

Trying to make new friends but its going so so, so far heh.

since u made friends in undergrad, u should try the same in law school. should be easier because smaller class size + everyone takes the same courses all the time (right?). also, join some "law student clubs", that should be a good way to meet ppl.

[rUn-gUn]

I would want to find and pickup a Penny.

Haha very true, I have a great girlfriend though so no need! There are some good looking ladies but lots of them seem very high maintenance which I stay away from.