[Merged] Age differences when it comes to dating/marriage - How low/high will you go?

[diggler649]

Since it seems like only dating threads aren't getting locked, I thought I'd start one.

So over the past 6 months, 3 of my coworkers have gotten married to men significantly older than them.

1) 35 married 54 yr old.
2) 31 married 51 yr old.
3) 32 married 48 yr old.

So my question to you noobs are: How much younger/older would you go when dating/marrying a significant other? For me personally, I would go no younger than 5 years and no older than 2 years. Otherwise, I just wouldn't feel that we are at the same stage in life. FACT.

Discuss.

[Drew87]

Since it seems like only dating threads aren't getting locked, I thought I'd start one.

So over the past 6 months, 3 of my coworkers have gotten married to men significantly older than them.

1) 35 married 54 yr old.
2) 31 married 51 yr old.
3) 32 married 48 yr old.

So my question to you noobs are: How much younger/older would you go when dating/marrying a significant other? For me personally, I would go no younger than 5 years and no older than 2 years. Otherwise, I just wouldn't feel that we are at the same stage in life. FACT.

Discuss.

I think the rule is

Take your age divide it by 2 and add 7 for what's considered acceptable when it comes to younger......


I don't know what to really say about this topic....My dad was born during World War 2 - 1942, and my mom was born in the 50's (1954 to be exact) - They've been married since 1980 so the age discrepancy was never an issue for them. I'm only 24 now (turning 25 this year) and my older brother is 30....

One of my cousins married someone 15 years there senior around 6-7 years ago and their still married and really happy.....


I think it all comes down to the people, and situation.....Personally I don't think I'd be comfortable dating someone older long term - if it was a fling sure....LOL!!! j/k....

Younger if I add to be specific - I'd say 3-4 years max.....but the older I get that may change.....

[sedated_xtc]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

[Drew87]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

+1 - I definitely agree with that.

[yao416]

Age is just a number

[joeyjoejoe]

I don't put any hard caps on age when it comes to dating. But I find 5 to 10 year younger is where I match best maturity-wise.


Also OP, who you calling a noob, you camper!

[diggler649]

I don't put any hard caps on age when it comes to dating. But I find 5 to 10 year younger is where I match best maturity-wise.


Also OP, who you calling a noob, you camper!

LOL, I don't camp. I defend!

Where have you been BTW? You're never on MW3 anymore.

[mockingjay404]

1) 35 married 54 yr old.
2) 31 married 51 yr old.
3) 32 married 48 yr old.


wtf that's bizarre! are you just making up stuff?

anyways i'm on eH right now (you know what that is) and my age settings are 24 to 32. I myself am 32.

one interesting thing though, so far (i've only been on it 2 weeks) i can't seem to get any response from the ladies who are 24-28!
the only ones who responded to me (so far) are the 29 to 32's, and more often than not they are 30-32 (only 1 response from a 29'er).

how did the people in your example attract younger ones? did they just buy Porsches or something? i don't have the coin for that, lol

[diggler649]

wtf that's bizarre! are you just making up stuff?

anyways i'm on eH right now (you know what that is) and my age settings are 24 to 32. I myself am 32.

one interesting thing though, so far (i've only been on it 2 weeks) i can't seem to get any response from the ladies who are 24-28!
the only ones who responded to me (so far) are the 29 to 32's, and more often than not they are 30-32 (only 1 response from a 29'er).

how did the people in your example attract younger ones? did they just buy Porsches or something? i don't have the coin for that, lol

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

[Psubs]

wtf that's bizarre! are you just making up stuff?

anyways i'm on eH right now (you know what that is) and my age settings are 24 to 32. I myself am 32.

one interesting thing though, so far (i've only been on it 2 weeks) i can't seem to get any response from the ladies who are 24-28!
the only ones who responded to me (so far) are the 29 to 32's, and more often than not they are 30-32 (only 1 response from a 29'er).

how did the people in your example attract younger ones? did they just buy Porsches or something? i don't have the coin for that, lol

30 is the magic number. :|

24-28 age the girls are still in their prime. 29 comes and they know that 30 is fast approaching and switch gears.

Those that are in their mid-20's will go for older more mature guys if they've had enough heart-ache.

BTW, I look 10 years younger and after hearing about the 1/2 + 7 rule like 10 years ago, I used 1/2 + 5. 35/2 = 17.5 + 5 = 22.5 say 23. At least the girl is done undergrad. :)

[kennyhohoho]

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

You just answered your own question. Take what you can get. If that means 10+ years older than you, then so be it. :lol:

[spike1128]

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

Here is the answer toOP.

1) $
2) $
3) $

Now there is no formula, but do you see in it being disgusting.

If you were a guy, would you marry a girl who is young and can look like your daughter in age? If you were a guy, would you go out with a woman who is old and it shows on her skin? If you were a girl, would you marry a guy you have to seem to babysit all the time. That's why people look for people around their age.

Girls are always more mature than Guys when they are the same age. The Guys' maturity only start to accelerate/pass a girls' maturity in the later years (somewhere around their 30s/40s).

Then again, if I were an old fat bald rich guy in my 40s. Why wouldn't I want to get in there with a girl in her 20s.

[diggler649]

Here is the answer toOP.

1) $
2) $
3) $

Now there is no formula, but do you see in it being disgusting.

If you were a guy, would you marry a girl who is young and can look like your daughter in age? If you were a guy, would you go out with a woman who is old and it shows on her skin? If you were a girl, would you marry a guy you have to seem to babysit all the time. That's why people look for people around their age.

Girls are always more mature than Guys when they are the same age. The Guys' maturity only start to accelerate/pass a girls' maturity in the later years (somewhere around their 30s/40s).

Then again, if I were an old fat bald rich guy in my 40s. Why wouldn't I want to get in there with a girl in her 20s.

I thought this too, but these coworkers all make good $$$ themselves. Definitely six figures. I think when a woman gets to a certain age (over 30), maybe they become more open than when they were in their 20's. (ie. older guys, single dads, visible minorities if they were white, etc)

[Abel4Life]

These rules are true in North America.

However in places like India/Pakistan/Middle East you got 30+ year old men marrying 12-18 year olds and its acceptable.

[r1lee]

legal age and if she's mature enough.

Other then that, there's still a 50% chance of divorce.

[uber_shnitz]

As you grow older, age gaps become less of an issue.

I mean just think about it now...a 20 dating a 24 year old is nothing, but an 18 year old dating a 14 year old will often get stares. This is because age differences are still important at that stage. Past a certain point (maybe mid 30s?), you start falling into the category of "old" (or old-ish :razz:) so age is less of a delimiting factor.

[iEyeCaptain]

As a wise man once said in this thread, age is just a number.

Compatibility matters much more.

P.S. I am afraid to post in OT now. Don't delete me, bro. :cry:

[diggler649]

As you grow older, age gaps become less of an issue.

I mean just think about it now...a 20 dating a 24 year old is nothing, but an 18 year old dating a 14 year old will often get stares. This is because age differences are still important at that stage. Past a certain point (maybe mid 30s?), you start falling into the category of "old" (or old-ish :razz:) so age is less of a delimiting factor.

Isn't that illegal? Lol.

[manmanny]

Isn't that illegal? Lol.

why add lol?

"It is now illegal for adults in Canada to have sex with a partner under the age of 16, one of the new provisions of the Tories' violent crime law that came into effect on Thursday.

The Tackling Violent Crime Act raises the legal age of sexual consent in Canada to 16 from 14, the first time it has been raised since 1892.

But the law includes a "close-in-age exception," meaning 14- and 15-year-olds can have sex with someone who is less than five years older.

The Tories said they raised the age, in part, to deal with internet predators. The new law puts Canada's age of consent in line with those in Britain, Australia and most of the United States."

[mockingjay404]

I thought this too, but these coworkers all make good $$$ themselves. Definitely six figures.

6 figures at 31? damn, she must be an RFD member!

[Kunman]

hmmm ill take a rich 95+ grandma please

[manmanny]

6 figures at 31? damn, she must be an RFD member!

Now this deserves :lol:

Don't know why people on RFD complain, housing is unaffordable, with such salaries.

[Thai]

For guys, the younger the wife, the more successful you are.

My wife is 2 years younger than me. :(

[uber_shnitz]

Isn't that illegal? Lol.
Why do you think it's illegal? O_O :razz:

[r1lee]

For guys, the younger the wife, the more successful you are.

My wife is 2 years younger than me. :(

or the older the wife, the more successful she is? Suga Momma!!!

[peanutz]

hmmm ill take a rich 95+ grandma pleaseSame! In this case, the older the better... :twisted:

Anyway, even if these women are making $$$, doesn't mean they'll want to work for $$$ forever. But who knows.

I totally understand marrying a professor, though. Brains are hot, no matter how old.

[rsasp]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

+1

I wouldn't mind dating someone is +10 years old than me. As they have more experience and perhaps can be more serious in a relationship, which is what I am looking for.
P.S: Mature women can be very sexy. But to each its own.

[konfusion666]

Brains are hot, no matter how old.

I always knew you were a zombie at heart!

[kennyhohoho]

Same! In this case, the older the better... :twisted:

Anyway, even if these women are making $$$, doesn't mean they'll want to work for $$$ forever. But who knows.

I totally understand marrying a professor, though. Brains are hot, no matter how old.

How YOU doin??

http://www.deism.com/images/einfun.jpg

[Rainne]

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

I think I see a pattern here...

$$$$$$$

[peanutz]

I always knew you were a zombie at heart!I never hid that fact.


How YOU doin??I heard Einstein really was very popular with the ladies.

That is why Mark77 is dreamy.

[kennyhohoho]

I heard Einstein really was very popular with the ladies.

Of course he was. You see how long that tongue is?

[windforcexx28]

I heard Einstein really was very popular with the ladies.

That is why Mark77 is dreamy.

:lol:

[peanutz]

Well, everyone in my class liked him (http://individual.utoronto.ca/ddubins/) because he's dorky and cute and smart and brought his guitar to class to sing us songs about his lecture material.

But, personally, I had the hots for this guy (http://sunnybrook.ca/team/member.asp?t=19&page=24374&m=446). Especially when he wore thin shirts.

TO EACH HIS OWN

[spike1128]

+1

I wouldn't mind dating someone is +10 years old than me. As they have more experience and perhaps can be more serious in a relationship, which is what I am looking for.
P.S: Mature women can be very sexy. But to each its own.

Who told you that? about the P.S.? Aston Kutcher?

[Lucky0810]

These rules are true in North America.

However in places like India/Pakistan/Middle East you got 30+ year old men marrying 12-18 year olds and its acceptable.

Ugh.. I find that deplorable. These poor girls obviously can't make a decision on their own yet they're forced into these quasi-rape situations. It's disgusting. And I don't get it what's in it for the men (except for the obvious physical relationship). What advantages do they have marrying someone so young? There's a huge generation gap, so a lot of the times, the interests and hobbies that they both would have are different. What kinds of conversations would you have? I'm assuming these girls don't really have a life outside of cooking, cleaning and pleasing their husband, but still! I suppose it's easier to control a young girl than a well-established, educated, self-sustained woman.

Anyway, to answer your question, I thought I'd marry a guy about 3-5 years older than me (since my parents' age difference is within that range and most of the people I know are within that range so I figured it seemed right). But currently I'm dating a guy my age, so it's not like anything is written in stone.

[diggler649]

Well, everyone in my class liked him (http://individual.utoronto.ca/ddubins/) because he's dorky and cute and smart and brought his guitar to class to sing us songs about his lecture material.

But, personally, I had the hots for this guy (http://sunnybrook.ca/team/member.asp?t=19&page=24374&m=446). Especially when he wore thin shirts.

TO EACH HIS OWN

Post a pic of your white BF.

[Kohanz]

Same! In this case, the older the better... :twisted:

Anyway, even if these women are making $$$, doesn't mean they'll want to work for $$$ forever. But who knows.

I totally understand marrying a professor, though. Brains are hot, no matter how old.

All hail Tesla. Ultimate geek.

http://gavinjcraig.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/teslacelibate.png?w=560&h=423

[peanutz]

Post a pic of your white BF.He is just a pretty face. And I couldn't/wouldn't post a picture of someone else on the internet. :(


All hail Tesla. Ultimate geek.

http://gavinjcraig.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/teslacelibate.png?w=560&h=423No kidding. I admire Tesla greatly BUT there is a sterile aspect to his personality. He was either asexual or gay so I can't be attracted to him in that way.

Edison is not the type of geek I'm attracted to, either.

Wikipedia:

Tesla never married. He was celibate and claimed that his chastity was very helpful to his scientific abilities.[27] Nonetheless there have been numerous accounts of women vying for Tesla's affection, even some madly in love with him. Tesla, though polite, behaved rather ambivalently to these women in the romantic sense.

[manmanny]

These rules are true in North America.

However in places like India/Pakistan/Middle East you got 30+ year old men marrying 12-18 year olds and its acceptable.

If its acceptable then it must be all right. And I wonder why don't they allow such here in Canada?

[webdoctors]

Gone 5 years in either direction, good times :lol:

[sedated_xtc]

If its acceptable then it must be all right. And I wonder why don't they allow such here in Canada?

...cause that's called pedophilia if you're a 30 year man looking to get with a 12 year old in our culture. And even boys can't get married at that age here; it's an age of majority issue, not an issue of sex.

[divx]

If its acceptable then it must be all right. And I wonder why don't they allow such here in Canada?

the middle east is pretty populated with radicals, let's not compare ourselves to the nut-jobs over there.

[iEyeCaptain]

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Posts like these will get this otherwise interesting thread locked in this day and age of OT. :(

[manmanny]

the middle east is pretty populated with radicals, let's not compare ourselves to the nut-jobs over there.
my bad. Sorry. Forgot to mention it was sarcasm.

[the_fm]

when you are young, age seems to matter (because people want to relate) but once you hit 30-35, you really don't care anymore

[Thai]

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[Abel4Life]

If its acceptable then it must be all right. And I wonder why don't they allow such here in Canada?

I mentioned it but I am definately not supportive of it.

IMO they should punish those that engage in such acts. At least, throw them into a jail where the dogs can feed on them if you know what I mean.

But, unfortunately, over there with corruption, bribery etc. they will not enforce such laws.

[Psubs]

https://encrypted-tbn1.google.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcR-3RKItuNSbPMI_C53dIEjkaRquV4ya_qCfkUnqp2cbOzGCSvqyA

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That's the motto!

[sedated_xtc]

I mentioned it but I am definately not supportive of it.

IMO they should punish those that engage in such acts. At least, throw them into a jail where the dogs can feed on them if you know what I mean.

But, unfortunately, over there with corruption, bribery etc. they will not enforce such laws.

There's actually a book about that. Apparently it's legal to marry someone excessively underaged, but it's illegal to consummate the marriage until the girl is "of age" (which apparently means when she has her first period). But then again, that's acceptable in the village/super old-school environments, doesn't seem to actually be mainstream culture. Heartwrenching read but a great book.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/27073782/I-Am-Nujood-Age-10-and-Divorced-by-Nujood-Ali-with-Delphine-Minoui-Excerpt

[NorthYorker]

I think the biggest age difference for me was 7 years down (the girl was 7 years younger than me), 3 years up.

[Abel4Life]

I think the biggest age difference for me was 7 years down (the girl was 7 years younger than me), 3 years up.

You have met the divided by 2 + 7 rule. No issues.

[renoldman]

Interesting topic ....

If any of these good husbands has some misfortune and lose their jobs and/or wealth, I am sure the relationship will break down due to irreconcible differences.

If financial turmoil eases I am sure that females will resort to choosing partners based on other traits.

However, this should not really be a surprise as females usually do go for partners with wealth.

This makes me believe that the OP is actually a member of the upper middle class, this segment of the population is usually where the females go for adequate financial support. The fact that he is just noticing this phenomenon leads me to believe that the OP has lost a good job or his female has left him for someone with more wealth.

If the OP had a good job, he would be preoccupied with making his own female satisfied, mainly by him staying at his job and working. He would not need to post this thread because he would not be aware of the situation. In fact, it is likely that the OP would believe that his female loved him dearly and that his female was not concerned with wealth at all. He would believe that should something happen to him (ie. he becomes poor and unemployed) his female would stand by him.

Thus, the OP has seen the world of females for what it is .... Of course females would deny it.

As the financial crisis worsens, I expect more upper middle class men will come to the realization that their lower class counterparts have known for decades.

This post might be labeled as derogatory and insulting, but my hope is that at least one person reads it and learns the truth ....

[peanutz]

renoldman makes me want a pet female

[renoldman]

As to the question of how young is too young, it's obvious the age of 20. Why is that? Well, it takes a bit to explain.

See in today's world with dirty images available 24/7, we have lost the true meaning of sex ..... which is procreation.

Back in the day, people had sex to procreate, this comes as confusing to many people today because they do it to kill time.

Now, why 20 ? Well, it goes back to lucky and unlucky numbers. The number 13 has been seen as being unlucky for many years, but why? Because this is the age in which most females start to menstruate and therefore can procreate. Menstruating is very confusing to males .... where else can you see something that always bleeds and doesn't die (remember that menstruating happened before video games, thus bleeding forever wasn't considered normal)?

The lucky number, which is currently 7 is added to the unlucky number to get to the perfect age for procreation.

This might sound like I made it up, but remember that people long ago needed simple rules to live by.

Thus unlucky number = the age at which females start to regularly menstruate. (ie. they can procreate)
Lucky number = how long (from the start of menstruation) until the female has reached a suitable age to procreate.

In societies where the lucky number is 0, procreating is acceptable at the age of 13. It also explains why a high "lucky number" was laughed at. I mean, you think 73 is a lucky number? This means that a woman must be 86 (73+13) in order for to think it is acceptable. Either you were really like older woman, or you didn't understand the concept. Considering that most people didn't live past 50 (remember this was long ago) you were probably just a stupid man who didn't understand the concept.

Of course, in today's world where procreation is not really the primary function, the concept of "lucky number" is lost. Thus, what is acceptable or not is highly subjective, just as the idea of a lucky number is.

[Psubs]

peanutz makes me want pet a female

[mockingjay404]

This makes me believe that the OP is actually a member of the upper middle class, this segment of the population is usually where the females go for adequate financial support. The fact that he is just noticing this phenomenon leads me to believe that the OP has lost a good job or his female has left him for someone with more wealth.

If the OP had a good job, he would be preoccupied with making his own female satisfied, mainly by him staying at his job and working. He would not need to post this thread because he would not be aware of the situation. In fact, it is likely that the OP would believe that his female loved him dearly and that his female was not concerned with wealth at all. He would believe that should something happen to him (ie. he becomes poor and unemployed) his female would stand by him.

Thus, the OP has seen the world of females for what it is .... Of course females would deny it

lol, diggler just got PSYCHOANALYZED FOR FREE! now you can skip next Wednesday's appointment bro



This post might be labeled as derogatory and insulting, but my hope is that at least one person reads it and learns the truth ....

but wait, what's this? "the truth"? obvious troll is obvious



As to the question of how young is too young, it's obvious the age of 20. Why is that? Well, it takes a bit to explain.
blah blah blah


hey look, it's jungeon's twin brother!

[diggler649]

Interesting topic ....

If any of these good husbands has some misfortune and lose their jobs and/or wealth, I am sure the relationship will break down due to irreconcible differences.

If financial turmoil eases I am sure that females will resort to choosing partners based on other traits.

However, this should not really be a surprise as females usually do go for partners with wealth.

This makes me believe that the OP is actually a member of the upper middle class, this segment of the population is usually where the females go for adequate financial support. The fact that he is just noticing this phenomenon leads me to believe that the OP has lost a good job or his female has left him for someone with more wealth.

If the OP had a good job, he would be preoccupied with making his own female satisfied, mainly by him staying at his job and working. He would not need to post this thread because he would not be aware of the situation. In fact, it is likely that the OP would believe that his female loved him dearly and that his female was not concerned with wealth at all. He would believe that should something happen to him (ie. he becomes poor and unemployed) his female would stand by him.

Thus, the OP has seen the world of females for what it is .... Of course females would deny it.

As the financial crisis worsens, I expect more upper middle class men will come to the realization that their lower class counterparts have known for decades.

This post might be labeled as derogatory and insulting, but my hope is that at least one person reads it and learns the truth ....

I am insulted. Highly, highly insulted.


renoldman makes me want a pet female

I have a cold. Any recommendations on what to take that actually works?

[NorthYorker]

You have met the divided by 2 + 7 rule.Even for relatively young couples, I know several who married when he was 29-30 and she was 20, technically violating the rule but living quite happily ever after. However, I have to admit that those marriages are usually built on foundation of rational thinking rather than passion (at least when it comes to girl's motives). Not necessarily gold-digging, but something along the lines of "Well, he's not a hot macho, but decent-looking, good-natured, proved that he can support a family, and I can sleep with him". If both sides can manage their expectations, this can be a quite happy couple.

[sedated_xtc]

Interesting topic ....

If any of these good husbands has some misfortune and lose their jobs and/or wealth, I am sure the relationship will break down due to irreconcible differences.

If financial turmoil eases I am sure that females will resort to choosing partners based on other traits.

However, this should not really be a surprise as females usually do go for partners with wealth.

This makes me believe that the OP is actually a member of the upper middle class, this segment of the population is usually where the females go for adequate financial support. The fact that he is just noticing this phenomenon leads me to believe that the OP has lost a good job or his female has left him for someone with more wealth.

If the OP had a good job, he would be preoccupied with making his own female satisfied, mainly by him staying at his job and working. He would not need to post this thread because he would not be aware of the situation. In fact, it is likely that the OP would believe that his female loved him dearly and that his female was not concerned with wealth at all. He would believe that should something happen to him (ie. he becomes poor and unemployed) his female would stand by him.

Thus, the OP has seen the world of females for what it is .... Of course females would deny it.

As the financial crisis worsens, I expect more upper middle class men will come to the realization that their lower class counterparts have known for decades.

This post might be labeled as derogatory and insulting, but my hope is that at least one person reads it and learns the truth ....

Jaded much?

A little extreme to say when you know nothing about the women other than their marital situation. You have no idea how educated these women are, what they've gone through in their lives, or anything else for that matter. Also, OP has mentioned, the women are pretty well off themselves with respectable salaries, not like they pulled a Cinderella story here.

[Wilmega]

At my age now (24) I'd date anyone between 20 - 40 yrs. If im 60 yrs old i'd date anyone between ....20 - 40 yrs :lol:

[spookie149]

Female, 25. I would go a few years younger and probably up to 7 years older. But I care less about age and money as I do about compatibility. I am financially secure and don't need a man to support me. Having said that, I don't want a deadbeat.

[diggler649]

Jaded much?

A little extreme to say when you know nothing about the women other than their marital situation. You have no idea how educated these women are, what they've gone through in their lives, or anything else for that matter. Also, OP has mentioned, the women are pretty well off themselves with respectable salaries, not like they pulled a Cinderella story here.

He's just trolling. He sounds like one of the DB's whose office is next to mine. In fact, I will walk over and check his browser history to see if he's been on RFD OT recently.

[peanutz]

I have a cold. Any recommendations on what to take that actually works?You should take: rest, and plenty of fluids especially with vitamin C. :)

Since I seem to have caught a cold with a stuffy nose and a mild fever, and I don't have high blood pressure, stomach sensitivity, or any kidney/heart conditions... I just had a chocolate-coffee milkshake and two Advil Cold&Sinus tablets. :)

[NorthYorker]

Now, why 20 ? Well, it goes back to lucky and unlucky numbers. Wow, that's incredible! In my home country, where folks are quite superstitious but not about numbers (13 is considered unlucky, but no more beliefs related to numbers exist), 20 used to be considered the ideal age a girl should find a husband. That is why I, being a geekish guy with not-so-hot looks, dated mostly 20 yo girls since I was like 17 :) I wasn't considered "hot" to go out with and show me off as a prize catch, but I was considered a good husband material :D
Jaded much?I always thought that "ability to support a family" is a part of what makes a male "naturally attractive" to females, and it goes down to our ape ancestors. The one able to bring home the biggest mammoth is the preferred mating partner, isn't he? :D

[diggler649]

You should take: rest, and plenty of fluids especially with vitamin C. :)

Since I seem to have caught a cold with a stuffy nose and a mild fever, and I don't have high blood pressure, stomach sensitivity, or any kidney/heart conditions... I just had a chocolate-coffee milkshake and two Advil Cold&Sinus tablets. :)

I took 2 Tylenol colds last night and realized that they expired back in Aug 2010. I contemplated calling the poison control centre but ended up playing video games instead.

[rsasp]

If its acceptable then it must be all right. And I wonder why don't they allow such here in Canada?

Well, the same reason that we can not have more than one wife(legally).

[sedated_xtc]

Well, the same reason that we can not have more than one wife(legally).

Well/...not exactly, polygamy vs pedophilia isn't exactly the same...


I always thought that "ability to support a family" is a part of what makes a male "naturally attractive" to females, and it goes down to our ape ancestors. The one able to bring home the biggest mammoth is the preferred mating partner, isn't he? :D

I'm pretty sure that was when men and women lived in caves and celebrated when the wheel was crafted to be round.

We've come a long way. For me personally, am looking for compatibility and partnership, not so much in whether or not someone can bring home a paychq since I have one of those on my own and I'm comfortable with it on my own as is.

Although I would be very impressed if someone came home with a mammoth for me now still.

[Psubs]

Although I would be very impressed if someone came home with a mammoth for me now still.

If we were to go out on a date, I would bring a cute mammoth stuffed animal. :razz:

Flowers die, stuffed animals last forever, until you break up and the girl rips it to shreds. :|

Hmmmm, if that girl from speed-dating ever gets back to me, I'll tell her to meet me somewhere and walk to a grocery store and pretend to act out a scene where we meet there and I ask her to go for dinner. (she mentioned wanting to casually meet and fall in love)

[ever1221]

6 figures at 31...holy crap even an engineer with a Peng wouldn't be making that much.

[konfusion666]

6 figures at 31...holy crap even an engineer with a Peng wouldn't be making that much.

Rule of thumb on RFD; reduce all salary estimates by 50%.

[NorthYorker]

I'm pretty sure that was when men and women lived in caves and celebrated when the wheel was crafted to be round.Yes it is. But I'm sure it is in our genes somewhere (heck, even some animals use gifting as part of mating ritual, and what is a gift if not slightly modified form of chest-beating "I can provide you with coolest things there are, that's how good I am") :D

[92gsr]

A 31 year-old female friend of mine is currently dating a late 40s guy with a beer gut and a child. He can't dress, but he does drive a BMW and she has a weakness for BMWs (an E30 was her first car.) He probably makes the same amount of money as she does (mid-60s) and he lives in a basement suite. On the other hand, she didn't have much of a father growing up so I think this guy might be the father figure she's always longed for.

So, it's not always about the money or status that make older men attractive.

[sedated_xtc]

Yes it is. But I'm sure it is in our genes somewhere (heck, even some animals use gifting as part of mating ritual, and what is a gift if not slightly modified form of chest-beating "I can provide you with coolest things there are, that's how good I am") :D

Lol, speaking of evolution and subconscious embedded genetics, I once knew a guy who had that same train of thought where he thinks women would be most attracted to a man who can prove from the get-go that they are providers.

On his first date with a girl, he bought her a meat as a meeting gift. We're talking raw bacon here.

Great catch?

[iEyeCaptain]

Hmmmm, if that girl from speed-dating ever gets back to me, I'll tell her to meet me somewhere and walk to a grocery store and pretend to act out a scene where we meet there and I ask her to go for dinner. (she mentioned wanting to casually meet and fall in love)

Respect.

[Rainne]

Even for relatively young couples, I know several who married when he was 29-30 and she was 20, technically violating the rule but living quite happily ever after. However, I have to admit that those marriages are usually built on foundation of rational thinking rather than passion (at least when it comes to girl's motives). Not necessarily gold-digging, but something along the lines of "Well, he's not a hot macho, but decent-looking, good-natured, proved that he can support a family, and I can sleep with him". If both sides can manage their expectations, this can be a quite happy couple.

I find marriages where the husband is older than the wife by like 7-10+ years, it usually works out well.

[ever1221]

Rule of thumb on RFD; reduce all salary estimates by 50%.

in this whole forum, only one member said hes making 60k everyone else 100k+...weird.

[sandikosh]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

The only general rule is that you marry the person you love. Age is just a number.

[Psubs]

Lol, speaking of evolution and subconscious embedded genetics, I once knew a guy who had that same train of thought where he thinks women would be most attracted to a man who can prove from the get-go that they are providers.

On his first date with a girl, he bought her a meat as a meeting gift. We're talking raw bacon here.

Great catch?

If a girl brought me bacon on a first date, I would marry her on the spot but be wary if she wanted to eagerly get life-insurance ASAP. :o

Really though, the last girl I dated brought me a homemade muffin and mini-banana bread. It made me so giddy. :)

Didn't work out as she has 2 kids and no time to commit for a deeper relationship as her youngest is 1 year old.

[NorthYorker]

On his first date with a girl, he bought her a meat as a meeting gift. We're talking raw bacon here.

Great catch?LOL, nice story. However, being from USSR and having personal experience with "irregularities" in food supply (never anything qualifying as "hunger" or "food shortage", but, say, reasonably priced fruits in the middle of winter were a prize catch), I can imagine a situation this kind of gift would be quite welcome :D I did bring oranges or tangerines as a meeting gift more than once myself. Not at first date, though, but once I knew the girl a bit.

[Psubs]

in this whole forum, only one member said hes making 60k everyone else 100k+...weird.

I make 50-60k. I really don't want to make more. More money isn't going to change my life. I don't need more stuff. Well if I win the lottery with the office that would change things. Don't really care about someone that would want me more if I made double my salary even though that's how life works.

I could be making around 70k if I worked in the private sector for a bank or pharmaceutical or other company, but not interested in working like a slave and being stressed out. Posting on RFD is fine with low-stress and 5 weeks vacation. :)

[diggler649]

6 figures at 31...holy crap even an engineer with a Peng wouldn't be making that much.


Rule of thumb on RFD; reduce all salary estimates by 50%.

This is not uncommon in the investments industry. You make six figures coming out of B-school.

[Psubs]

This is not uncommon in the investments industry. You make six figures coming out of B-school.

... and you post on RFD.

Maybe if I did make double the salary, I wouldn't be on here. :|

I would be busy making the money and/or busy using it.

[peanutz]

diggler is so busy at his banking job, he takes time out of his workday to post on RFD.

:(

mejelly

But I'm also jelly of the 5weeks' vacation.

[konfusion666]

Second rule of RFD: all threads will eventually devolve into a salary discussion (or argument).

[diggler649]

diggler is so busy at his banking job, he takes time out of his workday to post on RFD.

:(

mejelly

But I'm also jelly of the 5weeks' vacation.

Except for April and May. It was crazy busy so my post volume dropped significantly. June, July, and August is slow in the investments industry so I'll be sure to flood OT with posts and probably pick up a few infractions or temp bans along the way.

[sandikosh]

As long as she's abe, I'm in!

[webdoctors]

Honestly, after University, so post 23 years of age, everyone is dateable. Once everyone is working they share a lot of things in common.

It doesnt matter if someone is 23 and other person is 33 or 43 (ok, that gets more problematic as they're probably interested in different things).

But basically, after both ppl have graduated, it doesn't really matter what their age difference is.

[Becks]

Ok, so it sounds like the majority of the posters here approve of Anna Nicole Smith's infamous marriage? C'mon.

[sandikosh]

Ok, so it sounds like the majority of the posters here approve of Anna Nicole Smith's infamous marriage? C'mon.

As I am not married to her, I do not care.

[spike1128]

diggler is so busy at his banking job, he takes time out of his workday to post on RFD.

:(

mejelly

But I'm also jelly of the 5weeks' vacation.

No need jelly. You can go date diggler. Subsidize your lifestyle, then you work less. Then can post as much as you want on RFD during workday while staying home RFDing. :D

[Simaahoy]

I would go five years older and a year younger.

[Mr.Sea]

All of those women are past their prime. The only way they can attract men with money is if they marry someone much older.

[JAC]

As to the question of how young is too young, it's obvious the age of 20. Why is that? Well, it takes a bit to explain.
See in today's world with dirty images available 24/7, we have lost the true meaning of sex ..... which is procreation.
Back in the day, people had sex to procreate, this comes as confusing to many people today because they do it to kill time.
Now, why 20 ? Well, it goes back to lucky and unlucky numbers. The number 13 has been seen as being unlucky for many years, but why? Because this is the age in which most females start to menstruate and therefore can procreate. Menstruating is very confusing to males .... where else can you see something that always bleeds and doesn't die (remember that menstruating happened before video games, thus bleeding forever wasn't considered normal)?
The lucky number, which is currently 7 is added to the unlucky number to get to the perfect age for procreation.
This might sound like I made it up, but remember that people long ago needed simple rules to live by.
Thus unlucky number = the age at which females start to regularly menstruate. (ie. they can procreate)
Lucky number = how long (from the start of menstruation) until the female has reached a suitable age to procreate.
In societies where the lucky number is 0, procreating is acceptable at the age of 13. It also explains why a high "lucky number" was laughed at. I mean, you think 73 is a lucky number? This means that a woman must be 86 (73+13) in order for to think it is acceptable. Either you were really like older woman, or you didn't understand the concept. Considering that most people didn't live past 50 (remember this was long ago) you were probably just a stupid man who didn't understand the concept.
Of course, in today's world where procreation is not really the primary function, the concept of "lucky number" is lost. Thus, what is acceptable or not is highly subjective, just as the idea of a lucky number is.

Nominated for: Stupid Post of the Day

[ishfish]

Nominated for: Stupid Post of the Day

Yes, that post is lacking in something.
I suspect that something is everything.

[Chookman]

I heard Einstein really was very popular with the ladies.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lFPLgGWMndc

[renoldman]

Yes, that post is lacking in something.
I suspect that something is everything.

Of course you would think its stupid.

Because the words have lost their true meaning.

Now you think lucky and unlucky numbers really mean they are lucky and unlucky.

I will provide another example, about 70 years ago people used the word "Gay" to mean someone was happy, today the word refers to someone's sexual orientation.

Today, Noob or N00b refers to someone who doesn't know something on the internet, 50 years from now a N00b could be someone who is a master of relationships with ladies.

That probably sounds stupid to you, but that's because the meaning hasn't changed yet.

The true meaning behind lucky and unlucky number was never documented because it was seen as common sense.

The fact that people now label it as false, actually proves that females are no longer dominated by males.

If, in the future, females become dominant over males, the meaning could be reversed. Meaning lucky = When a Man can reproduce and unlucky = when he is suitable.

The fact that a number of female posters have said that my post mentioning wealth was full of crap, leads me to believe that they already have an unspoken formula.

But you guys can think I am nuts. If it helps you get through life in which you are being dominated, who am I to judge?

[Simaahoy]

Of course you would think its stupid.

Because the words have lost their true meaning.

Now you think lucky and unlucky numbers really mean they are lucky and unlucky.

I will provide another example, about 70 years ago people used the word "Gay" to mean someone was happy, today the word refers to someone's sexual orientation.

Today, Noob or N00b refers to someone who doesn't know something on the internet, 50 years from now a N00b could be someone who is a master of relationships with ladies.

That probably sounds stupid to you, but that's because the meaning hasn't changed yet.

The true meaning behind lucky and unlucky number was never documented because it was seen as common sense.

The fact that people now label it as false, actually proves that females are no longer dominated by males.

If, in the future, females become dominant over males, the meaning could be reversed. Meaning lucky = When a Man can reproduce and unlucky = when he is suitable.

The fact that a number of female posters have said that my post mentioning wealth was full of crap, leads me to believe that they already have an unspoken formula.

But you guys can think I am nuts. If it helps you get through life in which you are being dominated, who am I to judge?

Mr. Kap?

[bleeet]

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

lol does not surprised me

i saw an asian girl that was around 21-22 give or take with a grey haired guy that was probably in his mid 40's or higher at a jays game. she was butter everything

I don't think some of these guys in relationships like this have cash. they probably go out of their way spending money to shower girls with gifts

[kamilio]

Say you're a guy who's in his late 20s 26-29. How much younger would you date?

Also, ever met someone who is much younger than you but who is very mature, beautiful, and you get along great with? How much younger would you go?

I get the feeling that it is not ideal and I should not date anyone under 25. I have been hanging out with someone but she is under 25.

[7jai]

There's an universal formula that has been approved by the world society of men to solve your issue my friend:

(Man's age + 7) / 2

so based on this universally shared formula, you are good to date anyone as young as 18! congrats!! you're all clear to go! ;)

[kamilio]

Isn't there an universal formula for this?

(Man's age + 7) / 2

So based on that formula a 27 year old is ok to date a 17 year old. That's illegal in most countries so your formula is a fail...

[Hairball]

There's an universal formula that has been approved my the world society of men to solve your issue my friend:

(Man's age + 7) / 2

so based on this universally shared formula, you are good to date anyone as young as 18! congrats!! you're all clear to go! ;)

If this is universal, is a man allowed to date an older woman then?

Please advise.

[Hairball]

So based on that formula a 27 year old is ok to date a 17 year old. That's illegal in most countries so your formula is a fail...

The age of consent in Canada is 16, and in most countries is similar.

[uber_shnitz]

That's the "creepiness equation" so it'd be socially considered "ok", not legally.

[ronin1701]

There's an universal formula that has been approved by the world society of men to solve your issue my friend:

(Man's age + 7) / 2

so based on this universally shared formula, you are good to date anyone as young as 18! congrats!! you're all clear to go! ;)

Are you sure? I thought it was (Man's age / 2) + 7 = minimum

[chinesedevil]

Uhhh its age/2 +7 not (age + 7)/2

You got the formula wrong bro... good luck in jail

[Cas77]

Depends how much money is involved.

[needle]

what exactly is this "not ideal" feeling?
is it something what other people would think of you for dating much younger person?
or is it something completely on your own thought that you shouldn't take advantage of someone younger.

either way, are you going to feel better if people tell you it's okay to date someone under 25?
what other people think or say shouldn't affect your decision. If you really like this girl then who cares?

[rUn-gUn]

Depends on what you mean by "OK". If you mean maturity and stability in life then the answer may differ from if you mean going to prison. I think 19 or over is fair game and at that point they can make decisions on if they want to date older/younger as well. I don't think a 19 year old and a 29 year old would have lots in common but who knows, everyone's different.

[Hawk25]

I'm with chinesedevil, I always heard it was (age/2) + 7. Makes it a little more legal

[Psubs]

Age/2 + 5 is good. Whatever, as long as no one's still highschool.

[d182]

Half your age + 7 - what Hawk and chinesedevil said

[manixc]

Half your age + 7 - what Hawk and chinesedevil said
+1

oh nuts, i hope no one use that wrong formula....

[Mars2012]

There's a huge age difference between my husband and myself, not only that, we are from different races. We've been together for well over 20 years, and we've raised three children together. As long as it's legal...anyone have a problem with it, I say 'eff them.

If a person has to ask that question in the first place, then they probably should date someone closer to their age.

[bunshichi]

Uhhh its age/2 +7 not (age + 7)/2

You got the formula wrong bro... good luck in jail

+1 LOL... almost died laughing when I read this

I'd thank you for this post if the option was available. Made my morning

[ji2o0k]

Well as the saying goes....age ain't nuthin' but a number.....

So any age is acceptable.....wait a minute, that doesn't sound right....

[iEyeCaptain]

With the first formula... it's okay for me to date a 15 year old.

2nd... 19 year old.

Gonna go with the 2nd formula.

[LaserEnvy]

There's no limit when it comes age difference. As long as the younger party is at least 16 then it should be acceptable.

[Cas77]

There's no limit when it comes age difference. As long as the younger party is at least 16 then it should be acceptable.

I agree, this is what determines success in life. Don't you think these 2 are (rather were) happy? They provide each other what the other desires so much to compliment each other's lives. Many people the same age can't provide their partner what they want so age has nothing to do with it.

http://live.drjays.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/annahoward.jpg

[poedua]

There's a huge age difference between my husband and myself, not only that, we are from different races. We've been together for well over 20 years, and we've raised three children together. As long as it's legal...anyone have a problem with it, I say 'eff them.

If a person has to ask that question in the first place, then they probably should date someone closer to their age.

What's the " huge ' difference in age ?

[poedua]

If this is universal, is a man allowed to date an older woman then?

Please advise.

Absolutely.

In fact, a lot of older women prefer younger men...among other things, they're usually more ' physically capable ' than older guys.;)

[LaserEnvy]

If this is universal, is a man allowed to date an older woman then?

Please advise.

Older women is the way to go.

[LaserEnvy]

I agree, this is what determines success in life. Don't you think these 2 are (rather were) happy? They provide each other what the other desires so much to compliment each other's lives. Many people the same age can't provide their partner what they want so age has nothing to do with it.

http://live.drjays.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/annahoward.jpg

I agree completely. People are so quick to judge but the truth is, that guy probably liked young, buxom women (who doesnt?) and she probably liked rich, older men. They made each other happy. No harm, no foul.

[gman]

For me, +/- 5 years. For other people. it is non of my business.

[D-Roc]

Age/2 + 5 is good. Whatever, as long as no one's still highschool.


My wife was 16 when I started dating her and I was 21. :cool:

[konfusion666]

another thread resurrected from the dead?

[D-Roc]

another thread resurrected from the dead?


It looks like another thread recently started was merged with this one.

[Psubs]

My wife was 16 when I started dating her and I was 21. :cool:

Well if both are still in highschool then it's okay.

[D-Roc]

Well if both are still in highschool then it's okay.

Nope. I was out of highschool.

[Hairball]

Absolutely.

In fact, a lot of older women prefer younger men...among other things, they're usually more ' physically capable ' than older guys.;)

Ah, no wonder so many cougars are on the prowl these days.

Thanks.

[CSK'sMom]

Well if both are still in highschool then it's okay.


Nope. I was out of highschool.

LOL, sounds familar! I was 17, hubby 21 when we started dating. Married 4 years later and will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in May! :D

[manmanny]

There's no limit when it comes age difference. As long as the younger party is at least 16 then it should be acceptable.

I hate to agree with you but.

Lincoln Alexander (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lincoln_Alexander)

“If you go to Toronto, the place is full of interracial couples. Race doesn’t mean a damn thing anymore.

“(But) an old codger like me marrying a girl 30 years his junior? I was afraid to ask her.”

Marni Beal (2011–2012)

[Skully]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

lol, eatin a bag of doritos in his parents basement isnt what a 35++ year old woman considers "movin on up" or the finer things in life, although 45 year old man with a 21 year old, young woman is awesome

[nalababe]

Don't buy into a silly formula.

Not that it matters (being happily married for 14 years), but I would want the person to be in the sample place of life as I am...Sure it is possible to have a 10 year age gap and still be in the same place, but it is not all that common. I know that I am not the same person as I was 10 years ago...

[D-Roc]

LOL, sounds familar! I was 17, hubby 21 when we started dating. Married 4 years later and will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in May! :D

Congrates. We have been married for.......wait a minute..*counting fingers*.....13 years.


Did any of your friends say it would not work due to him being 21?

[Aznsilvrboy]

Seems like there were a few instances of Ephebophilia in here :facepalm:

[deltone]

Congrates. We have been married for.......wait a minute..*counting fingers*.....13 years.


Did any of your friends say it would not work due to him being 21?

Thriteen years in this day and age is great!! Congrats!!

[jodie8]

i will go for a guy as young as 18

my last boyfriend was 17, i was 25 then

his parents were pissed off so they made me go to jail several times under made up allegations just to literally keep us apart. i'm bad but they made a worse choice.

[Skully]

i will go for a guy as young as 18

my last boyfriend was 17, i was 25 then

his parents were pissed off so they made me go to jail several times under made up allegations just to literally keep us apart. i'm bad but they made a worse choice.

somethin wrong with u!!!

[D-Roc]

Thriteen years in this day and age is great!! Congrats!!

We have been together for 19 years

[sandikosh]

Love has no boundary. Except in the eyes of the law.

[spookie149]

somethin wrong with u!!!
Ahaha I laughed so hard

[weedb0y]

No dude. This is for real. Not making this ish up.

The coworkers above were all female.

1) White chick married CFO of an investment company. She's no looker but neither is he.
2) Asian chick married a white professor (who has a teenage daughter from a previous marriage). She's a butterface. Everything is good but her face.
3) White chick married a salesman (he makes good coin but spends it just as fast). She's kind of chunky but dude is bald with a gut.

Not sure if any conclusion can be drawn from this other than older men can get younger mediocre women if they've got cash.

These women lack self-esteem..

[dc200]

i think i'm the odd one out in all of this, lol.

as a 23 yr old guy, i tend to be more attracted to 26-28 yr old girls. sometimes they don't take me seriously, but that's ok.

[iwishyouamerrychristmas]

i think i'm the odd one out in all of this, lol.

as a 23 yr old guy, i tend to be more attracted to 26-28 yr old girls. sometimes they don't take me seriously, but that's ok.

I am also 23 and I would go for right around my age only.

[jodie8]

somethin wrong with u!!!

Yeah that's what they say. Lol. As long as I'm at the same maturity level with guys those age and I can pull off looking like 18 it'll be my preference. Oh and brown dudes are my weakness! Damn. Girls back home are crazy about white guys, not me yo lol.

[LostInTruth]

I don't really have a set age. I guess right now, no one younger than 20 and no one older than 30?

[LostInTruth]

Yeah that's what they say. Lol. As long as I'm at the same maturity level with guys those age and I can pull off looking like 18 it'll be my preference. Oh and brown dudes are my weakness! Damn. Girls back home are crazy about white guys, not me yo lol.

Reminds me of this.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nMXnS5_0kc

[Piro21]

I just broke up with a girl 6 years older than me (I'm 28, she's 34). I don't see a problem with a widening age gap as you get older, so long as the two parties are on relatively equal footing. However, I will admit that whenever I see an older guy with a girl that's a lot younger than he is the first word that pops into my head is 'escort'.

[Katchemash]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

I used this sort of rule but instead it was -5 for women. I believe, I don't know if its true to not, that when women have kids they look older than they are so its better if its -5 to your age so that both don't look too old.

[Koppoman]

I would probably say +2 and -3 or 4.

[cbr600]

General rule for men:
Anyone older than half your age + 7 is fine.

General rule for women:
Anyone younger than double your age - 7 is fine.

I'm not sure how seriously I'll take these, but that's just what I heard. But imo, it really shouldn't matter as long as it's legal, consenting, and both parties match in terms of maturity, future goals, and are in the same stage of life.

so if a woman's 45 she can date up to a 83 year old man..
good to know grandpa still has a chance

[Shojin]

Reminds me of this.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nMXnS5_0kc

How much for the left one?

[RolandCouch]

Love has no boundary. Except in the eyes of the law.

Creepy.

[RastaManMax]

How much for the left one?

Brown girls are the worst.

[toopence]

This grandpa sure did

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/story/2012/10/29/pol-cp-maygan-sensenberger-senator-zimmer-wife.html




so if a woman's 45 she can date up to a 83 year old man..
good to know grandpa still has a chance

[toopence]

What the hell is a "brown girl"? I grew up in the UK and the term used there for Pakistanis and East Indians is "Asian". For Chinese and Japanese, it's "Oriental"




Brown girls are the worst.

[LaserEnvy]

Reminds me of this.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nMXnS5_0kc

Oh, the pain in my ears and the taste of bile in my mouth.

[toopence]

Did you go to his HS dances? Hopefully you didn't send him those naughty pics that he shared with his mates?

When are women going to get it not to do that? Standing in front of the mirror, flashing and taking pics with cellphones


i will go for a guy as young as 18

my last boyfriend was 17, i was 25 then

his parents were pissed off so they made me go to jail several times under made up allegations just to literally keep us apart. i'm bad but they made a worse choice.

[tsxnation]

I tried older recently and wouldn't do it again. The good thing about older girls is that they either want to get married or get laid. Once the former has been eliminated it is effortless.

[tsxnation]

Oh, the pain in my ears and the taste of bile in my mouth.

Lol I guarantee that neither of those two will become a lawyer or a doctor. They would be hardpressed to get an undergraduate education.

[DougO]

Well folks, you never know. For instance:

Lauren Bacall, once listed as one of the most beautiful and talented women in the world married Humphrey Bogart when Bogey was 45 and she was 19. The marriage lasted until the day he died. Lots of storybook marriages where one spouse is much older than another. In other places and other times it was expected that the rich and powerful would marry someone much younger than themselves, so nothing new here...

[LaserEnvy]

I tried older recently and wouldn't do it again. The good thing about older girls is that they either want to get married or get laid. Once the former has been eliminated it is effortless.

Nice. How much older?

[bridezilla88]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

[LaserEnvy]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

Uh oh.

[i6s1]

I'm a 34yo guy, I'd say about 25.


Won't go any older than that.

[i6s1]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

That's awesome.

I managed 3 years difference with my first wife and 6 with my second. If there's a third, I'm going for 12.

[cbr600]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

and what's wrong with dating someone in undergrad? i think your post is just a nice way of saying you want someone "established" aka has money for you to mooch off in terms of house, car gifts etc.

[raptorfan]

depends on the people in the relationship...

i'm 45, he's 30. And of course everyone's first thought is either he's using me for money or i'm using him for sex. Once people meet us and get to know us, they see that it isn't the case at all. But perceptions are hard to change and quite frankly i don't try to nor do i care about what others think anymore. To each his own as long as it harms no one and hey we're happy.

[setell]

That's awesome.

I managed 3 years difference with my first wife and 6 with my second. If there's a third, I'm going for 12.

34 and you've went through two marriages already! :-0

[iEyeCaptain]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

Usually I'd give you benefit of the doubt, but the "reason" you stated just confirms you are attracted to their money (job + house comes from money). And you are not willing to "tough it out" with a guy your age "still doing their undergrad".

I have not met you or know you, but from that post itself, people can tell you are going for the money.

[ever1221]

Usually I'd give you benefit of the doubt, but the "reason" you stated just confirms you are attracted to their money (job + house comes from money). And you are not willing to "tough it out" with a guy your age "still doing their undergrad".

I have not met you or know you, but from that post itself, people can tell you are going for the money.
this.

[whampoa]

I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.


Uh oh.


and what's wrong with dating someone in undergrad? i think your post is just a nice way of saying you want someone "established" aka has money for you to mooch off in terms of house, car gifts etc.

Well at least she's honest about it. And not dance around the issue like some.

[LaserEnvy]

Well at least she's honest about it. And not dance around the issue like some.

True, but unless she's already established herself, it seems shallow and hypocritical.

[bridezilla88]

Okay I knew I would be attacked for saying that I would rather date someone who has a job. Does that make me a gold digger? It's funny how everyone jumps to that assumption. I'm working as well, and most people assume I'm dating him for the money and that's not true. Most women want security and I'm sorry but I'm not going to "tough" it out with someone who is around same age as me. Men in their twenties, especially under 25, can be immature, not know what they want in life and have difficulty committing..this may not be true for all guys, but in my experience it is pretty common. Older men, however, have the guts to approach women and are committed.

[LaserEnvy]

Okay I knew I would be attacked for saying that I would rather date someone who has a job. Does that make me a gold digger? It's funny how everyone jumps to that assumption. I'm working as well, and most people assume I'm dating him for the money and that's not true. Most women want security and I'm sorry but I'm not going to "tough" it out with someone who is around same age as me. Men in their twenties, especially under 25, can be immature, not know what they want in life and have difficulty committing..this may not be true for all guys, but in my experience it is pretty common. Older men, however, have the guts to approach women and are committed.

I didn't say you are gold digger. I said your approach to dating is hypocritical. It is typical princess syndrome. A lot of guys your age are mature, graduated, and working but it seems you would rather have the guy who has been working longer and as a result, has more. What do you bring to the table if you date a guy who is older and established and thereby bypassing the stage in your life where you have to "tough it out?" Perhaps you could become established yourself. This is 2012 after all.

[cbr600]

Okay I knew I would be attacked for saying that I would rather date someone who has a job. Does that make me a gold digger? It's funny how everyone jumps to that assumption. I'm working as well, and most people assume I'm dating him for the money and that's not true. Most women want security and I'm sorry but I'm not going to "tough" it out with someone who is around same age as me. Men in their twenties, especially under 25, can be immature, not know what they want in life and have difficulty committing..this may not be true for all guys, but in my experience it is pretty common. Older men, however, have the guts to approach women and are committed.

so you don't want to "tough it out" meaning you don't care if someone in their undergrad is working their ***** off and has a great future, but as long as he doesn't have money at that moment to convenience you, he's no good.

what you are doing is just looking for the easiest way to live comfortably with minimal effort. Anyways, to me relationship sounds more like a business proposition in your case than something sincere.

[LostInTruth]

Okay I knew I would be attacked for saying that I would rather date someone who has a job. Does that make me a gold digger? It's funny how everyone jumps to that assumption. I'm working as well, and most people assume I'm dating him for the money and that's not true. Most women want security and I'm sorry but I'm not going to "tough" it out with someone who is around same age as me. Men in their twenties, especially under 25, can be immature, not know what they want in life and have difficulty committing..this may not be true for all guys, but in my experience it is pretty common. Older men, however, have the guts to approach women and are committed.

She take my money, when I'm in neeeeed!!!!

[newt_101]

As a man I'd date a girl 1-2 years older and up to 6-7 years younger than me.

For women out there if you are 30 and marry a 50 year old, he will statically be dead in around another 20 years.

Do you want to be alone for the rest of your life as a senior citizen?
Are you going to re-marry then?
Will your kids/family/friends be enough for you at that age?

Lots of questions to ponder.

[bridezilla88]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

[LostInTruth]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

Do you! Just don't complain when/if you get burned! :D

[Aznsilvrboy]

+-3 max, but prefer same age.

[cbr600]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money.

ask yourself this. would you still date him if he lost it all and have no money?

FYI your're fooling no one with your self denial :lol:

[iEyeCaptain]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

If he's an alpha male with no money, I bet you won't be "a running". Understand?

You remind me of Snooki. Who said she only wants a "successful businessman". All that means is "rich".

[LaserEnvy]

If he's an alpha male with no money, I bet you won't be "a running". Understand?

You remind me of Snooki. Who said she only wants a "successful businessman". All that means is "rich".

I think she's looking for reasons to give to herself. First it was established, then mature, then willing to commit, now it's alpha male.

[spike1128]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

Um.. But Diggler said the girl all are winners themselves. Only feminists can actually make it up to the top, thinking they are equal to alpha males. It so happen she will actually be the one who wants to be alpha. Unless we are talking about those shows were powerful men/women are so controlling at work, they have a fetish of wanting to be dominated.

It's always about the money. You only say things like "money doesn't matter", if you got handouts from people. I say money doesn't matter if I found a suitcase of 1000s today worth of upward of 1 million +

[iEyeCaptain]

I think she's looking for reasons to give to herself. First it was established, then mature, then willing to commit, now it's alpha male.

Yeah.

All to avoid the real motivating reason.

I'm glad everybody else sees right through her comments.

[toopence]

Are you an Apha female? Men like that too, women that have a world knowledge and can discuss any topic. Just slapping on make-up and having stuff hanging out is not attractive, and most guys wouldn't want their future partners dressing like that.

In otherwords, the slutty look is not cool contrary to popular belief


Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

[spike1128]

If he's an alpha male with no money, I bet you won't be "a running". Understand?

You remind me of Snooki. Who said she only wants a "successful businessman". All that means is "rich".

Snooki wants a rich/successful businessan, but she is not exclusive enough to be able to find one. :D

[Piro21]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

But that's relative. Any 35-year-old who considers himself the 'alpha male' compared to a 23-year-old just out of school is probably failing compared to other 35-year-olds.

[bridezilla88]

I'm now a gold digger,slutty and in denial. LOL please do continue to make assumptions of me ..whatever I say will be no use anyway :-)

[toopence]

So you are used to having things done for you i.e. mom did laundry, cleaned your room, drove you places and gave you money? So you are expecting this guy to be a like a daddy to you?

Ever heard of Independednt women' like the Destiny's child song? What happens when he is 50 and you are 38, and still want to hit the clubs/bar?


I always lurk and decided to get an account and post to respond..im 23 by fiance is 35..Most of my friends think he is too old for me ..but i don't see the issue..most of their parents have 10-12 year gaps..including mine. Is it really such a big deal? The reason im attracted to older men is because their already established..ie. have a job,house..etc. Most guys my age..are still doing their undergrad..sigh.

[bridezilla88]

So you are used to having things done for you i.e. mom did laundry, cleaned your room, drove you places and gave you money? So you are expecting this guy to be a like a daddy to you?

Ever heard of Independednt women' like the Destiny's child song? What happens when he is 50 and you are 38, and still want to hit the clubs/bar?
Haha I wish I have no parents , I was on my own since I was legal enough to be. If your saying I'm spoiled I'm far from it. The funny thing is I do more in this relationship than most women. But that doesn't matter . I'm just a gold digger to you.

[setell]

Can we stop focusing on just the money argument? It wasn't about the money. Women are attracted to the alpha male. You present yourself as the alpha male, and the women came a running. Understand? Women love winners. And if I hit a nerve with some of the male posters here well maybe because you are losers. :-)

Please don’t paint all women with the same paint brush. I happen to not believe into the hyped alpha/beta male definitions because personalities vary. In some situations you can be beta but in others totally alpha. Attraction to the other individual is very hard to explain and to put into such a blanket statement.

I will NOT be running to a man cause he’s alpha. Illogical belief to me to think all women are like that.

I will not comment on your desire to date a well-established man. Just be careful he’s not after a trophy wife syndrome. Looks fade and you better be able to entertain him in 10+ years down the road cause men can do upgrades a lot easier than women can. Good luck.


But that's relative. Any 35-year-old who considers himself the 'alpha male' compared to a 23-year-old just out of school is probably failing compared to other 35-year-olds.

LOL I was just thinking that.

[spike1128]

We won't say bridezilla here as a gold digger. But her argument definitely are full of contradictions.

She say age doesn't matter, as long as the guy can take care of her. Then she say she has a job, and then wanting to not seem to be freeloading. Then she keep saying she is far from spoiled and moved out on her own.

It's not hard to admit that she has a hard life standing on her two feet, so she wants a sugar daddy. But she just won't admit it and keep on defending herself while contradicting herself.

[Hairball]

I will not comment on your desire to date a well-established man. Just be careful he’s not after a trophy wife syndrome. Looks fade and you better be able to entertain him in 10+ years down the road cause men can do upgrades a lot easier than women can. Good luck.

Other things being equal (though obviously nothing is ever totally equal in a relationship context), wouldn't a more "well-established" man still be preferable? Who's kidding who?

What kind of "upgrades" for a man are you referring to?

[setell]

Other things being equal (though obviously nothing is ever totally equal in a relationship context), wouldn't a more "well-established" man still be preferable? Who's kidding who?

What kind of "upgrades" for a man are you referring to?

Of course it’s desirable. It’s years of women marrying men for their financial stability. You cannot change that mentality just because women are earning a good income in the last 50 years . If you have two guys exactly the same in everything from personality, looks, intelligence and age then guess who wins? The guy that is more established aka his net worth will make him the winner. Reverse that question and I bet no guy will go for the girl that is less established. Everybody wants a partner that is more established if the other candidate is the exact replica.

I would hope you know what upgrades a lot of men do. Younger models are always “in”.

[Hairball]

Of course it’s desirable. It’s years of women marrying men for their financial stability. You cannot change that mentality just because women are earning a good income in the last 50 years . If you have two guys exactly the same in everything from personality, looks, intelligence and age then guess who wins? The guy that is more established aka his net worth will make him the winner. Reverse that question and I bet no guy will go for the girl that is less established. Everybody wants a partner that is more established if the other candidate is the exact replica.

I would hope you know what upgrades a lot of men do. Younger models are always “in”.

It would be preferable is the other party is rich, but for guys probably looks and personality far outweigh the other factors.

Upgrades like what, getting ripped?

[raptorfan]

i believe Setell means that the men "upgrade" their gf/wives when they become old and less good looking to younger/prettier ones. Trophy wives.
Whereas when a woman gets older it's more difficult for her to do the same.

[cbr600]

folks, im sure bridezillas bf knows she's with him for being "established". i just hope years down the road he doesnt trade her up for a girl that's less "advanced"

[toopence]

If you were a rich successful man, would you want to touch that (Snooki)? Just think of all the stuff you can contract from that

Additionally, do you think she has half a brain and can hold an intelligent conversation in the midst of an educated bunch or even in a pub quiz? Some women don't get this, yes guys want the booty, but after a while it becomes redundant and you want something more to keep the relationship going. i.e joint hobbies, challenges etc

The teenage / early 20s generation now are going to suffer in the future because they think it's all about flashing your you know what and wearing less clothing that is the be all and end all, they just haven't got a clue and expect everything to be done for them


Snooki wants a rich/successful businessan, but she is not exclusive enough to be able to find one. :D

[Aznsilvrboy]

But that's relative. Any 35-year-old who considers himself the 'alpha male' compared to a 23-year-old just out of school is probably failing compared to other 35-year-olds.

I lol'ed, good one.