do you allow your little kid family members to witness physical violence at home?

[aquacrayon]

Like say a cat fight between two of their aunts?

[diggler649]

You mean like this?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyshsGOnFHg

[flashy_mcflash]

What in the christ? Are people physically fighting in your home on a regular basis? If so, I think the bigger question is why you are raising children in a trailer.

[sylpherware]

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/photopost/data/825/1pattySelma.jpg

Yes, and bring popcorn.

[UrbanPoet]

No. Children should not be exposed to or raised in an environment where domestic violence is a regular occurance.
Even parents yelling at each other and verbally fighting can traumatize a child... physical violence will only make it worst.

[webdoctors]

I was trying to find the button that said report post to Child Protection Services (CPS).

All I found was report to mod. Can someone help me?

[mbg]

I was trying to find the button that said report post to Child Protection Services (CPS).

All I found was report to mod. Can someone help me?

you supposed to look up CPS in the Yellow Pages

[stuntman]

Like say a cat fight between two of their aunts?

Why are you asking?

[aquacrayon]

What about an argument? Is it a good idea to isolate them in a quiet room?

Just trying to get an opinion.

Aunt 1 likes to beat the crap out of aunt 2 at my cousins' watch. They're 3 and 1. The 3 y/o is even free to help her mom gang up on aunt 2. Aunt 1 encourages her kid to go on.

[CSK'sMom]

What about an argument? Is it a good idea to isolate them in a quiet room?

Just trying to get an opinion.

Aunt 1 likes to beat the crap out of aunt 2 at my cousins' watch. They're 3 and 1. The 3 y/o is even free to help her mom gang up on aunt 2. Aunt 1 encourages her kid to go on.

And that is grounds for Aunt 1 to loose the kids and for them to be placed in fostercare. :mad: Obvious not everyone is cut out to be parent by stories like this...:o

[aquacrayon]

Aunt 2 is believed to be the trouble maker and it's Aunt 1's house. Aunt 1 tries to impose authority by violence. Aunt 2 always tries to escape, doesn't fight back, etc. Aunt 1 is well-liked though and Aunt 2 has no friends.

[deltone]

You need to report these aunts, family or no family. I have a bunch of cousins (all grown) who are totally messed up because they grew up in homes where violence and angry fighting was a regular occurence. This sort of stuff messes up the heads of kids and you have a moral (and perhaps legal) obligation to report these nutjobs. GOOD LUCK

[CSK'sMom]

Aunt 2 is believed to be the trouble maker and it's Aunt 1's house. Aunt 1 tries to impose authority by violence. Aunt 2 always tries to escape, doesn't fight back, etc. Aunt 1 is well-liked though and Aunt 2 has no friends.

And any of this matters how? What you are describing is physical abuse... period! It's not acceptable, period, by anyone or to anyone. It's also criminal behavior and grounds to have those poor kids removed from the home. No child deserves to live in a violent and abusive home. BTW, ever think that if she has no problems abusing another adult she is also abusing the children? You need to call Children's Aid and call the police on her the next time she abuses the other aunt.

There are never any acceptable excuses for any kind of abuse, whether it be mental, verbal or physical... EVER!

[stuntman]

Aunt 2 is believed to be the trouble maker and it's Aunt 1's house. Aunt 1 tries to impose authority by violence. Aunt 2 always tries to escape, doesn't fight back, etc. Aunt 1 is well-liked though and Aunt 2 has no friends.

call children services.....if you wait then there is more harm to the kid and if you have a conscience more harm to your conscience.

[rommelrommel]

If you're honestly asking this question you probably shouldn't be around children either.

[aquacrayon]

Aunt 1 thinks she's right and if somebody thinks otherwise, they better leave. How is this even to be reported, Aunt 2 is suffering from depression and anxiety? Cops always think Aunt 2 is the bigger threat.

[starboy869]

Btw I forawded this link to the proper authorities and sent cut and paste screen shots so don't bother in editting your posts. By even asking this and allowing it go on your guilty yourself.

You must be a few bricks shy of a full load to even think this is ok.

[mbg]

If you're honestly asking this question you probably shouldn't be around children either.

he shouldn't be allowed near children or animals.

[Ojam]

Who joins a deal forum and then asks this sort of question? OP is a few cards short of a full deck. Probably witnessed this behaviour as a child too.

[epik89]

no exposure to violence as a kid = grows up to be a softie.

[aplayaz2000]

fighting is barbaric
you should be able to handle problems through dialog

people should insist on physical violence should be executed via GUN SQUAD

[aquacrayon]

Btw I forawded this link to the proper authorities and sent cut and paste screen shots so don't bother in editting your posts. By even asking this and allowing it go on your guilty yourself.

You must be a few bricks shy of a full load to even think this is ok.

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.

[Kaz]

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.

So you're saying that Aunt #1, who is physically and verbally abusive to Aunt #2, and encourages her child to physically assault Aunt #2 is considered the lesser evil?
What is Aunt #2, a killer?

You need to step up and help resolve this with the proper authorities before the kids get messed up any further.

[mbg]

fighting is barbaric
you should be able to handle problems through dialog

people should insist on physical violence should be executed via GUN SQUAD

+1

Kill people with economics rather than weapons.

That's the new way.

[dealseeker2011]

Definitely not! As much as possible I won't allow my kids to witness physical violence at home. This will be a traumatic experience for them.

[1dvdswapper]

My wife and I never argue in front of the our kids. We don't physically beat the crap out of each other so our kids are pretty sheltered. We also don't allow our kids to watch movies/programs that have domestic violence in them.

[Ojam]

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.

I don't care what country you are from, your family is a pack of savages if they think this is normal and ok. Is there also an alpha male who is the only one permitted to breed with the females?

[Nook]

I believe in learning through experience so I assure they take part in it.

J/k j/k..:o

[Nook]

fighting is barbaric
you should be able to handle problems through dialog

people should insist on physical violence should be executed via GUN SQUAD
Notsureifserious.


My wife and I never argue in front of the our kids. We don't physically beat the crap out of each other so our kids are pretty sheltered. We also don't allow our kids to watch movies/programs that have domestic violence in them.

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQFYstWT1jEhD-2MMnfWrk7XJuB1w2fU6YSoWd6mM8r125G5oTE2W3VEx-VzA

[stuntman]

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.

I don't think you want an answer or to reach a decision. You just want to keep the thread going.
It sounds like you all need counseling or a head shrink.

[stuntman]

and going and going

[deltone]

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.

Well, "unspoken rules" or not, while I understand it's not easy to rat out family and friends, when it's something that can harm kids, all bets are off. Where are you willing to draw the line? So if you walk into their home and one of the children is being sexually abused or beaten, would you keep the code of silence because of this "unspoken rule"? Also, it doesn't matter what country you are from as your family chose Canada as their new home and therefore it would be prudent to realease some of the more archaic behaviours and adopt those of your adopted country, CANADA.

[Simaahoy]

It's not that easy. We're family. One of the unspoken rules is whatever takes place inside the house will stay inside the house and any issues have to be resolved between each other. Calling the cops or even telling other people what's going on is betrayal.

Am I allowed to say our country of origin? Back home, this is completely acceptable behavior and most will agree Aunt 1 is the lesser evil.


Then why post on an online forum if you abide by this bs 'unspoken rules'?

[ishfish]

I don't think you want an answer or to reach a decision. You just want to keep the thread going.
It sounds like you all need counseling or a head shrink.

The difficulty with these threads is the questions of fact vs fiction in regards to stated true life stories. Certainly Simaahoys remark has entered most readers minds. It does not compute well.

Even a reply of "Yes I do" would be suspicious.

Having said that sometimes fictional threads can be the start of good interactions. Maybe the question is "At what point an how would you step in in this senerio?"