Sometimes talkative, sometimes not?

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Is anyone else talkative in certain situations but struggle to contribute in others?

I am having this problem in certain situations and keep thinking to myself, "oh why can't I just act in a way like that other situation where I am talkative and have a lot to contribute", but it never works and I struggle to contribute/talk in different environments. I know I have the potential because I've done it before, but I don't know what is going on...

[Hairball]

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I'm probably one of the anti-social types, I'm probably more comfortable with not talking at all, but just try to relax yourself in social situations, don't feel like you're gonna embarrass yourself, let yourself go. Don't overworry about how people think.

If it worked before, what changed now? The girl isn't interested anymore?

[uber_shnitz]

I just shot random stuff into the conversation if I have nothing constructive to contribute... (assuming a casual convo)

"So yeah about that potato season..."
"So anyone seen the new Tupac movie?"
"Is that diamond or am I just goldigging again?"

[dragon_drift]

If I'm tired/lazy, I tend to talk less.

[iEyeCaptain]

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Ok, here we go:

Go read a newspaper. Immerse yourself in as many different things as possible. Be ready to talk about anything and everything people bring up in conversations. Travel, sports, fashion, work, celebrities, politics, religion, adult content, news etc.

Just because you aren't interested in it, doesn't mean others are not. You still gotta be ready in case others bring it up.

[Deals Deals Deals]

Ooooh a Deals^3 thread!

I'm probably one of the anti-social types, I'm probably more comfortable with not talking at all, but just try to relax yourself in social situations, don't feel like you're gonna embarrass yourself, let yourself go. Don't overworry about how people think.

If it worked before, what changed now? The girl isn't interested anymore?

Thanks, you always give good and positive advice.

[Wilmega]

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Ok, here we go:

Go read a newspaper. Immerse yourself in as many different things as possible. Be ready to talk about anything and everything people bring up in conversations. Travel, sports, fashion, work, celebrities, politics, religion, adult content, news etc.

Just because you aren't interested in it, doesn't mean others are not. You still gotta be ready in case others bring it up.

I got that covered, but people usually don't respond to what I have to say :confused:

[uber_shnitz]

I got that covered, but people usually don't respond to what I have to say :confused:

Part of being a good conversationalist is being able to "gauge" your crowd and adapt to it. If you realize certain topics are too "intellectual" for the people you're with, you either try to bring it home to them somehow or you change topics. If you're not comfortable initiating conversation, you can just listen to what kind of stuff they talk about, and adjust to that.

I know some people who are just great and can generally talk/click with just about everyone. The key is really both what you say and how you say it. You have to be approachable when speaking; you should invite people to respond to you both in your tone and body language. A good conversationalist will not only talk, but make you talk as well. I've seen people manage to get people who don't liek talking into full blown conversations.

Conversation is a skill and an art. It's easy to be able to talk with a select group of people who're familiar to you, it's another game entirely to be able to converse with every day folk.

[Wilmega]

Part of being a good conversationalist is being able to "gauge" your crowd and adapt to it. If you realize certain topics are too "intellectual" for the people you're with, you either try to bring it home to them somehow or you change topics. If you're not comfortable initiating conversation, you can just listen to what kind of stuff they talk about, and adjust to that.

I know some people who are just great and can generally talk/click with just about everyone. The key is really both what you say and how you say it. You have to be approachable when speaking; you should invite people to respond to you both in your tone and body language. A good conversationalist will not only talk, but make you talk as well. I've seen people manage to get people who don't liek talking into full blown conversations.

Conversation is a skill and an art. It's easy to be able to talk with a select group of people who're familiar to you, it's another game entirely to be able to converse with every day folk.

Yea I was kind of joking llol - I was referring to "Adult Content" ;)

[mockingjay404]

it's easy to talk to people. just say something about the weather. people love talking about the weather.

[ishfish]

Yea I was kind of joking llol - I was referring to "Adult Content" ;)

The advice is still applicable, perhaps even more so.

[uber_shnitz]

Yea I was kind of joking llol - I was referring to "Adult Content" ;)

Advice is still applicable as the above poster said :lol:

One girl I know is really prude, yet she can talk about really vulgar stuff with other guys (I remember her guy friends would often ask her really awkward questions to put her on the spot and she'd answer them casually such as "is your boyfriend circumsized?").

The topic isn't the issue sometimes, it's how you bring it about. You can talk about sex without having to appear crude and slutty, just as you can talk about something like math yet sound like an idiot.