Has anybody slept with their best friend?

[007craft]

I'm wondering how that turned out? In the movies it always seems to end in some sort of disaster or relationship. Cant this just happen and mean nothing more?

I just went out drinking with my hot (no pics) best friend of 4 years who recently became single and she started making out with me (she initiated it). Effectively breaking the elusive friend zone lol. She actually ended up hooking up with a mutual friend of ours. It was pretty shocking (both accounts) but after talking with her the next day, seems like she just wants to enjoy being single.

So anybody done this and had everything work out ok? I don't want to have a relationship with her (and im 100% certain she doesnt want one with me, at least for the next 10 years if she cant do better lol). Of course her being my best friend, I want it to remain that way. And by best friend I mean one of those people whos always got your back, and talks about absolutely anything with, etc etc.

[Dr. Octagonecologyst]

Bang her now, ask questions later.

[diggler649]

Does just the tip count? If so, yes. If not, no.

[uber_shnitz]

My best friend became my gf does that count? :lol:

That being said, I know people who've done this and it depends on the 2 people. I think the people for which it works out are the people who are generally ok with friends with benefits (and other variations of the concept).

For some people sex can be separated from emotions, for others it can't so really it boils down to that.

[yao416]

None of us have hot friends

[nauru]

Pics or she's a heffer.

[tsxnation]

Some friendships can handle it, but more often than not, one of you will start to have feelings for the other and if the arrangement doesn't progress to a relationship, there can be trouble and the friendship may dissolve.

[spike1128]

Some friendships can handle it, but more often than not, one of you will start to have feelings for the other and if the arrangement doesn't progress to a relationship, there can be trouble and the friendship may dissolve.

Exactly what I was going to say. If he has a hot friend who is of 4 years, there is 4 outcomes.

1) OP sleeps with friend, become her bf, then marry this friend
2) OP sleeps with friend, no longer friend zoned, so no longer friend later
3) OP don't sleep with friend, stay as friend
4) OP don't sleep with friend, no longer friends because of drifting away (this option is very unlikely, unless they are unfriendly people)

Personally, I wouldn't sleep with a friend who has been friend zoned or have friend zoned you (whether she broke friend zone or not).

[Simaahoy]

Yes.

[Hairball]

If you're both available, minus whale go for it. What's there to lose? Life is too short to worry about these things. :D

[diggler649]

Yes.

I thought you were a virgin?

[djemzine]

Well this question doesn't apply if one's best friend is of the same sex. However, my best friend back in my 2nd year of university, she wouldn't mind the whole fwb thing.

[Ghiness]

Brah you can't mention hot and not post pics...

[steve-0101]

I did once, and now he doesn't call me anymore.

[XtremeModder]

Slept with one of my best friends twice, her and I were trashed and I though (when she asked) why not.

Her and I don't do anything like that now cause I'm in a relationship however if I became single today, all I would need to do is pick up the phone and call her.

That said, it works for some (like i said I'm still very good friends with her after 8 years, and shell still make comments about how we should mess around again if and when I'm single (doesn't come up that often)) but the reality of it is, I'm lucky i still have that girl as a friend as it doesn't happen to many people. Especially after one finds a boyfriend or girlfriend.

[Ziggy007]

I'm wondering how that turned out? In the movies it always seems to end in some sort of disaster or relationship. Cant this just happen and mean nothing more?

I just went out drinking with my hot (no pics) best friend of 4 years who recently became single and she started making out with me (she initiated it). Effectively breaking the elusive friend zone lol. She actually ended up hooking up with a mutual friend of ours. It was pretty shocking (both accounts) but after talking with her the next day, seems like she just wants to enjoy being single.

So anybody done this and had everything work out ok? I don't want to have a relationship with her (and im 100% certain she doesnt want one with me, at least for the next 10 years if she cant do better lol). Of course her being my best friend, I want it to remain that way. And by best friend I mean one of those people whos always got your back, and talks about absolutely anything with, etc etc.

Either you prefer the company of other men, or you want to stay friend zoned forever?

You are a dude act like you, you can do a chick, enjoy it and have no awkwardness. Girl makes out with you once and you are talking about how you don't want a relationship with her? What is this your first time kissing a girl,? Get over yourself, get it done, and stop complaining.

[AudiDude]

So she's already hooked up with one guy and then you're next in line? And the other person was your friend? Nope, avoid that crap it will break all three of you up when she sleeps with someone else and you all start fighting.

I thought I could be friends and get some benefits once. We talked about it and high fived the idea. Instead of getting friend in need of advice calls, they turned into wanting, needy blubbering girlfriend/wife calls and became way more frequent. Like the song from A Flock of Seagulls, "I ran, I ran so far awaaayyy"...

[pupazzo]

There was this one time when me and my cumpare...

[Rocketo]

Slept with one of my best friends twice, her and I were trashed and I though (when she asked) why not.

Her and I don't do anything like that now cause I'm in a relationship however if I became single today, all I would need to do is pick up the phone and call her.

That said, it works for some (like i said I'm still very good friends with her after 8 years, and shell still make comments about how we should mess around again if and when I'm single (doesn't come up that often)) but the reality of it is, I'm lucky i still have that girl as a friend as it doesn't happen to many people. Especially after one finds a boyfriend or girlfriend.

you mean she's your lobster


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iU39sqEQOms

[iEyeCaptain]

There was this one time when me and my cumpare...

... more details please.

OP: no.

[Hairball]

By "sleeping" does it mean just literally sleeping with someone, or including certain extracurricular activities?

[danfromwaterloo]

When two friends get together, it either goes the distance or it breaks apart the friendship.

The foundation of a solid relationship is friendship. Since you two are already friends, if there's a mutual attraction there, it's a perfect setting for building something long-term. The problem is, I've never heard of a mutually FWB situation. One side always wants to date the other. So, if you start banging your friend, either she'll want a relationship with you, or you with her, and if you're not on the same page, it will ruin your friendship.

Is one night worth a friendship? Or, in other words, is she so hot that you'd be willing to lose her as a friend to bang the hell out of her?

[Supercooled]

Men and women cannot be just friends. its universally impossible which is why science says opposite attracts. Are you going to refute science?

[Hairball]

Men and women cannot be just friends. its universally impossible which is why science says opposite attracts. Are you going to refute science?

If that is always true, why are people gay? That isn't opposite.

Fail logic.

[iEyeCaptain]

Men and women cannot be just friends. its universally impossible which is why science says opposite attracts. Are you going to refute science?

I disagree.

I have quite a few female cumpares.

I am not interested in sleeping with any of them.

[Supercooled]

If that is always true, why are people gay? That isn't opposite.

Fail logic.
I am not going to bash someone for their lifestyle choice ;)

[Supercooled]

I disagree.

I have quite a few female cumpares.

I am not interested in sleeping with any of them.
I am not interested in eating liver and lima beans but i won't refuse if that's all there is to eat. kwis ?

[BluePhirePB]

Ok, I think I missed the memo but where does the term "cumpares" come from and what does it mean? I got LG and cars being destroyed but this one flew over my head.

[Hairball]

Ok, I think I missed the memo but where does the term "cumpares" come from and what does it mean? I got LG and cars being destroyed but this one flew over my head.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cumpare

[yao416]

By "sleeping" does it mean just literally sleeping with someone, or including certain extracurricular activities?

from my understanding, "sleeping" is when someone just sleeps on the bed with different pillow and blanket from your partner

[Hairball]

from my understanding, "sleeping" is when someone just sleeps on the bed with different pillow and blanket from your partner

Thanks for the reply.

But don't most couples that sleep together usually use only one blanket?

[yao416]

Thanks for the reply.

But don't most couples that sleep together usually use only one blanket?

Different people sleeps different ways

[iEyeCaptain]

Different people sleeps different ways

slightly off-topic: I know some couples who sleep in separate rooms due to snoring from one.

[ji2o0k]

who can sleep with all that sex going on?

[Hairball]

who can sleep with all that sex going on?

It can get tiring?

[Drew87]

I'm wondering how that turned out? In the movies it always seems to end in some sort of disaster or relationship. Cant this just happen and mean nothing more?

I just went out drinking with my hot (no pics) best friend of 4 years who recently became single and she started making out with me (she initiated it). Effectively breaking the elusive friend zone lol. She actually ended up hooking up with a mutual friend of ours. It was pretty shocking (both accounts) but after talking with her the next day, seems like she just wants to enjoy being single.

So anybody done this and had everything work out ok? I don't want to have a relationship with her (and im 100% certain she doesnt want one with me, at least for the next 10 years if she cant do better lol). Of course her being my best friend, I want it to remain that way. And by best friend I mean one of those people whos always got your back, and talks about absolutely anything with, etc etc.

Growing up when of my best friends was a girl - we were close and talked about everything - in high school I had a gf and dated her for two years - around 6 months after that relationship ended I ended up dating/sleeping with my best friend.....We dated for 4 years before we broke up......Split was amicable......We still talk to this day but obviously it's not the same....

[jayisthebest88]

if you're both guys, it mean u r gay

[sylpherware]

who can sleep with all that sex going on?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vc8tPTVBRSc&list=FLlBH91coQYNPLi052ff0txA&index=42&feature=plpp_video

[sandikosh]

I have done it with two friends that are very close to me and whom I have known almost my entire life. I trust them, have faith in them and I know when I need some comfort, they will drop everything and give me a hand. They are Palm and Palmela.

[d182]

Yes and then she broke it off by ceasing all contact. I was only disappointed cuz we had a good thing going --> FwB ftw :cheesygri

[aTriangle]

My best friend is my girlfriend. Does that count?

[007craft]

from my understanding, "sleeping" is when someone just sleeps on the bed with different pillow and blanket from your partner

Actually like a year ago, we both got really drunk and made out at the pub, then headed to her place where we both slept (no sex) cuddled up with our tops off. She had a boyfriend of 4 months at the time. Probably what stopped us from doing it (shes very loyal). Ive also seen her naked like 100 times in various situations. We have an unconventional friendship lol... but we get along great. I don't think we've ever fought.

[akuma2]

When two friends get together, it either goes the distance or it breaks apart the friendship.

The foundation of a solid relationship is friendship. Since you two are already friends, if there's a mutual attraction there, it's a perfect setting for building something long-term. The problem is, I've never heard of a mutually FWB situation. One side always wants to date the other. So, if you start banging your friend, either she'll want a relationship with you, or you with her, and if you're not on the same page, it will ruin your friendship.

Is one night worth a friendship? Or, in other words, is she so hot that you'd be willing to lose her as a friend to bang the hell out of her?

^^This

What always ends up happening is one person wants more than just a physical thing. The relationship can't handle the stress. Ultimately the friendship goes down the toilet and 2 years later you'll be lucky if you're still talking. It will probably be the best sex you'll ever have (especially if she's hot), but most likely the relationship will crash and burn quickly.

[Nook]

Actually like a year ago, we both got really drunk and made out at the pub, then headed to her place where we both slept (no sex) cuddled up with our tops off. She had a boyfriend of 4 months at the time. Probably what stopped us from doing it (shes very loyal). Ive also seen her naked like 100 times in various situations. We have an unconventional friendship lol... but we get along great. I don't think we've ever fought.

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[mbg]

Does just the tip count? If so, yes. If not, no.

+1

Just the tip is OK.

[setell]

No, and never will. My best friend is like a brother to me. Plenty of other people you can screw, why you would want your best friend confuses me as I value my friendship more than hot sex temporarily.

[Phoenix3434]

No, and never will. My best friend is like a brother to me. Plenty of other people you can screw, why you would want your best friend confuses me as I value my friendship more than hot sex temporarily.

Have you asked me what his thoughts are on the matter? He might disagree with you.

And you are a girl right?

[Phoenix3434]

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Hahahahahahhahaha.. Nook=1, 007craft=0.

[setell]

Have you asked me what his thoughts are on the matter? He might disagree with you.

And you are a chick right?

Yup! I've asked as I was in an awkward situation and had to make it CLEAR to him I will not bang him in this lifetime ever. I'm a sister to him since we've known each other since we were toddlers. He thought it was disgusting and that I shouldn't have to clear things up with him :lol: What can I say, I can be very blunt! LOL

[at1212b]

We've been in the washroom many times together in public venues.. and nope, not even close.

[Hairball]

My best friend is my girlfriend. Does that count?

If you break up, will she still be your best friend?

If yes, then it counts, otherwise no.

[uber_shnitz]

What I'm confused about it is this...

The whole point we're talking about is sex without feelings right? If that's your aim, why pick the one person you might have strong [non-affectionate] feelings for. Isn't that a semi-contradiction? If you want meaningless sex, wouldn't it be better to seek it either from a stranger (one night stand) or an acquantaince you barely know.

[Nook]

What I'm confused about it is this...

The whole point we're talking about is sex without feelings right? If that's your aim, why pick the one person you might have strong [non-affectionate] feelings for. Isn't that a semi-contradiction? If you want meaningless sex, wouldn't it be better to seek it either from a stranger (one night stand) or an acquantaince you barely know.

No. The point is to find out whether two attractive people of different genders (bar the gay side of things) can be "just friends."

[uber_shnitz]

No. The point is to find out whether two attractive people of different genders (bar the gay side of things) can be "just friends."
Not really, "just friends" doesn't need to include sex, which is what the OP is asking about. He's specifically asking if you can have a "sex with no strings" relationship with your best friend without it ruining the relationship ebcause of feelings of attachment.

[jaysfan4life]

My best friend wanted to get together so bad.. But I didn't want things to get messed up between us. Things still got messed up due to his crazy wife. Now I'm that I'm older and wiser I'm sleeping with one on my other guy friends and it's awesome.....

[Hairball]

What I'm confused about it is this...

The whole point we're talking about is sex without feelings right? If that's your aim, why pick the one person you might have strong [non-affectionate] feelings for. Isn't that a semi-contradiction? If you want meaningless sex, wouldn't it be better to seek it either from a stranger (one night stand) or an acquantaince you barely know.

It might also be easier to approach a "friend" than to pick up a stranger.

[Nook]

Not really, "just friends" doesn't need to include sex, which is what the OP is asking about. He's specifically asking if you can have a "sex with no strings" relationship with your best friend without it ruining the relationship ebcause of feelings of attachment.

Oh okay. I guess it was just me pondering the other scenario. :confused:

[uber_shnitz]

It might also be easier to approach a "friend" than to pick up a stranger.

Well my point is that if you're looking for no attachments with sex, don't pick the one person you're most likely to get attached to (aka an attractive person you know well and get along well with).

[Kunman]

my best girl friend fell in love with me. Now we don't talk anymore.

I wonder if it will have ended differently if I just slept with her.

[spike1128]

my best girl friend fell in love with me. Now we don't talk anymore.

I wonder if it will have ended differently if I just slept with her.

No man. I think it happened because you possibly closed the door on her by disappearing. Of course you talk no more.

Yes, if you slept with her it would have worked out possibly.

[SoBored]

Yup! I've asked as I was in an awkward situation and had to make it CLEAR to him I will not bang him in this lifetime ever. I'm a sister to him since we've known each other since we were toddlers. He thought it was disgusting and that I shouldn't have to clear things up with him :lol: What can I say, I can be very blunt! LOL


i hope you do realize he just acted disgusted.

maybe not so much for women, but for men, there is no such thing as a friendzone/'sisterly' friendship with women, unless the woman is not very attractive.

if you threw yourself at him you better believe he'd be all over it.


anyways, having a best friend of the opposite sex is stupid IMO. it's like filling the emotional void that should be filled by your GF/BF.

[007craft]

i hope you do realize he just acted disgusted.

maybe not so much for women, but for men, there is no such thing as a friendzone/'sisterly' friendship with women, unless the woman is not very attractive.

if you threw yourself at him you better believe he'd be all over it.


Agreed. Girls are so funny that they think a guy would actually be disgusted about sex with a pretty girl. If he truly was disgusted, you should take that as an insult, because it means youre super ugly.

[Conquistador]

I've been sleeping with my best friend for the last 20 years. What's the big deal?

[uber_shnitz]

Agreed. Girls are so funny that they think a guy would actually be disgusted about sex with a pretty girl. If he truly was disgusted, you should take that as an insult, because it means youre super ugly.

See guys have the friendzone, girls have the f*ckzone. Both are zones they can potentially get stuck in that impedes their need for a relationship :lol:

[tsxnation]

Agreed. Girls are so funny that they think a guy would actually be disgusted about sex with a pretty girl. If he truly was disgusted, you should take that as an insult, because it means youre super ugly.

This.

[virgilaug]

You have the option of no strings attached sex whenever you want. GO FOR IT


JUST REMEMBER. You have to be ok with being friends with benefits. She might go for other guys too, so thats what you gotta watch out for. If your fine with that, then go for it.

[MeiserT]

I've been sleeping with my best friend for the last 20 years. What's the big deal?

Does your S/O know this?? :-0



:lol:

[mbg]

Lots of good advice in here.

[dealseeker2011]

I still believe that friendship is the best foundation of love.