Any guys out there feel that they will never get a girlfriend?

[Deals Deals Deals]

:facepalm: I just don't get it, I have many friends who are guys and girls and I can talk to them well so I don't think I'm socially awkward... but how the f do I get a girlfriend? I'm not even appearing desperate anymore (or at least I'm trying not to) because I don't see the point anymore because I just don't think I'll ever get one.

For me, it always seems like the train stops running as a friend and nothing else happens, I just have no idea how people go from friends to girlfriends...

I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother.

I'm not one of those people who is extremely good looking or tough guy that I can use the "alpha male, I'm gonna be mean to girls" personality as suggested in previous RFD threads by other posters, at the same time, I am also trying to not do everything a girl asks.

Why am I not successful in this area! :facepalm: I mean I'm not depressed or anything over this, I just don't get it! :)

[UrbanPoet]

You gotta be sexy.
But the real sexy, is inside your heart. <3

I don't know how to explain it... But there is a certain way you have to talk to women.

[LaserEnvy]

Woo hoo! The moment we've all been waiting for: another Deals^3 thread! :D

[15-20_God]

do you have middle class parents that can lease you an entry level luxury car?

[hdom]

...I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother....

There it is - your problem, if you don't let them know you are interested and want to be in a relationship, do you assume they just know what you are thinking ??

At the back of their mind, they are probably thinking, does he just want company/hook up later/may be he doesn't like me/etc...

Like you said, if you are super hot/alpha type, chances are the girl will asking where you think this is going. However, for your case, until you tell them what you intention is, she wouldn't never know and then become uninterested.

Trust me, if they have gone out with you a few times already, the odds are already in your favor. So, the next girl you like comes along, suck it up and just tell her. You are not asking her to marry you, the bf/gf is more causual now so don't stress it.

[thestar99]

Give online dating a shot. When you meet the girl try having fun with no expectations. Girls want to be with guys who are fun and interesting.

Hit the gym, dress well most importantly improve your communication and social skills either through volunteering or joining clubs

[UrbanPoet]

Give online dating a shot. When you meet the girl try having fun with no expectations. Girls want to be with guys who are fun and interesting.

Hit the gym, dress well most importantly improve your communication and social skills either through volunteering or joining clubs

I don't think online dating will work for him. Its easier meeting women in real life, it just requires more ballz.
Again theres the investment:reward ratio.

[diggler649]

We need to know several more things before we can help:

1) How old are you?
2) Have you had girlfriends before?
3) What are you doing to get out there to meet new people? MW3 online multiplayer doesn't count as meeting new people.
4) How would you rate your looks? Be honest.
5) Are you confident, or are you one of those skinny Asian kids that would carry a girl's LV purse for her?

[hdom]

^^^His problem isn't meeting girls or asking them out. His problem is the relationship doesn't go anywhere beyond friends, you can say he is friendzoning girls or choice to be in the friendzone himself.

[longitude]

OP,

You're SO is out there, one day you will meet.

Do not lose faith!

[LaserEnvy]

OP,

You're SO is out there, one day you will meet.

Do not lose faith!

How do you know? What if it's not true? Such false hope might lead OP to suicide.

[kenze]

We all have different approaches in regards to obtaining a partner.

First, you gotta ask yourself what you expect from the relationship.. Do you just want a girl to have fun for a short while, Or are you ready for more than that? If you don't know then figure it out.

You can try these 3 steps if you're serious about a girl:

- try to get involved in her life without looking like a stalker. (find common interests or similarities in life experiences between you two and talk about it often! )

-let her know that you feel comfortable talking to her after a while and would like to become her "close" friend (this is just to satisfy a girls concept of "taking it slow" and that "steps" were involved into you becoming a couple. Trust me on this, it's essential)

- Keep repeating step 1 and wait 2-3 weeks more to tell her that you keep thinking about her and that don't want to be just friends anymore.

Bingo. You got yourself a decent gf if this worked.

[LaserEnvy]

^
this is a friendzone recipe.

[epik89]

a girl will know if they want more then friendship with you within the first day.

so if you feel no connection at all after the first day then give up. or if you want continue to be friends with the girl.

[Hairball]

Go matchmaking with your family. Or get a mail order bride.

Dating is a waste of time, minus whale just get directly hitched.

[kenze]

^
this is a friendzone recipe.

I said it was to get a decent girl. Not a gold digger who expects you to buy stuff for her.

Works for me ;)

[ultran00b]

I know that feel bro. :(

[iEyeCaptain]

I know that feel bro. :(

Wow. Just wow.

Shot's on me, mang.

OP: find someone you're happy around and they're happy around you. You'll both know you want to take the next step. If you find yourself never getting into a relationship, it's because either you or her doesn't feel entirely happy around the other.

[d182]

I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother.


If you wanna date, you have to put yourself (and possibly your ego) on the line and risk getting rejected. Don't be afraid of getting rejected - it happens, learn from it and move on to the next one.

Personally, there's been one time I recall explicitly being rejected. I was probably 15 at the time. I learned from it and moved on. Also, don't think of a girl as 'better' than you. Think of them as equals.

[spike1128]

Woo hoo! The moment we've all been waiting for: another Deals^3 thread! :D

I was just going to say something similar to you. You know, the other guys' "I need to find a gf or being friendzoned just doesn't cut it". I forgot who was doing that friendzoned thing. I am sure it wasn't digger though.

To the OP, welcome back my bro deals^3. We miss you on here yo!

Now, I think he is just either getting friendzoned by the girls by default or he is screwing himself by putting himself in the friendzone. No girls like a wimp, so of course if you are not doing any alpha moves, you won't get any. I think deals^3 need to start doing some physical moves. :) ha ha ha.

I wouldn't say I am 100% alpha, but not a problem for me once I find a target through a friend or something.

[spike1128]

Wow. Just wow.

Shot's on me, mang.

OP: find someone you're happy around and they're happy around you. You'll both know you want to take the next step. If you find yourself never getting into a relationship, it's because either you or her doesn't feel entirely happy around the other.

You know ultran00b is pulling deals' legs. We all know ultran00b, vaportech, and the ryo is always pulling something with LGs.

[CanadaGooseForumAdmin]

I know that feel bro. :(

OP should request a username change to "Feels Feels Feels".

http://www.nerddogueto.com.br/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/i-know-that-feel-bro.jpghttp://www.nerddogueto.com.br/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/i-know-that-feel-bro.jpghttp://www.nerddogueto.com.br/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/i-know-that-feel-bro.jpg

[tonychau]

please post a self pic, so we could know what we are dealing with. Sometime persaonal image and persona are very important.

[aTriangle]

Research in neuropsychoeconomics reveal that humans perceive potential failure - in this case, rejection - as being more upsetting than it actually will be. However, I think most people who have felt rejection can tell you it ain't so bad. It sounds like you are afraid of rejection. HTFU.

[4flava]

Stop going after girls that are out of your class. serious talk.

[the_fm]

How do you know? What if it's not true? Such false hope might lead OP to suicide.

lol. reminds me of that simpsons episode where we get to see the female version of moe, http://simpsonswiki.net/wiki/European_female_Moe

who knows, there's probably a female DDD and she might have commit seppuku

[diggler649]

I was just going to say something similar to you. You know, the other guys' "I need to find a gf or being friendzoned just doesn't cut it". I forgot who was doing that friendzoned thing. I am sure it wasn't digger though.

To the OP, welcome back my bro deals^3. We miss you on here yo!

Now, I think he is just either getting friendzoned by the girls by default or he is screwing himself by putting himself in the friendzone. No girls like a wimp, so of course if you are not doing any alpha moves, you won't get any. I think deals^3 need to start doing some physical moves. :) ha ha ha.

I wouldn't say I am 100% alpha, but not a problem for me once I find a target through a friend or something.

Wasn't me. I got FWB zoned, which isn't as bad as friend zoned. But I'm starting to lose interest in anything more than FWB at this point anyways.

[Mars2012]

Do you have a friend or a relative that you totally trust, who can give you a candid opinion about your grooming and personality habits? Perhaps there is something that you can work on. Just go out and meet all sorts of people, don't have one type of person in mind...you'll know when you've found the right person.

[spike1128]

Wasn't me. I got FWB zoned, which isn't as bad as friend zoned. But I'm starting to lose interest in anything more than FWB at this point anyways.

Oh yes, it was Troodon. He was asking about "living at home is being taboo and help for not getting friend zoned". This generation of men sure lost their ballz.

Being rich sure helps with the booty calls if the kids must learn from you. :)

[JK_85]

Oh. this guy again.

Well at least his threads are entertaining

[Purgatory]

Yes, I feel like that. But I don't know, I guess I'm weird. My friends actively try to seek out relationships, but I have always been the complete opposite. I have never been in a relationship and I don't care for one (I am in my early twenties, now.) I guess I'm weird but it doesn't bother me.

[jacksorbetta]

Oh. this guy again.

Well at least his threads are entertaining

I need some laughs. Hope this thread continues lol. Missed ole' TripleD!

[x2007ura]

FWB zoned is awesome. I like that zone.

OP, start learning to get rejected. It doesn't matter. If you live in a tiny little community, branch out. The majority of girls you'd likely want to chase have been hit on for years, they know the game better than you. On so many levels. So just start firing with a sawed off love barrel and see what happens. Don't be texting asking how their day was and weak stuff like that if you have aaaany rapport at all with them.

Step by step (Won't get you many ONS, but you should manage to find some GF-types. Plus you can have more than one :) )

1) Meet girls and get contact info. (The hardest part in all this by far, in the sense that you need to accept that you will be rejected. Maybe very seldomly, maybe 9/10 times. Who cares? No one's counting.)

2) Arrange some type of event. Doesn't necessarily have to be one on one if there not comfortable with you. Show how awesome you are and be highly flirty but not sexually aggressive.

3) Get them one on one. Escalate. If you can get them one on one, it's just a matter of time. 99% of the time this works 100% of the time. Easy mode. If they're not into you it will be extremely obvious.

But ya... if you're a lecherous troll... good luck. This is a funny topic haha.

[LaserEnvy]

Yes, I feel like that. But I don't know, I guess I'm weird. My friends actively try to seek out relationships, but I have always been the complete opposite. I have never been in a relationship and I don't care for one (I am in my early twenties, now.) I guess I'm weird but it doesn't bother me.

You sound like this guy!

http://img253.imageshack.us/img253/2662/20yearoldvirgincopy.jpg

[epik89]

Some people need to realize they don't need to rely on getting a girlfriend to get through life.

There are people out there who have been in relationships there whole life. And once they are single they don't know what the hell to do and feel lonely as hell. But in reality they were already lonely to begin with just with a girlfriend.

[xvizardx]

:facepalm: I just don't get it, I have many friends who are guys and girls and I can talk to them well so I don't think I'm socially awkward... but how the f do I get a girlfriend? I'm not even appearing desperate anymore (or at least I'm trying not to) because I don't see the point anymore because I just don't think I'll ever get one.

For me, it always seems like the train stops running as a friend and nothing else happens, I just have no idea how people go from friends to girlfriends...

I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother.

I'm not one of those people who is extremely good looking or tough guy that I can use the "alpha male, I'm gonna be mean to girls" personality as suggested in previous RFD threads by other posters, at the same time, I am also trying to not do everything a girl asks.

Why am I not successful in this area! :facepalm: I mean I'm not depressed or anything over this, I just don't get it! :)

Let me tell you exactly what the problem is.

Based on your signature, you're Asian just like me, I would assume?

That's the problem, look at your signature. That signature ALONE tells me a lot about how you are.

Pink? Chinese Characters? Really!?

How old are you?

What are you? Hello Kitty?

Stop being a FOB and your chances might increase by 50%. You're in Canada. If you want girls that get attracted to that cr@p, go to Asia or find a FOB girl wearing pink Converse shoes with rainbow coloured hair, skinny, loud, giggly and annoying as F***.

Does that sound like you too??????

Then fix it!

You want to know what the other problem is? You are posting this on RFD.

Again, says a lot about you.

[bargainista!]

:facepalm: I just don't get it, I have many friends who are guys and girls and I can talk to them well so I don't think I'm socially awkward... but how the f do I get a girlfriend? I'm not even appearing desperate anymore (or at least I'm trying not to) because I don't see the point anymore because I just don't think I'll ever get one.

For me, it always seems like the train stops running as a friend and nothing else happens, I just have no idea how people go from friends to girlfriends...

I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother.
I'm not one of those people who is extremely good looking or tough guy that I can use the "alpha male, I'm gonna be mean to girls" personality as suggested in previous RFD threads by other posters, at the same time, I am also trying to not do everything a girl asks.

Why am I not successful in this area! :facepalm: I mean I'm not depressed or anything over this, I just don't get it! :)

I think your problem is that you need more confidence. As a female, I can tell you that If I go out with a guy multiple times, and he doesn't try to AT LEAST hold my hand I will automatically assume that he just wants to be friends. You get friend zoned because that is the vibe you are putting out.

[amz155]

Let me tell you exactly what the problem is.

Based on your signature, you're Asian just like me, I would assume?

That's the problem, look at your signature. That signature ALONE tells me a lot about how you are.

Pink? Chinese Characters? Really!?

How old are you?

What are you? Hello Kitty?

Stop being a FOB and your chances might increase by 50%. You're in Canada. If you want girls that get attracted to that cr@p, go to Asia or find a FOB girl wearing pink Converse shoes with rainbow coloured hair, skinny, loud, giggly and annoying as F***.

Does that sound like you too??????

Then fix it!

Lol, you took the words right out of my mouth. The siggy alone would almost make me think you are gay (not that there's anything wrong with being gay).

Also, the OP seems to be written by someone who is immature and socially awkward although OP claims not to be.

[diggler649]

There's a lot of Hello Kitty girls out there that like guys with no testosterone. I think with girls that are born here (North America), they have problems with sissy boys. But the Hello Kitties born in HK or China, they like guys who have manginas. These are the same girls that squeal annoyingly in bed.

[aTriangle]

Some people need to realize they don't need to rely on getting a girlfriend to get through life.

There are people out there who have been in relationships there whole life. And once they are single they don't know what the hell to do and feel lonely as hell. But in reality they were already lonely to begin with just with a girlfriend.

Look what happens when I reverse what you've said:

Some people need to realize they don't need to rely on being single to get through life.

There are people out there who have never been in a relationship their whole life. Once they are in a relationship, they don't know what to do and feel crowded. In reality, they were crowded to begin with, but by themselves.

[EPcjay]

you gota be the bad guy. no more nice guy

[lazymonkeygod]

I won't be getting a girlfriend...my wife won't like it.

[hdave]

the OP is a very successful troll...

[LaserEnvy]

I agree with Diggler. Those annoying fobby girls love wimpy fobby guys. However, OP still needs to be more Alpha when dealing with them. He should forget about being friends with them - either get laid or move on. Just remember to stay within the fobby world because fobby guys don't really have any other place in the world.

[d182]

I agree with Diggler. Those annoying fobby girls love wimpy fobby guys. However, OP still needs to be more Alpha when dealing with them. He should forget about being friends with them - either get laid or move on. Just remember to stay within the fobby world because fobby guys don't really have any other place in the world.



Stop being a FOB and your chances might increase by 50%. You're in Canada. If you want girls that get attracted to that cr@p, go to Asia or find a FOB girl wearing pink Converse shoes with rainbow coloured hair, skinny, loud, giggly and annoying as F***.



We have two conflicting views here.

LE says: Be alpha when dealing with fobby girls
Vizard says: Stop being a FOB.

My questions:

What kind of woman should OP be chasing - FOBS or CBCs?
Which one does he have a realistic chance of landing?
Which ones are he chasing now?

[LaserEnvy]

We have two conflicting views here.

LE says: Be alpha when dealing with fobby girls
Vizard says: Stop being a FOB.

My questions:

What kind of woman should OP be chasing - FOBS or CBCs?
Which one does he have a realistic chance of landing?
Which ones are he chasing now?

Definitely NOT CBCs, man. They will laugh at him all the way back to Pacific Mall. He needs to stick with FOB girls and go after them in an alpha-but-fobby-and-wimpy sort of way.

[sylpherware]

He needs to stick with FOB girls and go after them in an alpha-but-fobby-and-wimpy sort of way.

Hipster?

[the_fm]

These are the same girls that squeal annoyingly in bed.

like them japanese porn? oh gosh *pokes ears*

[missmaldita]

You need to express your feelings to the girl you like. You need to tell her this:
"Hey I like you, I want to get to know you better and see if we can end up being a couple" (or something similar)

Be as straight forward as possible. She will then respond to the above statement with either " I just wanna be friends " or " I like you too "

If you don't have enough courage to do the above, then that is the reason why you don't have a gf.

[jz1n]

Imagine this:

Trying to pick up a beef ball inside a bowl of soup.
Imagine what happens if you squeeze too hard.
Imagine what happens if you don't apply enough force.

Think about it. That's what's up. Stop making threads about these things, I want more threads about cats playing pianos!

[x2007ura]

You need to express your feelings to the girl you like. You need to tell her this:
"Hey I like you, I want to get to know you better and see if we can end up being a couple" (or something similar)

Be as straight forward as possible. She will then respond to the above statement with either " I just wanna be friends " or " I like you too "

If you don't have enough courage to do the above, then that is the reason why you don't have a gf.

Worst advice ever. Do you happen to be female?

[x2007ura]

Imagine this:

Trying to pick up a beef ball inside a bowl of soup.
Imagine what happens if you squeeze too hard.
Imagine what happens if you don't apply enough force.

Think about it. That's what's up. Stop making threads about these things, I want more threads about cats playing pianos!

Well said, but assuming the OP isn't actually trolling, elusive metaphors are unlikely to help him.

[Rainne]

You can't just "Be Alpha." If you are not Alpha, you are not Alpha. Sooner or later, it'll come out. Anyhow, women can sense when you're trying to be someone you're not anyways = insecurity = turn off

Just follow your feelings/instincts. Women like men who stand up for themselves and posses some sense of self worth. If you're Beta, just be Beta. The most important thing is to know who you are, where you stand and what you believe/fight for. Everyone has their own place, embrace it.

[Heero01]

Here is a sure fire way to get cat:

Talk to a girl once and as soon as you see she wants to be friends with you - IGNORE HER. Treat her like crap whilst occasionally texting/talking to her.

Invite her to drink with you 1 day and bang her.

Done deal

[Corleone187]

well there is this kid
http://www.epicwin.net/2011/01/overachieving-fat-kid.html

[fboybcb]

:facepalm: I just don't get it, I have many friends who are guys and girls and I can talk to them well so I don't think I'm socially awkward... but how the f do I get a girlfriend? I'm not even appearing desperate anymore (or at least I'm trying not to) because I don't see the point anymore because I just don't think I'll ever get one.

For me, it always seems like the train stops running as a friend and nothing else happens, I just have no idea how people go from friends to girlfriends...

I often think that if I ask a girl out a few times and eventually confess by grabbing her hand or something like that for example, I'll be rejected so I don't bother.

I'm not one of those people who is extremely good looking or tough guy that I can use the "alpha male, I'm gonna be mean to girls" personality as suggested in previous RFD threads by other posters, at the same time, I am also trying to not do everything a girl asks.

Why am I not successful in this area! :facepalm: I mean I'm not depressed or anything over this, I just don't get it! :)

Simple. You don't have balls to confess to a girl you are interested in them. You are afraid of being rejected so you don't take any action. You are a man so don't let the fear take over you!!

[sylpherware]

well there is this kid
http://www.epicwin.net/2011/01/overachieving-fat-kid.html

Looks like a Make a Wish poster boy :razz:

[sandikosh]

Me thinks the powers controlling rfd should create a "Wanna Date" forum for those who can't get lucky!

[Kunman]

Even though the odds are against us guys, there are way way way more girls feeling the same thing as you do right now. Do you know why? women think with their feelings, so when they get lonely and most of them are like this allll the time. It goes without saying that it feels much worse than when dudes feel they need a girlfriend.

So, take advantage of this, ask as many girls out as possible. Doing this will:

1 greatly increase your chances of finding a girlfriend
2 make you a seasoned lady killer
3 at the very least its a guarantee you will make someone elses day

*BTW if you want to improve your confidence you should play the pickup game

find few friends go to the mall play rock paper scissors, loose has to ask a girl who is picked by the winners, for her phone number.
Or, if you are competitive, make it who can get the most numbers.

[Xiaohaibao]

Why not ask your parents to ask all their friends if they know anyone with a single daughter? Chances are there is a girl version of you out there who can't get a bf.

[thestar99]

Why not ask your parents to ask all their friends if they know anyone with a single daughter? Chances are there is a girl version of you out there who can't get a bf.

Ding Ding we have a winner. Just ask your parents. Seriously dude pink signature and avatar no wonder.

[Mr. Robo]

OP, your standards are too high.

[Cytosol]

First of all, friend zone sucks. Don’t get the reputation of being a friend zone guy. If you realize a girl is putting you in the friend zone, stop things right there. Unless you genuinely WANT to be friends with this person, tell her you have enough friends and don’t want to waste your time. If you can’t bring yourself say that, you can always just play the ignore card… Don’t respond with more than a “hey..? I’m sorta busy so ttyl…” Doing this will either make her stop talking to you (good riddance) or she might start wondering hey why isn’t this guy into me? That could maybe lead to something. At the very least you don’t have to listen to her babble on about relationships that don’t involve YOU.

Second, you can’t be a nice guy. There ARE girls out there that go for nice guys, but they have probably already settled down with a nice guy. The remaining ones might not exactly be up to snuff, and most of the women guys want to date aren’t into nice guys. They aren’t necessarily into alpha-males either, but they want to know their man can take charge and has some balls and confidence. Being ‘not a nice guy’ does NOT mean you have to be a complete prick. You can still be extremely friendly and courteous and also show you have your sh*t together. It’s tough to explain…

Third, take a good look at yourself. Be as objective as possible and eliminate qualities that girls find a major turnoff. It’s really not that hard to spot what these things might be. You don’t (and shouldn’t) need to change who you are, but you can change how you present yourself. If you dress shabby or like a 12 year old, buy some nicer clothes. If you are out of shape, get into shape. Get an adult haircut if you don’t have one. If you wear anime t-shirts, don’t freaking wear anime t-shirts. It’s extremely obvious what girls find major turn-offs, so avoid these things like the plague. I shouldn’t even have to say this, but ensuring you have good hygiene should be absolute first thing you look at.

The last bit of advice I can offer is that women want a guy that they can brag to their friends about. No woman wants to tell her friends “he’s really nice… He’s sort of shy and really likes videogames and… he’s really nice…” They want to say this guy is cool; he’s got a talent, he’s got a good job or is passionate about something interesting. Find something (a skill, talent, interest, whatever) that you can sell a girl on. As long as this thing isn’t one of the turn-offs mentioned above, or insanely creepy or weird, you are set.

For example, I am into mountain biking. On a date I don’t just say “I like mountain biking, it’s really neato” but I F*CKING SELL IT LIKE IT’S THE BEST THING IN THE UNIVERSE!!! I explain: “I absolutely love going out into the woods and having an adventure, never knowing what might happen. It’s such a thrill being able to push myself to extremes and see how my body will handle it. The best thing is that I have to focus 100% on what I am doing, so it lets me completely escape my mind for half a day. It’s therapeutic as hell for me. Maybe this weekend I can bring you on my favorite trail, it’s absolutely beautiful and I think you will love it!”
It doesn’t really matter what it is, as long as you can demonstrate you have the ability to be excited and passionate about life rather than being a complete bore.

[ultran00b]

Why not ask your parents to ask all their friends if they know anyone with a single daughter? Chances are there is a girl version of you out there who can't get a bf.

http://i472.photobucket.com/albums/rr87/crazzup/BisonYes.jpg

Genius reply.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0j0lO7uQBo&t=23s

[x2007ura]

Why not ask your parents to ask all their friends if they know anyone with a single daughter? Chances are there is a girl version of you out there who can't get a bf.

He's probably afraid that they know his net worth already.

[spike1128]

He's probably afraid that they know his net worth already.

+1. 100k is a high net worth lol!

[HTTP04]

Yet another Deal's thread

http://i279.photobucket.com/albums/kk154/Ellicecutie/forever-alone-face.png

[kodiaktfc]

Summary.

1. Gym.
Its not just for them but for you. It'll give you confidence and you'll feel healthier; this comes across in how you carry yourself.

2. Try new things.
Get out, do things you haven't done before because in doing this new things, you'll meet new people as well.

3. Start talking to everyone.
If you at the gas station, talk to the attendant. If you at the grocery store, talk to the cashier. Its small conversations like these that will make you far more comfortable with speech and again, this adds confidence and comfort.

4. Online dating.
Its great. Its worked wonders for friends of mine. Everyone is in the same mindset and denial is far easier.

[jaxx lite]

how the f do I get a girlfriend?

For me, it always seems like the train stops running as a friend and nothing else happens, I just have no idea how people go from friends to girlfriends...

You have to ask for a date.

"Wanna go see a movie, go to a restaurant, go to a concert, go to the beach, go to Stanley Park, go on an outing, go to a festival, etc etc, etc, etc, etc."

Sometimes she will say "no"
One day, a girl will say "yes".

Some girls will date anybody who asks for a date.

Other girls are more picky.

Some girls are not nice.
Be careful= you don't want to be stuck married to a ranting and raving lunatic
or a gold digger.
A bad marriage is very sad.

=

[rjones416]

post a pic op so we can help improve your look a little bit.

[wilsonlam97]

You have to ask for a date.

"Wanna go see a movie, go to a restaurant, go to a concert, go to the beach, go to Stanley Park, go on an outing, go to a festival, etc etc, etc, etc, etc."

Sometimes she will say "no"
One day, a girl will say "yes".

Some girls will date anybody who asks for a date.

Other girls are more picky.

Some girls are not nice.
Be careful= you don't want to be stuck married to a ranting and raving lunatic
or a gold digger.
A bad marriage is very sad.

=

Lol I thought diggler posted this because of the last paragraph.

[Jimboski]

Yet another Deal's thread

http://i279.photobucket.com/albums/kk154/Ellicecutie/forever-alone-face.png

I was looking for that picture, Surprised It took 60+ posts for that to pop up!

[zijin_cheng]

I have the same problem as OP, but different circumstances.
First, I'm too shy to talk to girls, so I just you know play the checking out game and see if they check me back out. Problem is, I'm not experienced enough to know whether she's checking me out out or just reciprocating a look, because I want to be sure she has actually noticed me and is checking me back out before talking to her
Second, I have no idea how I look, so I have no idea whether I am Brad Pitt or Mr Man Cave MW3
Third, actually its second but the same idea, I can't tell whether a guy is good looking or not, myself included so I don't know my competition.
Suggestions?

[LaserEnvy]

I have the same problem as OP, but different circumstances.
First, I'm too shy to talk to girls, so I just you know play the checking out game and see if they check me back out. Problem is, I'm not experienced enough to know whether she's checking me out out or just reciprocating a look, because I want to be sure she has actually noticed me and is checking me back out before talking to her
Second, I have no idea how I look, so I have no idea whether I am Brad Pitt or Mr Man Cave MW3
Third, actually its second but the same idea, I can't tell whether a guy is good looking or not, myself included so I don't know my competition.
Suggestions?

I think u gotta post a pic for better feedback

[zijin_cheng]

I think u gotta post a pic for better feedback

That just feels gay, but ok I'll try. I'm at work right now, so based on what I said above what are suggestions?
Also, I don't think I'm socially awkward, but its just that basically it took me a longer time to mature than other people, in a nutshell, I was a big baby until a year ago.
Its only this past year that I've started actually talking to people and matured a lot, so not socially awkward, but haven't been mature for a long enough time to have experience to talk to girls

[Mr. Robo]

Does looks really matter to a woman? Don't worry yourself about looking like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise. It's all about conversation and being funny.

[zijin_cheng]

Does looks really matter to a woman? Don't worry yourself about looking like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise. It's all about conversation and being funny.

No they don't, beauty fades over time but first impressions are important
And I can carry an interesting conversation for about 5mins max that would be soooo interesting but after that 5mins I would have absolutely nothing to say and just stand there, literally not as a figure of speech

[d182]

I was looking for that picture, Surprised It took 60+ posts for that to pop up!

I think op should just add it to his sig. :D




First, I'm too shy to talk to girls, so I just you know play the checking out game and see if they check me back out. Problem is, I'm not experienced enough to know whether she's checking me out out or just reciprocating a look, because I want to be sure she has actually noticed me and is checking me back out before talking to her



I don't think you should be playing this checking out game. You're not gonna win and you'll just creep out the girl.

[LaserEnvy]

No they don't, beauty fades over time but first impressions are important
And I can carry an interesting conversation for about 5mins max that would be soooo interesting but after that 5mins I would have absolutely nothing to say and just stand there, literally not as a figure of speech

Well conversation/social interaction is a skill. To increase that skill, you need to stop over analyzing yourself and just talk to people. With enough practice you will eventually become better at it. A good starting point is to ask questions about your conversation partner. This works especially well with girls as they love talking about themselves. Ask friendly questions about their lives, interest, friends, and family. This alone will carry a conversation for a while.

[zoltorg]

It's mostly these days (and has always been) about what you can portray to women rather than what you are. A well-tailored suit, some high quality (read: nothing that is from the bay or aldo or pretty much anything in a mall) shoes, a bit of money in the bank and a respectable job will bring so many hunnies with nothing but a cinema degree running. It depends on your age but around 23-25, women begin to realize that life isn't free.

[hdave]

Do you guys not see that Deals Deals Deals is a troll?

[peanutz]

Does looks really matter to a woman? Don't worry yourself about looking like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise. It's all about conversation and being funny.Yes. Looks do matter, but as with everything, only to a certain extent.

Gigabyte Z68 motherboard
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Gigabyte nVIDIA GeForce GTX 570 1028MB GDDR5
BenQ XL2410T

[qsub]

You gotta be sexy.
But the real sexy, is inside your heart. <3

I don't know how to explain it... But there is a certain way you have to talk to women.

With alcohol.

[mtmp5k]

You guys are overthinking too much

just be nice and sensitive. Buy them lots of things and you will find a nice girl

[Heero01]

It's mostly these days (and has always been) about what you can portray to women rather than what you are. A well-tailored suit, some high quality (read: nothing that is from the bay or aldo or pretty much anything in a mall) shoes, a bit of money in the bank and a respectable job will bring so many hunnies with nothing but a cinema degree running. It depends on your age but around 23-25, women begin to realize that life isn't free.

You living in the 60s? No women wants a man in a suit. They want a man that is alpha and treats her like crap.

Good guy routine won't work. Only rich guy routine or alpha male.

[DaleCooper]

OP, don't listen to crap here. Fact is every woman (hot ones included) have different taste in men.

I am probably the most anti social person on the planet and I never had problems finding a mate. As a matter of fact some of the hottest girls were intrigued by my timid personality (merci quebec) yet imposing size (thank you Asia).

I have noticed that absolutely the ugliest, breast enhanced, dumbest bimbos date those supposed "alpha males". I wouldn't touch those skunks with my 10 inch pole.

[x2007ura]

Do you guys not see that Deals Deals Deals is a troll?

A better troll then DaleCooper if so.

[peanutz]

^Pics, or pole didn't happen.

[dcyeung]

speed dating?

[diggler649]

I'm looking for a GF. Any RFD single ladies want to date me? I like going for hikes and walks along the beach with an ice cream cone in hand. Looking for similar.

[Rainne]

If you think it's bad trying to find a gf, imagine yourself as a woman. You're basically a ticking time bomb as your beauty fades from 18-30s and it's a race to find a quality man (which are btw, far and few). At least men have the luxury of time.

[RenegadeX]

OP, you know what you are? You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs... yeah, big *****in' teeth on ya'. And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner. You know, you got these claws and you're staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you're thinking, "How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?". And you're poking at it, you're poking at it... you're not hurting it. You're just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny's scared, the bunny's scared of you, shivering. And you got these *****ing claws and these fangs, man! And you're looking at your claws and you're looking at your fangs. And you're thinking to yourself, you don't know what to do, man. "I don't know how to kill the bunny." With *this* you don't know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

You're like a big bear, man.

Don't be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. Be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy we're not sure whether or not we like yet. We're not sure where he's coming from.

So go in for the "kill", get that phone number, make that move. Get out of the friend zone and into her pants!

PS: OP, you're so money and you don't even know it!

[Psubs]

OP, you know what you are? You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs... yeah, big *****in' teeth on ya'. And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner. You know, you got these claws and you're staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you're thinking, "How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?". And you're poking at it, you're poking at it... you're not hurting it. You're just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny's scared, the bunny's scared of you, shivering. And you got these *****ing claws and these fangs, man! And you're looking at your claws and you're looking at your fangs. And you're thinking to yourself, you don't know what to do, man. "I don't know how to kill the bunny." With *this* you don't know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

You're like a big bear, man.

Don't be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. Be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy we're not sure whether or not we like yet. We're not sure where he's coming from.

So go in for the "kill", get that phone number, make that move. Get out of the friend zone and into her pants!

PS: OP, you're so money and you don't even know it!

I feel like having a bear sandwich!

[RenegadeX]

Oh, and I forgot to add, with a new girl, once you get her number:
waiting two days to call is like industry standard. Everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money.

[4flava]

OP, you know what you are? You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs... yeah, big *****in' teeth on ya'. And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner. You know, you got these claws and you're staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you're thinking, "How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?". And you're poking at it, you're poking at it... you're not hurting it. You're just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny's scared, the bunny's scared of you, shivering. And you got these *****ing claws and these fangs, man! And you're looking at your claws and you're looking at your fangs. And you're thinking to yourself, you don't know what to do, man. "I don't know how to kill the bunny." With *this* you don't know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

You're like a big bear, man.

Don't be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. Be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy we're not sure whether or not we like yet. We're not sure where he's coming from.

So go in for the "kill", get that phone number, make that move. Get out of the friend zone and into her pants!

PS: OP, you're so money and you don't even know it!


BUAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! :D:lol::twisted:

[ssharm02]

yea me. I will have to work very hard to get one....my diet is crap, I have no job, my social skills are terrible, my education turned out to be total worthless....I will have to address all these issues before approaching a girl.

[AudiDude]

If you think it's bad trying to find a gf, imagine yourself as a woman. You're basically a ticking time bomb as your beauty fades from 18-30s and it's a race to find a quality man (which are btw, far and few). At least men have the luxury of time.

At least the women realize that and go out and aggressively pursue a man when they really want one. Not cry in corner like someone we all know and do nothing (well DaleCooper is a newbie so we'll see how long it takes for him to figure it out).

[diggler649]

yea me. I will have to work very hard to get one....my diet is crap, I have no job, my social skills are terrible, my education turned out to be total worthless....I will have to address all these issues before approaching a girl.

Go to Keswick. There are plenty of girls just like you!

[AudiDude]

yea me. I will have to work very hard to get one....my diet is crap, I have no job, my social skills are terrible, my education turned out to be total worthless....I will have to address all these issues before approaching a girl.

Social skills and diet are free to fix. You are 66.6666 percent of the way there. Excellent social skills can get you there faster than an education anyway.

[ssharm02]

Go to Keswick. There are plenty of girls just like you!

no, I'd rather address those issues. Girls aren't that important to me ATM. :)


Social skills and diet are free to fix. You are 66.6666 percent of the way there. Excellent social skills can get you there faster than an education anyway.

I have been eating nothing but rice and instant ramen for much of this year. With 1000 calories a day I look like a holocaust survivor (no offence to anyone!)

[forthewinwin]

I used to, until I realized that finding a 6-digit net salary and a job I can stand is really the hardest thing of all for me, and that finding a girl, relatively speaking, is the much easier part.

There will always be women within reach, but not 100k/yr net jobs... ):

But to OP: don't worry about it...

[ji2o0k]

^Pics, or pole didn't happen.lol careful what you ask for peanutz...

Now watch your Inbox be flooded with PMs of "poles".........ewwwwwwww.......

[zijin_cheng]

I used to, until I realized that finding a 6-digit net salary and a job I can stand is really the hardest thing of all for me, and that finding a girl, relatively speaking, is the much easier part.

There will always be women within reach, but not 100k/yr net jobs... ):

But to OP: don't worry about it...

Lolz but not true. Finding a girl yes, is much easier. But finding a good woman, far more precious than rubies, if you catch the quote :D

[JK_85]

OP, you know what you are? You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs... yeah, big *****in' teeth on ya'. And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner. You know, you got these claws and you're staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you're thinking, "How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?". And you're poking at it, you're poking at it... you're not hurting it. You're just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny's scared, the bunny's scared of you, shivering. And you got these *****ing claws and these fangs, man! And you're looking at your claws and you're looking at your fangs. And you're thinking to yourself, you don't know what to do, man. "I don't know how to kill the bunny." With *this* you don't know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

You're like a big bear, man.

Don't be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. Be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy we're not sure whether or not we like yet. We're not sure where he's coming from.

So go in for the "kill", get that phone number, make that move. Get out of the friend zone and into her pants!

PS: OP, you're so money and you don't even know it!



SWINGERS is a good movie!

[AudiDude]

no, I'd rather address those issues. Girls aren't that important to me ATM. :)



I have been eating nothing but rice and instant ramen for much of this year. With 1000 calories a day I look like a holocaust survivor (no offence to anyone!)

So you already have a sense of humour. Add protein powder, chicken, vegetables/fruit/nuts and work out...

[ssharm02]

So you already have a sense of humour. Add protein powder, chicken, vegetables/fruit/nuts and work out...

haha thanks for the advice, much appreciated!

[HTTP04]

This is all you need:

http://www.escaladesuv.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/cadillac-escalade.jpg

+

http://newstalkkgvo.com/files/2011/07/stack-money_opt.jpg

just kidding

[deep]

Probably not, my wife would kill me.

[ovechkin1]

lower your standards and go for the bottom of the barrel. You have to build your experience somewhere, alot of guys that are virgins and cant get any are always aiming for top level chicks, and they stay sad and lonely wondering why they get nowhere. Bang out a few fatties, and put that experience under your belt, and then trust me your game will improve.

[diggler649]

lower your standards and go for the bottom of the barrel. You have to build your experience somewhere, alot of guys that are virgins and cant get any are always aiming for top level chicks, and they stay sad and lonely wondering why they get nowhere. Bang out a few fatties, and put that experience under your belt, and then trust me your game will improve.

This could backfire. If dude can't get it up for the fatties, he may develop performance anxiety when it comes time with an actual hottie. Best thing to do is as ask your BFF to do you a solid.

[najibs]

lol careful what you ask for peanutz...

Now watch your Inbox be flooded with PMs of "poles".........ewwwwwwww.......

She saw brass ones on Thursday night muahahaha.

[jacobe]

LOL Deals x3 thread again, this is like a RFD tradition.

[dragon_drift]

confidence and be yourself. Girls don't like emo's.

[Deals Deals Deals]

Oh, and I forgot to add, with a new girl, once you get her number:
waiting two days to call is like industry standard. Everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money.

hmm I find it easy to get someone's phone number, but the girls I meet don't assume I want their phone number for a romantic reason.

[Deals Deals Deals]

yea me. I will have to work very hard to get one....my diet is crap, I have no job, my social skills are terrible, my education turned out to be total worthless....I will have to address all these issues before approaching a girl.

Don't be too hard on yourself, it takes time to address these issues.

[Deals Deals Deals]

Does looks really matter to a woman? Don't worry yourself about looking like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise. It's all about conversation and being funny.

I want to think it doesn't, but perhaps my looks are what's in my way, and that isn't something I can change unfortunately.

[Deals Deals Deals]

You have to ask for a date.

"Wanna go see a movie, go to a restaurant, go to a concert, go to the beach, go to Stanley Park, go on an outing, go to a festival, etc etc, etc, etc, etc."

Sometimes she will say "no"
One day, a girl will say "yes".

Some girls will date anybody who asks for a date.

Other girls are more picky.

Some girls are not nice.
Be careful= you don't want to be stuck married to a ranting and raving lunatic
or a gold digger.
A bad marriage is very sad.

=

Sometimes they want to invite others, what does THAT mean? :D

[Deals Deals Deals]

I have the same problem as OP, but different circumstances.
First, I'm too shy to talk to girls, so I just you know play the checking out game and see if they check me back out. Problem is, I'm not experienced enough to know whether she's checking me out out or just reciprocating a look, because I want to be sure she has actually noticed me and is checking me back out before talking to her
Second, I have no idea how I look, so I have no idea whether I am Brad Pitt or Mr Man Cave MW3
Third, actually its second but the same idea, I can't tell whether a guy is good looking or not, myself included so I don't know my competition.
Suggestions?

If you want to meet more girls, I think that you can not be shy; I have not met any girls who would like a shy guy in the relationship type of way. Although there might be someone out there for you, it will probably be harder to find. It's difficult to go from shy to not-shy and definitely not something you can do in one day, one week, or even one month, it is a continuous process.

Have confidence in yourself, you don't need to ask other people whether or not you are "good-looking", TELL YOURSELF that you are "good looking", the girls will feel it.

[Deals Deals Deals]

I think your problem is that you need more confidence. As a female, I can tell you that If I go out with a guy multiple times, and he doesn't try to AT LEAST hold my hand I will automatically assume that he just wants to be friends. You get friend zoned because that is the vibe you are putting out.

I guess my problem is that sometimes I have such a good connection with someone, that I don't want to lose it by doing something like grabbing her hand. I guess my fear is not totally of rejection, but of the potential loss of someone who shares so much of the same interests as me.

[Deals Deals Deals]

Research in neuropsychoeconomics reveal that humans perceive potential failure - in this case, rejection - as being more upsetting than it actually will be. However, I think most people who have felt rejection can tell you it ain't so bad. It sounds like you are afraid of rejection. HTFU.

That's definitely reassuring and cool to know!

[Deals Deals Deals]

a girl will know if they want more then friendship with you within the first day.

so if you feel no connection at all after the first day then give up. or if you want continue to be friends with the girl.

I feel connections (can laugh together, jokes, etc.) but how do I know she does too?