Does your family support you dating outside your own race?

[Syne]

I know that this has the potential to turn into a crapstorm, but before people cry, "In before the lock!", let's give Mr. LaForge a rest for a minute and try to have a mature discussion about race.

Now I'm dating a mulatto girl and have been for some time, and nobody in my life has ever said a (negative) word about it. In the past, I've been open to dating all races and still would in the future. However, I was recently reading a thread on a US message board and the attitudes expressed within really surprised me. There does seem to be a very charged atmosphere with regard to interracial dating down south. I felt like I'd walked into a time warp. Even in 2012, these attitudes persist in some areas of the world. Most younger people said that it wasn't such an issue for them, but their family would give them much grief if they decided to date outside of their own race.

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

[Heero01]

1) No they wouldn't care. Although I'm sure they would be happiest if I was dating a girl of the same race as me they wouldn't care if I was dating a white girl or an asian chick (as long as shes a dime piece).

2) Yes - I won't mention what race tho since I can easily be identified on this forum :)

3) No they don't influence me. I do find myself unattracted to this particular race, but it has nothing to do with racism, just something about them that makes me unattracted to them.

4) The big deal is obviously a cultrual thing. There are reasons why you don't see alota asian chicks dating brown dudes...

I don't think we really need a thread on this.

You must be white hence why you don't see why interracial relations are troublesome. Asian chicks and spanish chicks dig white dudes, while the same isn't true for brown dudes. Just like how some brown chicks don't dig white dudes (although all that I know do).

[Agafaba]

I know that this has the potential to turn into a crapstorm, but before people cry, "In before the lock!", let's give Mr. LaForge a rest for a minute and try to have a mature discussion about race.

Now I'm dating a mulatto girl and have been for some time, and nobody in my life has ever said a (negative) word about it. In the past, I've been open to dating all races and still would in the future. However, I was recently reading a thread on a US message board and the attitudes expressed within really surprised me. There does seem to be a very charged atmosphere with regard to interracial dating down south. I felt like I'd walked into a time warp. Even in 2012, these attitudes persist in some areas of the world. Most younger people said that it wasn't such an issue for them, but their family would give them much grief if they decided to date outside of their own race.

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

His back must be getting sore doing all that rolling, god forbid he injures himself and doesnt make it through the door on time

1) Yes
2) Likely anyone from the middle east because they watch too much TV and have a slight bias against Islam.
3) Nope, I do what I want like a true baller.
4) Fear of the unknown, once you spend enough time in your own ethnic enclave it can feel awkward around other races.

[uber_shnitz]

1) No, in fact of all the people I dated only one was Asian. Mind you I haven't dated hundreds of women but my parents have always been fine with whoever I date as long as she's a good person.

2) I don't think so, but we've had this talk and they're more afraid of cultural barriers between me and my potential gfs than race.

3) I'd date who I wanted. I think if anything I'd be more influenced by the media, the social circles around me and whatnot than my parents' attitudes in this regard :lol:

4) As the above said, it's mostly cultural barriers people are afraid or unwilling to accept which makes so people can't mesh.

Interracial dating is now basically facing what cross-religion dating faced 10-20 years ago: possible incompatibilities in lifestyle and views of life/the world. While it is true some people just don't have a physical attraction to other races, I'd say in the long run it's mostly culturally that makes so different ethnicities (and cultures) don't mesh that well. This is becoming more common because lots of people (especially in North America) are becoming more liberal and less serious (or at least more tolerant) when it comes to tradditionalist values.

[jaxx lite]

It should not matter what your parents, siblings, cousins, distant cousins, aunts, uncles, etc think about your girlfriend / boyfriend

Remember they won't be having sex, living, having kids with your partner
so who cares what they think

However if they say that your partner is too old
or not a nice person
or your kids won't be good looking
- it's something to think about

-

[Syne]

Must have.. physically.. attractive.. kids..

[originalnutta]

My folks encourage it. We're a bunch of self loathing Indians.

[Simaahoy]

Anyone, but no rednecks from southern usa is favorable.

[Xiaohaibao]

I think my parents wouldnt' support it... it's difficult to explain to someone from a different culture so I won't try.

[Jimboski]

Don't think they would support although It Is my life. Not saying I wouldn't respect It and try to find one that's the same culture as myself!

[VonMatterhorn]

In short, no. I tired, didn't work well with them.

Even though it is my life and I can make my own final decision, I cannot overlook the fact that my parents have raised me well and dating/marrying someone from my race will mean alot more to them than it will to me.

[Kunman]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

yes, to some races.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

There are specific races that they would object more than other. I don't want to mention the reason, because its very racist and makes me ashamed.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Yes. However, I would still try to date who I want to date.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal

History associated with the race.

History with my own race.

Skin colour.

Perception/close mindedness

[gouki556]

My parents won't let me date black ppl and islamics everything else is fair game.

[Mars2012]

I'm an Asian woman married to a Caucasian man. My family had more problems with the age difference more so than the race. We've been happily married for almost 23 years, so they've warmed up to him.:D And, yes, the children are really cute.

[l33r]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?
The topic has never come up.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?
I don't think so.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?
No. It's not my family who is dating them.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?
Bigotry. I suspect religion has a lot to do with it too, even though there's Jewish and Muslims and Christians of all different skin shades.

FIY: I'm white and young-ish, and my mother is the same, if that makes any difference.

[Manatus]

1) Define "family"... I mean a family is made up of individuals who have their own feelings about any subject. It's not like they hold a family board meeting and all decide that everyone will hate your new girlfriend. Older members of my family tend to be more traditional. My parents don't care.

2) With reference to 1), yes to a degree. Honest answer? Because some of my family members are racist and associate some races with more strongly negative stereotypes.

3) I really couldn't care less. As far as I'm concerned if I'm seriously dating/engaged/married then I'm planning on starting a new family anyway. We're all adults and if they choose to avoid me/us, that's their choice to make. I don't believe that blood makes anyone special.

4) Because people won't stand up for themselves. Really, who gives a butt about culture? If YOU believe it then fine, if you don't, who cares? I don't understand how a grown-up, self-supporting, fully functional adult can let mommy and daddy influence who they can and cannot date at all. In my opinion the family that you are born into is a biological lottery, a random chance, an accident. Who you choose to be with, as an adult, means one heck of a lot more.

[rommelrommel]

I'm past dating but I can speak for my past:

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Generally, yes.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Immediate family, no. Certain members of extended family would probably have had reservations with native/black persons. My extended family is from rural Ontario and I think they would be more prejudiced than racist, expecting their stereotypes about those races to be true. Maybe that is a form of racism but it would be mild.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Not at all. Dated who I wanted. Had several inter-racial relationships, but not with the mentioned races.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Racism. Fear of the unknown. Belief in their negative stereotypes of said races.

As a white male I was on the recieving end of a lot more racism from ex gf's families than they got from mine, that's for damn sure.

[uber_shnitz]

4) Because people won't stand up for themselves. Really, who gives a butt about culture? If YOU believe it then fine, if you don't, who cares? I don't understand how a grown-up, self-supporting, fully functional adult can let mommy and daddy influence who they can and cannot date at all. In my opinion the family that you are born into is a biological lottery, a random chance, an accident. Who you choose to be with, as an adult, means one heck of a lot more.
Well how do you think people come to believe in some things? Answer: upbringing which usually has a lot to do with parents. Your parents don't have to be on your back 24/7 and judge every person you bring home for them to "have an influence" on who you decide to bring home. Just the way you're raised will steer you towards certain personalities and traits which can or cannot be influenced by culture.

To assume that all interracial marriages fail because of parents/family is a big lie. Sometimes people don't click in life and culture can be one of the points people don't click about. It's no different than an outdoors-y person not being able to date an indoors-y person. Idk why people think racial or culture is any different an issue for couples.

[manga]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Yes, mostly because I wouldn't give them any other option. Resistance is futile.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why
perhaps....the media has painted a pretty bad picture of islamic people.................

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?
Nope. I date who I want.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?
People can't get over their fears. Like, at all. Also they might think that their race is "too good" for the other race.

PS: I'm a non white girl dating a tamil guy. which is RARE. I think everyone has gotten used to black/white and asian/white but you hardly see indian/black or chinese/indian

[deep]

I think my wife would be pissed if I started dating someone outside my race. Or inside my race. Or from a bike race.

[wilsonlam97]

My folks encourage it. We're a bunch of self loathing Indians.

Awesome!

[manga]

hahah.
I think my wife would be pissed if I started dating someone outside my race. Or inside my race. Or from a bike race.

[wilsonlam97]

I think my wife would be pissed if I started dating someone outside my race. Or inside my race. Or from a bike race.

I too, had laughed.

[Manatus]

Well how do you think people come to believe in some things? Answer: upbringing which usually has a lot to do with parents. Your parents don't have to be on your back 24/7 and judge every person you bring home for them to "have an influence" on who you decide to bring home. Just the way you're raised will steer you towards certain personalities and traits which can or cannot be influenced by culture.

Sure, that's why I said that if you yourself believe it, that's fine and cool with me. You have a right to choose who you want to be with. What I don't understand are people who say that they know these views are wrong or racist or whatever, that they want to be with other people but they can't because of "culture" or because of "tradition". I just don't understand that part.

[Syne]

In short, no. I tired, didn't work well with them.

Even though it is my life and I can make my own final decision, I cannot overlook the fact that my parents have raised me well and dating/marrying someone from my race will mean alot more to them than it will to me.

I should think that the person you fall in love with and marry will mean a lot more to you than it will to your parents..

[ovechkin1]

personal preference dictates my choice not to date anything except white and Asian.

[mucat]

Does your family support you dating outside your own race?

I don't know. Let me go ask my wife...

[jaysfan4life]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

My parents won't care. My Dad was married to a white lady when he lived in England and 5/8 of his great grand parents were white. Many of my cousins are in interracial marrages.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

My parents would be concerned if I brought home a Chiense guy. Simply because the majority of their interactions over them many year of living in Toronto have not been very positive. I have dated a few but it never got too serious. Mind you one is my grandmothers grand parents was Hakka Chiense.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?
No I do what I want I was never tought to hate.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

When people don't understand they hate. That's one issue with Canadian culture people accept what they see on the news or tv. Sometimes it's all about patents not wanting their grand children that look different then there friends or famlies grand kids.

[a-tree]

Is this the same girl that walked out on you because of your incessant butchering of the robot?

[peanutz]

Too tangled and complicated to get into the specifics about, but I will say that race does matter especially to my parents, with a more supportive stance to our race (and even more so for our specific ethnicity.)

Too bad, so sad. They know they can't stop me.

[Syne]

Is this the same girl that walked out on you because of your incessant butchering of the robot?

We made up by agreeing to add a 4th rule to Isaac Asimov's list..

[goodguy90]

Race matters to my parents. Not to me.

I think they'd get over it if they had to though.

[AudiDude]

1. Yes
2. No
3. Nothing influences my decision on who I would date, but there are no attitudes to influence me. I'm not too much of a family person, so lets just say if they "disowned" me, I couldn't care less as I get no handouts or help from them.
4. Have no clue. If you wanted to stick to your own, you'd have more success in your originating country.

[Royalsoldier]

My father is from an isolated place in Europe and he is incredibly racist against anyone of darker sin - Africans/Indians (not Native) for example. He was raised to think like that, so it's programmed into his brain. I refused to bring an Indian girl I was seeing at the time to meet him (she requested to because family is incredibly important over there) - it would of been a complete disaster.

[diggler649]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

1. My parents have always preferred that I do interracial dating. They did not want me dating a Chinese girl. (they were right - lol!)

2. Somalian. Guyanese. (don't ask me why)

3. Somalian, yes. Everyone else no. I would date the entire Benetton ad if I could.

4. Contamination of the gene pool? Who knows? Although, I could see where kissing may be an issue. If you're two Asians with flat faces, kissing is easier than if you're an Asian with a flat face kissing a Caucasian with a pointy nose. The Asian may feel the pointy nose is getting in the way.

[diggler649]

My father is from an isolated place in Europe and he is incredibly racist against anyone of darker sin - Africans/Indians (not Native) for example. He was raised to think like that, so it's programmed into his brain. I refused to bring an Indian girl I was seeing at the time to meet him (she requested to because family is incredibly important over there) - it would of been a complete disaster.

Whereabouts in Europe, my friend?

[opento]

I know that this has the potential to turn into a crapstorm, but before people cry, "In before the lock!", let's give Mr. LaForge a rest for a minute and try to have a mature discussion about race.

Now I'm dating a mulatto girl and have been for some time, and nobody in my life has ever said a (negative) word about it. In the past, I've been open to dating all races and still would in the future. However, I was recently reading a thread on a US message board and the attitudes expressed within really surprised me. There does seem to be a very charged atmosphere with regard to interracial dating down south. I felt like I'd walked into a time warp. Even in 2012, these attitudes persist in some areas of the world. Most younger people said that it wasn't such an issue for them, but their family would give them much grief if they decided to date outside of their own race.

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

Yes, my family sees no problem with that as long as it's Asian.

[stealth]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Mostly no.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Really want to go there? lets say the more different in appearance and culture from ourselves, the more objection they would have. Why? combination of ideals of wanting racial purity, stereotypes, and some genuine negative experiences with some ppl of other races.
3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Nope. Was always a rebel. That said, i havent had many opportunities to date outside my race, unfortunately.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?
Again stserotypes, and maybe one bit of truth: It can be so hard to make relationships work without even adding the inter racial component to one.

[UrbanPoet]

They don't care.
They never talked bad about the interracial relationships I've been in. But they'd give off that "oh wow... Really?" type of vibe.
But they prefer I marry within our race.

[uber_shnitz]

Well there's also the point of "people like what they know". When dating and marrying outside your race and culture, you're exposing yourself to unknown factors. I mean, why else do you see ghettos and cliques form in cities/schools based on race/culture? Because people like being around similar people. Dating outside your culture means learning the other person's culture, adapting to it and sometimes having to compromise on certain aspects you might not enjoy about said culture. Just like every other aspect of a relationship, there will be points where one party doesn't want to compromise or cannot deal with the difference so it doesn't work out. Being from different cultures just increases the chances of that happening.

[djemzine]

1.) No they won't. They'll flip out.

2.) Whites/Caucasians. Especially Muslims. Reason - cultural difference, especially with Muslims

3.) It does influence me and I will marry someone of my race and caste.

4.) It has to do with cultural difference and religion mostly. Example, in our Indian traditions/culture, we follow certain rules, holidays, etc. If we were to marry one of a different race/culture, it'd be the total opposite. I could carry on with this but its too much to explain heh.

[Hitman21]

1.) Most of them would definitely not support an interracial relationship

2.) Yes but its better if I dont mention it

3.) No, I make my own decisions

4.) Because many people dont want to date someone who is different such as different race, they also might not be attracted to them. There are also some people who are racist. There are also others who believe there gene pool will be diluted and want to keep it pure. As well there are others who believe there too good to date outside there race and feel superior.

Finally I believe there are people who aren't happy with being there race and date people of other races because they are self-hating

[Lucky0810]

I know that this has the potential to turn into a crapstorm, but before people cry, "In before the lock!", let's give Mr. LaForge a rest for a minute and try to have a mature discussion about race.

Now I'm dating a mulatto girl and have been for some time, and nobody in my life has ever said a (negative) word about it. In the past, I've been open to dating all races and still would in the future. However, I was recently reading a thread on a US message board and the attitudes expressed within really surprised me. There does seem to be a very charged atmosphere with regard to interracial dating down south. I felt like I'd walked into a time warp. Even in 2012, these attitudes persist in some areas of the world. Most younger people said that it wasn't such an issue for them, but their family would give them much grief if they decided to date outside of their own race.

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

1. They would support me but be very upset and resistant for the first few years. Eventually they would come around. But the Amt of resistance would depend on the race. More resistance for black guys vs white. Idk how they'd react if I dated a Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese, etc. I think they'd laugh at first lol

2. They would definitely object to middle easterners and other Muslim people. . I'm a girl so they're especially worried about me marrying into that culture/religion because of their extremisms related to how women should act. Obviously my parents are conservative compared to Canadian culture but it scares them to think of me being married into a more restrictive and ultra conservative environment. They know the guy could be normal bit they're concerned about how the guys family would be if theyre Muslim. And this is because of what they've seen with Muslim families (in our country and in Canada), news stories, stereotypes, etc

3. Yes it would influence me for sure to a certain extent. But I would also take into account my own preferences and my own experiences with certai races. Of course not everyone in a certain race is alike, etc. So based on my parents values and my own experiences, for example, I would probably date every culture/race except Muslims.

4. Because of different practices, values, beliefs, and freedoms and understanding of what's acceptable. A persons thinking is the most important so If their values don't correspond to yours how do you really make it work? And it also has to do with a persons family and how they'd accept you and treat you (to a certain extent).

[manmanny]

I know that this has the potential to turn into a crapstorm, but before people cry, "In before the lock!", let's give Mr. LaForge a rest for a minute and try to have a mature discussion about race.

Now I'm dating a mulatto girl and have been for some time, and nobody in my life has ever said a (negative) word about it. In the past, I've been open to dating all races and still would in the future. However, I was recently reading a thread on a US message board and the attitudes expressed within really surprised me. There does seem to be a very charged atmosphere with regard to interracial dating down south. I felt like I'd walked into a time warp. Even in 2012, these attitudes persist in some areas of the world. Most younger people said that it wasn't such an issue for them, but their family would give them much grief if they decided to date outside of their own race.

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

But its OK you use the term for the girl above?:confused:

[NorthYorker]

the children are really cute.Congrats :)
This brings back a memory. The hottest girl I've ever seen in my life was from very mixed family, as far as "ethnicity" is concerned. Jewish, Ukrainian, Korean, Uzbek, probably something else too. Basically, picture Aishwarya Rai with a sprinkle of Koo Hye Sun thrown in for more exotic look...

And my answers to OP (and, since I'm married for quite a long time, I will be talking from the "family" point of view, as in "what would be your reaction if your child/cousin/family member enters interracial dating"):
1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?
Neither support nor object. We would be a bit worried for him/her because of "intercultural" thingy, regardless of a partner's skin colour. Relationships between different cultures are hard, and we all wish the very best to our family member. If they are able to overcome cultural barriers, we wish them all the best.
2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?
In all fairness, blacks would warrant a harder look. You see, we're Jewish, a tribe which favours brains over brawn, and a lot of blacks are "extroverted" types, favouring looks/physical prowess over bookishness. That being said, if my kids hook up with kids of my black neighbour (a brain surgeon), I would be happy :)
4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?
I believe intercultural problems are very real, but taking into account skin color is just a bigotry.

[Lucky0810]

But its OK you use the term for the girl above?:confused:

Lol I was thinking the same thing cuz isn't the term mullato considered offensive and derogatory? Lol at least thats what i learned in English class when we were studying huckleberry finn wayyyyyyy back in 10th grade. Lol

[manmanny]

Lol I was thinking the same thing cuz isn't the term mullato considered offensive and derogatory? Lol at least thats what i learned in English class when we were studying huckleberry finn wayyyyyyy back in 10th grade. Lol

RFD users are ignorant to use these terms. Not a single one is protesting. May be they don't see it as racist. But imagine if it was against Chinese or Muslims. The whole RFD would come down hard.
Its a shame. This is clearly a racist,, plantation word originating from Mule.

[NorthYorker]

RFD users are ignorant to use these terms.I've briefly Googled it, and most sources call the term "outdated" but not "offensive". It seems to me that this is one of those borderline-acceptable terms. However, I do believe that some mixed race folks can find it offensive.

[forthewinwin]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?
2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?
3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?
4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?


1) Not at all. They are extremely traditional and are very against me dating outside my race.

2) Hard to say... it's difficult to bring up this topic in the family discussion(s) in the first place, but based on their attitude, it's most likely white people, based on the stereotypes of the higher breakup/divorce and lawsuit rates (i.e. asset splitting and sueing each other more than our asian counterparts), and partly because asian people tend to be nationalistic.

3) They make me uncomfortable and a little guilty, but I don't like to judge people based on their race so I choose who I date regardless of race.
I do understand that these stereotypes do exist and are proven in statistics, but I realize that are outliers- that is, not everyone is the same. And there are things that bother me about the culture in my own race as well as others, so it evens out :lol:

4) Perhaps due to cultural differences, or nationalistic feelings.

[sandikosh]

Personally, I wouldn't marry a black woman. The problems the black is experiencing today, I would fear for my children's future.

[Katchemash]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?


1) Depends on the ethnicity. If say African-American or African origin, then no, they would not support it. If it was Chinese (as an Uyghur) then they would have a huge problem as well.

2) The Chinese due to their action is East Turkestan.

3) Definately. Have to keep my tribal honor intact.

4) Don't know but I've never met a inter-mixed couple that were friends so I don't know.

[manmanny]

Personally, I wouldn't marry a black woman. The problems the black is experiencing today, I would fear for my children's future.
I see what you did there.

[flashy_mcflash]

My parents didn't care that I entered into an interracial relationship, and neither did hers.

[Aznsilvrboy]

We never talked about it but I don't think they care. If I had to pick one race that I think they would be less comfortable with it's the blacks.

[uber_shnitz]

I wonder if the interracial feelings extend to friends as well? Multiethnic friend circles are very popular compared to interracial couples I'd guess.

[Royalsoldier]

Whereabouts in Europe, my friend?

Portugal (Azores Islands). An extremely isolated area. People over there are not only racist, but incredibly superstitious. I never got along with that side of the family and avoid seeing them as much as I can.

[Wing Nut]

My wife doesn't let me date, regardless of race. She's funny that way.

[goodguy90]

Portugal (Azores Islands). An extremely isolated area. People over there are not only racist, but incredibly superstitious. I never got along with that side of the family and avoid seeing them as much as I can.

I know loads of Portuguese people.

The Azoreans and continentals don't always seem to get along.

[junot111]

my dad wants me to get with a natural blonde and make blonde asian babies

[d182]

So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

1. Yes

2. Yes - I won't name which one (I'm Chinese)

3. I date who I want.

4. Culture - People don't want to date others who are dissimilar. Personally, I don't think its a big deal if its just to date. What better way to learn about different cultures :) Getting married however, is a different story altogether.

[Jordan866]

Of course they would support me. This is 2012 we are living in! If you haven't figured out that all people are equal yet, then you must be ***** . If some girl makes you happy, it doesn't matter what race she is.

Would you rather be a relationship with a person where you aren't truly happy, but you just did it to make your parents happy?? Doesn't make sense to me...

[diggler649]

Of course they would support me. This is 2012 we are living in! If you haven't figured out that all people are equal yet, then you must be ***** . If some girl makes you happy, it doesn't matter what race she is.

Would you rather be a relationship with a person where you aren't truly happy, but you just did it to make your parents happy?? Doesn't make sense to me...

Depends. Are we talking about getting cut out of any inheritance if one marries said race on the no-fly list?

[djemzine]

Of course they would support me. This is 2012 we are living in! If you haven't figured out that all people are equal yet, then you must be ***** . If some girl makes you happy, it doesn't matter what race she is.

Would you rather be a relationship with a person where you aren't truly happy, but you just did it to make your parents happy?? Doesn't make sense to me...

You have a point that yes this is 2012 and the 21st century, but you have to think the other way - cultural differences, etc. Let me give you an example of my situation or whatever. I'm an East Indian, and as any East Indian born and raised in an orthodox East Indian home with utmost consideration for religion and culture, it will be a different situation if there is the whole dating/marriage situation with a non East Indian.

We follow certain traditions and customs, especially if one is vegetarian in which case I am. If I do end up dating/marrying a non East Indian, I don't think I will get the same authentic Indian food as I would if I were to marry an East Indian of the same caste - aka Brahmins. My parents won't mind if I don't marry a South Indian, but as long as she's Indian and a Brahmin, well that's what counts. For the situation in religion/customs, take for example, us South Indians/Brahmins celebrate a function that others in India don't. True a non Indian wife will try to adjust, but to what extent? Not being mean or rude her but just mentioning the fact here.

I've had South Indian and Brahmin friends date other races and ended up marrying them, to which of course their parents were not happy at all but had no choice. I personally, don't want to do that to be honest and follow in that line.

As for the subject of arranged marriages, its not like back in ancient times where the parents choose the girl and you have to marry the one they choose. Nowadays in present day society or rather 2012, the children have the final right in say whether to marry or not and move onto a different one.

[iEyeCaptain]

Depends. Are we talking about getting cut out of any inheritance if one marries said race on the no-fly list?

why do you need inheritance? you're a UHNWMB. you can support yourself.

OP: sure.

[Simaahoy]

Depends. Are we talking about getting cut out of any inheritance if one marries said race on the no-fly list?

What race is on the no fly list?

[diggler649]

why do you need inheritance? you're a UHNWMB. you can support yourself.

OP: sure.

I'm referring to this one of a kind rare Ming Dynasty Chinese wine jug that has been in my family for generations. I couldn't care less about the house or money.


What race is on the no fly list?

Depends what race A is:

Portuguese - no dark skin
Chinese - no blacks, no darker skinned Asian
Black - no blacks
Russian - no blacks, no Uzbeks
Indian - no blacks, no Pakistanis
Korean - no non-Korean
Spaniards - no Mexicans

[BongoBong]

Would be hard for them to object since I am a halfer.

[Simaahoy]

I'm referring to this one of a kind rare Ming Dynasty Chinese wine jug that has been in my family for generations. I couldn't care less about the house or money.



Depends what race A is:

Portuguese - no dark skin
Chinese - no blacks, no darker skinned Asian
Black - no blacks
Russian - no blacks, no Uzbeks
Indian - no blacks, no Pakistanis
Korean - no non-Korean
Spaniards - no Mexicans

So, basically no blacks, brown, caramel colored Caucasian looking people in your books right? How about people that look Caucasian dipped in caramel? making judgments based on their skin color..smh.

[Blanket_Man]

My parent's aren't aware of what goes on in my social life. If I dated someone outside of my race would they care? I don't think so. They are all pretty apathetic when it comes to stuff like that. In any case, that issue would never come up because I'm more sensitive to racial stuff than they are. I feel like they have a really naive view of the world sometimes.

[sandikosh]

Would be hard for them to object since I am a halfer.

Half earthling, half martian? Half uranusian? Half plutonian? Half what?

[Mars2012]

You have a point that yes this is 2012 and the 21st century, but you have to think the other way - cultural differences, etc. Let me give you an example of my situation or whatever. I'm an East Indian, and as any East Indian born and raised in an orthodox East Indian home with utmost consideration for religion and culture, it will be a different situation if there is the whole dating/marriage situation with a non East Indian.

We follow certain traditions and customs, especially if one is vegetarian in which case I am. If I do end up dating/marrying a non East Indian, I don't think I will get the same authentic Indian food as I would if I were to marry an East Indian of the same caste - aka Brahmins. My parents won't mind if I don't marry a South Indian, but as long as she's Indian and a Brahmin, well that's what counts. For the situation in religion/customs, take for example, us South Indians/Brahmins celebrate a function that others in India don't. True a non Indian wife will try to adjust, but to what extent? Not being mean or rude her but just mentioning the fact here.

I've had South Indian and Brahmin friends date other races and ended up marrying them, to which of course their parents were not happy at all but had no choice. I personally, don't want to do that to be honest and follow in that line.

As for the subject of arranged marriages, its not like back in ancient times where the parents choose the girl and you have to marry the one they choose. Nowadays in present day society or rather 2012, the children have the final right in say whether to marry or not and move onto a different one.
My husband works with an Indian man whose daughter got married last year. There was always an understanding between this man and his sister that their children would get married. So last year, his daughter and her son got married...in Saskatoon...in 2011. How effed up is that, to marry your first cousin?

I think you should marry who you want, you are the one who has to live with the person...as far as I'm concerned, it's no one else's business.

[BongoBong]

Half earthling, half martian? Half uranusian? Half plutonian? Half what?

That's for me to know and you to find out ;)

Or I am half Chinese half Irish

[Wing Nut]

That's for me to know and you to find out ;)

Or I am half Chinese half Irish

Half country and half rock 'n roll, like the song?

Admit that I'm right.

[djemzine]

My husband works with an Indian man whose daughter got married last year. There was always an understanding between this man and his sister that their children would get married. So last year, his daughter and her son got married...in Saskatoon...in 2011. How effed up is that, to marry your first cousin?

I think you should marry who you want, you are the one who has to live with the person...as far as I'm concerned, it's no one else's business.

Yes it is totally effed up for sure. That was a thing of the past, don't see how it could still happen. Really weird. Well you do have a point for sure.

[walleye*guy]

No problem with the family and dating outside of the race....
Grandparents tho, would have thrown an embolism.....

However dating outside of the species is a different thing

[BongoBong]

Half country and half rock 'n roll, like the song?

Admit that I'm right.

Must delete account now that I have been found out. Thanks.

[its_mo]

lol at this thread

can't believe their are grown men/women who let their parents dictate their lives to this extent, especially when it comes to something are personal as this.

[sandikosh]

lol at this thread

can't believe their are grown men/women who let their parents dictate their lives to this extent, especially when it comes to something are personal as this.

When you still love at home, you got to obey the rules!

[Heero01]

My husband works with an Indian man whose daughter got married last year. There was always an understanding between this man and his sister that their children would get married. So last year, his daughter and her son got married...in Saskatoon...in 2011. How effed up is that, to marry your first cousin?

I think you should marry who you want, you are the one who has to live with the person...as far as I'm concerned, it's no one else's business.

lol, I have an even more messed story. My sisters caucasion friend in chicago got pregnant by her stepdads son when she was 16. Aborted the child and now 4 years later is dating the stepdad and prego. Not sure who dad is tho... in Chicago...in 2012. How effed up is that, to be prego with your stepbrother AND THEN your stepdad.

Messed up world eh? I guess it isn't just Indians.

Edit: and BTW... if weird, incesest hill billy stuff was going to happen anywhere in Canada it would be in saskatchewon. Why does that surprise you LOL? You live in the country.

[Syne]

I've never had step-siblings, but I've always thought it unfair that a parent's relationship with another unrelated person could somehow disqualify people you could have a relationship with.

If two people grew up together, weren't related and found love with one another, I wouldn't judge.. but yeah, the rest of that story is a little messed up.

[spintheblackcircle]

For baseline purposes, I'm a WASP (do people still use that term?). By default I have the highest ranking in society and the least amount of cultural practices...

Moving on...

1) I basically exclusively dated Asian women (Chinese/Filipino/Japanese) women for 7'ish years. Fiance is Japanese (Canadian born) and both our parents were ecstatic about our engagement. My mother actually thought we were going to say she was pregnant and not engaged when we told her. She would have been thrilled either way. While I have not dated any other "non-white" woman, they wouldn't care.

2) No

3) No, and it wouldn't matter anyway because I'm an adult. As any good WASP child, my parents wanted me out of the house ASAP. I also only see family generally on holidays, speak to them sparingly, and express recognition with quick sideways glances (or the "sup" chin jerk).

4) I'll keep my comments about the general public to myself (this time).

[Mars2012]

Edit: and BTW... if weird, incesest hill billy stuff was going to happen anywhere in Canada it would be in saskatchewon. Why does that surprise you LOL? You live in the country.
Saskatoon is hardly "deliverance" country, no matter what people out East may think. But, yeah, I agree your story is definitely more weird.

[Oscillator]

1) My dad nor siblings wouldn't care, but my mom is adamant that I marry a girl from my own ethnicity and I believe certain members of my extended family would object to it.

2) Whites for the most part, everyone else is fair game. Why? It would be too offensive if I were to paraphrase the reasoning here to people on here. I'm Mestizo so you can probably guess why.

3) Not going to lie, yes it does. I'm perfectly fine with dating girls I'm attracted from different ethnicities, but I'll never marry a girl from a different ethnic group. Marriage is already hard enough to make it work given the divorce rates, so why make it that much more difficult with the major cultural differences?

4) I really don't think its as much of a big deal here than in certain parts of the South in the U.S. Speaking from experience, racial identity means a lot to people there and its like a way of life for some.

[Agafaba]

Saskatoon is hardly "deliverance" country, no matter what people out East may think. But, yeah, I agree your story is definitely more weird.

Its far too cold in the winter for anything weird to happen in Saskatoon, you just pray for 5 months that its not too windy.

[kingrukus]

My parents have encouraged me to date outside of my race, because most of the girls in my race are trash. I went on a date with a pretty russian girl two weeks ago - I am no where being close to european. She had more typical slavic features, was well educated, independent, etc. The conversation was great, the date went well, but I never bothered with her after - I just didn't feel the chemistry. Simply put, I am still attracted to my trashy own type.

[thestar99]

My family is ok with everyone except blacks and muslims.

[Canada_7]

I'm in an interracial relationship right now myself. My parents don't care that she's Caucasian (I'm Chinese). They don't have any issue with me dating outside my own race. For me personally, I don't really care for what race a girl is. My GF and I do crack jokes about us being of different backgrounds though.

[diggler649]

So, basically no blacks, brown, caramel colored Caucasian looking people in your books right? How about people that look Caucasian dipped in caramel? making judgments based on their skin color..smh.

I'm fine with any of the above. Like I said before, i will date/sleep with the entire Benetton ad. The list is referring to certain races that probably wouldn't date other races.

[thestar99]

I notice that Asian parents are ok when they date whites but flip out when it's black

[Hitman21]

My parents have encouraged me to date outside of my race, because most of the girls in my race are trash. I went on a date with a pretty russian girl two weeks ago - I am no where being close to european. She had more typical slavic features, was well educated, independent, etc. The conversation was great, the date went well, but I never bothered with her after - I just didn't feel the chemistry. Simply put, I am still attracted to my trashy own type.

Most of the girls in your race are trash?:confused: What race are you?

[kingrukus]

Most of the girls in your race are trash?:confused: What race are you?

I am blue. http://adriandparker.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/blue-people-avatar_jamescameron.jpg

[BluePhirePB]

I notice that Asian parents are ok when they date whites but flip out when it's blackThey think all black people are some how linked or related to violent black people. I'm not trying to be racist or call out stereotypes about black people but that's how a lot of Asian parents think.

On a side note, when you're a Chinese (male at least), it's a potential loose/loose situation when you date (assuming you have traditional Chinese parents):

1) If you date Chinese, they'll be happy but you run the risk of having two sets of super strict parents hovering over you
2) If you date non-chinese, they'll rip on the female for every imperfection she has (physical, mental, psychological etc.)

I fit into the latter category. My now Wife still gets ripped on left/right/centre from my mom in particular although she won't outright say she dislikes her.

[diggler649]

They think all black people are some how linked or related to violent black people. I'm not trying to be racist or call out stereotypes about black people but that's how a lot of Asian parents think.

On a side note, when you're a Chinese (male at least), it's a potential loose/loose situation when you date (assuming you have traditional Chinese parents):

1) If you date Chinese, they'll be happy but you run the risk of having two sets of super strict parents hovering over you
2) If you date non-chinese, they'll rip on the female for every imperfection she has (physical, mental, psychological etc.)

I fit into the latter category. My now Wife still gets ripped on left/right/centre from my mom in particular although she won't outright say she dislikes her.

My ex mother-in-law hated me and would always criticize me (behind my back). It all started early in my marriage and I told my mother-in-law that if she was on life support with no chance of recovery, I would want to pull the cord because there's no point in taking up valuable resources for someone else who may need it.

[paradigmGT3]

I notice that Asian parents are ok when they date whites but flip out when it's black
It isn't only asian parents. Parents of all other races other than black do not like their offspring dating black - I have seen this. It is not just because they are linked to crime, but because of other habits associated with them. It is unfortunate as there is good in every race.

[BluePhirePB]

My ex mother-in-law hated me and would always criticize me (behind my back). It all started early in my marriage and I told my mother-in-law that if she was on life support with no chance of recovery, I would want to pull the cord because there's no point in taking up valuable resources for someone else who may need it.Yup, that's how it is with my traditional Chinese mom and my Caucasian wife. It's always an awkward discomforting experience when we have dinner at my parents' place. She will constantly say things in Cantonese while she's there and claim it's because "her English is bad". She'll openly rip on her too followed by an immature giggle. My Wife knows something's up but to be respectful she doesn't say anything. It's so sad because I love both my Wife and parents but I can't reason with my mom to stop or she'll turn the tables and start bringing up my imperfections.

inb4urapussy

[kingrukus]

Yup, that's how it is with my traditional Chinese mom and my Caucasian wife. It's always an awkward discomforting experience when we have dinner at my parents' place. She will constantly say things in Cantonese while she's there and claim it's because "her English is bad". She'll openly rip on her too followed by an immature giggle. My Wife knows something's up but to be respectful she doesn't say anything. It's so sad because I love both my Wife and parents but I can't reason with my mom to stop or she'll turn the tables and start bringing up my imperfections.

inb4urapussy

Grow a pair dude - I would not tolerate that for a second. Kick your wife to the curb and move back home with mommy and daddy.

[Insider]

I have responded in bold.




So being the progressive mosaic that we are, I wonder how Canada's people would reply when asked the same question.

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?
yes. all my siblings have married outside our own ethnicity.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?
no. and it's sad that this is cause for concern to some.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?
I am dating who I want, and she is outside of my ethnicity.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?
some people are ignorant and/or bigots and stuck in the past.
no idea. and it bothers me to an extent. when my lady friend and I go out, we get stares all the time - we call these people our 'fan club'. I understand if people may not approve, but keep your opinions to yourself.

Please don't say anything inflammatory or bigoted that might get this thread locked. Thanks in advance. :)

[diggler649]

Yup, that's how it is with my traditional Chinese mom and my Caucasian wife. It's always an awkward discomforting experience when we have dinner at my parents' place. She will constantly say things in Cantonese while she's there and claim it's because "her English is bad". She'll openly rip on her too followed by an immature giggle. My Wife knows something's up but to be respectful she doesn't say anything. It's so sad because I love both my Wife and parents but I can't reason with my mom to stop or she'll turn the tables and start bringing up my imperfections.

inb4urapussy

I'm currently dating (that's a strong word, maybe "seeing" is better) a white girl and there is no way in hell I will introduce her to my mother. In fact, there is no way in hell I would introduce any girl to my mother until we have been together for at least 5 years.

[stealth]

It isn't only asian parents. Parents of all other races other than black do not like their offspring dating black - I have seen this. It is not just because they are linked to crime, but because of other habits associated with them. It is unfortunate as there is good in every race.

It does seem like blacks get it the worst from all the other races usually. except maybe hispanics.

[hagbard]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.

[neutral]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.

I don't think this thread has confirmed that at all.

[Hitman21]

I don't think this thread has confirmed that at all.


It has, it shows many white people are open while others are very racist

[uber_shnitz]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.

Correction: white parents are the least racist parents :lol: Or at least they're the ones who care the least.

[manmanny]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.
Kudos to you sir for telling the truth.


It does seem like blacks get it the worst from all the other races usually. except maybe hispanics.
True or may be they have problems with everyone for whatever reason.

[Wilmega]

Im asian - my parents don't care. Unfortunately the type of girls I go for - their parents wouldn't approve of her dating outside of their own culture

[neutral]

It does seem like blacks get it the worst from all the other races usually. except maybe hispanics.
That's true to an extent, but it seems a lot of their daughters get off on the idea of this forbidden fruit if you will.

[Hitman21]

That's true to an extent, but it seems a lot of their daughters get off on the idea of this forbidden fruit if you will.

I know many of these women and they actually have good reasons for dating outside there race

[lazymonkeygod]

As long as I don't bring them home it's ok.

[kingrukus]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.

Not at all. I know of white parents who absolutely hate their offspring dating any color other than than their own - its more a cultural thing, they want their kids dating their culture. Basically any very "cultured", closed minded recent immigrant family wants their offspring sticking to the same culture. This is very true of 1st gen immigrants of all colors.

[kingrukus]

That's true to an extent, but it seems a lot of their daughters get off on the idea of this forbidden fruit if you will.
It makes for good videos on the internet.

[diggler649]

That's true to an extent, but it seems a lot of their daughters get off on the idea of this forbidden fruit if you will.


I know many of these women and they actually have good reasons for dating outside there race

As an FYI, black women love Asian guys. FACT.

[AudiDude]

As an FYI, black women love Asian guys. FACT.

Ok, the logic on that one doesn't fit with what I have seen. I know of ZERO black girls that have dated an Asian or expressed any interest in dating one either. That combo has yet to pop up in my day to day observations. Not saying it can't happen, but never have I seen it.

I did find this guy on the internet, but I still haven't seen it with my own eyes...



I'm an asian guy and I like girls with large breast, skinny waist, and round, plump booty. I think skin color is like the 4th or 5th thing I notice about a girl. Your friends are wrong or perhaps racist. I know many asian guys dating black girls

[diggler649]

Ok, the logic on that one doesn't fit with what I have seen. I know of ZERO black girls that have dated an Asian or expressed any interest in dating one either. That combo has yet to pop up in my day to day observations. Not saying it can't happen, but never have I seen it.

I did find this guy on the internet, but I still haven't seen it with my own eyes...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUW0_iXuifg&feature=related

[Heero01]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.

Lol... yes because a sample of people posting on RFD confirms white people are the least racist.

Ask any immigrant from 30 or 40 years ago if white ppl are the least racist. My dad still has new stories to tell about how white ppl treated him when he first came to Canada from India.

Luckily now it isn't so prevalent, unfortunately it still exists.



It does seem like blacks get it the worst from all the other races usually. except maybe hispanics.

Unfortunately yes. For whatever reason, I find that white ppl treat other immigrants better then they do blacks. I suppose it just has to do with stereotypes and black celebrities on TV.

[BluePhirePB]

I'm currently dating (that's a strong word, maybe "seeing" is better) a white girl and there is no way in hell I will introduce her to my mother. In fact, there is no way in hell I would introduce any girl to my mother until we have been together for at least 5 years.Smart move.

We went over to my parents' house for dinner this past Sunday because it was my mom's birthday. Typically my mom barely celebrates her birthday but we thought it'd be nice. The whole time it was awkward silence because my parents barely speak. Instead, my dad yelled at me a couple times as if to assert his authority in front of my wife. To make matters worse, they brought up something that's taboo about her family and I shouldn't have told my parents earlier. Needless to say, my wife was not happy and I had this look of fear on my face and lost my appetite because I knew I was gonna get in ***** for mentioning it to my family.

On the car ride back, I explained the context of why said taboo was revealed and she understood and said it wasn't my fault. My parents knew they overstepped their boundaries but like a typical Chinese parent, didn't admit fault or apologize. Fast forward to today, my mom ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO CALL ME AT MY OFFICE TO YELL AT ME AND TELL ME IT'S OUR FAULT IT HAPPENED. She took the time to talk to my dad and together they formulated a defense that put me and my wife at fault. My wife was at fault for being over sensitive and I was at fault for being "dramatic" and not being able to stand up to my wife. She basically called me a ***** for not standing on their side that day and making it a 3 vs. 1 against my wife. And to add insult to injury, they claimed that they knew about said taboo last year and hence made it fair topic to discuss.

I seriously wanna off myself right now.

[deltone]

From the perspective of a parent:

One of my sons is married to a Hispanic gal and I love her to death. She is one of the finest people I know and I couldn't be happier that he married her. They have an adorable son and another on the way. Her being Hispanic has never been a problem for anyone in my family.

One of my sons dated a bi-racial gal and I really liked her a lot. Sadly it didn't work out. (She apparently had trust issues and my son couldn't handle it so they split so it had nothing to do with cultural differences). She was Chinese/White.

My daughter dated an Asian guy for close to 7 years. Her dad and I love him and were very sad when she split up with him. He still comes over to visit us and he will hopefully always be a part of our lives. He's a fine young man and his being Asian has never been a concern to anyone in our immediate or extended family. Even my in-laws who I thought would have a problem with it did not. (They are Italian).

In my extended family (which is a huge family) we have a lot of family who are with people of other races including Black, Sri Lankan, Muslim (not a race, I know), Filipino to name a few.

I don't care what colour or race a person is as long as he or she is a good person. I am white and I would rather see my daughter with a decent, nice person of a different race, than with some redneck, nasty horrible white guy. The race is not the issue, it's the character of the person.

I have to admit that I would have a problem if my daughter was in a relationship with someone of a religion and or culture that does not treat or respect females with the same ideals that I hold but at the end of the day, that would be her decision.

[diggler649]

Smart move.

We went over to my parents' house for dinner this past Sunday because it was my mom's birthday. Typically my mom barely celebrates her birthday but we thought it'd be nice. The whole time it was awkward silence because my parents barely speak. Instead, my dad yelled at me a couple times as if to assert his authority in front of my wife. To make matters worse, they brought up something that's taboo about her family and I shouldn't have told my parents earlier. Needless to say, my wife was not happy and I had this look of fear on my face and lost my appetite because I knew I was gonna get in ***** for mentioning it to my family.

On the car ride back, I explained the context of why said taboo was revealed and she understood and said it wasn't my fault. My parents knew they overstepped their boundaries but like a typical Chinese parent, didn't admit fault or apologize. Fast forward to today, my mom ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO CALL ME AT MY OFFICE TO YELL AT ME AND TELL ME IT'S OUR FAULT IT HAPPENED. She took the time to talk to my dad and together they formulated a defense that put me and my wife at fault. My wife was at fault for being over sensitive and I was at fault for being "dramatic" and not being able to stand up to my wife. She basically called me a ***** for not standing on their side that day and making it a 3 vs. 1 against my wife. And to add insult to injury, they claimed that they knew about said taboo last year and hence made it fair topic to discuss.

I seriously wanna off myself right now.

What was taboo that was discussed?

First, no matter what, you definitely have to take your wife's side. Even if she is wrong, it is an unwritten rule of marriage. Secondly, your parents are no different than other typical Asian parent out there. They always think they're right, they have these stupid beliefs that are passed down from generation to generation and they will always look at you as a mindless child, even if you were 60 and they were 90. And kudos to your wife for not releasing white rage on them. I bet she must not be Irish because them girls have tempers!

I wouldn't feel too bad about what happened. Heck, if you're not up for a huge inheritance, threathen to send them to the Yee Hong Geriatric Centre early if they keep up with their shenanigans.

[windforcexx28]

I don't think my parents care, but they do prefer within the same racial background, which fits my personal preference as well.

[BluePhirePB]

What was taboo that was discussed?

First, no matter what, you definitely have to take your wife's side. Even if she is wrong, it is an unwritten rule of marriage. Secondly, your parents are no different than other typical Asian parent out there. They always think they're right, they have these stupid beliefs that are passed down from generation to generation and they will always look at you as a mindless child, even if you were 60 and they were 90. And kudos to your wife for not releasing white rage on them. I bet she must not be Irish because them girls have tempers!

I wouldn't feel too bad about what happened. Heck, if you're not up for a huge inheritance, threathen to send them to the Yee Hong Geriatric Centre early if they keep up with their shenanigans.Funny you should say that ... she is actually part Irish haha. I won't say what was taboo but it basically has to do with one member of her extended family being an "evil" person. It's an embarrassing part of their family but my dad treated it as a medical case and proceeded to tell her how she should handle things. I have been standing up for her with every piece of argument/evidence my mom's thrown at me today but you're right: I should have stood up then and there.


You are not obligated to visit your parents.

You do not have to bring your wife to see your parents.

You can go by yourself to visit your parents to bring them a Christmas / New Year's gift.

Get Bell Canada CALL DISPLAY for your phone
- don't answer when your parents call

-You too are correct. I do these things for my parents because I love them but at the same time and it's blind guilt that causes me to do these things. I need to start saying no. As for the phone calls, we do have Bell call display. They almost never call though.

[Mars2012]

Smart move.

We went over to my parents' house for dinner this past Sunday because it was my mom's birthday. Typically my mom barely celebrates her birthday but we thought it'd be nice. The whole time it was awkward silence because my parents barely speak. Instead, my dad yelled at me a couple times as if to assert his authority in front of my wife. To make matters worse, they brought up something that's taboo about her family and I shouldn't have told my parents earlier. Needless to say, my wife was not happy and I had this look of fear on my face and lost my appetite because I knew I was gonna get in ***** for mentioning it to my family.

On the car ride back, I explained the context of why said taboo was revealed and she understood and said it wasn't my fault. My parents knew they overstepped their boundaries but like a typical Chinese parent, didn't admit fault or apologize. Fast forward to today, my mom ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO CALL ME AT MY OFFICE TO YELL AT ME AND TELL ME IT'S OUR FAULT IT HAPPENED. She took the time to talk to my dad and together they formulated a defense that put me and my wife at fault. My wife was at fault for being over sensitive and I was at fault for being "dramatic" and not being able to stand up to my wife. She basically called me a ***** for not standing on their side that day and making it a 3 vs. 1 against my wife. And to add insult to injury, they claimed that they knew about said taboo last year and hence made it fair topic to discuss.

I seriously wanna off myself right now.
I understand what you are going through. Asian parents can be very difficult, to put it nicely. My only piece of advice is to take them for what they are: your parents. I would put up a (figurative) shield and not let them cross it. Let them have their say, but don't internalize any of their crap. They will always think they are right, and it does no good for you to argue. Same with your wife, she should know that there are other factors at play other than a lack of respect for her. I hope she is an understanding person and can overlook some of the in-law issues. I'm not saying give in to them, but you really need to pick your battles or you will go crazy. Sometimes it helps to talk to a professional.

Do this if you want them in your life, the other option is to limit their access to your company. I make a duty visit every year and the odd phone conversation, but that's it. My younger sister lives with mom and is severely depressed. Best of luck to you.

[BluePhirePB]

Thanks Mars. I've found it tough to stand up because in the past they've always used the "you don't care about us" guilt trip defense.

You guys are all correct. I do need to step it up.

Also your sister's condition sounds like my friend's predicament. She can't wait to GTFO.

[sweeper]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Yes, but it depends on the ethnicity. Caucasians and other East Asians (Japanese/Chinese/Korean) are fine.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Black girls.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

They don't really affect me as I prefer white girls and asian girls anyways.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Culture clash. Easier to date within "your own" and maintain your culture and ethnic background.

[sandikosh]

As an FYI, black women love Asian guys. FACT.

Prove it! A black woman with an asian guy is the rarest relationship of all! Also said pics of such relationships!

[mysticalinfluence]

As an FYI, black women love Asian guys. FACT.

As an FYI,You pulled this fact out of your butthole. FACT.

[diggler649]

Prove it! A black woman with an asian guy is the rarest relationship of all! Also said pics of such relationships!

I just posted a YouTube video of it on the previous page.

[diggler649]

As an FYI,You pulled this fact out of your butthole. FACT.

Don't steal my tag line. FACT.

[Simaahoy]

There are actually a lot of people who are black Asian

Usually the father is Chinese; mother is Jamaican, African-American , etc

or mother is Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, etc etc
father is African-American, African-Canadian, etc etc

There was a contestant on tv show Project Runway
her father is Chinese
her mother looks Indian

- if you saw this woman and her brothers, you would assume that they are Filipino, Vietnamese, Cambodian, Thai, Indonesian, etc

-

I met a half Somalian-Chinese in the US, he looked more Asian and tanned skinned..

[Simaahoy]

I just posted a YouTube video of it on the previous page.

A Horn-African girl blasted the African-American (woman) community for hating their race and desperate to have Asian baby-daddies because black men aren't interested in them. I can't find the vid though but tons of black people who got offended made video response. Search "Akat042001" .

[sandikosh]

I just posted a YouTube video of it on the previous page.

I don't want a video! I want pics of said mixed couples in everyday life. As you go about your day, take pics with your cellphone camera of these couples.

[Becks]

My family doesn't approve of inter-racial relationships.

Black people are objected to more because they are the darkest.

These attitudes don't influence me to any extent. I am influenced more by society/tv, but I am also aware of this.

Interracial relationships are such an issue because of the notion of racial purity and which race is better. All in all, I think people in general are ignorant and can't think logically. The fact that people are religious is an example of irrationality.

[feidailo]

yes. u know what they say "The darker the skin, the sweeter the juice"

[biee]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Yes, but it depends on the ethnicity. Caucasians and other East Asians (Japanese/Chinese/Korean) are fine.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Black girls.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

They don't really affect me as I prefer white girls and asian girls anyways.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

Culture clash. Easier to date within "your own" and maintain your culture and ethnic background.

+1!!!!!!!!

Same reasons

[Penny11]

1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity? Absolutely- though it's not like they had a choice. My husband is Asian and I am Caucasian. They love my husband for things that have nothing to do with race. I think they like him more than they like me!

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why? No. Those who are truly ignorant are ignorant to all. My cousin's 40 year old "exotic dancer" ex-wife was the worst but I digress. Even my 93 year old grandfather has learned to see beyond skin deep. I like to think that I can take some credit for that.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted? It sounds like you are assuming that people have encountered opposition from their family. I have always dated who I wanted and pretty much did whatever I wanted in my youth. I have zero tolerance for ignorant people, family or not. From a young age, my father and I would openly mock ignorant relatives. That's probably one of the rare instances over which we bonded as father and daughter.

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal? They are ignorant. My husband's father will never believe that my husband's dietary needs will be met with me as his wife. It has nothing to do with biological compatibility but has everything to do with making soup.

[Oscillator]

It has, it shows many white people are open while others are very racist

There's nothing racist about preferring your kids to marry within their own ethnic group/race. :facepalm:

[ali123]

The only reason my parents care is because people from our culture are getting assimilated to the local population. They're not hardcore about it. They won't mind if I date a chick from another race as long as she doesn't look like a slut and is respectful of other cultures.

[Simaahoy]

The correct terms are:

Racist (obsessed with race)
Ethnocentric (obsessed with ethnicity)
Xenophobia (fear of foreigners)

if someone is obsessed with religion
- what would they be called?


-

There's nothing wrong with sticking to your ethnicity & culture.

[HTTP04]

My parents are ok with other East Asians, and "Whites"

Blacks on the other hand...

[srgrant]

To all the guys that replied to question #2 I want to ask you this. What makes you think said race is interested in you anyway? LOL

I want to clarify that you may not physically have what it takes to date said race. I noticed black girls being the popular race of don't date. But from what I see black girls aren't dating out their race unless you fit the tall, dark and handsome category.

That being said this is 2012 do whatever it is you want lifes short. I'm successful with girls that fit the "urban" scene. If you haven't notice that's a popular scene right now so life's great :)

[jaxx lite]

Black / white
Black / Asian
are usually good looking

Naomi Campbell (born 22 May 1970) is an English model. Scouted at the age of 15, she established herself among the top three most recognisable and in-demand models of the late 1980s and early 1990s, and she was one of six models of her generation declared "supermodels" by the fashion world

Campbell was born in Streatham, South London, the daughter of Jamaican-born dancer Valerie Morris.

In accordance with her mother's wishes, Campbell has never met her father who abandoned her mother when she was four months pregnant and who went unnamed on her birth certificate.

She took on the surname Campbell from her mother's second marriage.
Her half-brother, Pierre, was born in 1986.

Campbell is of Afro-Jamaican descent, as well as of Chinese Jamaican ancestry through her paternal grandmother, who carried the family name Ming.

=

[Simaahoy]

There's no Asian supermodels either. ^^^

http://www.stylebistro.com/100+Hottest+Supermodels/articles/

Look at the top 20, all white accept for Iman and the Spanish woman. No Asians or Blacks. Iman looking better than some of these woman at 50.

[Hitman21]

As an FYI, black women love Asian guys. FACT.


Explain this please. I have never seen an asian guy with a black girl, I have seen some asian girls with black guys though

[jaysfan4life]

Explain this please. I have never seen an asian guy with a black girl, I have seen some asian girls with black guys though

This is the funniest thing ever... My Best friends Dad is Asian and her mother is Jamacian. You must live under a rock.

[Diafel]

>1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Probably. I know my parents would be disappointed if I had weird looking children. Nobody in their right mind wants a grandchild who looks nothing at all like them.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Black.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Not really.



4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

It's a big deal because it's not really natural (it's probably one of the rarest things in human history) and people also have sort of an innate reaction to seeing it. People tend to, consciously or subconsciously, look down on white males with Asian females because these males tend to be beta males or omega males who couldn't do better... good providers, but with generally low dating market value. Conversely, people look down on white women with... well, any other race, because it's seen almost like marrying down. This is probably the main reason, besides biology and children, that women are much more likely than men to date inside their race. I've noticed many middle-class or even upper-middle class white males with Asian females. I've noticed very few middle-class white women dating outside their race and when one does it raises a few eyebrows.

http://s12.postimage.org/s3sl6pfbv/1330773606542.jpg

[peanutz]

There's no Asian supermodels either. ^^^

http://www.stylebistro.com/100+Hottest+Supermodels/articles/

Look at the top 20, all white accept for Iman and the Spanish woman. No Asians or Blacks. Iman looking better than some of these woman at 50.Maybe not the Iman you were referring to, but Chanel Iman is Drop. Dead. Gorgeous.

[Mars2012]

It's a big deal because it's not really natural (it's probably one of the rarest things in human history) and people also have sort of an innate reaction to seeing it. People tend to, consciously or subconsciously, look down on white males with Asian females because these males tend to be beta males or omega males who couldn't do better... good providers, but with generally low dating market value. Conversely, people look down on white women with... well, any other race, because it's seen almost like marrying down. This is probably the main reason, besides biology and children, that women are much more likely than men to date inside their race. I've noticed many middle-class or even upper-middle class white males with Asian females. I've noticed very few middle-class white women dating outside their race and when one does it raises a few eyebrows.http://i.imgur.com/bgi2S.jpg
You are full of $hit...pardon my French.

[masterhapposai]

There's nothing wrong with sticking to your ethnicity & culture.

If you enforce it upon others or your kids through threats or discipline, yes that's Racist.

[diggler649]

Explain this please. I have never seen an asian guy with a black girl, I have seen some asian girls with black guys though

I'm not saying an Asian guy would date a black woman. Just that black women like Asian guys.

[diggler649]

The only reason my parents care is because people from our culture are getting assimilated to the local population. They're not hardcore about it. They won't mind if I date a chick from another race as long as she doesn't look like a slut and is respectful of other cultures.

Are you Guyanese?

[Forhad]

In a word NO!

[diggler649]

This is interesting. It's a reply rate of females to male senders by race on OKCupid - a dating site.

In other words, if you're an Asian or black male, you're screwed.


http://i49.tinypic.com/2vcut8n.png

[NorthYorker]

Thread confirms what I've always believed, white people are the least racist.Nope, thread confirms that exposure to other races and/or propaganda of ethnic peace and acceptability makes folks less racist, regardless of their own skin colour. India, with it's ethnic mixed population and racial prejudices co-existing side-by-side, tend to be a curious exception, but they have the caste system to blame (or bless) for that.

[NorthYorker]

Look at the top 20, all white accept for Iman and the Spanish woman. No Asians or Blacks. Tyra Banks and Naomi Campbell aren't what most people would call "white". So, 4 out of 20. Not a huge number, but models are modelling for predominantly white market, and humans tend to like what they're used to.

[iEyeCaptain]

4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal? They are ignorant. My husband's father will never believe that my husband's dietary needs will be met with me as his wife. It has nothing to do with biological compatibility but has everything to do with making soup.

LOL.... this is hilarious. Thanks for sharing. :D

[BluePhirePB]

I remember reading somewhere a while back (and the chart above also suggests this) that Asian males is the least preferred race for dating.

[iEyeCaptain]

The only girls I would date are Hong Kong girls that are from Kowloon.

More specifically, only from the MTR stations Tsuen Wan to Prince Edward. Once they start being from Mong Kok, that's where I draw the line. No other line is acceptable.

[diggler649]

I remember reading somewhere a while back (and the chart above also suggests this) that Asian males is the least preferred race for dating.

Unless you are an ultra-high net worth, multi-billionaire. The worst you will do are supermodels in their early-thirties.

[HTTP04]

This is interesting. It's a reply rate of females to male senders by race on OKCupid - a dating site.

In other words, if you're an Asian or black male, you're screwed.


http://i49.tinypic.com/2vcut8n.png

Lol, Asian males have the best shot at black females

[sweeper]

For me,

Marrying within my own race is easier for me as we'll probably share the same cultural practices, language, religion, etc. Not to mention I would want our families to get along and be able to communicate with each other. Plus, I love my culture and strongly prefer just to stick with it for the rest of my life.

I wouldn't mind marrying a Chinese/Japanese/Caucasian girl though if I one came along and we both loved each other.

[tsxnation]

Asian/east Asian parents typically do not approve of black, Hispanic and Islamic partners for their children.

Me personally, I would prefer someone where Compatibility and character trumps all.

[uber_shnitz]

Me personally, I would prefer someone where Compatibility and character trumps all.

One could argue those aspects are dependent on culture/religion (and therefore indirectly on race).

[sleepyguy]

Yup, Viet here and that is exactly correct. Funny I dated mostly Caucasian girls throughout my teens and early adult life and ended up with a Canadian-born Vietnamese girl, lol.


Asian/east Asian parents typically do not approve of black, Hispanic and Islamic partners for their children.

Me personally, I would prefer someone where Compatibility and character trumps all.

[Agafaba]

Lol, Asian males have the best shot at black females

Meanwhile the lowest score on the chart is black males and asian females.

[deltone]

>1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Probably. I know my parents would be disappointed if I had weird looking children. Nobody in their right mind wants a grandchild who looks nothing at all like them.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Black.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Not really.



4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

It's a big deal because it's not really natural (it's probably one of the rarest things in human history) and people also have sort of an innate reaction to seeing it. People tend to, consciously or subconsciously, look down on white males with Asian females because these males tend to be beta males or omega males who couldn't do better... good providers, but with generally low dating market value. Conversely, people look down on white women with... well, any other race, because it's seen almost like marrying down. This is probably the main reason, besides biology and children, that women are much more likely than men to date inside their race. I've noticed many middle-class or even upper-middle class white males with Asian females. I've noticed very few middle-class white women dating outside their race and when one does it raises a few eyebrows.

http://s12.postimage.org/s3sl6pfbv/1330773606542.jpg

Wow. I will give you this much. You certainly aren't afraid to wear your racism on your sleeve.

[Hitman21]

Wow. I will give you this much. You certainly aren't afraid to wear your racism on your sleeve.

Even if you disagree with him, he still feels this way and should be able to say it

[flashy_mcflash]

Even if you disagree with him, he still feels this way and should be able to say it

Just as deltone is free to call a spade a racist f'ing spade.

[deltone]

Even if you disagree with him, he still feels this way and should be able to say it

Never said he couldn't and I do imagine you feel that I too have the right to say what I said?

[Simaahoy]

Tyra Banks and Naomi Campbell aren't what most people would call "white". So, 4 out of 20. Not a huge number, but models are modelling for predominantly white market, and humans tend to like what they're used to.

Tyra is the only real black, didn't notice them in the list. I don't see a single Asian in the top 20.

[Hitman21]

Just as deltone is free to call a spade a racist f'ing spade.

Of course she is


Never said he couldn't and I do imagine you feel that I too have the right to say what I said?

Absolutely you have the right to say what you said, all I am saying is that what he said is still protected by freedom of speech and should never be censored

[NorthYorker]

I don't see a single Asian in the top 20.Me too. However, Asian beauty type is very significantly different from what "white" people would instinctively consider "attractive". And "whites" are main customers of the international fashion industry (there's, as far as I understand, "Asian" fashion sub-industry with models etc. catering to China/Japan/Korea etc., but superstars of this "branch" do not show up in main charts). There's a very non-PC saying, capturing a reaction of a "white" person from the boonies: "You have to live in China for a decade to understand that there're attractive Chinese girls "

[ali123]

I saw an Indian guy dating a Chinese lady yesterday at the theatres. They each had a different accent but both were in love with each other. Made me smile :D.

[smartcdn]

WASP means???


For baseline purposes, I'm a WASP (do people still use that term?). By default I have the highest ranking in society and the least amount of cultural practices...

Moving on...

1) I basically exclusively dated Asian women (Chinese/Filipino/Japanese) women for 7'ish years. Fiance is Japanese (Canadian born) and both our parents were ecstatic about our engagement. My mother actually thought we were going to say she was pregnant and not engaged when we told her. She would have been thrilled either way. While I have not dated any other "non-white" woman, they wouldn't care.

2) No

3) No, and it wouldn't matter anyway because I'm an adult. As any good WASP child, my parents wanted me out of the house ASAP. I also only see family generally on holidays, speak to them sparingly, and express recognition with quick sideways glances (or the "sup" chin jerk).

4) I'll keep my comments about the general public to myself (this time).

[hi-tech]

I generally find that people with little self-worth and who have had very little personal accomplishments seem to attach themselves to their racial identity. Who cares really. Mongloid, Caucasoid, Negroid etc, these are just groupings, and don't particularly mean anything. We see that a Mongloid can live like a Caucasoid, and Negroid like a Mongloid. etc. If everyone speaks English (or whatever the local language is), who cares what background your significant other is.

[deltone]

WASP means???

White Anglo-Saxon Protestant

[diggler649]

I saw an Indian guy dating a Chinese lady yesterday at the theatres. They each had a different accent but both were in love with each other. Made me smile :D.

Both sets of parents must be upset.

[Simaahoy]

I saw an Indian guy dating a Chinese lady yesterday at the theatres. They each had a different accent but both were in love with each other. Made me smile :D.

Saw an Asian and a Mexican having drinks earlier today :)

[Shaner]

I know I'm late to the party and this thread has probably evolved a little bit, but I wanted to say one thing. White people are often considered the most racist, and people specifically attack the US as racist (especially the south), but that's pretty hypocritical. There's a lot of Asian parents out there (and hopefully some of you can admit that your parents are like this) that would be horrified if their daughters dated a black man.

I have a Muslim friend and I remember her telling me that although her dad has adapted and lets her live her life as she sees fit, she believes her dad would either kill her or disown her if she dated a black man.

Not sure why the US gets such a bad rep when the rest of the world is no better.

[sandikosh]

White Anglo-Saxon Protestant

Protestant? Who are they protesting? And why?

[MrDisco]

Protestant? Who are they protesting? And why?

"Etymology
Protestant iconoclasm: the Beeldenstorm during the Dutch reformation.

The exact origin of the term protestant is unsure, and may come either from French protestant or German Protestant. However, it is certain that both languages derived their word from the Latin: protestantem, meaning "one who publicly declares/protests",[2] which refers to the letter of protestation by Lutheran princes against the decision of the Diet of Speyer in 1529, which reaffirmed the edict of the Diet of Worms in 1521, banning Martin Luther's 95 theses of protest against some beliefs and practices of the early 16th century Catholic Church.

The term Protestant was not initially applied to the Reformers, but later was used to describe all groups protesting Roman Catholic orthodoxy. Since that time, the term Protestant has been used in many different senses, often as a general term merely to signify Christians who belong to neither the Roman Catholic, Eastern Orthodoxy, or Oriental Orthodoxy Churches."

[deltone]

I know I'm late to the party and this thread has probably evolved a little bit, but I wanted to say one thing. White people are often considered the most racist, and people specifically attack the US as racist (especially the south), but that's pretty hypocritical. There's a lot of Asian parents out there (and hopefully some of you can admit that your parents are like this) that would be horrified if their daughters dated a black man.

I have a Muslim friend and I remember her telling me that although her dad has adapted and lets her live her life as she sees fit, she believes her dad would either kill her or disown her if she dated a black man.

Not sure why the US gets such a bad rep when the rest of the world is no better.

So true. I have found that there are so many nasty comments directed at Americans and they typically go unchallenged but heaven help anyone who makes an even less derogatory comment about certain other countries, races or religions. Are there racists in the US, and in the south? Of course, they are everywhere but in all honesty, I spend a lot of time in SC (we just bought a place there) and I have not noticed a lot of racism there, although I am sure it exists.

[iEyeCaptain]

So true. I have found that there are so many nasty comments directed at Americans and they typically go unchallenged but heaven help anyone who makes an even less derogatory comment about certain other countries, races or religions. Are there racists in the US, and in the south? Of course, they are everywhere but in all honesty, I spend a lot of time in SC (we just bought a place there) and I have not noticed a lot of racism there, although I am sure it exists.

I agree racism is everywhere. I think the South gets most of the attention because their slavery history is more well known than the racial/ethnic conflicts in other countries.

One particular group I don't think we've heard from in this thread are folks from the black community. Are their parents opposed to any groups? I think that's an interesting area to explore.

Btw, deltone, you probably have not noticed a lot of racism there because you're white. :). I've experience racism even when I was in Orlando, Florida. How do you think I'll be treated by some (emphasis on *some*, not *all*) in the deep south?

[NorthYorker]

I spend a lot of time in SC (we just bought a place there) and I have not noticed a lot of racismTwo questions:
1. Are you a person of color? Folks not subjected to a discrimination often quite honestly unaware of it. My Russian Slavic friends were honestly unaware of antisemitic measures undertaken by Soviet authorities (limits on education, glass ceiling in career and such). Unless we're talking about cross burning (and we're not), an outsider isn't going to notice.
2. The stuff we're talking about isn't visible to a casual visitor. C'mon, Toronto is considered a heaven of acceptability and multiculturalism by everyone visiting our beautiful city. But, as we see, there're very subtle undertones.

[uber_shnitz]

There is a fine line between racism and ignorance. While the 2 are related, being ignorant of other cultures/ethnicities without malicious intent is not the same as being racist. It seems people seem to confuse the 2 a lot nowadays.

I see a lot of the US as ignorant more than racist. I've visited some places in the US where they're not acustomed to foreigners and really, they're more ignorant than racist most of the time I've found. They jsut simply aren't aware of things.

[deltone]

I agree racism is everywhere. I think the South gets most of the attention because their slavery history is more well known than the racial/ethnic conflicts in other countries.

One particular group I don't think we've heard from in this thread are folks from the black community. Are their parents opposed to any groups? I think that's an interesting area to explore.

Btw, deltone, you probably have not noticed a lot of racism there because you're white. :). I've experience racism even when I was in Orlando, Florida. How do you think I'll be treated by some (emphasis on *some*, not *all*) in the deep south?

I don't doubt for one minute that there is racism in the south but the bottom line is that it's everywhere. Yes, the south has a very shameful history of racism and yes, there are still racists there BUT they are everywhere and contrary to popular belief, whites are not the only ones capable of racism and as has been made very clear in this thread, there are some races that are very proud of the fact that they don't accept other races (and cultures).

My youngest son went to Florida years back when he was around 12 or 13. He went with his buddy and his family (they are black) and my son said he did notice some strange looks but he felt it was more surprise that people felt when they saw this (VERY) white kid with a black family but he spent most of his time with his buddies family in Florida and they were all black.

My point was really only that there is racism everywhere and it's not limited to the south and it's not only a white issue. The same people who are quick to jump all over Americans and call them stupid and this that or the other thing are typically the first ones to get all defensive if someone makes one little comment about their race, country or religion. They can't have it both ways.

Two questions:
1. Are you a person of color? Folks not subjected to a discrimination often quite honestly unaware of it. My Russian Slavic friends were honestly unaware of antisemitic measures undertaken by Soviet authorities (limits on education, glass ceiling in career and such). Unless we're talking about cross burning (and we're not), an outsider isn't going to notice.
2. The stuff we're talking about isn't visible to a casual visitor. C'mon, Toronto is considered a heaven of acceptability and multiculturalism by everyone visiting our beautiful city. But, as we see, there're very subtle undertones.

No, I am not a person of colour and while I do get what you are saying about not being subjected to discrimination, make no mistake, I am very aware of it. I'm also aware that there are some races and cultures that are not white who are very racist. Racisim comes in all colours. If it's not acceptable to say that Germans are stupid, or Asians or stupid, then it should not be acceptable to say Americans are stupid (or racist, or whatever).

[ssharm02]

No, my family doesn't care what I do. Race isn't that important but the quality of the girl is....if I started dating a gold digger or a drug addict, then they would get worried.

[Simaahoy]

I don't doubt for one minute that there is racism in the south but the bottom line is that it's everywhere. Yes, the south has a very shameful history of racism and yes, there are still racists there BUT they are everywhere and contrary to popular belief, whites are not the only ones capable of racism and as has been made very clear in this thread, there are some races that are very proud of the fact that they don't accept other races (and cultures).

My youngest son went to Florida years back when he was around 12 or 13. He went with his buddy and his family (they are black) and my son said he did notice some strange looks but he felt it was more surprise that people felt when they saw this (VERY) white kid with a black family but he spent most of his time with his buddies family in Florida and they were all black.

My point was really only that there is racism everywhere and it's not limited to the south and it's not only a white issue. The same people who are quick to jump all over Americans and call them stupid and this that or the other thing are typically the first ones to get all defensive if someone makes one little comment about their race, country or religion. They can't have it both ways.


No, I am not a person of colour and while I do get what you are saying about not being subjected to discrimination, make no mistake, I am very aware of it. I'm also aware that there are some races and cultures that are not white who are very racist. Racisim comes in all colours. If it's not acceptable to say that Germans are stupid, or Asians or stupid, then it should not be acceptable to say Americans are stupid (or racist, or whatever).


Very true. I would say the entire region I am from are racist to whites, blacks, and asians.

[deltone]

Very true. I would say the entire region I am from are racist to whites, blacks, and asians.

It's nice of you to admit that as so many won't. I personally find all forms of racism disgusting and it's all equally wrong. I have no doubt it will always be here which is a shame but education should help. People are not born racist, it's a learned behaviour. (I know, DUH)

[Jimboski]

It's nice of you to admit that as so many won't. I personally find all forms of racism disgusting and it's all equally wrong. I have no doubt it will always be here which is a shame but education should help. People are not born racist, it's a learned behaviour. (I know, DUH)

Yeah racism Isn't fair but there are types of things that certain people do to others that makes you hate them.

[Heero01]

Very true. I would say the entire region I am from are racist to whites, blacks, and asians.

Huh? I'm guessing your South Asian? I never knew south asians had a racists attitude towards whites? In fact most Indians admire western culture (hence all the imitation).

As far as Asians, I haven't seen much of this, even in Indian. Although there is still resentment towards China for that sneak attach a while back.

Blacks tho... Yes. Lotta hate just because of all the stereotypes.

[deltone]

Yeah racism Isn't fair but there are types of things that certain people do to others that makes you hate them.

But why hate all those who you identify with the one who hurt you? If a woman is beaten or mistreated by a man, does that mean it's right for her to blame and hate all men? If I get robbed by a Chinese person, should I blame all Chinese people? Of course not. I have met good and bad in many different races, religions, cultures. I can see why people stereotype but at the end of the day, is it fair or right? I think not.

[Simaahoy]

Huh? I'm guessing your South Asian? I never knew south asians had a racists attitude towards whites? In fact most Indians admire western culture (hence all the imitation).

As far as Asians, I haven't seen much of this, even in Indian. Although there is still resentment towards China for that sneak attach a while back.

Blacks tho... Yes. Lotta hate just because of all the stereotypes.

No I am not south asian

[Jimboski]

But why hate all those who you identify with the one who hurt you? If a woman is beaten or mistreated by a man, does that mean it's right for her to blame and hate all men? If I get robbed by a Chinese person, should I blame all Chinese people? Of course not. I have met good and bad in many different races, religions, cultures. I can see why people stereotype but at the end of the day, is it fair or right? I think not.

Unfortunately that's just how It Is. Technically one does not HATE but more so "dislike" Is how I see It.. Might be different for others though.

[deltone]

Well, it may be the way it is with a lot of people, it's not the way it is with all people, thankfully.

[its_mo]

Both sets of parents must be upset.

And I don't think the couple cares

[Jimboski]

Well, it may be the way it is with a lot of people, it's not the way it is with all people, thankfully.

Yeah, Going back to what I said.. For the people who DO hate on all the people of X race It would probably be the fact that It reminds them of an unfriendly event happening to them In the past? If they were to see that X race they would be reminded and what not. Hopefully you get what I'm trying to say here, Haha..

[deltone]

I do get what you are saying but what I am saying is that it doesn't make it right. I have no idea of the numbers but let's just say there are 5 billion males on the planet. If one male beats the crap out of me, I would be an idiot to blame and hate (or dislike) all males. If there are 5 billion Chinese people on the planet and 1 Chinese person cuts me off on the highway, it would be wrong for me to dislike all Chinese. If one German guy stole my purse, it would be wrong for me to blame all Germans. IF a person has a brain that actually works, that person would know that it's wrong to paint all people who share a colour, or culture, or gender, or race, or a whatever with the same brush. That's all I'm saying. (But I do think you get what I'm trying to say).

[Jimboski]

I do get what you are saying but what I am saying is that it doesn't make it right. I have no idea of the numbers but let's just say there are 5 billion males on the planet. If one male beats the crap out of me, I would be an idiot to blame and hate (or dislike) all males. If there are 5 billion Chinese people on the planet and 1 Chinese person cuts me off on the highway, it would be wrong for me to dislike all Chinese. If one German guy stole my purse, it would be wrong for me to blame all Germans. IF a person has a brain that actually works, that person would know that it's wrong to paint all people who share a colour, or culture, or gender, or race, or a whatever with the same brush. That's all I'm saying. (But I do think you get what I'm trying to say).

So we understand each other, Good!
But yeah.. Racism cannot be stopped.. Nothing we can do but to deal with It.

[george__]

Racism could stop if we brain wash all the babies in the whole entire earth and inform that everybody is the same regardless of color and ethnic groups. Then block all possible information that puts holes in this idea.

[iEyeCaptain]

The only solution I see to ending racism is interbreeding between all races and ethnicities until we are all a beige-ish colour... which brings us back to the original point of this thread! :P

[george__]

My parents know a friend who is Asian and Canadian, they have such cute kids!

[sylpherware]

The only solution I see to ending racism is interbreeding between all races and ethnicities until we are all a beige-ish colour... which brings us back to the original point of this thread! :P

People of the same colour hate each other too :razz:

IMO, only the introduction of a common enemy would unite the world, e.g. little green men from outer space.

[Penny11]

>1.) Would your family support an interracial relationship between you and a partner from a different ethnicity?

Probably. I know my parents would be disappointed if I had weird looking children. Nobody in their right mind wants a grandchild who looks nothing at all like them.

2.) Is there a specific race that your family would object to more than others? If so, why?

Black.

3.) Do these attitudes influence you to some extent, or would you simply date who you wanted?

Not really.



4.) Why do you think that interracial relationships are such an issue with some people? It clearly isn't an issue of biological compatibility. What's the big deal?

It's a big deal because it's not really natural (it's probably one of the rarest things in human history) and people also have sort of an innate reaction to seeing it. People tend to, consciously or subconsciously, look down on white males with Asian females because these males tend to be beta males or omega males who couldn't do better... good providers, but with generally low dating market value. Conversely, people look down on white women with... well, any other race, because it's seen almost like marrying down. This is probably the main reason, besides biology and children, that women are much more likely than men to date inside their race. I've noticed many middle-class or even upper-middle class white males with Asian females. I've noticed very few middle-class white women dating outside their race and when one does it raises a few eyebrows.

http://s12.postimage.org/s3sl6pfbv/1330773606542.jpg

Dude, this is all kinds of wrong, I don't know where to begin...

I don't know anyone who would accuse me of marrying down nor would I want to. Frankly, I would rather have "weird looking" children than be related to a racist.

[george__]

I would freak if my kids dated a dark brown person (sorry but I have phobia of dark brown people)

[deltone]

I would freak if my kids dated a dark brown person (sorry but I have phobia of dark brown people)

I doubt this will be a problem as I think it's safe to say that "dark brown people" have a phobia of racists.

[Diafel]

Dude, this is all kinds of wrong, I don't know where to begin...

I don't know anyone who would accuse me of marrying down nor would I want to. Frankly, I would rather have "weird looking" children than be related to a racist.

It must feel strange to be married to a man of a race that over 93% of white women wouldn't even consider dating.

[Diafel]

The only solution I see to ending racism is interbreeding between all races and ethnicities until we are all a beige-ish colour... which brings us back to the original point of this thread! :P

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[criminal]

What ethnicity are you diafel? Only so I can add some context to your posts and opinions.

[Agafaba]

I would freak if my kids dated a dark brown person (sorry but I have phobia of dark brown people)

Did something happen to cause this phobia?

[Hitman21]

Very true. I would say the entire region I am from are racist to whites, blacks, and asians.


What region is this?

[supermetroid]

Race is a social construct with no objective basis in biology.

[Agafaba]

Race is a social construct with no objective basis in biology.

True, although only because genetic traits are much more varied than skin colour and therefore skin is an inadequate way of categorizing said traits.

[Diafel]

Not true, and race isn't about skin color. Nobody thinks that African albinos are European.

[Royalsoldier]

I find multi-racial couples sexy. Just a few weeks ago for example, my 5-year long friend came out and said he dislikes black women and would never date one.

Children are programmed by their parents and are influenced by events surrounding them. If their parents commit an act of racism, the child will likely absorb the action and over-time, have a dislike for other races.

When i look at people with darker skins, I see a human being who were raised under different earthly conditions.

[ali123]

Of course people in western countries are alot more tolerant to other races and cultures then people in poorer 3rd world countries but that's because they've grown up in a multicultural society. In poorer countries where it's less multicultural they get they're ideas from what they see on tv or what they hear from other people. Black people/Indians = Poor, Middle Eastern = Religious Extremist, Chinese = ***** quality, and it goes on and on........

[Katchemash]

People of the same colour hate each other too :razz:

IMO, only the introduction of a common enemy would unite the world, e.g. little green men from outer space.

No it wouldn't. If they supposedly do come I think its perfectly alright to take shots at certain ethnicity and try to cover it up as war damage.

[Hitman21]

I find multi-racial couples sexy. Just a few weeks ago for example, my 5-year long friend came out and said he dislikes black women and would never date one.

Children are programmed by their parents and are influenced by events surrounding them. If their parents commit an act of racism, the child will likely absorb the action and over-time, have a dislike for other races.

When i look at people with darker skins, I see a human being who were raised under different earthly conditions.

Is he black himself?

[Penny11]

It must feel strange to be married to a man of a race that over 93% of white women wouldn't even consider dating.

Where do you get your stats? Yeah, it feels really strange to be married to someone who is educated, good looking, intelligent, successful, well liked and funny since much of the dating pool is infested with people like you. Is there something in my earlier posts that indicates that I give an eff what other white women think? I didn't think so.

[yao416]

No, my parents will disowned me

[Hitman21]

No, my parents will disowned me

Very true, there is a large majority of parents who would disown or even kill there kids if they dated outside the race

[yao416]

Very true, there is a large majority of parents who would disown or even kill there kids if they dated outside the race

Very true. I've read the news

[Blanket_Man]

One particular group I don't think we've heard from in this thread are folks from the black community. Are their parents opposed to any groups? I think that's an interesting area to explore.


Black community?

Stop right there. That term lumps together a lot of people with very different backgrounds and ethnicities. It makes sense to use 'black' to signify some sort of identity in America because of the history of black people there and how far removed from their place of origin they actually are but it doesn't make sense here (in the GTA especially) where a large proportion of the 'black community' are recent immigrants. Doing that is just as bad as me calling any person who looks like they could be from east or south east asia chinese.

My parents are not racist. They sometimes say stuff that is kinda ignorant but for the most part they have a fairly balanced view of the world. Travelling the world, Living in a lot of different places and having non-black inlaws all contributed to that. My and my siblings grew up without any anti-[insert race/ethnicity/religion here] hate and we were all taught that everybody was the same; as long as you are a decent person everyone else will treat you decent because skin color doesn't matter, that was the motto in our house (<- this is all bs I don't agree with nowadays though). Of course their views are not representative because not all black people are the same (that's obvious) but wait judging by the posts I've seen in this thread it's not that obvious. Sad that alot of your parents have been hoodwinked by the ret4rted ame's room MTV's built for them.

But ...

Leaving that aside, it's one thing to be ignorant but it's another to be wilfully ignorant. especially given the type of society we live in where people of all colors and creeds have been able to find success. I just find it amazing that some of these stupid ***** dated stereotypes continue to persist in 2012.

As for my own dating preferences ... I'm just a regular black dude. I'm not on some fly sh** or swole like some tip top NBA player and furthermore there's really nothing that a typical white/asian/hispanic whatever chick could offer to a guy like me. If any non-black chick shows me something different from the typical stereotypical bs then I might pursue a relationship but until then I'm sticking to my own kind.

& lastly, my parents views notwithstanding, they acknowledge that I'm my own person and that I can (& will) do whatever I want whether or not it conflicts with their own values.

[savermom84]

Black community?

Stop right there. That term lumps together a lot of people with very different backgrounds and ethnicities. It makes sense to use 'black' to signify some sort of identity in America because of the history of black people there and how far removed from their place of origin they actually are but it doesn't make sense here (in the GTA especially) where a large proportion of the 'black community' are recent immigrants. Doing that is just as bad as me calling any person who looks like they could be from east or south east asia chinese.

My parents are not racist. They sometimes say stuff that is kinda ignorant but for the most part they have a fairly balanced view of the world. Travelling the world, Living in a lot of different places and having non-black inlaws all contributed to that. My and my siblings grew up without any anti-[insert race/ethnicity/religion here] hate and we were all taught that everybody was the same; as long as you are a decent person everyone else will treat you decent because skin color doesn't matter, that was the motto in our house (<- this is all bs I don't agree with nowadays though). Of course their views are not representative because not all black people are the same (that's obvious) but wait judging by the posts I've seen in this thread it's not that obvious. Sad that alot of your parents have been hoodwinked by the ret4rted ame's room MTV's built for them.

But ...

Leaving that aside, it's one thing to be ignorant but it's another to be wilfully ignorant. especially given the type of society we live in where people of all colors and creeds have been able to find success. I just find it amazing that some of these stupid ***** dated stereotypes continue to persist in 2012.

As for my own dating preferences ... I'm just a regular black dude. I'm not on some fly sh** or swole like some tip top NBA player and furthermore there's really nothing that a typical white/asian/hispanic whatever chick could offer to a guy like me. If any non-black chick shows me something different from the typical stereotypical bs then I might pursue a relationship but until then I'm sticking to my own kind.

& lastly, my parents views notwithstanding, they acknowledge that I'm my own person and that I can (& will) do whatever I want whether or not it conflicts with their own values.

First, I would like to commend the above poster for their response. Very well said and very valid points.

Next, I would like to mention how disappointed I am with some of the other posters on here. To read that people in this day in age still have these peverse ideologies surrounding race is disturbing. It's one thing to comment that you wouldn't date outside of your race because you don't find particular skin colors or features found in certain ethnicities is one thing. But to rule out dating someone outside of your race because you don't like that particular culture or don't think it's "compatible" with your own is appalling. Please. Some of these posts sound like they belong in pro-slavery and pro-colonialism discourse popular between 1500-1960. The idea that you would not consider dating someone outside of your own race due to "incompatibility" is the same as saying you think your race is somehow better or superior. How can you feel comfortable posting that you think every person that belongs to a certain race sales the same traits? So everyone who is black is automatically a particular "type" of person that you wouldn't date? Are you saying that every person in your own culture is somehow the same or similar? I just don't understand this sentiment at all.

I believe in giving everyone a chance. Not just in terms of dating, but in terms of building friendships. I don't see someone and automatically make assumptions based on where I think they are from.

I have a question for all of you who would not date outside of their "race". If you met someone who was, let's say black, but was adopted and raised by asian parents, would you date that person then? Or is that somehow they are gentically tainted because of their bloodline?

By the way, I am proud to say that I am black, married to an Iranian, with two beautiful "Canadian" children who can date and marry whoever they like.

[sandikosh]

I have a question for all of you who would not date outside of their "race". If you met someone who was, let's say black, but was adopted and raised by asian parents, would you date that person then? Or is that somehow they are gentically tainted because of their bloodline?

By the way, I am proud to say that I am black, married to an Iranian, with two beautiful "Canadian" children who can date and marry whoever they like.

If the parents were from asia, no. If the parents are westernised, no. Personally, I find blacks the least attractive of all the races.

[savermom84]

If the parents were from asia, no. If the parents are westernised, no. Personally, I find blacks the least attractive of all the races.

Ok, so your decision not to date blacks is solely based on their physical attributes? Find it incredibly hard to believe that you find all black people unattractive. Beauty is only skin deep. I guess looks are the most important thing to you in a relationship when you are dating within your "race" as well?

[savermom84]

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Just wondering which culture you are referring to?

[deltone]

I'm not sure if you are a real Muslim or a guy trolling... You do relaise that if you have kids in Canada they will likely betray your culture regardless of their skin colour. Once people grow up in a normal society they tend to distance themselves from extremist and backwards thinking religions.

Well, in your first sentence, you actually hit the nail on the head. the word that is just before the elipses...

[deltone]

Just wondering which culture you are referring to?

Don't feed it.

[sandikosh]

Ok, so your decision not to date blacks is solely based on their physical attributes? Find it incredibly hard to believe that you find all black people unattractive. Beauty is only skin deep. I guess looks are the most important thing to you in a relationship when you are dating within your "race" as well?

I date other races, just not black.

[Korozive]

Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...

[Doodies]

Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...

This site has a large Asian population and I tihnk the owner(s) is Asian as well.

[Agafaba]

Ok, so your decision not to date blacks is solely based on their physical attributes? Find it incredibly hard to believe that you find all black people unattractive. Beauty is only skin deep. I guess looks are the most important thing to you in a relationship when you are dating within your "race" as well?

To be honest im not that attracted to most black women either, although there are a few races that I find more attractive than my own. If you are not physically attracted to to someone than you probably shouldnt date them, thats why people have friends.

[Heero01]

Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...

Ye I noticed that too. I made a comment in the thread about ppl staring that it is normally Chinese ppl and it got deleted RIGHT AWAY.

Yet ppl are openly racist against black ppl and nothing. Seems like NSX sure picks and chooses.


Edit:


To be honest im not that attracted to most black women either, although there are a few races that I find more attractive than my own. If you are not physically attracted to to someone than you probably shouldnt date them, thats why people have friends.

Gotta agree. There are a couple black women I would totally do. But the vast majority of black women are not attractive to me. & Its not only the facial characteristics... I notice that many black women have a lot of "attitude" which is a turn off... :-/

[spike1128]

Ye I noticed that too. I made a comment in the thread about ppl staring that it is normally Chinese ppl and it got deleted RIGHT AWAY.

Yet ppl are openly racist against black ppl and nothing. Seems like NSX sure picks and chooses.


Edit:



Gotta agree. There are a couple black women I would totally do. But the vast majority of black women are not attractive to me. & Its not only the facial characteristics... I notice that many black women have a lot of "attitude" which is a turn off... :-/

I find it funny that you guys think the Mods pick and choose. I don't think the mods care because NSX possibly think the dark colour stereotype doesn't matter. Why? Because that group is too busy being gangbangers than to go online to educate themselves in finding bargains. Can't say the same about us.

I totally disagree that you can't find attractive black girls. I think the ones you want are the ones who is kinda mixed with white Canadians. You wouldn't say no to Beyonce looking type of girl, seriously. You know what they are know for, their rear are nice.

Now to reply to the other guy about back ward religion thing. I find the more the parents are radical, the more the kids go out of their way to fit in and do the Canadian lifestyle. You wouldn't know how much smoking hot Muslim women I knew back in university. They were all wearing mini skirts and really revealing clothing. If you didn't know them, you would have thought they were prostitutes. I remember I knew a few Palestinian, Syrian, Indian girls that were very hot. :)

[savermom84]

To be honest im not that attracted to most black women either, although there are a few races that I find more attractive than my own. If you are not physically attracted to to someone than you probably shouldnt date them, thats why people have friends.

While I agree that physical attraction is important, I think that getting to know someone and emotional attraction contributes to physical attraction. If you have a lot in common with someone, love being around them, and are otherwise compatible, you will love them regardless of what they look like: black, white, purple, ugly, or beautiful. Pardon the cliche, but love is blind.

[mysticalinfluence]

Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...


Ye I noticed that too. I made a comment in the thread about ppl staring that it is normally Chinese ppl and it got deleted RIGHT AWAY.

Yet ppl are openly racist against black ppl and nothing. Seems like NSX sure picks and chooses.

It's the RFD way and greatly reflects the users and owners of the site.

[Hitman21]

Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...

Same thing happened to me, either make it no comments about any groups or comments about any groups. This is double standards

[sandikosh]

I totally disagree that you can't find attractive black girls. I think the ones you want are the ones who is kinda mixed with white Canadians. You wouldn't say no to Beyonce looking type of girl, seriously. You know what they are know for, their rear are nice.

Funny, I know there are alot of people who find this part of the body attractive. To me I don't. I find a girl more attractive when she nice proportions. No part of her body should stand out more than the others.

[srgrant]

How is this thread still open? I've read so much stereotyping crap on here.

[the_fm]

my mom desires a vietnamese girl for me because she'll cook, clean, listen etc. personally, i don't give a crap. i like and get along better with caucasians than asians. she wants me to be happy and she knows what i desire and want but at the same time, she completely forgets about my happiness. what are you going to do huh? parents, even if they have neanderthal values and don't quite understand how the world works, still gotta love them

[Pratzy]

For 4)

A girl that I once knew and went to school with, told me one day that she prefers not to date Asian men because she thought they were a bit too stingy with money, and she found that the Asian men she had relationships in the past with were usually lacking in 'masculinity', let's call it that ?

She had many asian friends, but just preferred not to date that specific race for the two reasons above.

[forthewinwin]

Ok, so your decision not to date blacks is solely based on their physical attributes? Find it incredibly hard to believe that you find all black people unattractive. Beauty is only skin deep. I guess looks are the most important thing to you in a relationship when you are dating within your "race" as well?

Sorry to say, but for both genders, the first attribute noticed and springs attraction is looks :(
It's how we humans are biologically designed- to seek out what we deem an attractive mate.


Kind of funny. On RFD, a simple comment about asian = report post. But in the last years, I've seen a lot of comments on other races, worse, and nothing seems completely OK...

I made a rather harsh one about asians not long ago in the Online Dating thread (meanwhile trying to sound neutral as possible)... it never got reported


My parents know a friend who is Asian and Canadian, they have such cute kids!

Yeah, I heard of this before. Half-asians turn out to be cute kids.


Me too. However, Asian beauty type is very significantly different from what "white" people would instinctively consider "attractive". ... There's a very non-PC saying, capturing a reaction of a "white" person from the boonies: "You have to live in China for a decade to understand that there're attractive Chinese girls "

This is true. An example is in the more tradtitonal Chinese culture an "attractive" girl is one who has her hair tied back, dresses "elegantly", plays piano, has a strong academic background, never wears makeup, and never/rarely does fancy things to her hair.

Conversely here, it's normal to slap on large amounts of makeup. Personally I'll admit that I, being Chinese, am slightly influenced by that view, but I don't mind makeup either, although my attraction towards makeup is much lower than what I suspect and just assuming other men would rather feel. That is, I don't mind makeup and I think it looks good in small amounts, but it doesn't dramatically change my opinion of the girl's attractiveness, although in large amounts I don't like it.

[jaxx lite]

Remember
eventually, your parents will die
and you might not have contact with your siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc
so basically you are on your own
so it should not matter if your family or relatives approve or not

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[Simaahoy]

Seventeen pages later....

[the_fm]

Remember
eventually, your parents will die
and you might not have contact with your siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc
so basically you are on your own
so it should not matter if your family or relatives approve or not

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pretty much. your parents raise you, instill some values but ultimately, they have to let you live and do whatever makes you happy. that's what a lot of asian parents (the older generation more traditional) don't seem to understand. it's not a sign of disrespect, dishonor if one likes someone of another ethnicity.

[sandikosh]

For 4)

A girl that I once knew and went to school with, told me one day that she prefers not to date Asian men because she thought they were a bit too stingy with money, and she found that the Asian men she had relationships in the past with were usually lacking in 'masculinity', let's call it that ?

She had many asian friends, but just preferred not to date that specific race for the two reasons above.

So your friend only dated asians for their money?

[catmint]

My mom = typical Chinese parent = will be extremely disappointed and beat me to death if I want to get married to any non-Chinese

[jaxx lite]

My mom = typical Chinese parent = will be extremely disappointed and beat me to death if I want to get married to any non-Chinese

Most likely, she will die soon and you will be all alone in this world

If you have siblings
they will have their own families
= no time for you

People move away
= you will rarely see them

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[AcidBomber]

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[Corleone187]

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I think it still needs to be locked