Would you let your gf go to a club?

[sexpuppet6000]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

[Princess Buttercup]

Oh Boy!!!
LET
ALLOW

get over it man, if your girlfriend wants to go to a club then she can go, you have no say in it.

She is her own person, you cant tell her what to do.

You can however say, Have fun at the club with your friends, if you need a ride home when its over I will pick you up. Tell me all about it tomorrow.

If you are so jealous that she will run off with some other guy she is not the girl for you.

:twisted:

[siaoguai]

grow up kiddo... :lol:

[Spiderpal93]

Yes

[FastFokker]

"let"? ????

Like as if you control her?

You're relationship is obviously screwed up, no wonder she wants to go to a club.

[boonjaca]

"let"? ????

Like as if you control her?

You're relationship is obviously screwed up, no wonder she wants to go to a club.

Agreed, I don't own her and she can go if she wants, I'm secure enough to know that she's with me for a reason.

[oleander]

yeah you cant do much, its her decision... if you dont trust her then theres no relationship and if you ever find out she did something then you just end it.
talk to her about it if it bugs you.

[Absolute]

Absolutely; she's 3 years younger than me so she never got a chance to get the bar scene out of her system, like I did.

She goes with friends, and I know she uses her "feminine" powers to get guys to buy her drinks every now and than, but I trust her. She goes out with friends, has some fun, and I recover some of my sleep.

[15-20_God]

if she wants to cheat there's nothign you can do to stop her so let her go.

[boonjaca]

if she wants to cheat there's nothign you can do to stop her so let her go.

Exactly and if she does cheat, it's better you find out now and move on.

[The_Madz]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?


why not?

does she infringe on your right to go out with your friends?

if you dont allow some personal freedom the relationship is not going to last.

[15-20_God]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

also, would you mind telling me where they're going this weekend and which day?

[drewl]

OH NO!!
Lock her up, man... don't let her get away. :cheesygri
Make her tatoo your name on her forehead. :D

[dmatthew]

if you trust her yes
if you don't - i don't know why you're in a relationship with her. maybe it's better to keep it friends with "benefits" =p

[NDman]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?
So are you afraid that you are nothing but her sexpuppet?

[danfromwaterloo]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

a) As stated above, and with obvious pwnage...you do not own your woman. You're simply leasing her, with the option to buy.

b) Assuming that your statement is simply a poorly put version of "Do you mind if your woman goes to a club with friends" the answer of any secure male should be "No." If you trust your woman, you've got no worries. If anything, your worries about her going to a club is totally centred in your own insecurity. What if she finds someone at the club stronger/handsomer/bigger dicked than me? Relax. Its just a club. She's not going to do anything.

c) If she does do something, she could do it with or without a club. She's a woman. She gets offered dick every day. That's the nature of women. Its supply and demand. They're the supply, we're the demand. She doesn't need to disguise cheating in the form of a club.

d) If she was intent on cheating, or if that even entered her mind, she sure as hell wouldn't tell you about going to the club. Chances are they'd be having a girls night at home with dvds and popcorn doing each other's hair. Then they'd get all hootched up, head out to the local sausage party, and do a four-way around the world.

[Shaner]

These people are only half right.
Your relationship isn't necessarily screwed if you are jealous, far from it. A lot of people have a jealousy problem, it's no different than any other problem people have, it can be overcome and beaten.

You need to talk to your girlfriend, tell her what exactly bugs you, why it bugs you, and what you expect from her. If you don't want her to go, come right out and tell her. She should be sympathetic and should help you with the process. If she doesn't and just goes out anyway, get rid of her now before it's too late.

Ask her if you can go with her, or maybe you and some friends can go to the bar and she can go with her friends, but you guys kind of do your own thing.

Approach the process slowly.
Her just going out to the bar all of a sudden is a big jump for some guys. Go with for the first little while, get to know her friends.
It's not black and white.

[boonjaca]

You're simply leasing her, with the option to buy.


I like this line, it's funny but a good way of putting it. :D

[gilboman]

this is stupid, of course let her go. as for what above poster said, if she said him watching hockey or him going out with his guy friends bug her and insist on going along on guys night out, it's not really acceptable.

the g/f can take a break from the guy if she wants to and can have friends that are not his friends too.

the g/f is entitled to her own private time too, he does not own her.

[danfromwaterloo]

I like this line, it's funny but a good way of putting it. :D

I wish I could take credit for that, but its been "borrowed" from Eddie Murphy.

[gman]

Sure! Fitness club. My wife just does not go there enough.

[McLaren]

I don't think you have anything to worry about, unless she comes home the next morning and says "yeah we had a great time.... one thing led to another... yadda yadda yadda, and I'm really tired this morning"

[gman]

I don't think you have anything to worry about, unless she comes home the next morning and says "yeah we had a great time.... one thing led to another... yadda yadda yadda, and I'm really tired this morning"

Hmmm! If she said she is not tired, you should really worry about it.

[chairshotmyu]

let her go.... and hire a private detective to follow her.


:lol:

[boonjaca]

let her go.... and hire a private detective to follow her.


:lol:

Yeah, you can hire Mclaren, just give him pics of her and where she'll be and he'll keep a tight eye on her.... :D

[xKagex]

d)...Chances are they'd be having a girls night at home with dvds and popcorn doing each other's hair. Then they'd get all hootched up, head out to the local sausage party, and do a four-way around the world.

You have a really strange view of girls, or else you hang with a completely different crowd than most people.

[McLaren]

Yeah, you can hire Mclaren, just give him pics of her and where she'll be and he'll keep a tight eye on her.... :D

Yup.... I will investigate further for you if she is offering CIM's to random dudes.

[galanz]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

Let?
Is this you?
http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html

[boonjaca]

Yup.... I will investigate further for you if she is offering CIM's to random dudes.

What's CIM??

:confused:

[danfromwaterloo]

You have a really strange view of girls, or else you hang with a completely different crowd than most people.

Sorry, upon rereading what I wrote, it didn't seem to make any sense. What I meant to say was that, if she was intent on cheating she'd SAY she was headed over to a friends house to watch DVDs and eat popcorn and stuff, meanwhile, they'd get hootched up and head out to the sausage party to hit the four-way.

[Keelie]

i cant help but say the same as others have.... LET?
that one word doesnt say a lot for your relationship.

[toalan]

No do not let her go, tie her to the bedpost you neanderthal.

[emptypocket]

Wow, talk about overreaction.

I don't know the OP personally, but I would assume by "let" and "allow" he means "would you have a problem with her going".

Now where's that "Jump to Conclusions" mat?

[monorail]

COOL MAN, GREAT TIPS !!!
I like it when you said "Have fun at the club with your friends, if you need a ride home when its over I will pick you up. Tell me all about it tomorrow".




Oh Boy!!!
LET
ALLOW

get over it man, if your girlfriend wants to go to a club then she can go, you have no say in it.

She is her own person, you cant tell her what to do.

You can however say, Have fun at the club with your friends, if you need a ride home when its over I will pick you up. Tell me all about it tomorrow.

If you are so jealous that she will run off with some other guy she is not the girl for you.

:twisted:

[Spidey]

Wow. Someone has some trust issues.

My wife went out last night with her friends. Was all her teacher friends since this week is February break.

No big deal, she was home by 1 am.

I have my nights out to. You cant expect to spend every time you go out together

[FastFokker]

What about when your girlfriend doesn't LET you LET her NOT go.

Then what.

Get over your control and jealousy issues. It will do you and your future relationships no benefit.

[Shook1s]

My girlfriend goes out with her friends every couple of weeks. She has her "girls" night.

I totally support it, besides what say should I have?

Bottom line kiddies ... if she is gonna cheat, there is nothing you can do to stop her from doing it. If you try and hold her down ... your basically pushing them to WANT to cheat.

Just my two.

[Sl300]

I don't think you have anything to worry about, unless she comes home the next morning and says "yeah we had a great time.... one thing led to another... yadda yadda yadda, and I'm really tired this morning"

best show EVER

[AzNCrAzYcOoLeR]

I would let her go, but i wouldnt really go with her ... it feels awarked. Although id pick her up at the end of it

[AmberMoon]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

If you mean ALLOW as in you make the decision then this is for you
Hmmm let me guess you are one of those type of men who think they can control the woman in thier life, I really hope you are single the rest of your life unless you get diffrent views.. You do not control nor have the right to decide what another human can or cant do..

If you mean ALLOW as in would you be happy/not happy about it

then talk with her, let her know your feelings and then go from thier if your concerns are valid i am sure she would listen to them and voice her opinion..

[najibs]

I find that when you question girls too or try to control them much they have more of a desire to cheat. Also, they will be less inclined to talk to you about personal things, and their opinions and views.

With my fiancee if she says she wants to go somewhere I tell her "sure, do whatever you want." It's the same thing when I tell her I'm going somewhere. We never question each other or not let each other go. She hardly ever goes out anyways.

As for you "letting" your gf go. Buddy, whether you let her go or not, she's gonna go, and since you're controlling her, she's gonna hae more of a desire to cheat behjind your back. And, if I remember correctly you started that other thread about having suspicion your gf was cheating on you, no?

My ex was controlling and questioned everything I did. I felt repressed and ended up cheating on her with 3 different girls. No one likes to be controlled. If she wants to go, swallow your pride and say "sure honey, ill see you when you get back" and act normal...

[bionicbadger]

buy her a chastity belt

[gei]

Curious what the op has to say about "letting" her go... was this a serious question? Perhaps misphrased?

[najibs]

Curious what the op has to say about "letting" her go... was this a serious question? Perhaps misphrased?

I think it was a serious question. read this previous thread he posted and you'll understand why he's asking:

http://www.redflagdeals.com/forums/showthread.php?t=257027

[bellboy26]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?
Are you serious? Allow?

wow grow up

with the healthy relationship you must have now if she was already doing the bouncer you'd never know

[camzie]

The OP might want to use this as reference if he has any future plans with this girl http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html

[eelfliw]

"allow"???

Have you ever had a real girlfriend before?

[65505201]

The OP might want to use this as reference if he has any future plans with this girl http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html

That contract is hilarious. Looks like something a horny boss at a XXX video productions company will hand out to the employees.

I wonder if the wife kicked him in the nuts after reading it.

[Spidey]

The OP might want to use this as reference if he has any future plans with this girl http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html


Wow, thats getting forwarded to my joke list

[GTA_]

Try this, next time she was planning to go to a club ask her if she is going there to loose weight (by dancing) and then go on and tell her that you think her figure is okay and blah blah...

Women always like to play games with men, by trying to mess up his mind so he becomes jealous and possessive (women enjoy that) so they get more attention... Now its up to you whether you want to take all that crap from her or fight back with your own mind games.

If your gf knows that you don't like her to go into a club and she still does it - ditch her, she doesn't respect you.

[najibs]

Try this, next time she was planning to go to a club ask her if she is going there to loose weight (by dancing) and then go on and tell her that you think her figure is okay and blah blah...

Women always like to play games with men, by trying to mess up his mind so he becomes jealous and possessive (women enjoy that) so they get more attention... Now its up to you whether you want to take all that crap from her or fight back with your own mind games.

If your gf knows that you don't like her to go into a club and she still does it - ditch her, she doesn't respect you.

So let me get this straight. you're agreeing with the OP about "letting" her go to a club? If she likes clubbing and he can't accept her for her, and what she likes, then he shouldn't be with her. Period. She shouldn't have to ask for permission...

Also, if you're in a relationship that's about playing mindgames, then you'ree in the wrong relationship buddy. Mindgames are common when you're first starting to see someone, but not in a relationship.

And by telling her to lose weight like you suggest, she's going to feel insecure, and when some guy at the club says to her "oh baby, thats a fine body you have" she's going to realize her BF doesnt appreciate her and is going to be flattered by the stranger and end up cheating on her BF...

[FastFokker]

And by telling her to lose weight like you suggest, she's going to feel insecure, and when some guy at the club says to her "oh baby, thats a fine body you have" she's going to realize her BF doesnt appreciate her and is going to be flattered by the stranger and end up cheating on her BF...
Yes, GTA is giving such advice, because he's the guy at the club who will be saying such things, so that he will be going home with OP's hunny. :lol:

[GTA_]

So let me get this straight. you're agreeing with the OP about "letting" her go to a club? If she likes clubbing and he can't accept her for her, and what she likes, then he shouldn't be with her. Period. She shouldn't have to ask for permission...

Also, if you're in a relationship that's about playing mindgames, then you'ree in the wrong relationship buddy. Mindgames are common when you're first starting to see someone, but not in a relationship.

And by telling her to lose weight like you suggest, she's going to feel insecure, and when some guy at the club says to her "oh baby, thats a fine body you have" she's going to realize her BF doesnt appreciate her and is going to be flattered by the stranger and end up cheating on her BF...

You should consider yourself quite lucky if there are no 'mind games' in your relationship, but unfortunately that's not so in a majority of cases... Even if one partner does not play games its very probable that the other will and its usually the woman. The reason women try to make a man feel jealous is to get more attention and to 'test' his love for her... Maybe the OP's gf is testing him by going to the club - women are very manipulative and complex, a man should always be on his guard.


Yes, GTA is giving such advice, because he's the guy at the club who will be saying such things, so that he will be going home with OP's hunny.

There is no shortage of guys in clubs and bars who are there to simply get ... and they will say anything to achieve that, and personally I have no problems taking advantage of a woman who wants to be taken advantage of.

:)

[najibs]

women are very manipulative and complex, a man should always be on his guard.

I agree with you that girls are different, but as long as you show them enough love and respect they won't play mind games with you, trust me.

Sounds to me like you're the one playing the games, therefore they return the favor.

[sk8]

You should consider yourself quite lucky if there are no 'mind games' in your relationship, but unfortunately that's not so in a majority of cases... Even if one partner does not play games its very probable that the other will and its usually the woman. The reason women try to make a man feel jealous is to get more attention and to 'test' his love for her... Maybe the OP's gf is testing him by going to the club - women are very manipulative and complex, a man should always be on his guard.



There is no shortage of guys in clubs and bars who are there to simply get ... and they will say anything to achieve that, and personally I have no problems taking advantage of a woman who wants to be taken advantage of.

:)

pot kettle black

[GTA_]

I agree with you that girls are different, but as long as you show them enough love and respect they won't play mind games with you, trust me.

Sounds to me like you're the one playing the games, therefore they return the favor.

Love and respect are fancy words with little relationship to real life. Every relationship is about sex and control - that's it.

[gilboman]

Love and respect are fancy words with little relationship to real life. Every relationship is about sex and control - that's it.

guess you haven't been in a real relationship yet. ;)

[15-20_God]

Love and respect are fancy words with little relationship to real life. Every relationship is about sex and control - that's it.

that's like an infant saying that there's nothing better in life than breastmilk.

[Audiogenic]

The more you try to keep tabs on her, the farther you are pushing her away.

[hyperion]

Wow we have a bunch of regular Dr. Phils on RFD. :D

[GTA_]

that's like an infant saying that there's nothing better in life than breastmilk.

Thats what I thought as an infant!

[FastFokker]

that's like an infant saying that there's nothing better in life than breastmilk. :lol:

Man you crack me up.

Funny thing is GTA would probably agree that there's nothing better in life than breastmilk! :|

[danfromwaterloo]

Love and respect are fancy words with little relationship to real life. Every relationship is about sex and control - that's it.

Wow, you're fcuked in the head. Seek help.

[pandaharo]

I dont really like the idea of it, but if she wants to go I wont stop her, nor would I encourage.

[GTA_]

Wow, you're fcuked in the head. Seek help.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but reality bites.

[raptorfan]

ok..how old are is she? there's a huge difference between an 18 yr old and a 35 yr old going out with her friends. Not that you can "let" either of them, nor should you be suspicious of both but I'm curious. Also the females I know that did cheat, did not bring their friends along nor did they go to clubs to do it. It is doing everyday average things..going to do groceries, off to yoga class..

[shoprider]

Once, on the Life network.... or was is showcase? I forget... Anyway, the point is it was a documentary. One part of the documentary was about the sex industry on the web, then they had another segment on a guy in Cuba who could suck his own 8====={) and so he did shows for tourists. The last segment was about this club in the US and they only hired guys with huge wangs. Anyway, the guys were gloating that girlfriends and wives would tell husbands and boyfriends "i'm just going out for a drink with the girls" etc.. and then go out and grope those guys and grab their rockets and rub up all over them.

Anyway, not to make you more paranoid or anything but I'm sure she's just looking for some harmless fun with the girls.

[najibs]

Love and respect are fancy words with little relationship to real life. Every relationship is about sex and control - that's it.

You're gonna be a lonely guy in life if that's how you see every relationship. Relationships are about trust, respect, and communication...everything falls in after that.

You must be the guy that girls made fun of in school.
By the time you're 40, you'll have been divorced 3 times. Have 4 kids with ex-wives. All while trying to portray a wannabe playboy image...

[gh05t]

Why off course and especially if she has an appetite for dark meat. She might even bring you back a pie to say thanks.

[Spidey]

You're gonna be a lonely guy in life if that's how you see every relationship. Relationships are about trust, respect, and communication...everything falls in after that.

You must be the guy that girls made fun of in school.
By the time you're 40, you'll have been divorced 3 times. Have 4 kids with ex-wives. All while trying to portray a wannabe playboy image...


Fonzie at 40

[UrbanPoet]

random guys will hump her tho.
And you know what... alot of those random guys might probably be hotter and richer then you :-0

[Spidey]

random guys will hump her tho.
And you know what... alot of those random guys might probably be hotter and richer then you :-0


Thats true, and taller too. And probably have model physiques

[JoKeRr]

man you must be a control freak

[sixer]

Absolutely.
If you don't trust her, dump her and find someone you do, then you never have to worry and life is wonderful!

Otherwise, you a contreal freak.

[squall458]

Hmm I read everyone's comments and yea its easy to dispense out the advice but once your in the exact same situation, I am sure you will feel like the OP in someway. If your girl goes clubbing and you dont because you dont like it, then she's not your type. Simple as that. You will always not trust her when she goes out clubbing. Time to move on.

[corrupt123]

i'd just go to another club myself and pickup more women... you know, just encase ;)

[Bortman]

would you want and allow your gf to go to a club with 2 of her gfs?

Would I "allow" her? That friggen rediculous man, sounds like you got major trust and control issues... If she wants to go, let her go, if you don't trust her, dump her ass.

[GTA_]

There is a thin line between a person who is trusting and an idiot.

[15-20_God]

you still haven't told me yet where they are planning to go.

[actng]

that's like an infant saying that there's nothing better in life than breastmilk.

correction:
there's nothing better in life than breasts.


i'd just go to another club myself and pickup more women... you know, just encase ;)

:thumbup:


you still haven't told me yet where they are planning to go.

:thumbup: