Would you go under this situation? [Archive]

nickia

Nov 8th, 2007, 05:07 AM

Your GF, guy A, and another bf/gf couple are going out to mall and have a meal later on.

Guy A likes your GF.

Your gf asks you to come with her, would you go with her even though you are not invited by the other three people. (presumably)

mlc2000

Nov 8th, 2007, 06:34 AM

Why is the other couple inviting some guy who likes her, and not you?
Of course you go. Don't need some other man mowing your lawn,
or at trash talking you about your lack of 'mowing prowess'

nickia

Nov 8th, 2007, 06:49 AM

Why is the other couple inviting some guy who likes her, and not you?
Of course you go. Don't need some other man mowing your lawn,
or at trash talking you about your lack of 'mowing prowess'

actually they are gf's friends but that guy was my co-worker.

3weddings

Nov 8th, 2007, 06:55 AM

Ummm...yeah I'd go....and I'd give the coworker a talking to!

nickia

Nov 8th, 2007, 07:06 AM

Ummm...yeah I'd go....and I'd give the coworker a talking to!

Hmmmm... I'm thinking about this: I'll go but ill tell gf not to let that dude know that I'll be going. I want to give him a surprise and ruin his day:D
It will be brutal since there will be 2 couples and he will be left alone. Hopefully my plan will work out LOL.

AM I　EVIL?:lol:

izzyzz

Nov 8th, 2007, 07:24 AM

Hmmmm... I'm thinking about this: I'll go but ill tell gf not to let that dude know that I'll be going. I want to give him a surprise and ruin his day:D
It will be brutal since there will be 2 couples and he will be left alone. Hopefully my plan will work out LOL.

AM I　EVIL?:lol:

If your gf asks you to go, you should. If I were you, I'd do the same thing... no advance warning. ;)

Nav

Nov 8th, 2007, 08:15 AM

Hmmmm... I'm thinking about this: I'll go but ill tell gf not to let that dude know that I'll be going. I want to give him a surprise and ruin his day:D
It will be brutal since there will be 2 couples and he will be left alone. Hopefully my plan will work out LOL.

AM I　EVIL?:lol:

thats the way to do it!

that way she (the GF) is letting the guy (that likes her) know that she is off limits!

ji2o0k

Nov 8th, 2007, 08:49 AM

JiffyPB

Nov 8th, 2007, 09:00 AM

Make sure he knows that your gf is all yours and only you mow her lawns.....

Good god, are you people this insecure? Definately go, you were invited and all, but go because you want to hang out with these people, not try and prevent someone from making a move. Act as you would normally act with your girlfriend when out with friends, no need to *prove* she is your girlfriend. Making yourself look like an insecure fool is a good way to lose a GF.

ji2o0k

Nov 8th, 2007, 09:06 AM

Also make sure you are affectionate with your woman in front of him.

Not outrageous but just little signs here and there to show you guys are very much a couple.

Make sure he knows that your gf is all yours and only you mow her lawns.....

Act as you would normally act with your girlfriend when out with friends, no need to *prove* she is your girlfriend. Making yourself look like an insecure fool is a good way to lose a GF.
yes...as I said....just be affectionate as a couple would, to show you guys are very much a couple. Not "proving" anything but behaving as you would as a couple.

Some guys might think "Oh the relationship might not be so close, so I might have a chance". But if he sees you guys are very much a couple, then he realizes he doesn't have a chance.

ADIL86

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:26 AM

In the end what does this prove? That you don't have enough trust in your girlfriend to reject the advances of another man. If your relationship is good, and you are not getting complacent then really your g/f wouldn't give 'Guy A' another thought.

I can see myself getting jealous but these elaborate schemes really reflect poorly on your own perception of your current relationship. The one saving point is that your g/f did ask you to come, she might just want your company or she doesn't feel comfortable being around that other guy.

Either way a sound judgment is your responsibility, I merely implore you to review your thinking process. Guys will always try, but short of him drugging/raping her, the responsibility to shoot him down is your g/f's responsibility, not necessarily yours.

CSAgent

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:37 AM

Ah, the return of relationship threads.. good drama. :cheesygri

Wait here, I'm gonna go get the popcorn.

ADIL86

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:41 AM

I secretly read the 'Dear Abby' section
every time that I am reading the Metro

qster

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:43 AM

First off... you GF should have declined the invite to go to the mall.
Any eating...entails a date, even if its at the Mall.

It looks like your GF's friends are meddling in the department of "Fixing her up"
And if this is a co-worker of yours, doesn't he know better? unless your GF's friends don't like you and they like the other guy and want her to date the other.

But then again, if you trust your GF and your relationship is healthy, then you really have nothing to worry about. If she's testing you, this could be trouble... since you weren't invited by the other three to start off.
Its better to find out now, if your GF can be trusted or not and not 5-10years down the road if you guys go the next route in life.

You are in a pickle here.

CSAgent

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:48 AM

I secretly read the 'Dear Abby' section
every time that I am reading the Metro

Me too.. >_< But I don't ride the Metro, I read it at work in the cafeteria. :lol:

mhayer10

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:49 AM

you should bring another girl that is also your friend to even the playing field out

dark169

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:53 AM

Any eating...entails a date, even if its at the Mall.

wow, how many hetro/homosexual dates have I been on with my coworkers/friends/classmates over the years.

End of the day your GF has invited you meaning your welcome to go. If you didn't get an invite I wouldn't put to much stock into it, if you can't trust your GF out by herself then your not loosing a whole lot.

i6s1

Nov 8th, 2007, 12:19 PM

Go if you want to, don't go if you don't want to.

But if insecurity is your only reason for going, you've got an issue.

Girls love confidence, and nothing shows confidence like not making a big deal out of her hanging out with her guy friends... even if they "like like" her.

Nikita

Nov 8th, 2007, 06:35 PM

definitely go and make sure that other guy doesn't know you are going.

Also make sure you are affectionate with your woman in front of him. I am not talking about necking in front of him, open mouth but hug her, hold her hands, get her to try your food (feed her a little), touch her shoulders etc. Not outrageous but just little signs here and there to show you guys are very much a couple.

Make sure he knows that your gf is all yours and only you mow her lawns.....

And don't forget to beat your chest while you're at it...uggghh, testosterone head-games.

First off... you GF should have declined the invite to go to the mall.
Any eating...entails a date, even if its at the Mall.

ROFL! What are you, 12?

aimfox

Nov 8th, 2007, 08:33 PM

Sounds like no thanks because, if they didn't invite me, and wtf would I go? Just weird to be there.. :evil:

majesus

Nov 8th, 2007, 09:33 PM

I wouldn't care. I trust my GF plus it sounds boring to go. If my gf wants to go see another guy, first break up with me and then go. I don't want to control people, if my GF loves me I'm happy if she doesn't I'll get over it. No matter how much you love someone, it better to know how much they love you, than to be cheated.

drucillica

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:18 PM

This thread and replies in it just prove that RFD posters' average age is 12.

najibs

Nov 8th, 2007, 10:23 PM

yes...as I said....just be affectionate as a couple would, to show you guys are very much a couple. Not "proving" anything but behaving as you would as a couple.

And just when you thought being affectionate would be safe...

http://www.caam.rice.edu/~hn5115/pics/misc/owned.jpg

:twisted: :lol:

Jkim

Nov 8th, 2007, 11:14 PM

And just when you thought being affectionate would be safe...

http://www.caam.rice.edu/~hn5115/pics/misc/owned.jpg

:twisted: :lol:

:lol:

OH MAN GREATEST PIC EVA!

qster

Nov 9th, 2007, 12:07 PM

And don't forget to beat your chest while you're at it...uggghh, testosterone head-games.

ROFL! What are you, 12?

Read OP's post.
His GF's friends are bringing the 5th wheel to possibly get these two into dating... the Mall thing is a trick to get a conversation going between the OP's GF and the guy. Last time I checked there are restaurants in some of the bigger malls.. so yes.. eating with the opposite sex with INTENT is a date.

I guess you didn't go on many when you were young.
Ever head of DOUBLE DATING?

Nikita

Nov 9th, 2007, 12:23 PM

Read OP's post.
His GF's friends are bringing the 5th wheel to possibly get these two into dating... the Mall thing is a trick to get a conversation going between the OP's GF and the guy. Last time I checked there are restaurants in some of the bigger malls.. so yes.. eating with the opposite sex with INTENT is a date.

I guess you didn't go on many when you were young.
Ever head of DOUBLE DATING?

I wasn't responding to the OP's post, I was responding to ji2o0k's post:

definitely go and make sure that other guy doesn't know you are going.

Also make sure you are affectionate with your woman in front of him. I am not talking about necking in front of him, open mouth but hug her, hold her hands, get her to try your food (feed her a little), touch her shoulders etc. Not outrageous but just little signs here and there to show you guys are very much a couple.

Make sure he knows that your gf is all yours and only you mow her lawns.....

And btw, I've been out for dinner with men many times in my life WITHOUT any intent to date. You may understand this a little bette when you mature a little more and are out in the working world, like not to make such a big deal out of something as simple as sharing a meal.

qster

Nov 9th, 2007, 12:35 PM

I wasn't responding to the OP's post, I was responding to ji2o0k's post:

And btw, I've been out for dinner with men many times in my life WITHOUT any intent to date. You may understand this a little bette when you mature a little more and are out in the working world, like not to make such a big deal out of something as simple as sharing a meal.

Scroll up and see your quote...

First off... you GF should have declined the invite to go to the mall.
Any eating...entails a date, even if its at the Mall.

ROFL! What are you, 12?

There you go.. they men you went out for dinner didn't have any INTENT towards you. The OP's situation, there may be intent on the 5th wheel.

Whats with the assumption that I'm not older than you? and been working for years?

The point is.. sharing a meal is fine, provided all parties involved are already friends. The moment the meal consists of one person with intent to date...its a date or double date (if there is a couple trying to set up some people).

Nikita

Nov 9th, 2007, 01:05 PM

Scroll up and see your quote...

There you go.. they men you went out for dinner didn't have any INTENT towards you. The OP's situation, there may be intent on the 5th wheel.

Whats with the assumption that I'm not older than you? and been working for years?

The point is.. sharing a meal is fine, provided all parties involved are already friends. The moment the meal consists of one person with intent to date...its a date or double date (if there is a couple trying to set up some people).

Sorry, but your post is rather confusing. Let me make it clear. My response about beating one's chest was in response to ji2o0k's post. My other other post was with regard to your contention that eating together always implies some nefarious intent.

And I still disagree with your position that "The moment the meal consists of one person with intent to date...its a date or double date (if there is a couple trying to set up some people). Try as I might, I cannot make sense out of that statement, because taking it literally is simply nonsense. One person's intent does not change the nature of the event, whether it be eating, drinking, a movie w/e. Eating together does not deem it a date, no matter what someone else's intentions were. It is what it is, eating together.

i6s1

Nov 9th, 2007, 02:41 PM

Depends on what you're eating as well. If you're having a pink taco down at the Y, then it's a date.

hugh_da_man

Nov 9th, 2007, 02:53 PM

I wouldn't go unless the gf wanted me to go. If you know for a fact that the friends are trying to hook up your gf with this other dude then you have bigger problems and should probably stop with the high school relationships.

Seriously though, you shouldn't have to follow your gf around to make sure she's not cheating on you or falling for some other guy. If you're worth it she won't and if you're not worth it then she's better off without you.