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mcg
Oct 27th, 2008, 04:44 PM
Hi there,

Recently I've been given a feedback rating which I find is unjust and uncalled for - how can I go about contacting a moderator to help?

I was selling a set of Logitech Z-5500 speakers, perhaps some of you may have come across it in the computer section. An RFD member contacted me quite promptly after I posted it and I agreed to sell him the speaker set.

I also posted the same set on Craigslist for a higher amount, and the person in question - "sarsshadow", messaged me there asking me to sell it to him. I recognized his email being from RFD so I messaged him that if the first buyer backed out, I would sell it to him and even honour the price I was asking for on RFD since I recognized him from here. Note that I DID NOT have to tell him this and I did this out of my generosity.

So I was supposed to meet the seller last Friday, but he called and said he couldn't make it. He asked me to hold it for him till Sunday. "sarsshadow" continually kept in contact with me on the status of the speakers and I told him what the first buyer told me - being that I would find out on Sunday. From the tone of my messages to "sarsshadow", I did imply that the speakers were going to be sold and he should look elsewhere.

Now the promised time and date comes on Sunday, and the seller doesn't show up at my door. So I gave him an hour and still, no response. Out of frustration for the long wait, I contacted "sarsshadow" and told him that I would sell the speakers to him today.

All of a sudden the first buyer calls out of nowhere (literally) and says he was here... so I promptly sent an email to "sarsshadow" saying the speakers were sold and that I apologized for any inconvenience I may have caused him, also detailing the situation I was in. I then sold the speakers.

Now I find out today "sarsshadow" left me a message and feedback, which I cite from my BST page:



"Unreliable Dealer"

"Unreliable Dealer promised to sell to another guy but the guy dipped then promised to sell me them date/price set then the same guy that dipped showed up and he sold it to him because he offered a higher price.
Very Unreliable dealer that doesn't keep his words. I DEFINITELY do not recommend dealing with him."


After reading this I was infuriated at his attitude, and especially at the words I bolded above. So how am I unreliable?

First things first, this guy did not have to move an inch from his house to meet, and I did not bail out on him in a "serious manner", as in making him wait at a certain location. He was cozy at his house.

I do realize telling him that I would sell him the speakers in a 5 minute phone call may have sparked this feedback from him, but seriously, in my opinion, I think he has overreacted. I sent him notification that the seller showed up in the end and as an obligation I made, the speakers were sold to him.

As for the "higher price", I admit it was a white lie to discourage him from any further contact since it was sold, and I guess it gave the opposite effect. I advertised the speaker set for $180 here and I only received $180. The buyer from here can vouch for that.

I know I should not have done this, but nevertheless I have gone completely OUT OF MY WAY to satisfy and respond to the interested buyers, including these two individuals. I could simply have ignored this fellow, or even ask the price I was advertising on Craigslist since he had contacted me through that site.

So... "sarsshadow", knowing I did have a buyer lined up, left me this feedback, simply because I called him and told him I would sell it to him in a 5 minute conversation. Unforeseen circumstances arose and I had to commit to my previous buyer. Being the unforgiving guy "sarsshadow" is, I guess he could not understand my situation despite the apologetic email I sent him, and he was desperate to get back at me (this I assume, of course).

I don't want to be a beotch, but I'm not complaining about a negative feedback on my record. I just feel that this particular one is unfair and considering the work done on my part to satisfy all the parties involved, he just left the feedback simply because "I don't keep my words".

I appreciate the RFD community's voice on this issue... thanks for reading.

Mark099
Oct 27th, 2008, 05:57 PM
The rules are simple.... no transaction, no feedback. Feedback given without a transaction should/will be removed. Just ask.

mcg
Oct 27th, 2008, 06:54 PM
Thanks for pointing that out. Issue resolved!

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:30 PM
well first you chose to sell it to him i respect that its your choice and made a deal with him but then he didn't show up and u decided to deal with me which means now the previous guy that u were going to sell to were out of this situation hes done the deal u made with him is canceled, its plain and simple u made a deal with me and sold to someone else its not like i like giving out negative feebacks despite the fact that it has already been removed so not like that matters it was also unjust to me as the buyer when i am all excited in getting my new speaker and suddenly saying the deals off and what would u think that made me felt? disappointed would be one of it.

JBlue
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:35 PM
Poop happens but I can understand from the Buyer's perspective he was trying to update the sellers. Lesson learned and chalk it up. He isn't a GAP. This is RFD be thankful he called you and apologized. Some sellers will slime their way for a few more dollars or leave you hanging..this didn't happen to you. At the same time you are right to be mad but leaving a negative feedback when 1) he didn't sell you anything 2) he apologized makes you a unreasonable buyer with too high expectation.

You can't have it both ways.. you are getting a deal but you are going to lose some service. If you don't like it find a new seller or you can always pay MSRP at a retail store.

I just notice OP has 36+ feedback and the seller has 0. Hmmm

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:45 PM
Poop happens but I can understand from the Buyer's perspective he was trying to update the sellers. Lesson learned and chalk it up. He isn't a GAP. This is RFD be thankful he called you and apologized. Some sellers will slime their way for a few more dollars or leave you hanging..this didn't happen to you. At the same time you are right to be mad but leaving a negative feedback when 1) he didn't sell you anything 2) he apologized makes you a unreasonable buyer with too high expectation.

You can't have it both ways.. you are getting a deal but you are going to lose some service. If you don't like it find a new seller or you can always pay MSRP at a retail store.

how was my expectation too high? hes the one that decided to contacted me due to the absence of his previous buyer. Im just simply buying and didn't get to buy because he changed his mind. so what am i suppose to do just sit there and do nothing and if everyones like that here at RFD wat good does the site provide? its just from random forum that you just go on for the fun of it not even serious then and the point of the function of feedback is for u to rate whether or not the service is bad or good and i say its bad thats all im doing telling whats really happening right not

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:47 PM
I just notice OP has 36+ feedback and the buyer* [me] has 0. Hmmm

so what if i have 0? i respect the use of this forum and everyone starts off 0 whats your point?

sassysue
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:55 PM
so what if i have 0? i respect the use of this forum and everyone starts off 0 whats your point?

get over with it and move on and stop complaining we all hate complainers on this forum and seriously read the rules next time before leaving feedback

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 10:59 PM
sure y not

JBlue
Oct 27th, 2008, 11:00 PM
Don't understand? Re-read what I wrote and take some time.. (few years of life experience) and soak it in.

You are a newbie with < 5 posts. I think it's rich that you state "I DEFINITELY do not recommend dealing with him" when he has 36 Feedback and you have a big donut (0).

You sound like sour grapes on a situation in the pass. Is this transaction that significant in your life? Are these speakers that important you still need to to give negative feedback on a transaction that did not happen and an apology from the seller? You are hard to please. Buy from a store with a good return policy so situations like this won't happen or if it does.. fill out a comment card.

Move on.. better yet maybe re-register a new account so flash back of this incident don't haunt ur future trading on RFD.

Peace!

mcg
Oct 27th, 2008, 11:03 PM
Yes I respect the fact that you have zero feedback, and everyone does have to start at zero anyways.

Like I mentioned in my post, I admit did contact you in frustration since my initial buyer didn't show up, and we did "settle" on a tentative deal for today.

But I have been in contact with my initial buyer for almost half a week via. phone, and as for us, via. an occasional email. I put you on the backburner while he had priority since he contacted me first.

I suppose it was my mistake for contacting you. Realize that I spent 5 minutes chatting with you, and probably over 30 minutes with the other person. Because of those 5 minutes of giving you "the excitement that I would sell you the speakers", you came and gave me negative feedback.

I don't think you understand the situation I was in, and that you are overreacting. I do apologize for getting you falsely excited and such, but things like these do happen and I did mention that I would have rather sold it to you if it weren't for him contacting me last minute saying he was here. Read my email again once, twice, and thrice before you make another post. I was already frustrated enough with him.

Again, I am sorry for making this deal a sour one, if it is your first one too.

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 11:03 PM
maybe u should be the one who should move on life few years of life experience? where?? africa? maybe u should read b4 u post as well sassysue told me to get over it i replied with positive attitude what more do u expect?

sarsshadow
Oct 27th, 2008, 11:06 PM
i accept your apology i thought much about it and i should apologize as well im overreacting so im sorry.

nsx
Oct 27th, 2008, 11:09 PM
Case closed.

Let's move on.