Slighty LAZY (Amblyopic) Eye - is it that bad?

[AGray]

Hey all.

26 year old male here. When I was 14 I sustained an injury to my right eye cornea, resulting in opaque, 20/200 vision in that eye. As my left eye is 20/20, the right compensates by shifting slightly (15%?) off centre.

I am waiting to have corneal surgery done, but I am looking for advice, as I feel that this injury is the root cause to most of the frustration and anxiety in my life (read: severe depression with suicidal thoughts...but I'm too much of a coward to ever really do anything). I'm becoming more withdrawn from social behaviour, and I really feel this is holding my entire life back.

Is this worth it all for a slightly off centre or lazy eye? Absolutely not, but I cannot convince myself that everyone else does not think it's hideous. I'm pretty good looking otherwise and in shape, but I will likely never go for anything other than a drunken one-night stand as I cannot fathom someone wanting to date someone with a lazy eye.

I've been heavy into drinking since 19, and more recently turned to marijuana and even tried MDMA (Extasy) last weekend to try to get away from this.

I know we all have our massive insecurities that we feel EVERYONE else notices...larges noses, pointy ears, etc...but, how do you feel when you see someone with a slightly lazy eye? I'm blessed that it's not even THAT bad...but I just can't seem to raise my confidence.

This all seems so...selfish, or shallow given the major life problems that other people have...but I just...don't know.

Thank you any and all for any input you may have.

[ullyeus]

I worry about the responses you will get...

But seriously go check out a therapist or counseling...they can really help with things like this.

What we think doesn't really matter..one of my best buddies has a lazy eye and while I find it "unusual in a almost curious kind of way" it doesn't hinder our relationship at all.

Marijuana or MDMA (which really is different from ectasy) are all fine and good but should only really be used to enhance things within your life..not to cover holes or try to help with depression.

What sort of advise are you really looking for here? when is your surgery?

[AGray]

I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone knows someone with a slightly lazy eye, and if they find it to be a terrible thing.

Thanks for the response...and I wasn't aware MDMA and Ex were different - good to know.

[DLFB]

You'd be surprised with the number of Celebrities who have it.

and since according to you:


I'm pretty good looking otherwise and in shape

then you gotta be able to carry yourself with that condition.

[lioncar]

honestly, this place is not the best nor the proper forum to ask that question. You got to find the self confidence yourself, no need to seek acceptance from others.

[AGray]

I understand, thanks anyway. Will likely talk to my family doc for a referral to a psych.

[goJays]

do ppl look u in the "eye" when they talk to you? most people would maybe try look elsewhere when talking to you, while others like me would focus on that one busted eye.

[Buggy166]

from what you said, its not your eye thats the problem, its you.

psychologically you're putting yourself down for something most people dont care about.

does it look weird? fk, probably, i have a lazy eye naturally but you need to look for it to see it i guess. A lot of people do, its generally due to having a more relaxed muscle in that area. Yours may be worse bc its an injury, but dont blame it for your psychological state of mind.

You are what you are because you choose to be, not because of some sort of injury that to be honest, could have been a lot worse (losing a leg or an arm, or complete blindness)

You can be happy or sad, it takes the same amount of work. Have a goal in mind and get there.

[Owbist]

I have a lazy eye. No one could put a name to it untill about 1975 and I was 39. As a child I wore a pirate's patch or glasses with the one eye having frosted glass. One doctor wanted to swap my eyes to the other socket as a kid. Mum said no to that.

Returning to Ontario to live in 1975 the guy at the driver's license place caught it when I could not say where a dotted line passed through a ladder on the eye testing machine, I saw the dotted line with one eye and the ladder with the other. I cannot see in 3D as most folks can, there is no depth perception. Luckily he gave me the license.

Once I was retired I looked into getting it corrected, until then I had a family obligations to raise. I was told fixing the eye was not a problem - however they felt fixing my brain after close to 70 years was another issue and one they could not fix and I would suffer greatly. I still have a lazy eye.

So based on my experience you should at the very least seek help as to the viability, do not leave it too long as I did. Yes I was afraid of blindness but the fear was more to do with the inability to provide for my wife and girls if it failed and I was blind. Failure was very remote but of course when it is you having to decide it is much harder than deciding what another person should choose.

[markom]

I know 2 people with varying degrees of lazy eye and they are both married (not together) with kids and seem quite confident. I am sure there is hope for you.

[goJays]

TTIWWP. Post a pic and we will tell u if it's "that bad". However, you may become the butt end of a lot of photochop pwnage.

[UrbanPoet]

I think deep down inside everyone is beautiful <3

Look inside. In your heart. You can do great things if you find your inner self.


I have a lazy eye. No one could put a name to it untill about 1975 and I was 39. As a child I wore a pirate's patch or glasses with the one eye having frosted glass. One doctor wanted to swap my eyes to the other socket as a kid. Mum said no to that.

Returning to Ontario to live in 1975 the guy at the driver's license place caught it when I could not say where a dotted line passed through a ladder on the eye testing machine, I saw the dotted line with one eye and the ladder with the other. I cannot see in 3D as most folks can, there is no depth perception. Luckily he gave me the license.

Once I was retired I looked into getting it corrected, until then I had a family obligations to raise. I was told fixing the eye was not a problem - however they felt fixing my brain after close to 70 years was another issue and one they could not fix and I would suffer greatly. I still have a lazy eye.

So based on my experience you should at the very least seek help as to the viability, do not leave it too long as I did. Yes I was afraid of blindness but the fear was more to do with the inability to provide for my wife and girls if it failed and I was blind. Failure was very remote but of course when it is you having to decide it is much harder than deciding what another person should choose.

You are a good man. Thinking about your family like that...


To the OP. This man did perfectly fine and seems to be very loving towards his wife and kids. I'm sure you could do the same.

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[Stoe99]

I have a lazy eye.No one could put a name to it untill about 1975 and I was 39. As a child I wore a pirate's patch or glasses with the one eye having frosted glass. One doctor wanted to swap my eyes to the other socket as a kid. Mum said no to that.


Congratulations, you are officially the oldest person to use the internet......ever

[UrbanPoet]

Congratulations, you are officially the oldest person to use the internet......ever

73... not bad. A lot of 73 year olds still function perfectly fine if they are in good health :D

[Owbist]

Congratulations, you are officially the oldest person to use the internet......ever

6 and 4 is 8 and 2 are 12 in case you have difficulty with mathematics :)

You need to get out more, I belong to 2 computer help forums where there are many members far older than myself, some well into their 80s and still functioning well.

[Mr Nobody]

Hey all.

26 year old male here. When I was 14 I sustained an injury to my right eye cornea, resulting in opaque, 20/200 vision in that eye. As my left eye is 20/20, the right compensates by shifting slightly (15%?) off centre.

I am waiting to have corneal surgery done, but I am looking for advice, as I feel that this injury is the root cause to most of the frustration and anxiety in my life (read: severe depression with suicidal thoughts...but I'm too much of a coward to ever really do anything). I'm becoming more withdrawn from social behaviour, and I really feel this is holding my entire life back.

Is this worth it all for a slightly off centre or lazy eye? Absolutely not, but I cannot convince myself that everyone else does not think it's hideous. I'm pretty good looking otherwise and in shape, but I will likely never go for anything other than a drunken one-night stand as I cannot fathom someone wanting to date someone with a lazy eye.

I've been heavy into drinking since 19, and more recently turned to marijuana and even tried MDMA (Extasy) last weekend to try to get away from this.

I know we all have our massive insecurities that we feel EVERYONE else notices...larges noses, pointy ears, etc...but, how do you feel when you see someone with a slightly lazy eye? I'm blessed that it's not even THAT bad...but I just can't seem to raise my confidence.

This all seems so...selfish, or shallow given the major life problems that other people have...but I just...don't know.

Thank you any and all for any input you may have.

Self confidence comes from within and not from the way you look. You're using the lazy eye as a scapegoat. If you're serious about turning your life around, consider some of these options:

- Therapy or professional advice
- Surgery to fix your eye (which you are already doing) which may artificially boost your confidence
- Stop the drugs and binge drinking (social is okay)
- Find something in yourself to be proud of
- Find something to drive you and motivate you (school, work, hobby, helping out friends/family, whatever)
- Get out more and socialize with males and females
- Don't be an island, use you friends and family for support
- If you're looking to hook up, get to know girls in your standard environment (circle of friends, school, work, whatever). They'll be more likely to like you for who you are versus walking up to some random chick at a bar.

Don't you ever see a lot of unattractive guys with hot chicks and wonder how the guy scored? Or you ever see a good looking guy with an unattractive girl? Life's not all about looks.

People who know you will like you for who you are. Who cares about what random strangers think?

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6 and 4 is 8 and 2 are 12 in case you have difficulty with mathematics :)

You need to get out more, I belong to 2 computer help forums where there are many members far older than myself, some well into their 80s and still functioning well.

I know this lady she is in her 30's or 40's and she is "average" looking...like anyone else I guess.
She is in a wheelchair and always in a fairly cheerful mood.

She had a bunch of bad health issues but her husband was always bringing her to medical apts...
then she had a baby 3? or so years ago, and last year this nice lady, she had a stroke and other things, and ended up in the hospital and lost part of both her legs..so now she can not walk.
Her husbandi still with her and never seems to complain about anything....
I ran into this lady today actually.
I think her issues/whatever are much more than "lazy eye''.

Also,one of my aunts has MS and she used to work making crafts, and every year she used to get more sicker.
She used to manage a Walmart at one time and her husband worked too.
Then she had to start using a walker and quit her job (walmart was very nice and helped her a lot, but she found it to hard to work because of stuff).
Now she had to use a walker, and now can not walk and had to get a electric wheelchair and now I just found out she can not even get out of bed by herself so she has to have an attendant come 2x a day to get her in bed and out of bed.
Oh also, last week her husband/my uncle he died of cancer.
He found out he had lung cancer a few months ago, then something w brain,liver and one thing after another...
So, now my aunt hasto live by herself with no company at home.....and to me hersituation is kinda sad as they were married 20 years...

Alot of celebrities also have issues with their looks.
look at Tom cruise he is a "midget"and maybe 5"2,lol?
"midget mac" I saw him on a reality show and he was on a dating show wanting to win and the girl on the show picked him for a couple of dates and he acted like he was "the man".
he even had a kid ect...

Not too sure if you heard about it this week but Megan fox has a "deformity" and one of her thumbs is too big.
no one really seems to care though..exept the media...

op, maybe your problems are from you doing drugs and a bad attitude.
most people that look kinda "average" still manage to meet people, even non-attractive people also.

[jackwest]

you sound like a decent person, so if your character matches your post, does your lazy eye matter?

absolutely not...as you know there are alot of people with quirks. i think most or all people will be able to be your friend, and a lazy eye won't matter at all

dont let this hold you back from socializing...confidence is not something that will come easily but it has nothing to do with your physical appearance if you have other things to offer to people

[ullyeus]

mods going to let let this one go? you banned me for reminding people of a price error

I got banned because I called someone "nuts" hehe....