Arguments between wife and my mother over our kid
To make long story short: my mother has been packing my older one(2.5 y/o) old with chocolates during our visits. She would take the kid to another room and give him candies, chocolates, bars etc. Wife has mentioned this to me on a number of occasions and i started noticing the "let's go i'll show you something" moments which I ignored earlier. The sweets make my kid attracted to her more than the other grandmother(this one actually listens). I didn't bring this up for some time but then caught her in an action and asked politely not to give my son chocolates at 9pm. 30 minutes later I sense another wrongdoing and catch a kid with a bar in his hands. I snatched it out of his hands and told my mother with a raised voice that I think i made it clear today not to give him stuff before his bedtime.
Then later in a week came a slew of arguments with tons of crap piled against me and my wife. I made it clear that this is my child, i raise and parent him(my mother spends minimal to no-time with him except when we visit my parents) and I make the rules. My mother has agreed not to do this again but as i expected my words went ignored and I have again witnessed the chocolate kindness of my mother. Wife is furious and is willing to cut visit times and vacationing together with my parents.
Anyone been in these situations? I don't think we've overreacted with the sweets for our kid late night.
Then later in a week came a slew of arguments with tons of crap piled against me and my wife. I made it clear that this is my child, i raise and parent him(my mother spends minimal to no-time with him except when we visit my parents) and I make the rules. My mother has agreed not to do this again but as i expected my words went ignored and I have again witnessed the chocolate kindness of my mother. Wife is furious and is willing to cut visit times and vacationing together with my parents.
Anyone been in these situations? I don't think we've overreacted with the sweets for our kid late night.