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tldr

[theops]

it's a loss-loss situation, sorry.

I guess she is depressed, medication a solution perhaps?

[bokep]

Divorce

I do not want to have a divorce because this can ruin my kids life but at the same time I think that if I accept her back, my love for her will not be the same as before because she has insulted me in the whole family for money and have ruined husband/wife relationship

What makes you think she'll come back?

[zydus]

http://www.redflagdeals.com/forums/s...d.php?t=722173

The first Q applies to you.

A: Seek a lawyer. Don't fcuk with the law.

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[ukgirl]

sorry about your situation. Maybe she has been planning on leaving you for a while and that is why she asked for the $900 a month? that was my first thought, maybe she was trying to save her own money in a separate account?

Has everything really been perfect until now? maybe she has been unhappy for a long time and you didnt realize?

I think it is really in your wife's hands right now, you cant make her come back and it just seems like maybe you are thinking the problem/issue was money and maybe it was something else altogether but that was the straw that broke the camel's back?

[theops]

talk to a lawyer, let us know if you need further help.

we'll be here.

[partytime2009]

Sorry to hear that man,

Immigrant families usually try to sit the couple down and try to work out an arrangement but she has obviously worked her parents against you. Having said that though, there are two sides to every story and I am certain that your wife has another story to tell. Why don't you tell us your wife's story as she has told you? In divorces each person feels victimized and as much as I don't want to make light of your situation, your wife's story needs to be heard to put things into context.

[Sepiraph]

Situation looks pretty bleak, divorce is a terrible thing but it is better than living out a loveless marriage. Your kids will suffer more out of that.

[Rehan]

For the last few months, my wife started complaining that, I do not give her money and she demanded that I have her half of her salary ($900)and do not ask how she is spending.

I found this unacceptable because as you can see, I am running my family expenses responsibly and her demand was not rational.

Depends on the culture. In Islam, if the wife goes out to work then typically most or all of her salary is for her to keep...they only one she's obliged to share it with is the tax man. See http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...=1119503545386 if you want more details or guidance.

[danfromwaterloo]

Seek a lawyer. Don't fcuk with the law. FTW.

Seriously, get a good ass lawyer.

[ARK]

Sorry to hear that man,
Why don't you tell us your wife's story as she has told you?

She did not tell me anything other than she was not happy that I am keeping her salary and not letting her spending money as she wishes. She only share her problems with her family.

She does not spend money responsibly. She will go to mall and will buy things without even looking at the price. I pointed this out to her many times that same thing could cost much less at a different store e.g. Walmart. but she doesn't care.

Also 2 weeks ago, when we were leaving for the office in the morning, she told me that she got a new credit card and would like to check it by making some purchases. I told her that you are not being responsible and to buy things only if need it. That was the time when we stopped talking with each other and from there onward things started to get complicated.

Also she is 30 and I am 40 and I think age difference is also one of the factor the way we think about spending money.

[sheilab]

Better to give her half of her income now than half your income for decades. Just out of curiosity what does she feel she needs to contribute to the family?

Odd that she does not want to tell you where the money will go.

Maybe you should demand that you have right to keep half your income.
Maybe you should set up a secret account.

Sorry but you are screwed. You will be paying her and her family for the rest of your life.
What is your ethnic background if I might ask. I wonder if these things are different for different ethnic groups.

[Reign]

Depends on the culture. In Islam, if the wife goes out to work then typically most or all of her salary is for her to keep...they only one she's obliged to share it with is the tax man. See http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...=1119503545386 if you want more details or guidance.

Lol my wife follows the Islamic ways to the T. But she gives me 100% of the money she works for.

[sheilab]

Lol my wife follows the Islamic ways to the T. But she gives me 100% of the money she works for.

You mean she give 100% of the money to the FAMILY.
I assume that 100% of the money is spent on family expenses and not for what you want.