This is true based on how we measure others and judge others in society.
We always believe ourselves and others to have full control of our destiny.
This is a great lie of the Ego.
There are people who seemingly are tougher by sweeping things under the carpet,mental affirmations,big egos and downright lack of shame but left unresolved may pop back up again at some future time.
Really also depends on ones balance of the carnal with the spiritual in life.
The carnal is very pleasurable but only satisfies for a season while the spiritual may last a longer time, affecting character and life more positively.
Both also affect ambition,ego size,contentment,ethics as in "at any cost" etc.
Experiences though are meant to help us in the long run and possibly bring us closer to the source.
It really depends on how one reacts to the experience.
Some buckle under the pressure and lack of support while some grab the bull by the horns and deal with it head on.
It comes down to inner strength, Glass half empty or half full, the actual degree or extent of trauma in the experience, and off course what has already accumulated in ones life thus far, making one equipped or not to handle it.
Some of us may be "spared" experiences others may have or have less depressing ones, because we learn early in life our life's divine purpose and develop and grow towards it, instead of settling into the mindset of what is for him/her is for me as well in the carnal life.