Did I shoot myself in the foot by following up ?
I applied to a job in a rather unique position. I have a friend in the company who put in a good word about me to the hiring director who sent my resume to HR ( I also applied formally as this is a HR requirement).
The problem is, HR for some reason decided not to even call me for a phone screen and sent other candidates to the director who were not selected, even though the director wanted to meet me. After this, my friend (who is himself a manager) went to the recruiter and asked what happened. He advised me to call the recruiter and ask her about my status. He also told the recruiter to expect my call, and this recruiter agreed to answer my call.
So, as it happened, I called that day and got through to voicemail, and I left two messages - none of which were answered. I called one more time but didn't leave any messages.
The next day, my friend advised me to email the recruiter to follow up. So I wrote a polite email apologizing for any bother and asked if I could get a status update. I also expressed my interest in an interview. As expected, I didn't get an answer. Today, I learned that the director had told my friend to tell me to not follow up with HR as I was beginning to irritate them. I guess I can understand why though...
My question is, while I know I probably annoyed the recruiter, does it mean she chucked my application in the bin ? Or can this blow over if I stop following up and give them time to do whatever it is they are doing (assuming I am even being considered) ?