Dilemma: Stay in Canada or go to China?

[CRXGSR]

In a serious dilemma about what to do, and was wondering if I could get some input from you guys.

Here's the situation:

My Fiancé is in Shanghai, has a really good paying job, has a mortgage but doesn't want to sell the apartment.
Me, I'm in Toronto, and have my own company and making pretty good money as well as having a lot of perks being able to write stuff off and work whenever I want to. I'm mortgage free (just sold my house).

I'm really undecided on whether to stay in Canada, and have her come here, or I should make the sacrifice to go there.

The problem if I stay in Canada:
- I would have to support her (and future kids) as her English isn't good enough to get a good job. She's used to the luxury lifestyle since she makes so a lot of money in Shanghai. My income is pretty good, but may not be enough, and I don't want her to be unhappy giving up her lifestyle.

The problem if I go to China:
- it would be hard for me to find a well paying job in China, given the fact that my résumé really isn't that impressive, and the fact that my Mandarin is very limited. I would have to find a good paying English speaking job (preferably something other than teaching English), or a low paying hard labour job.

Aside from affecting [U]our[/U] lifestyles, I also thought about our future children. I believe that raising kids in Canada would be a whole lot better, given our health care system, the education system, and the environment will be better. Plus being Canadian, they will have more freedom to do whatever they want (and travel where they want to too.)

But that's not to say raising children in China is bad either, as she's considered more upper middle class, and with us both working, we should be pretty good financially and our children can pretty much have whatever they want.

What to do??

[dealstime]

I say some doc. on CBC or probably a news spot which said people with good spoken English get high paying jobs in China.... Then agian it is your and your fiances life to decide. This is the wrong place to ask such questions

[dragon_drift]

@hb, you reading this?

[45ED]

Too bad China's not fond of dual citizenship. That would solve half of your problems right there.

[Dilton]

I don't see any way that you can stay together and both be happy. Break up with her and find another girl already here in Canada.

[Hairball]

You'll have to decide on what makes the most sense, make this type of decision is never easy. If she was poor the decision would be easy, but it doesn't sound like she'd want to give that up.

[45ED]

What about aiming to have the OP's kids born in Canada and acquire Canadian citizenship but otherwise live in China?

I know, that's totally Canadian-of-convenience-esque. But strictly speaking, if they have the citizenship in question, then it solves one issue (being Canadian = do stuff).

Of course, China (as most nations) grants a lot of benefits to its citizens. So non-citizen children might lose out on some things (what, I have no idea). But of course, if she's rich and if you can get a decent job (whatever that may be), you might be able to ride out the difficulties.

As for education, it's only a matter of searching for the right school that will provide the kind of education closest to the one you desire. On top of that, consider exposing your someday kids to other things in life - in China, around the World - to provide different perspectives instead of just letting one system shape their minds.

[DarkMasterMX]

If you're operating your own business would it be possible to still do so in China or do you require face to face interaction?

[gwan]

are you asian?
have you thought about living in china? do you think you can deal with the crazyness?

because if not that shouldn't even be asked....

if she gives up her live there and move here for more...she will feel (even a little) resentment if the life here is not as luxurious...
if you give up your live here and move there...you may feel some resentment if you can't get a new job, if she has to support you.

If anything happens, you two break up...you'll have to start back here, from zero...

[biee]

Hmmm, tough situation.

But if you can work whenever, why don't you go to China for 6 months or something, learn some mandarin and possibly find a job there? and then 6 months after, she can come to Canada, do the same thing??

[Hairball]

[QUOTE=biee;13419389]Hmmm, tough situation.

But if you can work whenever, why don't you go to China for 6 months or something, learn some mandarin and possibly find a job there? and then 6 months after, she can come to Canada, do the same thing??[/QUOTE]

It would be far more difficult for her to visit Canada, let alone come to Canada to work.

Plus planning doing 6 month intervals like that just would not make sense. Sometimes you might take 6 months finding a serious job already.

[manixc]

Have you been to Shanghai for more than a few weeks? If not, go and live there there for six months to a year.

Other than the financial/employment factor, there are a lot of other issues/matters that you are not seeing.
Factors such as the culture, food, environment, weather, political issues, etc.

[poedua]

No brainer ...stay in Canada.

[ali123]

China, If you have alot of money you can do whatever you want. Plus it's probably alot more funner.

[wisdom_kid]

You said your mandarin inst that good and her English inst that good. How do you guys communicate? Not trying to be a d*** or anything, just curious.