Does personality trump looks?

[diggler649]

Slow day at work so far. Having a debate with a female colleague.

I threw out a scenario to her. Who would she rather date? A guy that was a 3 out of 10 in terms of looks, but an 8 out of 10 in terms of personality. OR, a guy that was 3 out of 10 in terms of personality, but an 8 out of 10 in terms of personality. And she can't say neither.

She chose 3 out of 10 in terms of looks, but great personality. I called BS on her. True he may have a great personality, but can you really imagine yourself kissing a guy whose face looked like a workman's bench? And how would you not be grossed out about having to go to bed with him? Keeping in mind that this female colleague rates about a 7.5 out of 10 so it's not like she's pug fugly or anything.

So, my question to you noobs is: Can a winning personality trump hideous looks?

Discuss.

[kennyhohoho]

[QUOTE=diggler649;14427489]Slow day at work so far. Having a debate with a female colleague.

I threw out a scenario to her. Who would she rather date? A guy that was a 3 out of 10 in terms of looks, but an 8 out of 10 in terms of personality. OR, a guy that was 3 out of 10 in terms of personality, but an 8 out of 10 in terms of personality. And she can't say neither.

She chose 3 out of 10 in terms of looks, but great personality. I called BS on her. True he may have a great personality, but can you really imagine yourself kissing a guy whose face looked like a workman's bench? And how would you not be grossed out about having to go to bed with him? Keeping in mind that this female colleague rates about a 7.5 out of 10 so it's not like she's pug fugly or anything.

So, my question to you noobs is: Can a winning personality trump hideous looks?

Discuss.[/QUOTE]

No. Girl is lying. Women say these things to not sound superficial, but in reality they actually are.

Just go to any club in the downtown area on a Friday night and you'll see what I mean.

[SoBored]

not really, especially if you are actually hideous - most women won't even bother to get to know your personality before they'd write you off.

[Psubs]

[QUOTE=kennyhohoho;14427565]No. Girl is lying. Women say these things to not sound superficial, but in reality they actually are.

Just go to any club in the downtown area on a Friday night and you'll see what I mean.[/QUOTE]

Depends on "date". In a club, the girls have guards up and will only allow the 7's-10's to talk to them and entertain them.

Girls will "date" the 3, but will only be friends UNLESS she's blind or screwed over enough by 7+'s to be in a relationship with someone less hot.

[QUOTE=SoBored;14427578]not really, especially if you are actually hideous - most women won't even bother to get to know your personality before they'd write you off.[/QUOTE]

A girl will only drop so low below herself down the rating scale.

OP's female colleague must be around a 5 or 6.

An example would be height. A girl would be okay with a guy taller than herself, but if he was more than 2 inches shorter than it becomes a rarity where other factors may be evident to explain things.

[longitude]

What about a 10 in personality and a 10 in looks?


The girl may not have a chance.

[setell]

I'll take the 3 in looks as personality lasts WAY longer than looks. Besides, a 3 to you may not be truly a 3 to the other person so it's insanely subjective. I rather a guy shower me with love and affection than some a-hole that think he's a constant hot shot.

[kennyhohoho]

[QUOTE=Psubs;14427588]Depends on "date". In a club, the girls have guards up and will only allow the 7's-10's to talk to them and entertain them.

Girls will "date" the 3, but will only be friends UNLESS she's blind or screwed over enough by 7+'s to be in a relationship with someone less hot.



A girl will only drop so low below herself down the rating scale.

OP's female colleague must be around a 5 or 6.

An example would be height. A girl would be okay with a guy taller than herself, but if he was more than 2 inches shorter than it becomes a rarity where other factors may be evident to explain things.[/QUOTE]

I also forgot to mention the rule of 2 always comes into play in every situation. Men and women tend not to date outside 2 points lower or higher than where they stand themselves.

Unless of course there's money involved. Money is an instant 5 point increase. Which is why Donald Trump, who would otherwise be a 2, is constantly bagging 9s. His money bumps him up to a 7 :D

[olssy]

In the long run personality will always trump looks.

[xalex0]

The issue is that IRL the appearance is readily visible, while personality takes more time to recognize. So assuming random distribution, it makes more sense to filter out bad looks first, and then spend some time learning the personality.
While in this scenario, everything is known in advance.

[kennyhohoho]

[QUOTE=olssy;14427642]In the long run personality will always trump looks.[/QUOTE]

In the long run, yes. When people grow old together and their looks start to fade, it's the personalities that keep people together.

However, looks are important in creating that first impression and initial spark between two people. If someone doesn't have the looks to start and develop a relationship, how would they get to know their personality in the first place?

[neutral]

There are limits with everything. Plus your idea of a good personality and hers are likely very different. You may associate personality with being 'nice', but for her that likely means a personality associated with someone who is confident about themselves, and probably their looks too.

[dakota2001]

hideous is a rating of -0 and beyond 1 being okay looking, 10 would be damn...
So yeah a 3 in looks and a 7+ in personality is my pick.

Can't compare to a club pick up (How do you find someones personality in a loud drunken dark place?) That's where people wake up the next day and say OMG what did I bring home!

I do not think anyone wants a mangled faced person for a partner, but an average looking person may have nice eyes, cute smile, or many things that are attractive.
Can you imagine dating a hottie, and they are boring, or brain dead?
I Personally like the difference in a guy! the uniqueness of his looks, usually (not always) seems they have a great personality, from not being perfect! Which they seem to have more to offer and are perfectly unperferfect!

Most people are superficial when they first look at a possible mate, but if you are in a setting with a group of people talking, or the person rated at less then a 5 comes up and talks to you, the better chance is personality trumps hottness.

If the person is hot, and has no personality, that leads to a short period of knowing the person, long lasting relationships depend on personality. Looks fade, personality is forever!

[the_fm]

[QUOTE=dakota2001;14427698]snip[/QUOTE]

you forgot one thing: age. age plays a big factor in this. young people tend to go for the hot stuff but really drab personality. it's all about fitting in and being popular. as you get older (30 and beyond), you tend to be a bit more lax in looks

[diggler649]

[QUOTE=setell;14427594]I'll take the 3 in looks as personality lasts WAY longer than looks. Besides, a 3 to you may not be truly a 3 to the other person so it's insanely subjective. I rather a guy shower me with love and affection than some a-hole that think he's a constant hot shot.[/QUOTE]

Setell, you're a chick right? Hi, I'm diggler by the way.

So what you're saying is you wouldn't be grossed out by kissing/sleeping with a 3? I would say that there would have to be at least some sort of initial physical attraction otherwise you wouldn't even give the guy a chance. For example, your walking past a comic nerd convention. Out walks an Asian Shrek eating Kraft cheese singles from the wrapper and whose face looked like an abortion on toast. He accidentally bumps into you because he was reading a comic book price guide and wasn't watching where he was going. You two strike up a convo and he asks you out for a coffee. Personality seems great. Would you go?

[MrMimizu]

[QUOTE=diggler649;14427489]

She chose 3 out of 10 in terms of looks, but great personality. I called BS on her. True he may have a great personality, but can you really imagine yourself kissing a guy whose face looked like a workman's bench? And how would you not be grossed out about having to go to bed with him? Keeping in mind that this female colleague rates about a 7.5 out of 10 so it's not like she's pug fugly or anything.

Discuss.[/QUOTE]

She is not lying. I have seen way too many superhot 12/10 girls with 1/10 guys.