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Giving money for a wedding gift - cash or cheque?

So next weekend I'm attending a South Asian wedding - the card says no boxed gifts, so obviously money is what everyone is giving.

When you've given money for a wedding gift, do you write a cheque, or give cash?

Is it considered tacky to give cash, and classier to write a cheque? Or would the couple consider the cheque a hassle, since they must go to the bank to deposit it, and cash is just easier?

I'd prefer this not to turn into a "asking for money is tacky" thread, I'd just like to hear your opinions on what is better (cash or cheque) and what you've done. Also the perspectives of anyone here who asked for money on their wedding would be great - did you prefer cash or cheques?

Thanks in advance.
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ahujie wrote:
Jun 27th, 2010 7:46 pm
So next weekend I'm attending a South Asian wedding - the card says no boxed gifts, so obviously money is what everyone is giving.

When you've given money for a wedding gift, do you write a cheque, or give cash?

Is it considered tacky to give cash, and classier to write a cheque? Or would the couple consider the cheque a hassle, since they must go to the bank to deposit it, and cash is just easier?

I'd prefer this not to turn into a "asking for money is tacky" thread, I'd just like to hear your opinions on what is better (cash or cheque) and what you've done. Also the perspectives of anyone here who asked for money on their wedding would be great - did you prefer cash or cheques?

Thanks in advance.

Just put cash in the card. I don't think they will care if it's cash or a cheque. Bhangra away!
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ahujie wrote:
Jun 27th, 2010 7:46 pm
So next weekend I'm attending a South Asian wedding - the card says no boxed gifts, so obviously money is what everyone is giving.

When you've given money for a wedding gift, do you write a cheque, or give cash?

Is it considered tacky to give cash, and classier to write a cheque? Or would the couple consider the cheque a hassle, since they must go to the bank to deposit it, and cash is just easier?

I'd prefer this not to turn into a "asking for money is tacky" thread, I'd just like to hear your opinions on what is better (cash or cheque) and what you've done. Also the perspectives of anyone here who asked for money on their wedding would be great - did you prefer cash or cheques?

Thanks in advance.

I prefer to give the cheque as it provides security and also helps you remember what you gave for the ref..
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cant stress enough.. ALWAYS CHEQUE!!!

as others said, there is no security with cash, no reference, no history for you or the wedding guests to track your gift.

you dont want them to hate you for life if anything happens and your cash goes missing :lol:
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If you're attending the wedding in person, then CASH.
If you're NOT attending the wedding and the wedding is somewhere that you can not attend, then cheque.
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Put the cheque in a big box and see the reaction.
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Cash.
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Cash. I go to the bank and usually get a brand new $100 or more crisp new bills. Write in the card what you are giving them so they know that you gave them something :P.
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The last wedding I went too... I gave an envelope full of crispy red $50's... Its a Chinese thing :D
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Jun 27th, 2010 9:55 pm
Cash. I go to the bank and usually get a brand new $100 or more crisp new bills. Write in the card what you are giving them so they know that you gave them something :P.
Always cheques. Thieves have been known to stake out wedding halls and steal the box of cash. I haven't heard of this in the news in a while, but it was in the news some time ago. They were targeting Italian and Portuguese weddings, due to the high number of guests and large cash donations.

You can always write a new cheque.
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I actually have given money orders with their names on it. It for most people is the first time they will see their names written together. I don't know what the people are expecting, but I usually drop $800, so nobody complains anyway.
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CASH

why would you want the poor couple to have to give 25% away to the government, great gift that would make.
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Jun 27th, 2010 11:54 pm
CASH

why would you want the poor couple to have to give 25% away to the government, great gift that would make.
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When have you cashed a $100 cheque and only pocketed $75?
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