"Home Spending" Contribution

[poedua]

i do..i still live at home
she wants $2000 a month....is that alot or not? its alot out of my salary after tax..

i thought this was more of a voluntary thing but its now like a compulsory thing and im really losing sleep over it..

$2,000 ? I can see that....but if you don't like it....just leave and move out on your own.

[mbk.2k3]

I can’t believe she’s asking me for money!

She calls it a “responsibility” and not charging…she’s taking like 70% of my salary and Im just so upset cause I never asked her for money throughout university

i didn't ask for money either in uni.... so?

if you don't feel like you owe them anything for all your parents would have done up until you went off to university/college, then sure, dont contribute, but then dont live at home and cozy up to them either. however, considering that its highly likely they raised you at home, and considering that you are living with them at the moment, heck yes you should help out. and heck yes it is your responsibility to a certain extent since you are living at home.

granted, your mom is coming about this the wrong way as well. $2k is too much to ask. my parents, even after my starting a full time job, always told me to save. and they wouldnt make me give up more than 50% of my earnings barring some excruciating circumstances.

personally, i help out with a few bills, groceries, and the occasional home repair. i also give like $200 to send back home to grandparents.

if this was my brother asking me this question, i'd ask him 'how much do you value what your parents have done for you? and what do you feel are your short term/long term goals and how much do you need to save to achieve those goals'.

NO GOAL should be such that you leave yourself with NO room to contribute at home.

my advice:
- pay yourself first. i.e. save 30%+ of your income
- start picking up a few bills (i assume you are using their internet subscription/cable service) and some groceries maybe at home
- talk to mom about your saving goals
- if situation goes downhill, GTFO and get your own internet subscription/cable service

*puts on flame suit*

[DarkMasterMX]

When I still lived at home the idea was tossed around about paying 400-500 a month. We lived in a 3800sq/ft house so it was fairly decent in size which made the price pretty reasonable since there was always tons of space and freedom to have friends over and do things.

$2,000 is pretty absurd unless you're living in a mansion maybe with servants and stuff? The condo I live in now costs $1650.00 a month all in and is a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom. $1300.00 rents you a pretty nice one bedroom place and $700.00 is more than enough for food. I would strongly consider moving out if they were trying to force that kind of payment on me. As for paying to the family after you leave I duno... I've had several Asian friends who've had to deal with this but in my family its very much of a cut and dry situation if you go off on your own to live.

[SoBored]

i didn't ask for money either in uni.... so?

if you don't feel like you owe them anything for all your parents would have done up until you went off to university/college, then sure.
however, considering that its highly likely they raised you at home, and considering that you are living with them at the moment, heck yes you should help out. and heck yes it is your responsibility to a certain extent since you are living at home.

granted, your mom is coming about this the wrong way as well. $2k is too much to ask. my parents, even after my starting a full time job, always told me to save. and they wouldnt make me give up more than 50% of my earnings barring some excruciating circumstances.

personally, i help out with a few bills, groceries, and the occasional home repair. i also give like $200 to send back home to grandparents.

if this was my brother asking me this question, i'd ask him 'how much do you value what your parents have done for you? and what do you feel are your short term/long term goals and how much do you need to save to achieve those goals'.

NO GOAL should be such that you leave yourself with NO room to contribute at home.

my advice:
- pay yourself first. i.e. save 30%+ of your income
- start picking up a few bills (i assume you are using their internet subscription/cable service) and some groceries maybe at home
- talk to mom about your saving goals
- if situation goes downhill, GTFO and get your own internet subscription/cable service

*puts on flame suit*

Your parents, unless they put you up for adoption, were LEGALLY responsible to take care of you until you were 18. So they provided shelter, food, some toys, whatever, does that mean they can hold that over your head when you become an adult? that's stupid and selfish on their behalf. Especially to demand the money. They had responsibilities when they gave birth to you, just because they met those responsibilities doesn't give them the right to demand 50% of your pay

[glossyy]

I have no problem with contributing to the house of which im already doing like groceries, our joint credit card bill, taking them out to lunch and dinner every week. What she is taking about is the money on top of that $2,000 and that’s 70% of my salary there..
Im an only child and my parents are very traditional. I don’t expect to contribute nothing but that shes demanding me for money right after my probation is just so outrageous.

[mbk.2k3]

Especially to demand the money. They had responsibilities when they gave birth to you, just because they met those responsibilities doesn't give them the right to demand 50% of your pay

thats why i said

granted, your mom is coming about this the wrong way as well. $2k is too much to ask. my parents, even after my starting a full time job, always told me to save. and they wouldnt make me give up more than 50% of my earnings barring some excruciating circumstances.

but, i don't think i'll ever understand this argument about 'its parents legal responsibility to take care of you, so you dont owe them *****', but thats a separate matter.

the point i was making in my post is not that parents have the right to demand 50% of your money.
the point i was making is that you shouldnt be so upset (boohoo) that you are being asked to help out especially considering you are still living under their roof. if you are so shocked, then gtfo.
hate free-loaders.

[mbk.2k3]

I have no problem with contributing to the house of which im already doing like groceries, our joint credit card bill, taking them out to lunch and dinner every week. What she is taking about is the money on top of that $2,000 and that’s 70% of my salary there..
Im an only child and my parents are very traditional. I don’t expect to contribute nothing but that shes demanding me for money right after my probation is just so outrageous.

good on you for picking up the little things like that.

then the only thing from my post that applies is:
- what do you feel are your short term/long term goals and how much do you need to save to achieve those goals'
- talk to mom about your saving goals
- if situation goes downhill, GTFO and get your own internet subscription/cable service

[J W]

I pay $700+ a month. Some bills I take care of (house phone, house internet, cell phones, etc.)

When I first graduated it started at $500, then I slowly moved it up (of my own accord).

There's really no "set" amount, you do what's reasonable for everyone. But I have to admit, $2000 does seem like overkill...I haven't heard anyone paying that amount.

[mcewen]

I charge my son $400/month plus the cost of car insurance. These are reasonable amounts to ease him into a life where he has monthly responsibilities.

$2000 is profiteering.

move out.
Tell them you opt for Traditional Canadian Culture instead.

[poedua]

thats why i said



but, i don't think i'll ever understand this argument about 'its parents legal responsibility to take care of you, so you dont owe them *****', but thats a separate matter.

the point i was making in my post is not that parents have the right to demand 50% of your money.
the point i was making is

that you shouldnt be so upset (boohoo) that you are being asked to help out especially considering you are still living under their roof.

if you are so shocked, then gtfo. hate free-loaders.

+1

[Forhad]

$2000 in a month is too much. I contribute $500 per month.

[deltone]

Yikes, I thought it said $200 a month and I was thinking.........YOU CHEAP SOB but when I saw it was $2000 I changed my tune. OP, as others have said, you can get a REAL nice place for that sort of money. Joint credit cards and paying 70% of your salary should not be an option.

Everyone is different but I know that I could never ever demand such things from any of my children (all grown now). They all live out on their own but seriously, my hope and dreams for all of them is that they do well financially and in no way would I ever want to profit off of them. Now, if they did live at home, I would feel that $400 a month is adequate to cover for the added expenses that I would inccur (such as electricity, food etc.).

You need to sit down with your mom and have a little discussion with her about this. You are an adult and you need to start living like one. I'm all for family obligations but what your mom is planning sounds like family fleecing. GOOD LUCK

[Mars2012]

$2000 is excessive, maybe she wants you to live at home forever, since you won't be able to save up for anything else. You should definitely renegotiate the amount if you plan on staying at home. I understand family obligations and all, but some aspects of Asian culture leaves me shaking my head.

I worked for free in my family's business for years and I put myself through university. My parents weren't the type to do anything to help their children "get a leg up", they liked bragging about our accomplishments, though. Anyway, I moved out at a fairly early age because I couldn't stand living with them anymore. If you have a good relationship with your mother, then stay and offer what you can safely afford. You will know what your breaking point is, and will make those sacrifices to have your own place, if necessary.

I give mom some grocery store gc's at Christmas and when I go visit in the summer, but that's it. I feel that I've given up enough of my childhood working for them. My siblings, on the other hand, bend over backwards to see how much they can spend on her.

[UrbanPoet]

Wow thats crazy... is $2000k profit?
Or is there something behind the scenes? Sometimes families need help depending onthe financial situation... But sometimes I see parents taking money as just a 'pay back'.
While its nice and respectful to do that for your parents theres gotta be a limit too.

[Frankie3s]

i do..i still live at home
she wants $2000 a month....is that alot or not? its alot out of my salary after tax..

i thought this was more of a voluntary thing but its now like a compulsory thing and im really losing sleep over it..

Unless you're finished school and are ready to work, $2,000 is unreasonable. You can get an apartment for cheaper than that. $50 a week would be fair.