How to Help a Shopaholic brother?
His room is a mess, he hasn't cleaned it in two years. All of the clothes and items he buys never go onto a shelf or rack. He throws them onto the ground and tramples all over them the second he buys them. This morning I tried to get an iPhone charge cable out of his room and stepped on a bunch of poured lotion on the ground by accident. He got mad at me and told me to leave his room immediately.
I myself am in university and always trying to get the best bang for the buck. I try and resell my stuff so I can get most of my money back. I never buy new and always buy used. I have to pay for bills, tuition etc and I usually have a few dollars to spend here and there. When I come visit home, seeing my brother's shopping habits makes me feel really bad... alot of times I make big sacrifices to that I can afford to pay rent or whatever.
He works at dominoes 56 hours per week usually until 1am in the morning and his grades have been very negatively suffering over working so much. He spends his entire paycheck by the time he gets the next one so he has a zero balance. He buys food every shift at dominoes instead of eating home cooked meals. When asked about his shopping habits he either gets extremely angry and defensive. He says it is his money and he can choose to spend it however he likes.
When he was younger (around 12) he spent around $2000-$3000 on video game micro transactions, steam cards, pop figures, random DVD's and comic books. He didn't have that money, so he stole it out of my wallet. He stole my debit card and used it to make purchases. When I finally found out he had to use all of his birthday money and he had to sell everything in a garage sale and after 2 years I managed to get my money back.
What is there to do in this situation? Should I just ignore him and let him spend it however he likes since its his money? Every time I try talking to him I gets extremely angry, makes threats to call the police, etc and I don't want to deal with it.