How is marriage like

[kamilio]

Hey,

So this question is geared towards those that are married. I am reaching that age in which marriage has become a more common topic of conversation - specially when I am dating someone.

My question is, how is marriage like? How did your relationship change once you got married? Is it true that married people only have sex like twice a week (on average) or is that figure more relevant for much older married couples? How can you keep the relationship fresh?

Basically, if you can please share with me everything that you wish you knew about marriage before you got married. I want to hear the good, the average, and the ugly.

[flashy_mcflash]

[mrperfect]

First in this legendary 34+ page thread.
Let me know when you figure this out, people have tried for generations.

Well there are lots of things you can do to spice up your marriage life, however if it really works or not is truly debateable. Obviously Marriage has lots of advantages and disadvantages to how you see it, making the most of it and doing it only when you are ready is the way to go.
Whatever you do dont get married and then think, you will not only screw up your life but also affect others around you.

[Stock R]

Hey,

So this question is geared towards those that are married. I am reaching that age in which marriage has become a more common topic of conversation - specially when I am dating someone.

My question is, how is marriage like? How did your relationship change once you got married? Is it true that married people only have sex like twice a week (on average) or is that figure more relevant for much older married couples? How can you keep the relationship fresh?

Basically, if you can please share with me everything that you wish you knew about marriage before you got married. I want to hear the good, the average, and the ugly.

Marriage is sharing your life with someone. How good/bad it is depends on what you put into it. If you go into it expecting to fill a personal need (improve my life, complete myself, sex, share my feelings, etc) it will probably suck. You have to go into it for the other person.

As to frequency... where did you get such an optimistic figure?

[stealth]

Hey,

So this question is geared towards those that are married. I am reaching that age in which marriage has become a more common topic of conversation - specially when I am dating someone.

My question is, how is marriage like? How did your relationship change once you got married? Is it true that married people only have sex like twice a week (on average) or is that figure more relevant for much older married couples? How can you keep the relationship fresh?

Basically, if you can please share with me everything that you wish you knew about marriage before you got married. I want to hear the good, the average, and the ugly.

Ha, in your dreams!
But that said, IMo any relationship longer than 6months and the frequency of sex will likely drop off. If youve been with the same person for any long period of time, married or not, if youre getting it 2x a week or more, Id bet youre doing better than the average.

I dont think theres any thing special about marriage itself that kills passion or romance. its more a matter of how long youve been together that leads to boredom, laziness etc.

IMo, having kids is what really changes the relationship dynamic.

[kamilio]

Marriage is sharing your life with someone. How good/bad it is depends on what you put into it. If you go into it expecting to fill a personal need (improve my life, complete myself, sex, share my feelings, etc) it will probably suck. You have to go into it for the other person.

As to frequency... where did you get such an optimistic figure?

Optimistic? I am guessing you're pulling my chain.

If you were serious though, it was in some article I read a while back. Do you think it should be higher?

[king_george]

Been married for over 30 years, 4 kids and I STILL can't explain the experience.

The only thing I wish I'd known was just how expensive kids are. Especially all girls, the are like a money hoover constantly getting into your wallet.

As for the sex part, NOYB. I will say though that the frequency drops off after each kid before picking back up again.

Lastly, when you get married take your vows SERIOUSLY. Only losers and morons don't and that goes for men and women. If you can't keep your vows, then end the marriage and move on.

[kamilio]

Ha, in your dreams!
But that said, IMo any relationship longer than 6months and the frequency of sex will likely drop off. If youve been with the same person for any long period of time, married or not, if youre getting it 2x a week or more, Id bet youre doing better than the average.

I dont think theres any thing special about marriage itself that kills passion or romance. its more a matter of how long youve been together that leads to boredom, laziness etc.

IMo, having kids is what really changes the relationship dynamic.

So it is more I do with the time that you have been together more so than the marriage.

[sandikosh]

Marriage is all give and take. The husband has to give and the wife takes it. The wife doesn't give anymore since she gave it all before she got married.

[gwan]

marriage is all give and take. The husband has to give and the wife takes it. The wife doesn't give anymore since she gave it all before she got married.

like

and wow
some really happy sounding married people here

[particleman]

+1 he speaks the truth

Marriage is all give and take. The husband has to give and the wife takes it. The wife doesn't give anymore since she gave it all before she got married.

[stealth]

So it is more I do with the time that you have been together more so than the marriage.

Exactly. the only things that really change, are more routine household responsibilities, usually less "me" time, and possibly more involvement with in-laws.

[Maymybonneliveforever]

For me marriage is like spending the rest of my life with my best friend. It has it's ups and downs and does take some hard work at time, not getting into a steady routine is the key and respecting each other is very important. I'm in love with my wife more now than when I married her, we've grown stronger together and I try not to take her for granted. The key is to never go to sleep angry with each other and never give up on each other......no matter what. We have two kids, one in college and the other in high school and it's the first marriage for both of us.

[suffocate]

Marriage is all give and take. The husband has to give and the wife takes it. The wife doesn't give anymore since she gave it all before she got married.

lol

[iEyeCaptain]

pm najibs.

i hear he's super helpful.