I'm screwed...

[SEDragon]

I was kinda reluctant to posting this here because from what I see, most people here are 80-90 average students lol... But that's also why I feel that you guys can help me out.

Anyways to the main point, first of all sorry for the long post, I typed more than I planned to but don't feel like editing it lol so here's a summary:

-I'm in 2nd year uni., and got suspended for a year after being on probation last semester for having low marks
-having not much motivation for school in the beginning, I now wonder if school is really for me at all
-I have no ******* idea what I want to do in life
-but want to have a decent job

...and the questions in advance:
-need advices on what to do...
-since I'm withdrawn from my program, will I have to repay OSAP starting now?
-I know I won't get the second part of my loan issued this year, but what about the grants?
-how do I break this news to my parents without getting my ass kicked? XD (I know I should just tell them honestly, but we've never been close or on good terms so, I dunno what will happen to me)

The story:
I go to Ryerson, I started the second year of my program in Fall with a probationary standing because I got really low marks and wasn't really trying last year. And then I got suspended or "Required to Withdraw" for a year this semester because I failed to meet the requirements on the probation contract, my marks were too low once again. I was actually trying last sem., but near the end of the semester I just gave up completely -_-

Part of the reasons to why I don't seem to try is because I don't really know if this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Also because I'm really really lazy, and since I got into uni. I seem to have gotten even lazier and more laid back.
Example: I would procrastinate on assignments and let's say one worth 5% is due, but I didn't do it. I would feel really stressed about it a few days before it's due and try to do it, but in the end if I don't finish it on time, I would just be like: "eh, it's only 5%...". WTF is wrong with me!
(There's also the social part, which I might explain later...[I'm very shy and you might even call me anti-social when at school])

It's also because I have no effing clue what I want to do with my life I'm beginning to feel that university is not for me, or rather, school is not for me...

But being Chinese, I'm in the stereotypical situation where my "Asian parents" expects me to graduate from uni. and get a good job and that all my relatives just so happens to be smarter/better at school than me.

If they knew that I don't wanna finish school they'd kick my ass for sure lol, (I didn't tell them I got suspended yet...and I can't imagine what they would do when/if I tell them...)

On the other hand, I myself also want to be able to be well off and live leisurely if not luxuriously haha. Or like many RFDer's lol because from what I see, the majority of people on RFD are pretty well off. But that isn't really possible without getting a degree in today's society...

So yeah, I'm so lost as to what to do now... I have a year to think about it, but what should I do after that? The first thing I need help on is to find out what the hell I want to do in life, and I never seem to be able to do that...there are many things that interest me, but I can't imagine myself doing most of them for a living or I know that I wouldn't be able to get past school for it.

Sorry again for the long long post and for anything that might not make sense, I'm stressed by this lol. Thanks in advance to those that actually took the time to read the whole thing and those who reply.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[affy]

what program are you in? Engineering or Business

I had a friend who was suspending from the fulltime business school at Ryerson and he ended up repeating all his first year classes through the chang school. He did well and was re admitted to the program.

If you're in engineering, I have no idea how you would approach it. There is some student services like counseling offered on campus, you could check that out. Either way its not the end of the world.

[LegiT]

Well, ask yourself, what do you like doing? What do you tend to do everyday or in your free time? You'll probably find something more suiting and be more happy.
With regards to the social part...find people who have similar interests. Take an initiative to get to know them and before you know it, you're friends. Well, that's how I make mine anyway lol.

EDIT: And post the answers....don't just ask yourself mentally.

[dondada83]

What have you been doing all this time? Aren't your parents suspicious that you aren’t in class or are they that oblivious?

You definitely need to tell your parents your situation for starters. You mention that you have interests but feel like there are no opportunities for you? Do you care to elaborate for us?

[rilhouse]

that sucks. you'll have to pay back your OSAP since your not in school but not any grants. be sure to keep in good standing with OSAP otherwise you will not get any future loans should you return to school.

i can't tell you what to do in life only you can decide but uni is not for everyone. you really need to decide what you want to do in life and that should provide you motivation to achieve. you don't need a degree to be successful, if you enjoy working with your hands look into skilled trades, they make big $.

[Psubs]

Oh man, you are screwed. My condolences.

I'm working, but would rather not be. I'd like to be a Poker Pro, but I'm not that great.

I would say, run away to a foreign country and teach English for a year.

[dondada83]

I would say, run away to a foreign country and teach English for a year.

Unfortunately, most of the companies require you to have a degree or diploma of some sort.

[Paranoidandroid]

I know some people who got full-time jobs right out of highschool. After a year or so, they seem to value education more and begin to take initiative towards school. So maybe you can try getting a job and in the process figure out whether you want to continue your education.

I don't think you're screwed just yet.

[LegiT]

^^

Indeed, he's not screwed. He just needs to look at his options and decide which is the best based on what he likes to do. But the thing is, he's got to put in an effort.

Oh man, you are screwed. My condolences.

I'm working, but would rather not be. I'd like to be a Poker Pro, but I'm not that great.

I would say, run away to a foreign country and teach English for a year.

That depends where as well. Teaching English in Japan is not a well paying job nor will you be working for long. The JET program has you working for 1-2 years before you're kicked out of it. So you're SOL if you can't find another job and the competition is actually quite fierce. In addition to that, there is bias in the hiring process. But this isn't entirely relevent to the OP.

[sweeper]

No, you're not screwed. Just confused.

Take a year off and get a full time job, whilst figuring out what you want to do with your life. Don't worry about "wasting" a year, if you can come back and achieve higher marks than that year was well spent.

Believe it or not many successful people have been where you are now, one of my professors today gave a speech on how she quit school and spent 10 years as a bartender before she went back to finish her degree and pursue graduate school, although 10 years is a little too much IMO.

Good Luck, especially with your parents.

BTW, which Program at Ryerson?

edit: Oh yea, and actually completing assignments wouldn't hurt at all.

[sweeper]

-but want to have a decent job

Part of the reasons to why I don't seem to try is because I don't really know if this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Also because I'm really really lazy, and since I got into uni. I seem to have gotten even lazier and more laid back.

On the other hand, I myself also want to be able to be well off and live leisurely if not luxuriously haha. Or like many RFDer's lol because from what I see, the majority of people on RFD are pretty well off. But that isn't really possible without getting a degree in today's society...

These things come with Hard Work. Roll up your sleeves son.

[FerrisB]

Follow your passions. Not many people like the academic part of school but they are motivated by:

-Passion for their chosen career
-Fear of parents (fear of shame etc)
-Love of achievement in general
-Fear of working in a factory all their lives

you get the point.

You're neither passionate enough or fearful enough to apply yourself.

You need to find one of them.

Take a semester off and live on your own. Apply for factory work and picture yourself scraping by for the rest of your life. That will scare you enough to bust your ass.

Getting passionate is the most ideal, but that's a very personal thing. That's more about self exploration.

[geronimo]

I agree with FerrisB, namely there must be some sort of motivation for you. Not all of us really love school, myself included, but I manage to get through it year by year because I am motivated to find a good, well-paying job that I enjoy, and because I have a passion for what I am studying, even though sometimes profs take the fun out of it.

[fuddleduddle]

Are you male or female?

No need to tell your family that you are on probation.

Just leave your house and go exercising or look for a job

High chance that his/her parents will find out. They'll know eventually and you'll be in more trouble. Just be open and honest with your parents, and tell them that you're seriously evaluating the situation that you're in.

Don't dream about living a well-off life in the future if you can't even focus on the priorities that are laid out before you. It's time to think critically about your life and what you need to do step by step.

[florider]

I saw this in another thread:

Don't know about what dentist makes , but my friend that is a dental hygienist is making 30-35/h and just started 7 months ago.She is working 12 hours a day ,6 days a week.She is making alot , she loves her job.As should any career path one takes.From those stats alone she is making 120k yearly.She is also getting a house built in vaughan / brampton area .Overall I'd say she is doing pretty good for a person who has only been working for less than a year.

College programs for dental hygienist:

http://www.cdho.org/Registration/Edu...Institutes.pdf

Dental hygienist, dentist, pharmacist, pharmacist assistant, librarian, photographer seem like good jobs for shy people

http://ca.search.yahoo.com/search?fr...ario%20college