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Lost $700k in romance scam :(

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Techiedude wrote:
Jan 30th, 2019 9:12 am


Kid is just mad his easy money train isnt there. As I said if my dad did the same, I wouldnt want it on TV, makes my dad look like hes stupid.
Clearly the dad was being extremely stupid. Also, you don't know what is in his kid's heart or mind. If your dad did the same, you might be surprised how quickly you could change your tune.
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Chickinvic wrote:
Jan 30th, 2019 4:35 pm
Clearly the dad was being extremely stupid. Also, you don't know what is in his kid's heart or mind. If your dad did the same, you might be surprised how quickly you could change your tune.
My father did pass and it turned out he lost a fair amount on gambling :P I didn’t care, not my money, not my entitlement. To this day I’ve yet to spend a dime but if he choose to burn it, hookers or whatever that was his to do with as he pleased
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It's pretty clear he didn't care too much about his wife (40 years married and couldn't wait a year before looking for another one) neither care for his kids, having terminal cancer and thinking in buying a house in Malasya.
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jeff1970 wrote:
Jan 28th, 2019 4:36 pm
You know, and this is sort of related: They were discussing suicide on TV. As many know, men are more likely than women to kill themselves. Reasons for suicide are typical, serious health issues, financial issues, and heartbreak. When it comes to things like heartbreak, many men are willing to pay serious sums of cash to rid themselves of this. This mans wife had died, he himself was dying of cancer, and really, he probably felt he didn't have much to lose by tossing the scammers hundreds of thousands of dollars.

This man did find a way to alleviate some of this pain. He had a hope of meeting this woman, and he died while he still had that hope. It really sucks for the family, but I gather that kids weren't that involved with his affairs, otherwise he would have ensured the kids would have gotten some sort of inheritance.

I myself have two children. If the kids decide when I am older, and especially sick and dying, not to be there supporting me, then I too might waste away my money on some sort of stupid fantasy if there is a glimmer of hope of dying in some woman's arms. That said, if my children are a real part of my life when I am close to biting the dust, then I'll make sure 100% that they'll get 100% of my assets when I choke.

I agree with you on this one... This was totally my thought.
Just some sort of self delusion. Some bizare coping mechanism.
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iamthebest wrote:
Jan 30th, 2019 9:29 pm
It's pretty clear he didn't care too much about his wife (40 years married and couldn't wait a year before looking for another one) neither care for his kids, having terminal cancer and thinking in buying a house in Malasya.
Clarify how exactly the APPROPRIATE response is to these terrible life events. You have NO clue about this man's thought process or lack thereof. I think it is fair to say he's a victim of not only the scammers but of the tremendous toll that he went through.

It's pretty clear you have blinders on, everyone reacts differently and you can't assume everyone is in a rational state of mind.
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smokescreen15 wrote:
Feb 8th, 2019 11:51 pm
Clarify how exactly the APPROPRIATE response is to these terrible life events. You have NO clue about this man's thought process or lack thereof. I think it is fair to say he's a victim of not only the scammers but of the tremendous toll that he went through.

It's pretty clear you have blinders on, everyone reacts differently and you can't assume everyone is in a rational state of mind.
Urban had a point, the guy knew he was dying, we don't know his mental state but Parents who are close with their kids will go out of their way to soften the landing for the kids, in other cases I personally know parents that said "F them, its not our responsibility to give them a handout" then they proceed to just do every dumb thing all average day people want to do (I know one guy that mortgaged his property to the limit, bought a nice bought a nice car and pretty much hired escorts everyday, fyi he had like 4 kids, hated them all as people).

This guy went out of his way, took a HELOC out, sent the savings. People that are dying want something that gives them Euphoria, for him obviously it was sending money to this slightly above average looking woman, and he knew he was dying....period. Many people will go drink themselves to death, drug themselves or f**k themselves to death, to me, he took this road vs, I want to spend my last days with my kids.

Anyways, I can see a left vs right opinion here where left thinks "Hand outs are a must" while the right feel "Its not his problem"
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Catch 22.

To properly catch these types of scams people need to open up access to more of their data than they currently do.

A lot of information is in silos due to privacy rules, and companies can only do the best they can with the data they have.

For example, the guy told the bank he had bought land in Malaysia. Plausible for someone of retirement age. Assume the scammers told him to say this. However, what if the bank was able to see whether he had ever been to Malaysia? They can’t, because that is only between him and his airline.

This guy seems to have been more truthful and open with his data with an anonymous online person than he was with his bank. Sign of the times.
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I read the news and dont know whether to laugh or cry...Smiling Face With Open Mouth And Smiling Eyes The fact that his dad lied doesnt help the son's cause.

From the bank's perspective, if they start taking precautions and asking proofs, then CBC will run another story saying how the banks are encroaching on customer's privacy and making it inconvenient. Damned if you do, damned if you dont. For once, I am on the bank's side on this one.
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When the bank asks a few more questions - people will start crying about intrusion of their privacy...
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Clearly the dad's blood was pumping in the wrong place, should have controlled the hormones.
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Hey it's 2019 afterall ... why should anyone be held responsible for their own actions anymore?

Our national and provincial leaders aren't ... it's the budget's fault that it doesn't balance itself, not my spending
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iamthebest wrote:
Jan 30th, 2019 9:29 pm
It's pretty clear he didn't care too much about his wife (40 years married and couldn't wait a year before looking for another one) neither care for his kids, having terminal cancer and thinking in buying a house in Malasya.
I disagreed with this line, for the amount of 40 years I am very sure he went to a depression and part of the griefing is "replacement". I think he looked at the roman as part of his "replacement".

I don't think the kids care about him since he did not share the story with them.

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