my dad gets angry/mad when my mom goes to her friend ... what to do?

[iceman86]

try suggesting to your mom to have the gathering at your place. so your dad can see what's going on. then tell him to bounce and chill with his own friends.

its worth the try good luck with it breh!

[classic_queen]

It's hard not to get involved when they make you feel involved. I would recommend professional help as everyone here will give you advice based on what they would do in your shoes but no one knows for sure what you are going through.

It's always good to bounce it off someone who is neutral but has experience in dealing with people's personalities. I'm sure there is some family counselling available at a reasonable price for you and it would be nice to get them to get it too(just so they know how it affects you)but the only thing you can do is take care of yourself.

[najibs]

Theres a thread with someone asking how to get a korean gf.

There's also a thread about where to get a good head massage

[afong56]

not being vietnamese, what is the old world traditional view towards wives?

are they expected to stay at home and not socialize?

could your father just be a product of his upbringing? i mean, it's obvious to all of us who have been born and raised in canada that this is unequitable. . .

[Meta|Gear]

Prepare yourself for some ignorant posts...

lol

[Reign]

I say let the chips fall as they may.

[aidan24]

What nationality are you?

Maybe your mother should leave your father if she isn't happy. Tell your mom to divorce your dad. Your dad can live with your uncle and you can have your favourite food.

[45ED]

What nationality are you?

Maybe your mother should leave your father if she isn't happy. Tell your mom to divorce your dad. Your dad can live with your uncle and you can have your favourite food.

...how old are you? That's an immature response to a serious situation. Let his father leave so he can have his favourite food?

[aidan24]

...how old are you? That's an immature response to a serious situation. Let his father leave so he can have his favourite food?

1) His father threatens to leave all the time and his mother is not happy because she doesn't have any freedom --> if his father leaves, this problem is solved;

2) Because of his father, his mother feels reluctant to go see her friends because he always "biatches" at her --> if his father leaves, the OP can go with his mother to visit her friends who cook his favourite food.

[ndrew029]

Your dad is just mad because he can't find the words to say...

"I want to have a threesome with you and your friend"

But in all seriousness, you've stuck up for your mom, which is honourable and even if your dad didn't like it. Remember, he asked you what you think and you told him exactly what you believe. Unfortunately, this behaviour from insecure husbands/boyfriends is pretty common. Just keep giving your calm and rational point of view and he'll either come around or alienate his entire family. The latter isn't good, but it's better than doing nothing and watching your mom walk out the door for good.

[aidan24]

Is there violence involved?

(When your father gets "angry/mad", does he act violently? --> remember verbal abuse is also abuse - not sticks and stones, but physical abuse is also abuse too - sticks and stones)

[win-star]

Is there violence involved?

(When your father gets "angry/mad", does he act violently? --> remember verbal abuse is also abuse - not sticks and stones, but physical abuse is also abuse too - sticks and stones)

No Violence involved.


I have suggested to my mom as some said to have a meeting at our house to show my dad what is going on at these few times meet with her friends.

My dad has many friends and knows many people (more than my mom apparently), but my dad rarely goes out (less than my mom). If my dad does go out, he usually go to a friends house for a karaoke night and have some beers with friends, sometimes my mom tags along and sometime not. But when she doesn't she never ask why this or why that.

My dad's reason to not go with my mom to her friends house because he doesn't know those people (i dunno why he can't make more friends) or just feels left out.

The reason I am trying to somehow help and get them back together is because I am in my early 20's and will soon after my last year of college and then a stable job, I will soon hopefully have a family of my own when finding the right girl and show others how great a family I have.

When my mom ask him when is he holding her back like that, he usually look unhappy or if not unhappy, like there is something wrong that he doesn't want to say or let out.

I love them both very much and I would not like them to some how get worst and split up or something.

[mtseymourguy]

sleep with a 60 yr old woman and you will realize why your daddy is grumpy. fix him up with something younger and he wont be grumpy.

[ES_Revenge]

Prepare yourself for some ignorant posts...

Your dad acts like he's 15

I have to agree. OPs dad seems to want to be controlling but then when things don't go his way he sulks for the rest of the day (goes to brother's house) and then comes back and pretends like it never happened the next day. It's like when you're a kid and you're playing a game of something and the owner of the equiment in the game is losing or the game is not going their way so they "take their ball and leave", LOL. Next day they'll come back and play again as if it never happened.

Amazing how you can be like 60 years old but still act just like a child.