Prevent yourself from taking things for granted in life

[here4yagurlz]

This past weekend was one filled with too many unfortunate and tragic events for myself. A co worker of mine was in an auto accident after possible suffering a mild heart attack. A friend decided he no longer wanted to live after finding the mother of his child with someone else. I cut my forearm pretty badly doing home repair and damaged muscle tissue. Instead of just feeling crappy about everything, I decided to really put things in perspective and noticed how much things in life I really do take for granted.

I have a new found appreciation for what I have and for the nice things around me that I have been blessed with. Because of the unfortunate passing of my friend, I have realized that you never know how far a few kind words for someone may go. I never thought he felt his life was that bad, and maybe having someone there to lift his spirits would have saved him. I now compliment strangers, and am more open with friends so they know I am willing to help with anything, no matter what. So although the things that took place on the weekend were terrible, they have been a big eye opener, and perhaps this little message on a "deals" message board can be one for you as well.

This always puts things into perspective for me. Knowing we shouldn't be unhappy or complaining about the minor flaws in our lives. Because no matter how discouraging you may see it in your mind, there is always, always someone out there in this world in a much more serious situation. Be thankful for what you have in life - your home, your family, your wonderful and safe country, your parents. Their are many many children out there, who do not have a single parent to look up to, to go to for guidance, to be loved by. There are many living on dirt, no electricity, no warmth, no clean water to drink. This just breaks my heart thinking about it.

Feel free to post on here if this has helped you regain appreciation for something in your life, or if there is something that has happened that may help others realize what we take for granted.

Stay positive and that will bring you the most happiness. We only live once, so make the most of it. Be as giving as a person as you can be.

My thoughts...

[nfnx]

no real contributions here, but glad one of us can see the light.

[rayesyn]

well said mate.

[tonychau]

That's good you have find your purpose and meaning of life!

I'm a positive thinker. Everything happens for a reason, so I don't deny it.

BTW, would you like to share some of the lines for compliment strangers, so I could motate others.

[Avenger]

That was very true and very well said. It is sad that it takes such negative events ot inspire us to think that way though. I also recently lost a friend, and it has made me see things in a different way, and has also made me realize the importance of "small things". During that time I realized who my good friends were, and who I could depend on. I also received some kind words from individuals whom I did not expect it from, and despite their small and seemingly unimportant significance, it meant a lot to me and has stuck with me.

[fwhc022883]

Reading this certainly reminds me of how much things I do take for granted and how fortunate I really am than somebody who doesn't have anything at all. Thank you for your post.

[here4yagurlz]

Thanks all

BTW, would you like to share some of the lines for compliment strangers, so I could motate others.

Well, nothing specifically, but just dont let anything hold you back. I start by saying "hi" to people more often, and I dont neccesarily have to know them. Most say hi back or smile, and notice you taking that initiative, and there are others who give you wierd looks. But frankly, I dont care about that - I know I'm doing something good and thats all that matters.

Like my father has always told me since I was a little kid "dont be afraid to say hi, it never hurts, just cause you dont know them doesnt mean you cant" - which is very true. More people should be doing this more often - I come across too many people daily who just walk around with frowns on their faces.

[here4yagurlz]

made me realize the importance of "small things".

Very much so. Everything from your mother baking you treats, to your best friend giving you a lift when your car breaks down. All these little things, play such a key part in life, but often go unnoticed or under appreciated by some. It's all about attention to detail, and reconizing the value behind them.

And especially with Christmas right around the corner, it gives everyone the oppurtunity to be a more giving person. Makes kids realize, Christmas is just not about the toys and Dad buying what you want...but moreso that its the oppurtunity to spend time with the people who are closest to you - people who influence you the most in your life. That's the only thing I dislike about December, is the over abundance of "what do you want for Christmas" rebuttals. Its not about what you get, but what you can do for others.

[tonychau]

a "thank you" go for along way as well.

I give "thank You" to anyone who help me from opening a door, a bus driver drop you off at your destination, co-workers, and your parents.

I would 'thank you' and give them a big smile.

[keanefan]

A friend decided he no longer wanted to live after finding the mother of his child with someone else.

did he die?


MUSIC always cheers me up.

[UrbanPoet]

This past weekend was one filled with too many unfortunate and tragic events for myself. A co worker of mine was in an auto accident after possible suffering a mild heart attack. A friend decided he no longer wanted to live after finding the mother of his child with someone else. I cut my forearm pretty badly doing home repair and damaged muscle tissue. Instead of just feeling crappy about everything, I decided to really put things in perspective and noticed how much things in life I really do take for granted.

I have a new found appreciation for what I have and for the nice things around me that I have been blessed with. Because of the unfortunate passing of my friend, I have realized that you never know how far a few kind words for someone may go. I never thought he felt his life was that bad, and maybe having someone there to lift his spirits would have saved him. I now compliment strangers, and am more open with friends so they know I am willing to help with anything, no matter what. So although the things that took place on the weekend were terrible, they have been a big eye opener, and perhaps this little message on a "deals" message board can be one for you as well.

This always puts things into perspective for me. Knowing we shouldn't be unhappy or complaining about the minor flaws in our lives. Because no matter how discouraging you may see it in your mind, there is always, always someone out there in this world in a much more serious situation. Be thankful for what you have in life - your home, your family, your wonderful and safe country, your parents. Their are many many children out there, who do not have a single parent to look up to, to go to for guidance, to be loved by. There are many living on dirt, no electricity, no warmth, no clean water to drink. This just breaks my heart thinking about it.

Feel free to post on here if this has helped you regain appreciation for something in your life, or if there is something that has happened that may help others realize what we take for granted.

Stay positive and that will bring you the most happiness. We only live once, so make the most of it. Be as giving as a person as you can be.

My thoughts...

damn. that sounds familar.. so you mean the guy found out his son was not really his son? it was some other random kid? how does that happen..
or do u mean he found out that the FATHER of his child was not him?

[Keelie]

damn. that sounds familar.. so you mean the guy found out his son was not really his son? it was some other random kid? how does that happen..
or do u mean he found out that the FATHER of his child was not him?

i took it to mean that the mother of his child was with another man, like now, not when the baby was conceived.

yes, sometimes it takes things like what have happened in your life to make you really think about life, what it means to you, and whats important in it.

[sixer]

Well said and I agree. Way to many people take what they have for granted and more need to be thankful for what they have. We need to be happy every day and be positive.

That being said, christmas is joyous time, that's too materialstic in my opinion.
I know RFD'ers love deals, but hopefully not everyone is materialistic and can appreciate everything in life and know there is more than what's the next hot deal.

[blue_xii]

Well said, most of the time when people think the glass is half empty it's actually 99% full. Love life and love the people around you, don't waste your time on the unimportant things. You never know how much time you get but use up every second of it and be happy.

[Party Princess]

This past weekend was one filled with too many unfortunate and tragic events for myself. A co worker of mine was in an auto accident after possible suffering a mild heart attack. A friend decided he no longer wanted to live after finding the mother of his child with someone else. I cut my forearm pretty badly doing home repair and damaged muscle tissue. Instead of just feeling crappy about everything, I decided to really put things in perspective and noticed how much things in life I really do take for granted.

I have a new found appreciation for what I have and for the nice things around me that I have been blessed with. Because of the unfortunate passing of my friend, I have realized that you never know how far a few kind words for someone may go. I never thought he felt his life was that bad, and maybe having someone there to lift his spirits would have saved him. I now compliment strangers, and am more open with friends so they know I am willing to help with anything, no matter what. So although the things that took place on the weekend were terrible, they have been a big eye opener, and perhaps this little message on a "deals" message board can be one for you as well.

This always puts things into perspective for me. Knowing we shouldn't be unhappy or complaining about the minor flaws in our lives. Because no matter how discouraging you may see it in your mind, there is always, always someone out there in this world in a much more serious situation. Be thankful for what you have in life - your home, your family, your wonderful and safe country, your parents. Their are many many children out there, who do not have a single parent to look up to, to go to for guidance, to be loved by. There are many living on dirt, no electricity, no warmth, no clean water to drink. This just breaks my heart thinking about it.

Feel free to post on here if this has helped you regain appreciation for something in your life, or if there is something that has happened that may help others realize what we take for granted.

Stay positive and that will bring you the most happiness. We only live once, so make the most of it. Be as giving as a person as you can be.

My thoughts...

Very well put.

I am sorry for your loss - it is not always easy to deal with but, definetely puts things in perspective.

I have had to deal with alot of losses in my life (unfortunately more than one should have to), with each one I gain the ability to appreciate my life more. Sometimes it is simple things such as a kind word or jesture can go a really long way, without even realizing it. I make a point of doing what I can to help others, even if I do not know them. So long as I am capable, I will continue to do so. I can only hope that others will be the same in extending a courtesy selflessly.

If each person were to do this, even once in a while, the world may just become a better place.

I hope that your arm heals and that your other friend recovers as quickly as possible. Thank-you for you post.