Punishment
I normally have no problem making the decision, with my wife, on what the punishment should be when our daughter does something wrong, I am not sure if what we are thinking about is being too harsh for the "crime" or not impactfull enough.
Our daughter (8) asked about joining the school choir a couple of months ago as they were looking for more kids to join. This would mean that once a week she would need to stay at school for lunch in order to attend practice. We saw her at a school concert singing a few weeks ago and it was cute.
For the past three weeks she has told us (after the fact) that choir practice was cancelled when ever we asked how it went. She recently came home with a permission slip for an outing with the choir, but she said she did not want to go. I was going to have a talk with her about responsibilities and obligations when she said she was not allowed to go because she has not been to practice (at this point I think she realized she said too much). We questioned her and found out she has skipped at least two practices. So my wife spoke to the music teacher in charge of the choir and found out that no practices have been cancelled and she has missed a months worth (4) of practices. We are not happy that she lied to us and the fact that she used choir to as a way just to stay at school for lunch.
What we have come up with so far for punishment is this. No more pizza lunch at school for the rest of the school year (we allowed her to stay once a month to have pizza). No allowance for one month. Now she is really into Club Penguin and recently bought two CP stuffed toys with the allowance she had collected, so I was thinking that I would take her recent purchases away from Friday to Sunday and restrict her from playing on the computer and her DS for the same number of days as well,but still allow her tv (if we take tv away from her it also tends to punish us too), but only allowed to watch Discover, TLC and History channel (which she does enjoy, but not as much as sponge bob and other cartoons like pokemon).
So would all of the be too much for the "crime"? I am on the fence about this because of the length of time she lied to us.
Our daughter (8) asked about joining the school choir a couple of months ago as they were looking for more kids to join. This would mean that once a week she would need to stay at school for lunch in order to attend practice. We saw her at a school concert singing a few weeks ago and it was cute.
For the past three weeks she has told us (after the fact) that choir practice was cancelled when ever we asked how it went. She recently came home with a permission slip for an outing with the choir, but she said she did not want to go. I was going to have a talk with her about responsibilities and obligations when she said she was not allowed to go because she has not been to practice (at this point I think she realized she said too much). We questioned her and found out she has skipped at least two practices. So my wife spoke to the music teacher in charge of the choir and found out that no practices have been cancelled and she has missed a months worth (4) of practices. We are not happy that she lied to us and the fact that she used choir to as a way just to stay at school for lunch.
What we have come up with so far for punishment is this. No more pizza lunch at school for the rest of the school year (we allowed her to stay once a month to have pizza). No allowance for one month. Now she is really into Club Penguin and recently bought two CP stuffed toys with the allowance she had collected, so I was thinking that I would take her recent purchases away from Friday to Sunday and restrict her from playing on the computer and her DS for the same number of days as well,but still allow her tv (if we take tv away from her it also tends to punish us too), but only allowed to watch Discover, TLC and History channel (which she does enjoy, but not as much as sponge bob and other cartoons like pokemon).
So would all of the be too much for the "crime"? I am on the fence about this because of the length of time she lied to us.