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Risky play in Park

Hello Parents,

Today my son was hurt on his right shoulder while playing in the park. An adult in the swing bumped him at very high speed (she was swinging dangerously high).

I know that it is public park but with children playing around - as a parents can we ask them politely to reduced speed/heights.

I am not sure if it is a fracture or anything, but he is still crying with pain.

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I think when it comes to the swings it is the responsibility of the person walking around the swings not the person on the swings. Provided they are swinging on the swings (not jumping off of them) they are using the swings as intended and it is the fault of the person walking around the swings to watch out.

It sucks that your child was hurt, but unfortunately I think it is their fault to have known better or someone who was supervising them to have watched them closer. I hope your son recovers without any lasting side effects.
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TrevorK wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 9:27 pm
I think when it comes to the swings it is the responsibility of the person walking around the swings not the person on the swings. Provided they are swinging on the swings (not jumping off of them) they are using the swings as intended and it is the fault of the person walking around the swings to watch out.

It sucks that your child was hurt, but unfortunately I think it is their fault to have known better or someone who was supervising them to have watched them closer. I hope your son recovers without any lasting side effects.
thank you. I am not looking to fault anyone.

Should adults not swing carefully when kids around? Can we ask her to slow down.

This is not the first encounter with same person.
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gskn4u wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 9:31 pm
thank you. I am not looking to fault anyone.

Should adults not swing carefully when kids around? Can we ask her to slow down.

This is not the first encounter with same person.
In my opinion adults should not be playing with the playground equipment at their own skill level - there are too many "slow" users in comparison that are not expecting things like that. But, at the same time, it's a public park and they are well within their rights to use the equipment in the manner it was intended.

You're welcome to ask the adult to slow down, however my personal opinion is you are better off teaching your son how to behave within the playground and avoid the dangers such as the adult swinging at a greater speed. I also believe it would be rude to ask someone who is using the park in it's intended fashion to change their use because you do not like it - they are just as entitled to use it as your son.

Others will feel different and that's perfectly fine. The above is just my opinion.
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TrevorK wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 9:41 pm
In my opinion adults should not be playing with the playground equipment at their own skill level - there are too many "slow" users in comparison that are not expecting things like that. But, at the same time, it's a public park and they are well within their rights to use the equipment in the manner it was intended.

You're welcome to ask the adult to slow down, however my personal opinion is you are better off teaching your son how to behave within the playground and avoid the dangers such as the adult swinging at a greater speed. I also believe it would be rude to ask someone who is using the park in it's intended fashion to change their use because you do not like it - they are just as entitled to use it as your son.

Others will feel different and that's perfectly fine. The above is just my opinion.
Thank you for your response.
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You say you're not looking to blame anyone but you're trying to make excuses. You have to keep better control of your child if they aren't good at paying attention to their surroundings yet.

I know my child got kicked pretty hard by a girl swinging on the monkey bars and the little girl felt so bad and the father apologized multiple times but it wasn't their fault at all. My child ran through the monkey bar area without checking first.

Even if the kid in the swing wasn't swinging very fast there isn't much you can do to stop your momentum once you're in motion.
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TrevorK wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 9:41 pm
In my opinion adults should not be playing with the playground equipment at their own skill level - there are too many "slow" users in comparison that are not expecting things like that. But, at the same time, it's a public park and they are well within their rights to use the equipment in the manner it was intended.

You're welcome to ask the adult to slow down, however my personal opinion is you are better off teaching your son how to behave within the playground and avoid the dangers such as the adult swinging at a greater speed. I also believe it would be rude to ask someone who is using the park in it's intended fashion to change their use because you do not like it - they are just as entitled to use it as your son.

Others will feel different and that's perfectly fine. The above is just my opinion.
^. This. If it was a large child on the swing would it be different. Yes, adults and older kids should be watching out for younger ones, but if the person is using the playground as intended, it’s up to the other child walking around the swing to watch out. This should be taught to the child on what is the safety rule.

Hopefully your child is feeling better. I would use this as a teaching moment that they have to watch out for their own safety even if there are adults.
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Macx2mommy wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 10:21 pm
^. This. If it was a large child on the swing would it be different. Yes, adults and older kids should be watching out for younger ones, but if the person is using the playground as intended, it’s up to the other child walking around the swing to watch out. This should be taught to the child on what is the safety rule.

Hopefully your child is feeling better. I would use this as a teaching moment that they have to watch out for their own safety even if there are adults.
I believe he would definitely learn - hard way and he is just 4 years old..... just came from hospital and he has a broken bone around his shoulder..
thank you all for the response..
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Poor little guy. That is a extra hard lesson. I hope he does feel better and heals up well and quickly. Sorry he had to learn such a hard way.
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You cannot blame a person for swinging on a swing in a public park. It sucks that your child was hurt but the error was on your son's part. I've seen a lot of swing related accidents in my 10 years of daily park visits with my kids, including ones that involved my kids on both ends. There is nobody to blame, these things happen. Now little brats that throw sand around.....that really pisses me off.
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Jul 2nd, 2018 1:49 am
I believe he would definitely learn - hard way and he is just 4 years old..... just came from hospital and he has a broken bone around his shoulder..
thank you all for the response..
I'm sorry your son is injured - I hope he has a speedy recovery and is back to running around in no time.
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gskn4u wrote:
Jul 1st, 2018 9:31 pm
thank you. I am not looking to fault anyone.

Should adults not swing carefully when kids around? Can we ask her to slow down.

This is not the first encounter with same person.
No, teach your children not to walk around the swings when in use. Being 4 is not an excuse, if your child doesn't know better YOU need to pay more attention. Sucks they got hurt but that's 100% on you. My nephew was taught at 2.5 to not go near the swings when someones on it. At 2.5!

It's a swing set, on what basis is this person going to fast? Your personal one? LOL pound salt if so. When we were kids we would try to wrap the swing around the pole. Stop being a helicopter parent to others and focus on your own, they obviously need it if they are running into swing sets being used.

P.S No one likes the Fun Police. If you want to dictate how people use the swing, put one in your backyard and yell at your kids they are having too much fun.
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gskn4u wrote:
Jul 2nd, 2018 1:49 am
I believe he would definitely learn - hard way and he is just 4 years old..... just came from hospital and he has a broken bone around his shoulder..
thank you all for the response..
Ever since I started taking my 2.5 year old to parks, that's the thing I drive home the most, stay away from people on swings. As I said, he's 2.5 years old and seems to get it, although I have no doubt he'll have slip ups and I'll have to step in and grab him. People on swings are dangerous to young kids, and it doesn't matter if it's an adult or an older kid on a swing, it's dangerous. As a parent, we have to do what we can to keep our kids safe. For the most part, that's teaching them to avoid danger and when that fails, we have to try to step in physically before they get hurt. They're not always going to listen and we're not always going to get there in time. Injuries are often part of growing up and we can use them as teaching lessons. Don't blame someone who is using a swing as it is designed, don't blame your child for being a child and don't blame yourself for not being Superman and getting there in time. It's just one of those things that happens.

Move on and don't try to remove danger from life, because it's not possible. It's a teaching lesson, nothing more and nothing less
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Sitting on the swing is very therapeutic. Let the adult enjoy the swinging momentum and the view of the clear blue sky. Older adults visit the park early in the morning or late in the evening when the kids are gone. Curfew exists for a reason.
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ultimately its the responsibility of both...there's always going to be some ppl that dont care about anyone else and just do what they do (especially considering that this "adult" has caused you trouble in the past)

as a parent you also need to be vigilant on hazards where ever your child plays...you dont need to hover over them...but when they get close to swings...or near the bottom of a slide...you need to teach them to avoid ;)

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