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Said no to job offer but 6 months later want to say yes ?

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Said no to job offer but 6 months later want to say yes ?

6 months ago my wife applied for an executive level position at another company, was basically a custom position just for her (she would have been reporting to a previous boss with whom she has a very good relationship) after interviews they made her an offer but could not agree on pay. So she said no.

6 months later she has a new boss and her current work position has deteriorated. Can she go back to that well? And how should she go about it?

Ty for any tips!
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IMO, if they couldn't agree to the pay level I think they would be weary to hire your wife because the chances she would look for a higher paying position is high. That is especially true if they find out she is unhappy at her current position.

I don't see any issue for her going back to her previous boss especially since they have a good relationship but she probably better off just finding a different position which provides the pay she wants.
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No she should not ask for the previous job offer which she turned down. And if I were the employer I would refuse her. She is indecisive and wishy washy.
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Raggie wrote:
May 11th, 2018 12:06 pm
No she should not ask for the previous job offer which she turned down. And if I were the employer I would refuse her. She is indecisive and wishy washy.
Sure the employer may turn her down but I don't see the harm in asking. I don't think people should refrain from taking action due to the possibility of rejection.
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If the job didn't pay enough then, why is it enough now? She should've valued the relationships more and said yes to help her ex boss then with the hope that the ex boss would work to get her more in the future perhaps.

If I were the ex boss, I wouldn't hire her...at least not this soon after being rebuffed. I'd be worried that she'd leave when she found another fiddle to play.
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She should go for it nothing to lose.
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Hanniballs wrote:
May 11th, 2018 12:20 pm
Sure the employer may turn her down but I don't see the harm in asking. I don't think people should refrain from taking action due to the possibility of rejection.
To formally ask, it may damage her reputation in the industry especially at an executive level position. However, it may be possible to put out causal feelers to see if the other position has been filled or what that other company has done since she rejected their offer. Maybe they are hurting and are re-thinking about the amount offered. Then she can always have a causal lunch or coffee with her former boss in order to 'touch base' but not an 'ask for employment' type of meeting. Let her former boss bring the topic up and see where it goes from there.
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Like the old saying goes, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Since she has a good relationship with that boss, there's nothing to lose and possibly a lot to gain by at least trying.
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Wife miss the boat. Not too sure if it offended the previous boss and HR st that company. Depending on if she was offer to a higher position or equivalent in terms of title.

Looks bad going back to ask something she turned down. Looks to be going to get low balled offer, even lower than last one.
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Yarbogash wrote:
May 11th, 2018 11:34 am
6 months ago my wife applied for an executive level position at another company...
6 months ago? Wouldn't they have moved on and found someone by now?

She might try to discreetly make an enquiry but I think the boat has sailed. If she couldn't agree on pay then, why would the company believe she would be happy with a low salary now? In their mind, she'll probably be there temporarily before bolting at some time as she will always feel "undervalued".
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Raggie wrote:
May 11th, 2018 12:06 pm
No she should not ask for the previous job offer which she turned down. And if I were the employer I would refuse her. She is indecisive and wishy washy.
That’s no being wishy washy, they offered her a position and could not agree to a key term in the contract (salary) so she turned it down. Sounds pretty decisive to me. However, now circumstances have changed.

Only wishy washy if they actually offered her the terms that were acceptable to her and got cold feet after. My current job they came in with a number I wasn’t ideally happy with, and I countered. They ended up accepting the counter, but if they did not accept the counter I wouldn’t have taken my current job.
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abc123yyz wrote:
May 11th, 2018 6:52 pm
That’s no being wishy washy, they offered her a position and could not agree to a key term in the contract (salary) so she turned it down. Sounds pretty decisive to me. However, now circumstances have changed.

Only wishy washy if they actually offered her the terms that were acceptable to her and got cold feet after. My current job they came in with a number I wasn’t ideally happy with, and I countered. They ended up accepting the counter, but if they did not accept the counter I wouldn’t have taken my current job.
Refusing a position that was offered to you, and then turning around months later with a change of mind is wishy washy, no matter the reason. I would not be able to have full trust on an employee like that. I don't know what your anecdote has to do with this.
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I would not take you back if I were the one making the hiring. However, you have nothing to lose by testing the waters. Try a more casual approach and don't try to seek employment. If they are open and wasn't pissed off enough, maybe they make another offer.

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