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Serious arachnophobia with my 11 year old

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Jan 8, 2013
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Serious arachnophobia with my 11 year old

We were looking at it as a kids thing, then on the highway couple days ago, a spider happened to crawl on the roof of my car. Here I am doing 110km/h and my 11 year old opened his seat belts and tried to open the door in total hysteria, absolutely zero control over his actions nor any idea of consequences what would have happened had the door opened. I have been turning on the child safety lock on the door since.

Does anyone know of any arachnophobia treatment centers? I will take him to his doc and see what he recommends as well.
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Aug 2, 2004
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The only way to conquer a fear is to face it. I would get a few spiders in a glass jar and let them hold the jar.

Talk to your child about what would have happened if they opened the door successfully. Don’t yell, talk in a calm manner.
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Mar 29, 2015
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Ottawa, ON
Put both scenarios together. Since you have the child lock enabled, take jars of spiders and lock him in the car with them until he can at least handle them being in the car.
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May 22, 2005
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This happened to me as a kid. My dad had a VW convertible (Cabrio) and I was strapped to the back. A spider came down from the B pillar and I freaked the shit out but wasnt able to remove my seatbelt due to the panic. My parents were laughing and still tell the story to this day.

That moment did traumatize me but my fear of spiders stopped being as bad since then. I turned out okay. Disappointed But Relieved FaceFace With Tears Of Joy
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Dec 27, 2013
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Maybe don't take a child who is so scared of spiders that he literally tried to jump out of a car travling 110kph, and lock him in a car with spiders. The trauma is real, even if the instinct of others is to laugh it off. Real phobias, as with any mental illness, require the attention of trained professionals. I'd speak to your GP for advice and go from there.
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Aug 15, 2015
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Markham, ON
Autolock can actually causes stress to people unfamiliar with your car. I once sat in someone car everytime he stopped the auto lock will turn on and off. I can hear the locking mechanism everytime. I felt uncomfortable the entire time.

With that said, I don't know if your child would ever get over the fear of spider. I would suggest buying vehicles where the back doors slide open instead of opening outwards. And the windows do not row down.

Like a 1997 Ford Windstar model. I don't know if they still make cars like those. The door does not open automatically and make sure your child sit far away from the door everytime.
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Apr 7, 2012
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Educate your child on spiders.
Teaching is the key ..
Don’t just shove a spider in a child’s hand ..
Wtf if wrong with you adults.
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Aug 16, 2010
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I hate spiders too. Same with bees - I'd be highly uncomfortable with a trapped bee buzzing around inside the car. Unless it's truly arachnophobia, which I doubt, he'll eventually learn to live with it and control his fears. I wouldn't force spiders on him. My own son doesn't seem to share my discomfort; he once had a huge tarantula sit on his face in science class which is something I'd never do - hell no!