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Should parents be notified if their kids join a gay/straight alliance?

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Should parents be notified if their kids join a gay/straight alliance?

I can see why it's important for parents to know what's going on with their kids in school but I'm not sure if teachers be forced to tell parents their kids religious inclination or sexual preference

New Tory Leader Jason Kenney says parents should be notified if their children join a gay-straight alliance at school and the NDP government should take a less confrontational approach with hold-out schools on LGBTQ issues.


http://m.calgarysun.com/2017/03/28/jaso ... ut-schools
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I wouldn't be a very good parent if I didn't have the facts in order to guide and support my child. It would be a shame if a child gets inadvertently alienated from parents based on improper assumptions.
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I would say that in most cases, there should be no more or less notification than if the child joins anu other group. That being said, if inclusion in the group is causing dofficulties for that child (they are being ostracized, threatened, etc...) then I think that parents should be made aware of the issues it may be causing.
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should parents be notified when you kids go to pornhub?
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Of course this is info that shouldn't be shared with parents. If a child is gay and doesn't yet want to come out to parents, they should still get the support of the school club. If they can't join the club without the secret being revealed, then children are inhibited from taking advantage of this valuable resource. Gay teens are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than straight teens. Lives are literally at stake here.
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kingofwale wrote:
Mar 29th, 2017 10:30 pm
should parents be notified when you kids go to pornhub?
That literally has nothing to do with this and serves only to derail the conversation.

On topic, yes they should. They are minors and parents should be made aware unless there is imminent danger to the child. If you need to sign a permission slip for a field trip or a report card to review their performance I think they should know about this too. I think parents should be involved in their kids lives though and support them regardless of who they are.
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i6s1 wrote:
Mar 29th, 2017 11:02 pm
Of course this is info that shouldn't be shared with parents. If a child is gay and doesn't yet want to come out to parents, they should still get the support of the school club. If they can't join the club without the secret being revealed, then children are inhibited from taking advantage of this valuable resource. Gay teens are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than straight teens. Lives are literally at stake here.
You think any kid who joins a club won't be outed just as fast? If not quicker? I'd think the parents could and should serve as a the first and most important support for these kids. Your sentiment is admirable but it simply wouldn't end up that way.
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Definitely not. There are still parents out there who'd kick their kids out of their house for being gay, or send them to conversion camps.
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Super strokey wrote:
Mar 29th, 2017 11:26 pm
You think any kid who joins a club won't be outed just as fast? If not quicker? I'd think the parents could and should serve as a the first and most important support for these kids. Your sentiment is admirable but it simply wouldn't end up that way.
No, I don't. Not in the vast majority of cases. Kids collectively keep secrets from parents, especially when the parents are regarded as the weird fundamentalist type.

If the parents are supportive enough to be the first and most important support, then they'll either be informed by the kids, or they'll have enough respect for their kids to support their right to some degree of privacy. A truly supportive parent would support the child's choice to come out of the closet to whom, and when, they feel is best.

And if you're right, and parents inevitably find out quickly anyway, then the disclosure rule becomes moot. There's no need for the school to notify parents if parents find out anyway. So a disclosure rule is either pointless or harmful - and that's why it does not have my support.
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Let parents know who to honor kill or send away to sleepaway torture camp. Great idea.
Could HAVE, not could OF. What does 'could of' even mean?
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Do the school feel obliged to inform the parents if they see their pupil failing because they are hanging out with the wrong crowd? Surely they are making a judgement on the reason why they are failing. So replace bad crowd with bad crowd who are gays or lesbians. What's the Difference?
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Nope. It should be left up to the child to tell the parent. If the child won't tell their parent there is probably a good reason why. The child could face huge issues at home.

As someone mentioned suicude rates among gay teens is higher. They need a space they feel safe and supported. If they can't get that at home then they need it other places such as at school.

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