Where did you get your Bar-Mitzvah done?

[Sajjad]

Hello


Just wondering, is Bar Mitzvah done at the Synagogue.
Or at a house, if not which facility.

No I'm not going to do what you think I am


Thank-you.

[that_staples_guy]

What happens at a Bar-Mitzvah?

[asim99]

i have not yet had my bar mitzvah

[lip1978]

I had mine at my synagogue (or shul, same thing, but in Yiddish)
The service itself is most of the time, like 95% done in a synagogue.
The party afterwards can be anywhere, but alot of people have it in the shul's social hall.

A Bar Mitzvah is the Jewish right of passage to adulthood. Bar Mitzvah is for a guy at age 13, a Bat Mitzvah is for a girl at age 12.

For a Bar Mitzvah, the boy has to say the blessing over the Torah, which is about 30 seconds long. That's all that needs to be done. Traditionally however, the boy will also read from the Torah, and participate in/lead other parts of the service.

[fakishan]

don't Hindus have a smiliar practice?

[chlorine]

I'm not Jewish... but I've heard some crazy Bar Mitzvah where ppl rent out the entire Hummingbird Centre for all the friends + family of the 13 year old boy.... of course these are for the more well off folks.

[gaurav_fhs]

don't Hindus have a smiliar practice?

From Wikipedia,

Normally, Young male members of the Brahmin and Kshatriya caste may perform a coming of age ceremony, however as the caste system has been disregarded and was not part of Hinduism, through birth as such, various members of other "castes" also perform this ceremony. The Upanayana commonly known as Janoy, or the Thread Ceremony. The Janoy is a six or nine cotton threads/strings (approximately ones' arm length) rolled together to resemble an umblical cord to symbolise the New birth/ new eyes {Upa = Higher/new; Nayan = Eyes/birth} as a student. Hence, from this day onward he belongs to the Guru, who takes the place of mother and father in nurturing and training young male.

The Upanayana is akin to Bar-Mitzva in Jewish culture. This ceremony was performed before the boy went up to the Guru's ashram (school). In a ceremony administered by a priest, a young boy usually shaves his hair off as a measure of austerity (or just some portions, as deemed appropriate) and a Janoy is hung from around his left shoulder to his right waist line for Brahmins and from right shoulders to left waistline by Kshatriyas. The ceremony varies from region to community, and includes reading from the Vedas and special mantras and shlokas. For Brahmin boy, he has to rememeber the Gayatri Mantra. The boy also swears to obey his Guru and also takes oaths to confirm that he will not take intoxicants, speak the Truth, serve the Guru,and to stay celibate through education.

Young females (prepubescent until married) while do not have similar ritual passage as young males, they follow annual Monsoon Austerity Ritual of Purification by not eating cooked food for one or two weeks, depending on age of child. This is known as "Goryo or Goriyo". During this period they cultivate from seeds of paddy, wheat and mung beans in a small pottary, to which they are asked by mother to guard and nurture.

Rites of initiation exist for the other castes, but differ from region to region. In Telugu society, for example, pre-teen females have an voneelu ceremony, in which the girl wears a ghagra choli or langa voni or half-sari (depending on what she likes) while friends and relatives bless her, and then changes into a sari - symbolising the transition from girlhood to womanhood. Traditional South Indian jewelery (which is also considered Hindu due to its religious artwork) is also worn. Telugu boys have a similar ceremony called a Panchalu ceremony when they are 14-15, during which they wear a formal gold-bordered pancha.

Another initiation ceremony that has nearly died out, but is still practised among conservative Hindus, especially among the women of traditional temple priests of South India is when the girl has her first theetu (menstrual period {in this context}). The ceremony is generally carried out only by women.

Theetu is generally taken as an individual in a polluted state. A thirteen day theetu period follows after a family member dies, and a two day theetu for when a woman has her menstrual period. During theetu, an individual must not have physical contact with anyone that is not a family member, nor enter kitchen, prayer room, or temple. Traditional Hindu women generally keep their hair braided. Women that are "theetu" are expected to keep their hair unbraided. However, these practices are getting less importance as modernisation progresses.

[fakishan]

I'm not Jewish... but I've heard some crazy Bar Mitzvah where ppl rent out the entire Hummingbird Centre for all the friends + family of the 13 year old boy.... of course these are for the more well off folks.

over-celebrating isn't limited to Bar Mitzvah's, but Jews certainly know how to throw a party

[klai]

Is this where they celebrate chopping off a boy's foreskin?
Or I got it mixed up with something else.

[fakishan]

Is this where they celebrate chopping off a boy's foreskin?
Or I got it mixed up with something else.

i'm pretty sure they do that when the kid's a baby, not at 13, ouch.

[lip1978]

Is this where they celebrate chopping off a boy's foreskin?
Or I got it mixed up with something else.

That's a bris, which is done at 8 days. They get the kid drunk on wine (a thimbleful) and do the deed.

[Casanova]

That's a bris, which is done at 8 days. They get the kid drunk on wine (a thimbleful) and do the deed.

can that get a kid drunk?

[Sajjad]

can that get a kid drunk?

couldn't the kid die from alcohol poiosoning?
it's so small.

[GTA_]

Where did you get your Bar-Mitzvah done?

I usually do it myself with a small scissor.

[rb]

I went to a friends grndsons bar mitvah - reading was at the synagogue where a small party was thrown afterwards (in a reception room) , later in the week I think on Saturday night , big party at a banquet hall - it was a lot of fun and yes Jews know how to throw a party !