I got to agree here. What someone displays publically and how they actually FEEL are two totally diffrent things a lot of times,at1212b wrote: ↑Nov 2nd, 2017 2:29 pmthis happens much more than you think. Often it's a 'surprise' Divorce or separation where the husband/father will plan it for months, or even years. All the time, on the outside, acting as normal as possible. Usually though the person lives a different life after that everybody knows about. So yes, this is baffling where they literally disappear including the car. But it's been said, the cultural (Korean family centric) expectations, strong Church Conformity expectations, other factors such as gambling, and believe me, if you have 2 young kids doing the whole daycare routine (both pick-up and drop-off is almost unheard of) while working a straining job, it's easier to see why someone would have planned and acted on this 'baffling' plan.
Really, don't think it's automatic that parents like their children (they may love them, but not like them). I could see the children not appreciating Eugene as much which could be the final straw. The oldest son may be at a age where he's like "Dad, not hugging please". 2.5 yr old daughter is also in a terrible 2 stage. Doing both drop off and pick-up, I can't imagine doing that. I know I would crack. But fortunately, I have a strong network, including a downward focus approach by my parents in helping me, which alleviates the stress of me being a parent and working professional (his parents are more focused on business and church activity which leads to even less general support of the daily stress to their own child). I have alot of male friends, same age group that are feeling the stressors and dreams of escape due to the daily grinding stress of 2 young kids, what can feel like a under appreciating wife, job strain and everything else.
So it may seem baffling to those on the outside (Church community has strong pressure to never show negativity), but those who know or are aware of this type of life stage and design and what it can do to one's insides, it is not that big of a surprise. In fact, I told my wife several times before this happened "You're going to see this alot more where the husband cracks and disappears in a way".
especially in todays society. We cant make assumptions that he was OK and everything was rainbows and butterflies.
The whole daycare thing in this city is a mess too (speaking from experience). Government has utterly failed us in this regard
and seems to want to reward not going to work with 1 person staying at home. But thats a topic for another day.
I'm just baffled how they can't locate the car in this day and age. Only thing I can think of is it's in some ravine/ditch unfortunately