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Who is responsible for child support now?

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Nov 13, 2013
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OTTAWA
Shaner wrote:
Mar 16th, 2017 2:35 pm
So you cannot leave your house and can't handle any kind of stress. It sounds like you currently are unable to care for your child on a full time basis. Even those with severe physical disabilities can leave their house, so it sounds like you're dealing with some mental health issues. In that case, you need to get help so that you can properly care for your child. Refusing to leave your house is not an option when you have a kid. I'm not telling you to just get over it, but you do need to get help so that you can deal with your issues. You brought a child into this world and you need to care for that child, which requires more than just support payments to an ex.
By all means get the help you need but based on what OP says he is the best parent this kid has at the moment. We all have our own problems and it is certainly possible for somebody who is housebound may be e a better parent that foster care or whatever. We can't all have a house with two parents and a picket fence.
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Aug 10, 2013
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Toronto, Ontario
I should clarify that the PTSD/ anxiety do not prevent me from leaving the house. What is preventing me from leaving the house is vestibular issues (vertigo to exact). That being said, I am in treatment for it. Usually when I get a vertigo attack I have to sit or lie down until it passes. Something I have dealt with for a while but also the reason that I cant drive.
The PTSD/anxiety are under control without issue but the vestibular issues exacerbates anxiety.
Hope this clarifies things. I have no issues with caregiving, just means i cant leave far from home.
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Aug 10, 2013
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Toronto, Ontario
I hope that this clarifies the reason why i can't leave. It doesnt undermine my ability to parent and was only mentioning the PTSD thing as it could be used against me in court.
I look after my daughter full time and without issue. Being in a car, looking at lots of motion (like a soccer game for example), too many ups and down, etc. will put me in a vertigo attack. I always have help around, no different than anyone with any physical ailments. I've recently started physio so hoping the effects will eventually diminish.
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Possession is 9/10th's of the law. Tell the courts you'd take no less than shared custody. Make sure you have proof you've been a primary parent. (Dental, doctor, school, all helps)
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Irregardless of personal issues and current consent from the mother, a court order is essential. The current arrangement is worth the paper it's written on.

If you need further detail, I can contact some people at CPS. It's been a few years since I left but the framework hasn't changed. The framework for AB and ON will be similar.
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Aug 10, 2013
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Toronto, Ontario
we dont have CPS here. We have CAS and other Children aid domains. I have already spoken to them. Its pretty much court and i'd have to prove essentially an unfit mother at that time. Unfortunately its not a walk in the park. My backyard is clean as I dont do drugs, heck i barely even drink. I am a pretty straight shooter. I just have my MHR and current vestibular issues
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It doesn't matter what the ministry is called. Just that you need to have a court order. It'll take 3-4 hours for a family lawyer to draft up a custody order assuming amicable agreement from the other party. The easier you make it on the judge, the better. There may also be a one-on-one interview with the judge and child as well.
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Aug 10, 2013
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Toronto, Ontario
rf134a wrote:
Mar 21st, 2017 11:53 am
It doesn't matter what the ministry is called. Just that you need to have a court order. It'll take 3-4 hours for a family lawyer to draft up a custody order assuming amicable agreement from the other party. The easier you make it on the judge, the better. There may also be a one-on-one interview with the judge and child as well.

In ontario, the child can choose with whom they want to live with at 12. No need for a court order unless mother tries to come after me for support
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