Why don't parents take responsibility?

[bluemount]

While I feel very sorry for the parents of 11-year-old Brunthan Nadarajah that fell through the ice and drown yesterday, I am disgusted how the parents are blaming "others" for safety issues around the pond.

WOW - what ever happened to tell your children to stay off the ice!
Especially in this rather mild weather when ice is not thick.

The kid was a dumb-ass
The parents were dumb-asses

Blame yourselves not the rest of us.

Police Insp. Mary Lee Metcalf said the incident stresses the need to be vigilant around freezing bodies of water.

“It’s a very serious situation,” she said. “We’d like to remind the public that these bodies of water are not safe. The flimsy ice is not solid at this time of year.”

Tragedy as Toronto teens fall through thin ice
http://www.canada.com/globaltv/natio...b-60bb1d312a3e

[w4rrior]

what can you do? however, this was a teen, if it was a kid he probably wouldnt be there w/o his parents anyways. some teens tend to do stupid things anyways and unfortunately, they die from it.

[Shaner]

Maybe the parents did warn him to stay off the ice. Have you ever thought he didn't listen to his parents? Kids tend not to always listen to what their parents say. Many kids think they are invincible.

Also, where did you read that the parents are blaming others? I didn't see that in the article anywhere

[bluemount]

On Global TV - the father was blaming the city.

Also - father was watching while others were trying to rescue his son.
Why did he not try to rescue the son if he was on the scene before others.

[SamInfinity]

It's the way the world is now - people blame others because it's a whole lot easier than reflecting on yourself on how you can improve. Even better if you can litigate and make some money off of it! Really sad when you think about it.

Sometimes I really think that people should be approved to have kids before they actually do. Case in point, when I was working at a department store, I see this kid pulling things off the shelf and just dropping it on the ground. I go and pick up some things. Next thing you know, the kid goes off into the next aisle and continues to do it. I don't blame the kid, who was probably not much older than maybe 4 years old? But when the kid drops things on the ground, looks at the guardian, and the guardian says nothing, so continues to do it... People get paid to make the store look clean, but not to pick up after you making a mess intentionally.

[wanna_be]

It's the way the world is now - people blame others because it's a whole lot easier than reflecting on yourself on how you can improve.

Oh how true. This day and age it all about blame and deflecting away from ourselves.

Why can't we all take a little ownership for our own actions!

Excellent statement SamInfinity

[chococrazy]

Although I haven't seen the Global TV piece so I dont know if the father was making a statement on his own accord...

But come on, the guy just lost his son. He's angry. He's looking for someone to blame. His head isn't on straight.

Five stages of grief:

- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance

What I -HATE- is when the media harasses the family. Not saying this happens all of the time. But leave them in peace, no need to show clips of them coming and going into their houses.

And honestly, OP, do you think that the parent is responsible for his kid falling through the pond?

I'm curious to ask how old the OP is. Perhaps when you have kids of your own, or at least close to that point in your life, you'll be more understanding.

[JAGpilot]

His parents think like this: I am going to let my child do whatever the **** they want and if something happens I'll just sue everyone else because everything is someone elses fault. I could use the extra cash anyway. Welfare isn't quite enough for me to live a nice life.

[chococrazy]

His parents think like this: I am going to let my child do whatever the **** they want and if something happens I'll just sue everyone else because everything is someone elses fault. I could use the extra cash anyway. Welfare isn't quite enough for me to live a nice life.

Honestly, if you have such an opinion you should at least read up on the story.

1. The kid who drowned went in to help his cousin.
2. It's not just the father, but the community who is calling for something to be done about the pond: http://www.citynews.ca/news/news_6052.aspx
3. Nothing was ever said about sueing.
4. Nothing was ever said about welfare.


Community Has Asked For Dangerous Pond To Be Obstructed Before
Monday December 11, 2006

They didn't have to know the 11-year-old victim to be saddened and infuriated by what happened to him.

Neighbours who live in the Morningside and Finch area had tears of sorrow and rage in their eyes Monday, after learning of the death of Brunthan Nadarajah in a pond the day before.

"I was shaken by it, it really upset me," confesses Andrew Madden, the project manager for the neighbourhood. "Whenever something like this happens, you take it more personally because you're involved."

He's so upset, he's thinking of tearing out all the walkways that lead to the water to prevent curious kids from getting easy access to the area. Construction - or in this case, deconstruction - could start in the summer.
(for more click the link above)

[brute33]

same story happened here in quebec. I work as a news photographer and i covered a story about a 7 or 8 year old girl who fell through the ice and luckily survived.

The girl fell through thin ice of a nearby pond (large) of a local housing development. The father contacted the newspaper i work for and wanted the city to force the owner of the pond to fence the entire thing. I wanted to ask the father what his 7 year old daughter was doing out on the ice alone but my job is just to take photos so i bite my tongue.....

In montreal a kid once drowned in the lachine canal and the parents wanted the entire lachine canal fenced off. Would have cost tens of millions of dollars! I don't have kids yet but i don't beleive in safeguarding everything. People need to educate their kids and stop relying on the gov't and everyone else to do the job. Thanks for letting me vent.

[DGSYS]

Some parents are just lazy. First off, it's winter, in the minuses...your going to let your kids go outside and play soccer? Isn't it a little too cold? Why do we even have these ponds, I live fairly close to one and it's depressing to look at it. People use it to dispose their waste, theirs always mosquitoes there and the water is not even blue..it's brown.

[rb]

Guy has lost a son - he's allowed to be emotional - However if he did sue the city later on - that I wouldn't agree with. City can't be everywhere all the time

[blexann]

This is a sad story to say the least but sometimes bad things happen and there is really nobody to blame. Maybe more needs to be taught in the schools on water safety. I firmly believe that every kid in this country should be taught about water safety including how to swim - it should be a mandatory class.

[chococrazy]

I firmly believe that every kid in this country should be taught about water safety including how to swim - it should be a mandatory class.

QFT!

[curtis]

2. It's not just the father, but the community who is calling for something to be done about the pond: http://www.citynews.ca/news/news_6052.aspx

From your link:
"Maybe we should be making them less accessible to people," he muses. "There's always water in the ponds. They're getting deeper and deeper."

Yea.. maybe we should make the lake less accessible, how about giant mats at the side of the road instead of curbs?

'there's always water in the ponds.'... no.. really? what kind of pond doesn't have water in it?