Why are more and more people self-racist?

[diggler649]

Lately, I have been coming across more and more people who will not date others of the same ethnic background. I've met Indians who won't date other Indians, Chinese who won't date other Chinese, white girl who will only date Asian guys, black girl who won't date black guys, etc.

What do you noobs think about people who will not date other people from the same ethnic background just because...?

Discuss.

[NorthYorker]

What do you noobs think about people who will not date other people from the same ethnic background just because...?

Grass is always greener the other side of the fence.
/discussion

[manmanny]

Lately, I have been coming across more and more people who will not date others of the same ethnic background. I've met Indians who won't date other Indians, Chinese who won't date other Chinese, white girl who will only date Asian guys, black girl who won't date black guys, etc.

What do you noobs think about people who will not date other people from the same ethnic background just because...?

Discuss.

So why do I feel you think that's a bad thing? Is it a bad thing what they are doing?

[AudiDude]

Opposites attract and people like different things. When I grew up there was nothing but blonde hair and blue/green eyes. I prefer brunettes and brown eyes. It pains me to see people from countries where they have brown/black hair and browns eyes, bleach their hair and wear colored contacts. I know they do it to stand out amongst others of their heritage/country due to dominant genes.

Also it seems that there is an expectation of people from the same place/area/race. You saw the video with the Asian woman smacking her S/O in the nuts? You think if the guy had an opportunity to jump ship he wouldn't take it? I'd leave her ***** far away from the city with no money on my trip to Alabama. See if she wants to hit a guy in the nuts from there.

[D-Roc]

OP, why don't you post your opinion to start off the conversation?

[manmanny]

Lately, I have been coming across more and more people who will not date others of the same ethnic background. I've met Indians who won't date other Indians, Chinese who won't date other Chinese, white girl who will only date Asian guys, black girl who won't date black guys, etc.

What do you noobs think about people who will not date other people from the same ethnic background just because...?

Discuss.

May be they are trying to have different perspective while they can.
If not succeeded then go back. The same ethnic background option is always open and accessible.

[Simaahoy]

How is that self-racist? There's nothing wrong with that....

- If you dating another race solely to stay away from your own, yes that is wrong.

[thestar99]

It is self hating when u completely dismiss your own race for dating. I know plenty of Asian and Indian girls who will only date 6 ft + white guys they buy into the media standard of beauty. If you dislike your own race you do have some issues

[peanutz]

I won't date my own ethnicity because it feels incestuous but I have dated other Asians from other backgrounds.

"Self-racist" or "hate" is not the correct term that applies because I have known good-looking, smart, funny, etc. males from my ethnicity. It's just that they are too familiar.

If that makes sense.

But I think I also just want someone different to be able to learn from them. I also don't date people with too-similar personalities, education, etc. as myself.

[Squiggles]

Who you callin' noob?

[manmanny]

It is self hating when u completely dismiss your own race for dating. I know plenty of Asian and Indian girls who will only date 6 ft + white guys they buy into the media standard of beauty. If you dislike your own race you do have some issues

Are you kidding? So every immigrant (from Asian countries) is racist... Because they are abandoning their country with 100s of millions of "same kind", and going for few millions in Canada ( of so many kinds).

[Tabooger]

I won't date my own ethnicity because it feels incestuous but I have dated other Asians from other backgrounds.

"Self-racist" or "hate" is not the correct term that applies because I have known good-looking, smart, funny, etc. males from my ethnicity. It's just that they are too familiar.

If that makes sense.

But I think I also just want someone different to be able to learn from them. I also don't date people with too-similar personalities, education, etc. as myself.

The first reason seems too far fetched to me, and I don't really understand it, but the second bold part is why I would totally would want to date someone of different culture, ethnicity, food. I'm used to be own culture and the food, and it becomes bland, a mix is always welcomed in my books. Sadly I think it's hard for me to mix, girls don't seem too interested. All I see are east asian women mixed with white guys, but do you rarely see white and black, black and brown, brown and white, yellow and brown etc...

[yao416]

Racist thread. Lock

[peanutz]

The first reason seems too far fetched to me, and I don't really understand it

I said that it feels incestuous, not that it is.

However, I'm not Chinese (the most diverse Asian ethnicity) - individuals of my background are readily and easily identified. So, compared to the whole spectrum of human diversity, dating my ethnicity would be (relatively) incestuous. (Sorry for the pun.)

[divx]

^if we are children of adam and eve, then we are all siblings/cousins? in that case, would incest be a bad thing?