Workload sharing between parents

[oddduck]

We are group C.

Mom: Childcare, Cooking, Prepping Lunches, Illnesses, Middle of the night wake ups, Bedtime, Baths, Medical Appointments
Dad: Cleaning, Dishes, Vacuuming, Sweeping, Garage, Maintenance of home/yard, Laundry

[weedb0y]

Group A, as the father I take over when I'm back from work. In fact that motivates me to leave work on time.

[sleepyguy]

Right now she's still on leave, but we would be group C as well.

[DiceMan]

Group A for 4 years. Then Group C.

My wife's work hours are less than mine and her office is 5 minutes from home, whereas I commute downtown for work. So, my wife tends to do more of the domestic duties than me.

[jimmy-j]

group c

we both do whatever we can to help the other and haven't really had too much discussion about who does what.

...it just turned out that i change all the poops and she does all the other diapers. haha

she puts him down for nap and feeds him. i give him a bath and put him down for night time and read a story.

if my son wakes up during the night i'll usually go in and get him back to sleep which is really just putting the blanket back over him so it's not really any work.

[Kevinck]

I posted above that we were group C and when you looked at overall care we did an even split.

At 18 months my son has decided that everything is daddy. I have to comfort him when he's upset. I have to read him stories. i have to put him to bed. If mom tries any of these then there is just screaming.

My wife is torn on this. On the one hand she's enjoying the break. On the other hand she feels heartbroken that he doesn't want her anymore. She knows it's just a phase but still...

[willdacanucker]

Group B. Even split on waking up with kids. I wake up more often, even though I have to wake up at 3 am for the gym (a full 2.25 hours before wife) Wife is pi$ed-ish that my kids rely on me and call for me, but it is what it is. I care for them a full 99.8% of the time. Truth be told, I will miss it when I have to start working again in almost exactly 1 year.

Dad (me): Every bit of taking care of kids, cleaning, laundry, dishes, pets....etc.
Mum: a full .1% of the same. I can not fault her though. SHe is making the money. SHe is also in higher end healthcare so her schedule is ballistically bonkers and unpredictable. Only thing I can complain about is laundry. I effing hate doing laundry.

[DrXenon]

Wow you guys are whipped. You need to start imposing some gender appropriate roles or you'll live your whole life that way, also your d**k might fall off.

[UrbanPoet]

Wow you guys are whipped. You need to start imposing some gender appropriate roles or you'll live your whole life that way, also your d**k might fall off.

Way to go!
and OF COURSE I would like a side of cigarettes with my breakfast. What am I? A NANCY?!?

[willdacanucker]

Way to go!
and OF COURSE I would like a side of cigarettes with my breakfast. What am I? A NANCY?!?

+1. Also I need to start using beer or Jack Daniels on my cereal instead of milk before I totally lose my man card.

[chimaican]

Group D

Group C plus mother-in-law that just won't leave. Both wife & I work (though I work more days). Household chores have always been mine since the beginning, so there's no real change there. Wife tends to take care of our son when we aren't working, other than that, her mother is always around. She came to help out 1-month before my wife gave birth and 1.5yrs later, still hasn't left, even though she only lives 15km away. She cooks, cleans, and is a nanny. It's been a real privilege to have her around but... when the heck is she going home?

[weedb0y]

Group D

Group C plus mother-in-law that just won't leave. Both wife & I work (though I work more days). Household chores have always been mine since the beginning, so there's no real change there. Wife tends to take care of our son when we aren't working, other than that, her mother is always around. She came to help out 1-month before my wife gave birth and 1.5yrs later, still hasn't left, even though she only lives 15km away. She cooks, cleans, and is a nanny. It's been a real privilege to have her around but... when the heck is she going home?

Dude,
Mother in law lives with you and yet you have to do household chores? Your wife definitely wins here.

[chimaican]

Dude,
Mother in law lives with you and yet you have to do household chores? Your wife definitely wins here.

Well, I really can't have her cut the lawn, wash the cars, vacuum the house, clean the washrooms, and do all the other little maintenance around the house, can I? I suppose I can... j/k