workplace bullying-how can i tell the manager-what can they

[joe4520]

i'm working at this place as a lot attendant , been there for 3 wks so far, there is also newer guy(jeff) whos been here for 2 weeks .
so far working with the team washing cars and picking up customers has been good.
the thing is when working with jeff on the three days he is here, he would at time be little me, call me a f** idiot.
an example i was backing into a stall in the parking lot -being a tight spot and a big suv next to it, i found it hard to park. it took sometime manuevering it and playing with the steering-eventually i got it into park.
well jeff would laugh and point and say omg why didn't you park it in straight wise -omg your a f** idiot

other times he would point out in a big attitude way--- as why i am just sitting around -when i just came back from picking up a customer-i guess he didn;'t now i just came back from picking up a customer

pretty much the guy calls me f** idiot ,omg joey your such a dumb....etc,
i think it harassement and work place bullying. i'm don;t want confrontation , but i want to report it to my manager, but what happens if he does nothing about it or goes on jeff's side, i can report it to the district manager, but what happens if he parts with jeff side too. what can i do after that then. what if they fire me or transfer me to somewhere far, where i can even work.
what are some things i can do. i want to be transferred to another location if possible or even work on his days off and have a day off when he is working

i really don't like this guy

[george benjamin]

Tell your manager (not email):

"I just wanted to let you know about something going on for the past 2 weeks. I've been getting a lot of verbal abuse from jeff and i wanted to let you know that i won't tolerate it anymore. Please speak to him directly about this."

[OS44]

http://www.tbs-sct.gc.ca/pubs_pol/hr...#_Toc515422953
http://www.womanabuseprevention.com/...arassment.html

[teufel-man]

How about you stop being such a pussy

[Nettles]

My mom has this problem. She usually works with middle-aged women. She used to work as an echocardiographer at Hotel Dieu Grace Hospital. The harassment wasn't this direct but pretty much makin her life hell so she'd quit.

She has the same problem now working as a physician assistant at a walk-in clinic. Some of the other more 'established' workers are bitchy, lazy, etc.

A bit sad considering she's a doctor but has to do these sorta jobs here. That's not the point though, ppl feel really threatened by new workers sometimes or in this case, they're just *********s. This problem isn't just with student jobs.

[djphat]

let me come get my car washed when he's working.. let me tell your manager that I heard him calling me a f'ing idiot

[scottmcl]

let me come get my car washed when he's working.. let me tell your manager that I heard him calling me a f'ing idiot

Bit of a drive for you...

but I will do it for sure!

[mork]

If this is a large national chain or something then I think you will probably find they will have some sort of harassment or respectful workplace policy in place. Most companies have zero tolerance for this sort of thing (keep in mind that harassment can be criminal as well).

Before going to your boss I would actually suggest talking to this guy.. next time he says something like that respond with a little aggression, but be sincere.. tell him "look, you talk down to me a lot and it isn't acceptable. I am here to try to make a few bucks and get some experience and I won't tolerate this.. you need to start acting more professional or I'll have to talk to our manager about it. I wish we could get a long but you're making it difficult so we at least need to be professional even if you don't like the way I park cars.." Once he realizes you have a backbone he might stop because he respects you or because he is worried you'll rat him out..

I'd also suggest keeping a little log of what he says and when (date/time). If you throw down a log in front of your manager it will be quite powerful.. much more so than just going in and being like "so-and-so is a bully".

By the way, if your manager sides with the bully, quit on the spot..

[djphat]

Before going to your boss I would actually suggest talking to this guy.. next time he says something like that respond with a little aggression, but be sincere.. tell him "look, you talk down to me a lot and it isn't acceptable. I am here to try to make a few bucks and get some experience and I won't tolerate this.. you need to start acting more professional or I'll have to talk to our manager about it. I wish we could get a long but you're making it difficult so we at least need to be professional even if you don't like the way I park cars.." Once he realizes you have a backbone he might stop because he respects you or because he is worried you'll rat him out..

I'd also suggest keeping a little log of what he says and when (date/time). If you throw down a log in front of your manager it will be quite powerful.. much more so than just going in and being like "so-and-so is a bully".

By the way, if your manager sides with the bully, quit on the spot..

You should have stopped at "...talking to this guy"

You know basically nothing about the poster nor the verbal abuser. Don't give him such bold advises. Thanks.

[joe4520]

If this is a large national chain or something then I think you will probably find they will have some sort of harassment or respectful workplace policy in place. Most companies have zero tolerance for this sort of thing (keep in mind that harassment can be criminal as well).

Before going to your boss I would actually suggest talking to this guy.. next time he says something like that respond with a little aggression, but be sincere.. tell him "look, you talk down to me a lot and it isn't acceptable. I am here to try to make a few bucks and get some experience and I won't tolerate this.. you need to start acting more professional or I'll have to talk to our manager about it. I wish we could get a long but you're making it difficult so we at least need to be professional even if you don't like the way I park cars.." Once he realizes you have a backbone he might stop because he respects you or because he is worried you'll rat him out..

I'd also suggest keeping a little log of what he says and when (date/time). If you throw down a log in front of your manager it will be quite powerful.. much more so than just going in and being like "so-and-so is a bully".

By the way, if your manager sides with the bully, quit on the spot..

well thanks anyways for your response-i thought it was helpful really. i just don;t want to get beat up by jeff if he finds out i ratted him out. hes seems to be the voilent tough guy type of person. or even get beat up by his group of friends

[OS44]

well thanks anyways for your response-i thought it was helpful really. i just don;t want to get beat up by jeff if he finds out i ratted him out. hes seems to be the voilent tough guy type of person. or even get beat up by his group of friends

have him charged for assault then, what the hell is this kind of job if where you even have to worry about getting beat up???

[jacksorbetta]

Next time you seen him sauntering up to you, set your cellphone to voice record memo. Get a nice clip of him harassing you, then head straight to the managers office, and play it for him. I'm sure that'll be enough to get rid of him tout suite.

Sorry you're dealing with this Op......no workplace should be that hostile. GL, keep us updated.

[djphat]

before you do anything you need to be sure of yourself and try to understand him.

you can't escape the reality but it's not always the reality that's making things worse as they seem.

I'm not saying that you should just ignore him but just think about how the society would view his actions and his type of mentality and wish that he will lighten up someday. some people eat meat. some people hate it and can't stand people that eat meat. some people eat vegetables and some people grow and live with one. don't just think about how it's making you feel but try to view yourself and him from a third person perspective. I think you would be in a better position to analyze the situation and come up with a better solution for yourself then.

don't hate. don't think revenge. learn to cope with people.. anyone around you. It will only help you to become wiser... and you'll understand what I am saying maybe tomorrow, maybe few years from now.. maybe you think you understand but maybe not

[hoopsandyoyo]

Check HR policy and process first....
understand the process and policy and contact the correct person, sometimes its your manager sometimes its just straight to HR (depending on how big the firm).

Some even have confidental HR lines.

[dekay]

complaining never does anything. either stand up to him or just leave. it's a lot attendant position, you can find these jobs two blocks down the road.