That's why you look at the DOT first and do not let them install the rubber .... take the rubber elsewhere. I made that mistake at Premier Wheels Direct with my set of Falken Espia and also bought rims from them ... Bought in 2015 and the DOT on them all were from 2010!
Yes you can refuse your order ... it's just like buying something and you don't like it .. it can be refunded right away!
That is why you do not go there for anything that they can touch your car with! Even an oil change at CT is dangerous!