deciding about leaving a 50K 4 day remote job for a 80k+ 40 min commute 5 day job. looking for advice
The pregnancy comments made me laugh. Its something my dad would say because he wants more grandkids LOL
Im 32 with 10 years of experience in my industry (sales). Im currently making 50K a year, working 4 days a week. I also make commission but targets are so high, I haven't made it last year and will unlikely make it this year. I work remotely, however as covid passes, I will be required to make more client visits. I have been working remotely for the past 3 years, working for smaller companies and have really enjoyed the flexibility. However these past 3 years I've been making around 50K, while prior to this I was working at larger companies making 75K+. so I essentially taken a ~25K pay cut the last few years. I've had some interpersonal and mental health(anxiety and depression) issues in my roles at bigger companies. I think its a mixture of working in a high stress environment and needing to work with people in person (I dont really hide my emotions; something easier to do when working remotely). I got let go 3 times in my career but was always lucky to fin something shortly after. I think my industry has alot of turn over and I have good references.I just got a job offer, Im torn whether to take it or not. Its a more interesting job with potential to travel once covid is over, great learning experience and will open more doors in the future (more responsibility, new categories to sell). It is 80K a year plus ~10K bonus (discretionary). however It is 5 days a week and I require to commute by car for 40 mins each way. I've asked for remote work possibilities, they werent able to confirm either way but have tome me to consider it an office job for now to reduce resentment. They really prefer I go in to help with my learning. I've already negotiated the highest salary possible and vacation time and after a few back and forth, I think this is the best I can do with the company. I really resent driving and think of car usage as a money pit (prefer to cycle). I'v had another job that required a similar commute a few years ago, though it was great from my career ( it was a big company) I hated the commute aspect and it was a huge weight off my shoulders the day I sold my car. I've gotten into a minor car accident in the past. That being said, we do have a paid off car that my partner uses just for groceries and weekend trips, so the added cost would be adding me to insurance and gas. Its a relatively smaller company and the boss seems reasonable, so I dont think I'll face the same interpersonal stresses as I did previously.
My current company is a sinking ship. 4/5 people that work at company quit in the last 2 months.. There have been late payroll payments, money issues and owners mis-management (stock not arriving when promised) . I've been at the company for over a year and it has been frustrating to be proud of my work when the company does not have the product to sell (broken promises to customers about lead times). I have slowly accepted this by trying to be as transparent as possible to my clients and accepting this job as one that pays the bills and allows me the flexibility to work from home. Most people that left and including me dont see the company improving in the near future. That being said I really enjoy the remote working lifestyle and am largely independent in my work. I enjoy spending time with my cat and doing house chores through the work day. I feel guilty to admit I probably only spend about 3-4 hours working per day in my current role. I just had a performance review and there was no mention of raises. I really think it will take an alternative job offer to increase my current salary. Im not sure if they will move at all due to their current money constraints. I've asked for higher salary previously (ever since I started) but especially since Im not making targets, I didnt feel I have the leverage to push for more.
On a personal note, my spouse current contract is expiring next spring and is currently looking for a new role. He is in Medicine and current makes 175K and will likely make 225K+ in the next role. He is definitely the bread winner our relationship. We dont have kids but might in the next 2 years. There is a 70% chance that we will need to move cities for him to achieve this higher salary. So now Im thinking I really should only apply for remote jobs and will likely need to quit this new job within 6 months. The alternative would be for us to live in 2 cities temporarily. I dont think my current role will still want to keep me on in another city as most of our clients are in the city im living now.
Covid has been tough in my industry and there hasn't been alot of job posted, so I have guilt in turning this job down (what I sell is somewhat specialized). I really think I would enjoy this new role if it was remote and think it would be great for my career. However Im not sure Im ready to give up my remote lifestyle to drive 40 mins and working in a office 5 days a week. I've already done the math of current role 4 days a week vs new job 5 days + commuting. its $30 vs 30.7 and hour, so not much difference. Its a bit frustrating how little im making now, and part of me thinks I should just suck it up and do the commute /office time for the higher salary. I can always quit if my partner accepts a job of the city.
what would do you?
I know that was long so thank you so much for reading!