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is it depression inevitble?

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is it depression inevitble?

Regardless of walk of life is the concept of a person feeling down and a general malaise just part of life regardless where thy are in the world? I'm talking polar opposites like a person in a busy metropolitan md a simple tribes man who hs little to no concept of the western world. In animals we see them display this emotion but their case can somewhat be isolated to missing their owner because they have become dependant on them for food and companionship. Needless to say humans have much wider gamut for feeling sad and depressed.

Can we take comfort in the knowledge that its just inevitable and deal with it the best way possible and move on? Thing is, I have an older sibling who recently started to reconnect and they did that family and getting older has been weighing on their mind. were not that much in age difference and it ws never something I considered but I'm starting to?

Whats your take?
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Dunno. I think it might be.

I wouldn't trust anyone who hasn't experienced some sort of uncertainty and hopelessness in their lives. It leaves you feeling a lot more humbled.
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im always depressed.
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Mental illness is not talked about openly, but it is far from uncommon.

1 in 5 people (20% of the population) will personally experience some sort of mental illness in their lifetime... So naturally a higher percentage of individuals will know someone who has struggled with a mental illness.

Depression is the most common, but it is far from the only form of mental illness, the category includes a wide range of illnesses & disorders including:

Anxiety - Depression - Schizophrenia - Personality Disorders - Eating Disorders - Organic Brain Disorders ... And changes in one's mental health from a wide variety of causes... Adjustment Disorders - Grief - Childhood Neglect - Emotional Abuse - Battered Spouse Syndrome - Sexual Abuse - PTSD - Concussions... and aging in the areas of Dimentia & Alzheimer's

One cannot truly say if they are more prone to these things happening to them than someone else (ie Depression / Suicide for example) but scientists are looking at patterns & family genetics.

But there is forever the fact that there is the unpredictable element that life could throw your way that proves to be just too overwhelming for your brain to systematically cope with.

This is certainly true for a good number of mental health issues. Be that having a severe concussion (doesn't have to be sports, could be a fall, or a car accident) or depression brought on from what you see as a life changing event... Death of someone close to you, Loss of Job, House burns down etc.

Sh!t happens, and things go wrong in everyone's life, unfortunately. Some people cope better than others, while for some it is just one more straw that breaks the camel's back. And sadly, the more of a load that someone was already carrying mentally / emotionally (historic trauma) then the smaller the final item might be that sends them over the edge.

No shame. We should all be far more understanding & compassionate, cause one day it could be us... Or YOU

Zoomer Magazine "5 Myths about Mental Illness" http://www.everythingzoomer.com/5-menta ... h-myths/2/
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I think there are some people who do not get depressed. Therefore, I do not think depression is inevitable.
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I wonder if it really is true if negative frame of mind is linked with people with a personality leaning more toward creative thinking. Maybe folks who have more logical frame of mind can filter whole lot of bs and have the emotional resilience. The creative temperament lack the filters and get stuck in-between reality and imagination. Not making more time in being touch with reality effs them over because they become their own worst enemy.

My half-assed theory.
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PointsHubby wrote: Mental illness is not talked about openly, but it is far from uncommon.

1 in 5 people (20% of the population) will personally experience some sort of mental illness in their lifetime... So naturally a higher percentage of individuals will know someone who has struggled with a mental illness.


Zoomer Magazine "5 Myths about Mental Illness" http://www.everythingzoomer.com/5-menta ... h-myths/2/


I have 10 friends who have 10 friends and so on....

All are mentally happy
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voncleav wrote: I have 10 friends who have 10 friends and so on....

All are mentally happy
As far as you know...

Fact is a lot of people don't share their mental challenges with others. Still too much of a stigma to bear. People are judgmental & cruel.

Sadly people commit suicide every day, and someone always says "I had no idea". Even family members.
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PointsHubby wrote: As far as you know...

Fact is a lot of people don't share their mental challenges with others. Still too much of a stigma to bear. People are judgmental & cruel.

Sadly people commit suicide every day, and someone always says "I had no idea". Even family members.
It's a sign of weakness and isn't attractive.

Problem is people who are affected don't have the right tools or skills to manage the inner turbulence so it slowly and slowly kills them from the inside.
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Dumbbelldore wrote: It's a sign of weakness and isn't attractive.

Problem is people who are affected don't have the right tools or skills to manage the inner turbulence so it slowly and slowly kills them from the inside.
Curious what is a sign of weakness & not attractive ?

Having depression
Asking for / getting help
Or... The act of committing suicide ?

I think the answer to this Question is very telling, cause it shows how accepting one is of mental health issues, and if one has true empathy for those who through no fault of their own have these issues (still people who don't believe it is an illness, and folks can just "snap out of" the funk)
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PointsHubby wrote: Curious what is a sign of weakness & not attractive ?
It's possible that people see it as someone who's being "depressed" as someone seeking attention and not interested in getting themselves together. People are usually more forgiving to women but if you're a guy who's expressing his weakness to others, people could be more judgmental. For this reason dudes are more likely to keep their internal problems to themselves and show off that life's problem doesn't affect them psychologically.

This inability to express their weakness shows up in different way like being careless and not giving a hoot about how it affects their overall physical health and relationship with their close relatives. Maybe it's the culture that asks of people to be ambitious to the point of being careless about oneself. Anyone who tries to be too worried about their psychological well-being could be seen as someone lacking in resilience and the ability to adapt to a world that doesn't give a damn.

This is my observation.
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Also keeping ones mental health private is a security measure for the protection of ones self.

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Michael Phelps interview from the morning show "Megyn Kelly TODAY":


Dumbbelldore wrote: ...This inability to express [men's] weakness shows up in different way like being careless and not giving a hoot about how it affects their overall physical health and relationship with their close relatives. Maybe it's the culture that asks of people to be ambitious to the point of being careless about oneself. Anyone who tries to be too worried about their psychological well-being could be seen as someone lacking in resilience and the ability to adapt to a world that doesn't give a damn...
In the interview, he said that talking helped him feel better.
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Dumbbelldore wrote: It's a sign of weakness and isn't attractive.

Problem is people who are affected don't have the right tools or skills to manage the inner turbulence so it slowly and slowly kills them from the inside.
This is true based on how we measure others and judge others in society.
We always believe ourselves and others to have full control of our destiny.
This is a great lie of the Ego.
There are people who seemingly are tougher by sweeping things under the carpet,mental affirmations,big egos and downright lack of shame but left unresolved may pop back up again at some future time.
Really also depends on ones balance of the carnal with the spiritual in life.
The carnal is very pleasurable but only satisfies for a season while the spiritual may last a longer time, affecting character and life more positively.
Both also affect ambition,ego size,contentment,ethics as in "at any cost" etc.
Experiences though are meant to help us in the long run and possibly bring us closer to the source.
It really depends on how one reacts to the experience.
Some buckle under the pressure and lack of support while some grab the bull by the horns and deal with it head on.
It comes down to inner strength, Glass half empty or half full, the actual degree or extent of trauma in the experience, and off course what has already accumulated in ones life thus far, making one equipped or not to handle it.
Some of us may be "spared" experiences others may have or have less depressing ones, because we learn early in life our life's divine purpose and develop and grow towards it, instead of settling into the mindset of what is for him/her is for me as well in the carnal life.
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Usually, people who are afraid of being weak are the ones who do not want to be around "weak" people.
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Becks wrote: Usually, people who are afraid of being weak are the ones who do not want to be around "weak" people.
Hmm yeah. Being reasonably on guard is important cuz not everyone values the same thing. Being vulnerable is a good thing but it cheapens the value if not cautious. Some got bigger walls, others got smaller. I’d be cool if their weren’t any but the way different breeds of intentions that are alive makes it tricky for both wo/men.
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Truthfully, I find this thread depressing and is making me depressed.

There is so much negativity in the world, in the news and in life in general that to go seeking out more in these types of discussions just makes it worse. Just read this discussion thread and you will see why people are depressed or getting depressed.

Life is life. You make the best of what you got and you carry forward. You look for the best in the things that you run into in life and don't dwell on the negative. Make " realistic " goals and celebrate your accomplishments.

Try to get along with people and concentrate your times on positive people.

If something bad happens, just deal with it. Don't overthink things and don't what if things.

Just enjoy your life, your friends, your family and be happy with what you have.
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Just to differentiate between the two:


luckystrike1 wrote: Life is life. You make the best of what you got and you carry forward. You look for the best in the things that you run into in life and don't dwell on the negative. Make " realistic " goals and celebrate your accomplishments.
I agree.

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