Getting depressed over 2 year old
I'm looking for assistance in how to better deal with the situation, so don't need the 'it's normal' etc I'm aware of that, I'm just looking on help on how to deal with it
Incoming wall of text.
Yes its me again asking for assistance, its just that now we are getting over our energy and getting exhausted
Situation Mom 34, Dad 35 and 2 boys. 23 months (2 year old next week) and 2 months old
Our future 2 year old was such a sweet child back then and now he's giving us much trouble, yes it's due to terrible two and the jealousy of the new baby.
Please note that our 2 year old loves his brother, he hugs him, tries to give him his pacifier and everything
When he's at home, he doesn't eat anymore, he can pass the whole weekend without eating 1 bites or he will ask for food, we prepare him and he will eat 1-2 times then just stop and demands to go on the floor, so he usually goes to daycare empty tummy and same for bed time. But at kindergarten or when he goes to his grandma he's eating like a pig like if we were not feeding him, once again I know it's kinda normal. But now all he wants is Milk (not in a bottle) but Milk I'm guessing it's because of the baby 'eating milk' and he wants to do like him
We tried to make him choose what everyone will eat, he will usually choose but when its ready he refuse to eat, we tried to keep his plate for 30 min then just removing the plate from him (he never asks for it)
We also trying not to tell him stuff like. 'eat one more' or eat this everything that can 'force him'
To make me worry more he's been loosing weight, a few weeks ago he was 27.0 he's not 26
I tried contacting the doctor, but she refuses to see him due to covid, the fact he already has an appointment on July 12 and the fact that he doesn't seem sick
Section 2: Attitude
Once again this is only at home but all he does it cry now, he refuses to play with his toys, and all he wants is to be held, all he does is ask for mom or dad to hold him, and of course if he doesn't get what he wants he starts a tantrum. Exemple I go get him at daycare he's gentle happy smiley, we enter the house he starts yelling I WANT MOMMY or I WANT DADDY and it goes until bed time
Section 3 : Discipline
GF and I are working hard to discipline him but we just don't know how to, when he does a tantrum for whatever reason either cuz we say no, because he doesn't wanna eat or whatever its tantrum time, the problem with tantrum time is he doesn't listen, he just yell louder then we talk, we try to resonate him explain him but he just yells louder.
So we tried 2 timeout methods
1) In the Room to think about what he did. Which doesn't work cuz he tantrum as soon as he gets out or he just explose inside the room
2) Timeout chair, which makes him auto explode and we have to hold him to keep him there
We are kinda out of ressources now, once again I know it's all normal but I'm looking for tips to make this more manageable