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Girlfriend isn't eating.. (bipolar??)

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Girlfriend isn't eating.. (bipolar??)

Well, my GF was recently diagnosed with bipolar (very mild case they said; from severe anxiety). From such, anything she does in her life that isn't "right" is because she's bipolar. She's lost probably 30-40lbs, and that's 30-40lbs coming off someone who was an average weight, so now she's a bonerack. It doesn't matter what i say, it doesnt matter how much I plead with her to eat. She continues to not eat and lose weight and blame it on bipolar.. The losing the weight thing is killing me, physically speaking I'm completely unattracted to her. Shes used to be SO beyond perfect and I absolutely loved her body. She has no motivation to cook and would rather just not eat. She eats sometimes literally once a day (and that might be just a croissant or peanuts) to at a maximum of 3 times a day (2 times snacking and 1 decent sized meal). She never ever ever finishes her meals. Always leftovers, sometimes theres a lot of leftovers and it looks like she hasn't even touched it.

What to do? She says all the time she isn't happy with her weight and is disgusted when she looks in the mirror but she lets it get worse and worse.. I'm very concerned for her and she just gets mad whenever I talk about it. I let it go for the longest time hoping it would just straighten out but it just gets worse and I dont know what to do for her? she thinks it will sort itself out?


EDIT: I let it go without saying anything for the longest time but it's at the point now where it's real concerning..
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Is a high rate of eating desorden in bipolar people this include anorexia and bulimia. Find professional help asap for your girlfriend. Good luck.
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I may not know a lot about cars, but for health, it's another thing.

First, when was your GF recently diagnosed with bipolar ? Before or after the weight problem, before or after the weight problem gets out of hand?

Then, yes you must do something to help her DESPITE HER REFUSAL EVEN if she threatens to break up with you, or yell at you. Up to this situation, it's best for her to go see a mental dr specialist called a psychiatre in french (not a psychologist).

Temporary, just get her into multivitamine tablets and some high calorie/protein boost/ensure (food substitute). She might not eat, but she only has to drink the bottle, and it has most of what she needs.

Trust me, this situation can ONLY GET WORSE if she doesn'T consult a doctor (specialized into mental disorder).

Then, you also have to consider the real diagnostic made by the doctor. She is for sure anorexia.

Nonetheless, there is a drug in a pharmacy which is called Cyproheptadine. It's an antihistamine that is also indicated for Anorexia (it increases hunger). Go talk to your pharmacist about the dosage (which should be increasing over time). As for any medication, I don't know if she takes any right now, but Cyproheptadine can interact with some other medications, so to be on the safe side ask your pharmacist if she is taking any drugs. Because it is an antihistamine, she therefore can not take any other ones into the same class.

Bipolar = some day depression, some day crazy happy. But one thing you should know, when it is dark side (depression), it is really dark. As well as the opposite.

Depression is another factor that leads to Anorexia (can also lead to overweight for other people). FYI, in any case you doubt about suicide, you call 911. She will be mad, but she needs to be treated. I honestly don't think she has those kind of dark side thinkings, otherwise MD would have prescribed her something.

A lot of mental problems, people tend to look it's not important. What they don't realize, is mental problems are just as dangerous as physical health problems.

Once bipolar is treated, she will become a normal people. Anxiety however is not bipolar, but their path can be overstepped.

Treatment IS NEEDED especially when a person is unable to live normally, and or when the quality of life becomes terrible. According to your post, this is your situation.

I am surprised the doctor didn't want to treat, maybe at the time when MD saw her, she wasn't that bad.

According to your post, I would suggest a treatment is needed. Best way is to solve the primary problem. If eating disorder is the only problem, cyproheptadine might help and it's an over the counter drug (no need prescription). If it's bipolar who brought anorexia, then treating bipolar is better (always treating the source).

But you have mentionned a lot of things into your post, not in detail, so I am just exposing all possible explanation.
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Your GF has an eating disorder, and unless she's willing to seek treatment, you aren't likely going to meet with any success by forcing any type of treatment on her. You can only offer your support, and learn about how to handle the situation, such as finding what sort of resources are available to people going through this. Good luck.
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The OP's gf has a lot of issues and drama going on. The OP can't fix her. That is for her and trained professionals to work on. And, apparently, anorexia is difficult to treat. So, whether she is conflating her issues into one biploar identity, I don't know. But, there are drugs for bipolar disorder. Is she taking any?
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Becks wrote: The OP's gf has a lot of issues and drama going on. The OP can't fix her. That is for her and trained professionals to work on. And, apparently, anorexia is difficult to treat. So, whether she is conflating her issues into one biploar identity, I don't know. But, there are drugs for bipolar disorder. Is she taking any?
Maybe op can't answer and brought his gf to hospital ...

According to his post, dr didnt treat the bipolar, so i guess no drugs for now.

also please note there is no change in her improvement, plus no specified reschedule dr follow up appointment, so i believe 2 other reasons she aint taking bipolar drugs
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I agree the weight loss is a real concern, but I'm trying to look at my own eating pattern and habits. I almost never have time to eat breakfast, sometimes I just eat a packet of pocky or cookies. I'll eat lunch pretty late (2-3pm?) leading to loss of appetite for dinner around 6-7pm. So arguably I also eat 1-2 meals only. I agree it isn't a healthy lifestyle. I guess I'm trying to say I'm not bipolar and still eat that amount a day.
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Is she on meds because decreased appetite could be a side effect? In her lows (depression) she can have a lack of appetite or no interest in food. It's hard to get motivated to do anything when you are depressed. Either way she needs to see a doctor and get treated.
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It's nice seeking advice from an online community but this is one of those you-need-to-seek-professional-help type things.

She's going to need to get into a program, so you should take her to a hospital close-by because mental health programs (even if it's urgent) have LONG wait lists.

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