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how to dispose your deceased pet? (and share some thoughts on final days with your pets)

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how to dispose your deceased pet? (and share some thoughts on final days with your pets)

could never figure out how to use the search function here - I remember seeing some posts like this before but could not dig them up.

the reason I'm asking this is one of my cats - almost 20 now, his day is counting. I'm preparing any time to take him to vet to end his pain when the time is coming. And I would like to know the ways to dispose my deceased pets just as a backup plan. (the vet I mentioned below retired and closed clinic 2 or 3 years ago.)

about seven and half years ago, one of my cats, this 20-year-old cat's brother (same mother same litter) died from something called "uronephrosis". it was too late when we found it - one day my wife noticed him laying on his side, the middle body part waving heavily when he breathe, I took him to the vet on the very next day, the vet told me it'd better if I euthanize him on spot to end his pain - needless to say that was too much a shock I could take on spot, because he seemed "normal" to us just the day before. of course later on in retrospect, there were signs, he was trying to hide himself a week or 2 before, he sometimes suddenly yelled loudly without obvious reason, etc. my wife was sick at that time, I could not make that decision by myself - F***, i still feel like crying when I type this. A grown-up man called his wife and crying over the phone in the patient room. it was too much for her too. So i told the vet that I will take him back to let my wife see him for the last time - because she had no idea that was the last time she would see him leave home and not coming back, and I will take him back again the coming monday to euthanize him if he was not getting better. (it was a friday when I visit the vet)

it was a huge mistake.

once he got back home, the situation deteriorated fast and evident within hours, and it was too late to go back to the vet, the office closed, and then it was a weekend. A painful story in short, I stayed up all night with him, watching him struggling breathing more and more difficultly, and I just could not keep from crying seeing him in pain and i could not do anything - had I had the medication and the needle, I would definitely put him down myself at that time.
On early Sat morning, i put him on our bed, he "jumped" in his best effort towards my wife, breathe hardly, peed uncontrollably on bed and gone. My wife was totally devastated.

I took him back to the same vet, who charged me $25 then.

3 lessons/questions to share with all pet lovers:

A. Would you think I love my cat more if I was happy to pay for $250 or even more to the vet or any vet to dispose my cat, or I paid only $25 made me a person not love my pet so much?

B. On the very first day when we take them home, we all know, at least subconsciously that day of good-bye will come some day. I know it's HARD, and even HARDER to do the right thing during HARD time - do something, the last thing that is good for them, end their pain, even when this means more pain for you.

C. Stay rational, that's probably the HARDEST part during emotional trauma. I will adamantly refuse to be ripped off and taken advantage of during the painful time, not because I'm a RFDer - yes, as I said in other posts before, call me cheap - "you are saying i'm smart (as a deal hunter)" (russell peters), but I never cheap on my pets, I always give them the best I could - however this does NOT mean I will let the vet rip me off using my pets as hostages or emotionally manipulate me - to let RATIONALITY PREVAIL during such difficult times is for the GREATER good for all, now and future, pets and pet owners - do NOT inflate the fees and costs and do NOT spoil the vets and the profession.
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Hi forgetpwd,
First off, sorry to hear about your cat. It's never easy to lose a loved one.

You can drop off a deceased pet at an emergency clinic or at your vet clinic. In my experience, if you choose to do a private cremation, the emergency clinic will send the urn with the ashes to your vet clinic.
There are two types of cremations: communal (many different animals mixed together, you do not get ashes back) or private (only one animal is cremated and you get ashes back in an urn) Latter is more expensive, for obvious reasons.

As for your questions:
A. Would you think I love my cat more if I was happy to pay for $250 or even more to the vet or any vet to dispose my cat, or I paid only $25 made me a person not love my pet so much?

This is only something you can judge yourself on. I know it is a hard decision but ultimately you will be the one that has to live with the decision. If you choose to euthanize or let your pet pass at home, it really is up to you. Sounds like your cat was in serious pain and euthanization would've end your cat's suffering sooner- but we are well human and want more time with our loved ones.

I'm confused about this:
"but I never cheap on my pets, I always give them the best I could - however this does NOT mean I will let the vet rip me off using my pets as hostages or emotionally manipulate me - to let RATIONALITY PREVAIL during such difficult times is for the GREATER good for all, now and future, pets and pet owners - do NOT inflate the fees and costs and do NOT spoil the vets and the profession."

What inflated fees and costs? If you choose to euthanize your pets, there is a higher cost which accounts for the drugs and the vet's time. However, you are choosing for a more humane approach to death, and your cat would suffer less. I'm guessing the $250 vs $25 cost is for that, but by no means it is an inflation to costs or fees.
If you're referring to the other thread about the 19 year old cat- we don't know the full story. There might be more on the bill than just the euthanization/ cremation fees but the OP did not receive an itemized bill so we are uncertain what OP was charged for.
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Drive to the country, bring a shovel. Find a piece of land, dig a hole and have a small ceremony.

Cost is Free.

I lost a lot of pets growing up on a farm near a major highway, I had the job to bury them. I made peace with it and they are where they should be. Outdoor cats don't live long lives with predators and dangers outside. Yours lasted a long life, we all go back to the earth sometime.
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Sorry for your loss. I lost my dog a few years back. She struggled years with an autoimmune disease. She passed 6 years after her first diagnoses in our arms at home. With that being said, we did have connection with the local Emergency Clinic, so we chose to cremate her as pp said. I tried searching for a pet cemetery but there's none close by to where we are. We have kept her ash in an urn with us at home since.
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At the ER, I choose a private cremation, cedar box with name and a paw print. I picked him up at our vet’s office a couple weeks later. It helped to bring him home.

Do what you feel is right for your family.
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Had pets all my life, every single one minus two went to the vet to be humanely euthanized when time was right. Saddest times of my life you never get over that trauma of seeing your pet leave you, however with pain you push through and do what is best for your friend. Vet took care of the body.

One dog we had died at home in our basement, wasn't showing any signs of pain but his time came. We took to the vet and was taken care of. The only other pet (cat) died at home and vets were closed, took him to the humane society where they took care of disposal.

It truly is a very sad day to say goodbye to a pet, always takes a few years before being open to adopt another.

Our current pet is a three year old Haveneese/Shitsu blend, the center of our world as our other children are leaving our nest. I am considering a taxidermist to have him prepared to come back to keep us company in a way. Still need some convincing of my wife, have the next 15 years to do that.

We have been fortunate all our pets have been extremely healthy, very long lives which makes it even harder to say goodbye.
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you only paid 25.00 ?

i had to pay 90.00. plus tax

you can dispose body in organic recycling bin.
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bluenose2 - Read up on what happens to the pet after death - I won't go into the details here. Yes, you can put your pet's body in the organic bin or garbage - depending on where you live (but it isn't going to happen with my pets). However, should your pet die say just after your garbage or organics bin has been picked up and next pickup won't be for another week and it is during the summer months the only choice you will have is to put your pet in the freezer - and for those of us who only have a fridge freezer with a pet that won't fit, that is an issue (also not happening at any rate even if we had a big freezer). I just hope that the vet is open when it happens or that mobile vets are operating. Anything can happen at any time to a pet but it is more worrying when your pet is a senior.
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"Dispose", what an ugly word to use.

The vet business in Canada is a disgraceful money grab. As much as the USA is a nightmare country, their approach to veterinarian medicine is much better.

Sorry for your loss :(
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forgetpwd wrote: A. Would you think I love my cat more if I was happy to pay for $250 or even more to the vet or any vet to dispose my cat, or I paid only $25 made me a person not love my pet so much?

C. Stay rational, that's probably the HARDEST part during emotional trauma. I will adamantly refuse to be ripped off and taken advantage of during the painful time, not because I'm a RFDer - yes, as I said in other posts before, call me cheap - "you are saying i'm smart (as a deal hunter)" (russell peters), but I never cheap on my pets, I always give them the best I could - however this does NOT mean I will let the vet rip me off using my pets as hostages or emotionally manipulate me - to let RATIONALITY PREVAIL during such difficult times is for the GREATER good for all, now and future, pets and pet owners - do NOT inflate the fees and costs and do NOT spoil the vets and the profession.
I assume you are a person who is comfortable in life and not under financial strain. If so, $250 for euthanasia is not a large amount of money to help a pet ease its pain and move on peacefully. Its not about the real dollar figure, its about doing what needs to be done to make things right.
As you said, your biggest mistake was to leave the vet and then allow it to close for the weekend, thus prolonging the suffering.
(on a side note for others, in toronto there are 24/7 vets everywhere who will do the job)

I just put my dog down last week and it was one of the hardest things ever. My wife and I cried a lot before and after. At a certain point though, we both agreed it was just the right thing to do before he suffered too much. I called around to different vets to get pricing for euthanasia + private cremation + some other stuff. One local place wanted $1100. Most others were $400-600 so that was the right range. $1100 was an outlier and a definite rip off so we didn't use them. But if $2000 was the standard price everywhere, I would have paid that too.

A pet is your family. You see them every day for a decade or two. The way I see it is that they (a dog for me) are so selfless in bringing us happiness all the time, regardless of the situation, so how do you put a dollar figure on that?
What is 10+ years of pure happiness worth in $$$ ?
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CauseBurn wrote: "Dispose", what an ugly word to use.

The vet business in Canada is a disgraceful money grab. As much as the USA is a nightmare country, their approach to veterinarian medicine is much better.

Sorry for your loss :(
Out of curiousity, how is the US approach any different?

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CNeufeld wrote: Out of curiousity, how is the US approach any different?

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Im Canadian, here they try to mirror the human healthcare system, minus the free access.

For example, if I want to get access to a vet nutritionist I would first have to pay for a regular vet visit, then I would have to convince my vet to send me to a vet nutritionist, then i would have to pay the nutritionist for the visit, then pay for any plan they come up with.

In the USA, you call a nutritionist then they setup a plan and you pay them a nominal fee, simple.

In Canada, if your dog, like mine, has stomach issues and you need to buy hydrolyzed protein dog food, you need to pay for that vet visit, pay for the ultrasound and xrays, then have the vet agree to allow you to buy the food, then they and only they, can sell you the food at a crazy markup. You need to repeat this process with every vet if you find one that sells the food at a better price (I have had a vet tell me to my face that they wont sell me the dog food without paying for a checkup first). Keep in mind, this is dog food, its not medicine.

In the USA you can buy hydrolyzed dog food from amazon and have it delivered, no fuss, no muss, no money-grubbing BS.

Canadian vet industry is a business and its designed to soak customers of every single penny they can, its done in the guise of whats best for your pets but thats a lie.
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For my municipal region, we are not to put dead animals or pets in the organic recycling bin. It is written on their webpage.
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I usually dug holes in my garden something really deep. I also disinfect. As much as I want to have my pets cremated, it is limited here in our area. But having them cremated is also an option. Some areas also have pet cemeteries.
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We used a vet who specializes in in home euthanasia when our 17 year old dog’s cancer impacted his lungs. Was so peaceful doing it at home, and he arranged for the cremation etc. 100% will do this always for all future pets. My first 2 dogs i did at the vet hospital a couple decades ago and i wouldn’t do it that way in the future.
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if you have a backyard, dig a hole, burry animal, patch ground, put a small cross made out of popsicle sticks in the ground

if you dont have a back yard cus maybe you live in a condo, then go to the field, dig a hole, burry animal, patch ground, put a small cross made out of popsicle sticks in the ground
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GoodFellaz wrote: if you have a backyard, dig a hole, burry animal, patch ground, put a small cross made out of popsicle sticks in the ground

if you dont have a back yard cus maybe you live in a condo, then go to the field, dig a hole, burry animal, patch ground, put a small cross made out of popsicle sticks in the ground
why a cross? is the pet christian?
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no idea if pets are religious or not, but people are. and people are allowed to pray for pets too, right? there's no rule against that! also what do u see in a cemetary? crosses? thats why i chose a cross I guess, sorry if it offended you.
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Hood_Rep wrote: why a cross? is the pet christian?
Because its an easy shape to make out of popsicle sticks and serves as a marker. What shape would you make?
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bionicbadger wrote: Because its an easy shape to make out of popsicle sticks and serves as a marker. What shape would you make?
I'm not going to touch this question with a 10 ft pole...

But you tell us, why not a marker shaped differently?

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