I Think My GF Did Not/Has Not Cut Emotional Ties With Ex
I am not sure where else to post this so hopefully it doesn't get taken down but I really need some perspective. There is a lot of background but I'll do my best to summarize.
We have been dating for 14 months. They have been separated 2 years after a 5yr relationship. I am pretty sure he is a narcissist. She had messed up relationship with this guy, where she looked to him as a parental figure, since her father was never actually a parental figure she could rely on.
The ex has never gotten over the relationship. He hates me and has tried his hardest to drive a wedge in between my gf and I. They had 2 long talks about separation in late 2021, which resulted in a lot of emotions and past relationship stuff coming to the forefront. He has brought up his heartache/past relationship stuff more than I can count since I entered the picture. She has done pretty good to not entertain this for the most part. I have asked her on a couple of different occasions if she has processed the break and she has said yes. She has been comfortable enough in front of him to be upset due to a counseling session and where he hugged her to console and she was not ok with this.
She learned recently that he has been seeing someone for the past 2 months. This caused her to emotionally breakdown. This brought up a host of issues from the past that she's trying to work through right now, When she told me about her emotional breakdown, she told me she has 0 regrets leaving and not in interested in going back. She's wanted him to find someone so he can move on but I think this all turns around if the ex and his new gf fail. I have a feeling he will use my gf for relationship advice. In her current state, I don't think she could shut that down.
I feel like she has tried to convince her self and me that she is over emotionally with him but everything that has transpired indicates otherwise. I had a feeling during the separation talks she had not fully processed the break but the latest major break down has reinforced this.
We have been dating for 14 months. They have been separated 2 years after a 5yr relationship. I am pretty sure he is a narcissist. She had messed up relationship with this guy, where she looked to him as a parental figure, since her father was never actually a parental figure she could rely on.
The ex has never gotten over the relationship. He hates me and has tried his hardest to drive a wedge in between my gf and I. They had 2 long talks about separation in late 2021, which resulted in a lot of emotions and past relationship stuff coming to the forefront. He has brought up his heartache/past relationship stuff more than I can count since I entered the picture. She has done pretty good to not entertain this for the most part. I have asked her on a couple of different occasions if she has processed the break and she has said yes. She has been comfortable enough in front of him to be upset due to a counseling session and where he hugged her to console and she was not ok with this.
She learned recently that he has been seeing someone for the past 2 months. This caused her to emotionally breakdown. This brought up a host of issues from the past that she's trying to work through right now, When she told me about her emotional breakdown, she told me she has 0 regrets leaving and not in interested in going back. She's wanted him to find someone so he can move on but I think this all turns around if the ex and his new gf fail. I have a feeling he will use my gf for relationship advice. In her current state, I don't think she could shut that down.
I feel like she has tried to convince her self and me that she is over emotionally with him but everything that has transpired indicates otherwise. I had a feeling during the separation talks she had not fully processed the break but the latest major break down has reinforced this.
