Office politics and repairing relationships

Conclusion

The weight of other’s thought can become a burden for you. It can inhibit you from living your life, because your entire being (your personality, your thoughts, your actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people’s opinion of you, you forget your own.

You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn; to let yourself free. It’s a skill that needs to be practiced, like meditating. But once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different.

Once you give up catering to other people’s opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are, and that freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.

HyperMegaJet wrote: ↑ Hi everyone, I got a bit of a situation and I understand that I can only blame myself for getting into it.

Long story short, I've started a new role in the summer that I've always been interested in and plan to hunker down for 5+ years. However, I've left/rejoined this group a couple of times in the past, once by choice and once out of my control. The issue is a lot of people including some upper management that isn't aware of the circumstances have developed a negative perception of me due to my frequent moves. "Will he stay, here we go again..." kind of ideas.

Besides doing good work and staying put, what else can I do to repair those relationships? I don't need people to like me, I just don't want enemies. Is it unavoidable to have people dislike you? Do you just roll with it? What worries me is how the perception can bite me back later on, especially at the management level.

Thanks.

MyNameWasTaken wrote: ↑5 Mental Shifts to Stop Caring What People Think of You

10 Clear Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Care What Others Think

easylistener wrote: ↑ Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. If none of your co-workers are lifers who has devoted their entire career to the company, then they are hypocrites for criticizing you. Even if they were, seniority doesn't trump actual merit and someone who has job-hopped frequently may actually end up a better employee than those who haven't.