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Office politics and repairing relationships

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Office politics and repairing relationships

Hi everyone, I got a bit of a situation and I understand that I can only blame myself for getting into it.

Long story short, I've started a new role in the summer that I've always been interested in and plan to hunker down for 5+ years. However, I've left/rejoined this group a couple of times in the past, once by choice and once out of my control. The issue is a lot of people including some upper management that isn't aware of the circumstances have developed a negative perception of me due to my frequent moves. "Will he stay, here we go again..." kind of ideas.

Besides doing good work and staying put, what else can I do to repair those relationships? I don't need people to like me, I just don't want enemies. Is it unavoidable to have people dislike you? Do you just roll with it? What worries me is how the perception can bite me back later on, especially at the management level.

Thanks.
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What was the reason for leaving and why did management take you back?
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Roll with it and when you get a chance to chat with co-workers/management, casually mention that you're there for the long haul. Don't make it seem like it's something you had to address. Just throw it out there in the natural course of a conversation. Otherwise, just do good work and look like you're happy to be there.
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Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. If none of your co-workers are lifers who has devoted their entire career to the company, then they are hypocrites for criticizing you. Even if they were, seniority doesn't trump actual merit and someone who has job-hopped frequently may actually end up a better employee than those who haven't.
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HyperMegaJet wrote: Hi everyone, I got a bit of a situation and I understand that I can only blame myself for getting into it.

Long story short, I've started a new role in the summer that I've always been interested in and plan to hunker down for 5+ years. However, I've left/rejoined this group a couple of times in the past, once by choice and once out of my control. The issue is a lot of people including some upper management that isn't aware of the circumstances have developed a negative perception of me due to my frequent moves. "Will he stay, here we go again..." kind of ideas.

Besides doing good work and staying put, what else can I do to repair those relationships? I don't need people to like me, I just don't want enemies. Is it unavoidable to have people dislike you? Do you just roll with it? What worries me is how the perception can bite me back later on, especially at the management level.

Thanks.
only time and showing enthusiasm/interest in your job/role can repair those perceptions of you.
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not so simple when you need to work with others and their support from time to time, only human nature to care those who you view as stable and less on flakes whether it's deserved or not. if OP doesn't get buy in from his coworkers, he's going to have a harder time even doing his job
easylistener wrote: Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. If none of your co-workers are lifers who has devoted their entire career to the company, then they are hypocrites for criticizing you. Even if they were, seniority doesn't trump actual merit and someone who has job-hopped frequently may actually end up a better employee than those who haven't.
well OP said he's left and come back a few times, different than changing jobs/company. it's like leaving company A to goto B, then coming back to A, leaving again, and coming back now. So then rightly or not, there is perception OP is not sticking around, so no need to take them seriously or support too much since OP will just bounce again.

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