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Police in neighborhood

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May 6, 2006
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Police in neighborhood

If you have police visit next door neighbour, is it possible to ask them to know what is wrong due to concern for personal wellbeing. I had 2 cop cars in front of my home yesterday night, and had my neighbour sitting in backseat of one of them. Then after questioning, and one of the cops going into the house with a camera, they left. I’m wondering if I call the police (Durham Region) if they will divulge some info or atleast alleviate my concerns given that my wife and baby are always home.

PS: not sure if this is the right forum for this one, but somewhat connected with parenthood and family, as otherwise back in the day I would really not have cared too much over these things :)
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Jun 9, 2003
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if its not on the news...nope

its likely domestic disturbance.
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If there is a safety concern you would be notified, but for privacy they cannot tell you unless it involves you.
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Aug 17, 2009
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OP, you sound like a busybody. If the neighbor had made threats against you personally, you can bet your bottom dollar the cops would be at your door to get your side of the story. Sounds to me like you are just curious as to why your neighbor was arrested. If you have no beef with them, why don't you ask your neighbor, directly?
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warrior2009 wrote: if they will divulge some info or atleast alleviate my concerns given that my wife and baby are always home.
Serious question: what if it's something terrible, what will you do? Say he's suspected of murder.

Are you going to start working from home? Install bars? Buy a gun?

Most likely even in that case, you'll "be on the lookout" for a short while and then continue your normal routine. While getting high blood pressure.

So nothing good will come from asking.
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Knock on your neighbors door and ask them yourself.
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Dec 8, 2009
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You are going to have to go undercover at the prison. Get yourself arrested and then become cell mates with your neighbour. Earn his trust and learn "what he's in for".
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It really sounds like a domestic violence issue (the camera being to document the victim's injuries). For what it's worth, people who commit domestic violence rarely are a threat to other people outside the family. Domestic violence is often a symptom of people handling close relationships very improperly, so a person who doesn't have a relationship with the aggressor probably isn't in danger.
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Call the police and ask them.

They are not going to tell you anything, buy why not? It costs nothing (other than a phone call). Please post here again, let us know what they say.

IMHO, police exist to help the community. Nothing wrong in picking up the phone and calling them to chat (just don't call 911 to do that!!!!). It is a legitimate question.
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